BFP after IVF - anyone want to join me in the wait for first scan?

[HopefulllHolly]

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Hi everyone,
I’ve just had our first cycle of IVF and although we had very slim odds of it working (low AMH, low AFC, male factor, which led to only 2 mature eggs which thankfully led to one perfect day 5 blast). We are absolutely amazed and over the moon that it worked despite everything, but I am really struggling with the wait for first scan. I almost feel with infertility (we TTC for 6/7 years) that it does make you anxious and I’m finding the wait to my first scan (6th June) unbearable. I don’t want to seem ungrateful but I really wish I could enjoy it or relax a little but instead I am worrying about miscarriage and things I can’t control. For me this has been the worst bit of IVF so far, and I’d love to just be able to be happy so I don’t look back (if it does work) and wish that I hadn’t been so anxious and scared.

Is anyone else in the same boat who wants to keep me company? 🥹 Or can provide some tips on how to distract myself and cope better? I know there’s nothing I can do to change the outcome and what will be will be, but I don’t think I’ve ever worried so much in my life.

Thank you 🙏

@Edf Oh that’s exactly like the rest of us! 😂😂 the carb loaders! Totally agree - a week is painful to get through. Before IVF a week would fly by, it’s not fair!

@HopefulllHolly the vomiting started on Monday (8+2). Have had nausea up until then but comes in waves. I wonder what it is about 2pm. I can't keep my eyes open past this point and need a nap! 😂

@Edf congratulations. It's such a good feeling when you get discharged from your clinic! Feels like a good milestone to reach!

@AnnieStar12 Good luck at your scan tomorrow! Hope it goes well!

I feel like someone else had some sort of appointment tomorrow but I can’t find it in any of the posts so maybe I imagined it! If I didn’t then good luck to that mummy to be too!

Thankyou @HopefulllHolly I am sooo scared! But I'm just trying to prepare myself for any outcome, knowing that it's most likely going to be an 'inconclusive' outcome as it's so early. Will update tomorrow...

@AnnieStar12 Stay positive! There’s no reason why it’s not ok ☺️ That’s what mentality I try and stay in and it seems to help me. Really hope it goes well and you get some reassurance! xx

Oh ok - the nausea has hit me today! I can’t stop burping and feel like I’m going to throw up constantly but haven’t been physically sick. And food isn’t helping 🙃🙃

@HopefulllHolly the joys of 8 weeks!!! Funny how we were literally talking about this yesterday. Bananas help me or ginger biscuits. Ginger ale meant to be helpful too?

@DippyDuck19 Yeah I might have to get some ginger ale. I kind of almost wish I was being sick so it would subside as the constantly feeling sick and having sicky burps (sorry TMI). Would rather just get it out

@AnnieStar12 Hope the scan was ok! Thinking of you!

Argh, scan went well they saw the heartbeat and little bean is measuring perfect. If anything measurements are a day ahead!!

Going for lunch with my mum to celebrate!!

what a huge relief, I’m already further than my last pregnancy that never saw a heartbeat so I’m feeling positive about this xxx

@AnnieStar12 🥹🥹🥹🥹 Awwww I’m so pleased for you! That relieved feeling is so good. Hope you have a lovely day celebrating with your mum. So glad you got to see a little heartbeat too! 🥲🥲🥲

Awww I’m so glad the scan went well @AnnieStar12 the tiny heartbeat is the most amazing thing.

nooo you poor thing @HopefulllHolly nasuea is the worst!!
ginger made it worse for me (it caused acid reflux on top of nausea) which is odd but sour sweets seem to help!? Weird. I wonder if we are all going to have different coping tips!

I hope your vomiting is getting better now @DippyDuck19

i had my midwife booking appointment today - it went really well & so informative. She didn’t weigh me .. she asked what I was the last time the IVF clinic weighed me and wrote that down!!! She said she didn’t agree with weighing mums-to-be during the first trimester because It changes all the time and Its deflating for us to hear we’ve put on weight.
not sure if she is right about that so I’ll mention it at my next midwife appointment, though I’ll be 16 weeks at that point so might be much heavier 🙈
she took my blood & urine samples & checked my blood pressure. Then went through my medical history and that was all. Said she’d send me lots of information leaflets & stuff like that by email.
it’s all paperless now so I didn’t get my yellow pregnancy note book!! ☹️ I was so looking forward to carrying that around with me to my appointments & scans, joining the pregnant ladies group! but it’s all on an app now xx

@AnnieStar12 so glad your scan went well and you saw the heartbeat! Amazing!!

@Fluffyted glad your booking appointment went well. It seems every trust do something different. Mine are very clearly behind the times as I have an antenatal booklet with all my info in. She also filled it out on her computer. Seems like a lot of duplication!

@Fluffyted So glad your appointment went well! I really can’t wait for another appointment or scan, the waiting is horrible!

Thanks everyone! Yeah, I feel so much calmer this evening. Long may it last!

@Fluffyted sounds like a successful appointment, I had all my notes on an app when having DD and I liked it as you can just look at anything you need at your finger tip, also means you can't loose your folder, lol!!

@HopefulllHolly you've not long to wait till your next scan and midwife appointment. But yeah, it's all just a count-down to the next thing really! My booking appointment is 1st July, but I'll go for my reassurance scan at the hospital before that. Will try wait till I'm 8 weeks, but let's see how I feel..

@AnnieStar12 gentle congrats on a really good news scan. Glad it has eased the anxiety somewhat!

@HopefulllHolly sorry to hear the nausea has ramped up. I like to use those travel acupressure bands. Also really, really cold things (cold sparkling water, cold apple slices etc) seem to help me too.

Only the weekend until our next scan on Monday. Very nervous for the next milestone. I think when you’ve experienced loss, scans feel even more terrifying. I’ve also had my booking appointment come through for the 25th June and dating scan 22nd July.

Hey all can I ask whether any of ye had scans around 6weeks ?

My first scan is 7wks 3days and so tempted to book a private scan earlier as I'm so impatient

But worried that the heartbeat wouldn't be there as its so early and it'd make me more anxious

@Leaf86 good luck for your scan on Monday. Hope all goes well.

@DauntedAF I had a private scan at 6+1 and 6+6 (EPU due to bleeding). Saw a heartbeat both times. The size difference between the 2 scans was significant though! 6+1 was just a round blob. The 6+6 was longer like a kidney bean.

@DauntedAF It’s normal to have your first scan at 7 weeks, so for the most part we have all had them then. A couple have had scans slightly earlier. I’d definitely try and wait to the 7 weeks if you can, just as you may not see the heartbeat earlier and it’ll just make you worry more. Having an earlier scan won’t change the outcome but I know it’s hard when you are worrying ☺️☺️
I had one at 7 weeks, and then I booked a private one for 9.5weeks so it’s in the middle of the 5 week wait for the 12 week scan. It’s hard doing the 2.5 weeks wait between them, I won’t lie!

@DauntedAF I had my scan yesterday at exactly 6 weeks and did see a heartbeat but I knew that there was a strong chance of not seeing it then. I just couldn’t wait any longer! I knew rationally that waiting to 7 weeks would have made more sense, so if you can wait then do, but at the same time you gotta do whatever you need to get through these early weeks!

Are you 6 weeks already?

No I'm only 5wks. Just impatient.

2.5 weeks seems a long way away!

Having an anxious day today. All my symptoms have gone again 😞 Why is it always so worrying?!? I was going to book for a scan to reassure myself today but then I thought well it’s only a week on Monday until I go so what’s the point, I can save the £100 for something nice instead, or put it in my IVF fund pot to go towards baby stuff (when we get there)
I wish I could just relax 😞

@HopefulllHolly I felt like this the other day. No nausea, no tiredness, no stomach cramps. I felt reasonably normal and felt so anxious. The nausea is back now. I think the symptoms will vary day to day. I nearly brought my scan forwards but it doesn't change the outcome. Am trying to enjoy being pregnant and be in the moment and like you say save the money for something nice further down the line!

It's hard having to go through IVF and then when you wasn't expecting it to work, you're always waiting for the next bit bad news. I know I am! I don't think I'll stop feeling anxious until after I've given birth and got baby in arms x

@HopefulllHolly Im sorry you’re feeling like that. All I can say is you’re not alone! We’re all in this same boat with you, it’s an incredibly anxious time being pregnant with an IVF baby.

I think back now to my previous natural conception pregnancy when I got a positive result and just felt excited and thought ‘great I’m having a baby’. Can believe how ignorant I was! Now, after everything I’ve been through with miscarriages and fertility treatment getting a positive test just feels like a small step with lots more hurdles to cross! And the fear and anxiety is through the roof!

Sorry don’t have much advice apart from saying we understand! And what you’re feeling is totally normal. I think you know on a rationale level that symptoms come and go from day to day. But as I keep telling people around me - I am not capable of rationale thought right now!

Hi, just wondered if I can jump on this thread @HopefulllHolly you shared this on the other group ? Might help with my scan wait .. got my 1st scan booked for when I will be 7+1 and I am 4+5 today so 17 days to wait ! (Not that I am counting ) 🫣