FET September Crew Thread #3

[GCS34]

Hi guys - filled up the other one, so moving us all here. Tag those I've missed!

@lowo21 @cb2805 @hopingforno2in2023 @Justkeepmoving1234 @Mrsmotts @Kirstysmbc @KG1244 @girljulian @TT82 @arm23 @Jellyfish1956 @asgirc @doughnut89 @Summerishere83 @CDiamond @73pheonix

Just a little update from me, I had my scan earlier this week (6weeks) and everything was fine. I was very worried about ectopic/BO because of an initially very low HCG (that was just about doubling). Good luck to everyone else.
@GCS34 @21C

Amazing news @ARM23

Hi guys sorry for the AWOL status the past week, I've been trying to take myself offline as I have found that by being on groups, googling, and trawling through MN for an answer I want to find, It has exacerbated my anxiety ten-fold.

@Jellyfish1956 @kirstysmbc @Hopingforno2in2023 @ARM23 Thanks so much for checking in.

So bit more info, I was so anxious before my scan on Thursday that my IBS was going banana's, which as a result, meant she couldn't measure properly as a) she couldn't see as my pesky gut was all up in her face on the screen 🌊b) I was physically shaking so she couldn't keep dildocam still 🙈 and c) she was a shit sonographer and had the people skills of an ape 🐒She essentially said we weren't discharged and back Monday, it could go either way, she has seen both, to let her know ASAP if I bleed before monday (as if it was inevitable) and had that sympathetic 'im sorry' look on her face.

She did say their could be a number of possibilities:

> I implanted late and I was actually more like 6w+2 on Thursday, not 6w+6 as I should have been (seems a bit of a desperate bid for hope if you ask me)
> the IBS and shaking caused her to not get a good reading so I could have had a bigger CRL than she measured
> I'm behind where I should be, but on Monday I'll have caught back up and we'll be okay 🤗
> I'm behind where I should be, and on Monday we'll find out the worst and we lost the baby 😢

The pro's are, I had a good strong heartbeat, however having googled (just to add to the anxiety a little bit more) that a small CRL in IVF is indicative of a failing pregnancy.

Aye aye ayeeeeee - what a head fuck! I just want the answer regardless now so we can go forward.

@girljulian how are you getting on? How are you doing and have things ''started'' and ended yet?

@kirstysmbc and @Hopingforno2in2023 so exciting for you!!! How are you both feeling? Those are some good initial numbers - good luck for tomorrow's scan xx

@ARM23 great news!! So pleased for you. When is your next scan? xx

@Salacia Congrats and welcome! I feel you on the anxiety - It's all consuming isn't it?

@GCS34 - so sorry you’ve not got answers at your scan, I’ve been there and know how torturous it is. I’ll be thinking of you.

@Salacia thabk you. Do you mind me asking the scenario and outcome for your experience (I’m tough - I’m already expecting to have the bad news Monday).

Mine was bad news I’m afraid - although it took at couple of weekly scans to actually get there. I ended up with scans at 6, 7 and 8 weeks with the final confirmation that the baby had stopped developing and the heartbeat had stopped at the 8 week scan.

I’ll be thinking of you and really hope you get answers at the next scan. Are work understanding? I’m hindsight I should have taken more time off but it’s so tricky trying to find that balance between normality and looking after yourself.

@GCS34 I'm sorry you're having to go through this. This happened to me on my first transfer. I was measuring a few days behind at my viability scan, but the clinic saw a heartbeat and didn't tell me that anything might be wrong. I had a private scan a couple of weeks later as I something just didn't feel right and that was when I discovered the miscarriage. I was really annoyed that my clinic didn't anything when it can be a sign of bad news, so I'm really pleased your clinic is supporting you through this. And as you didn't test until otd, there's def a chance of later implantation. I'm keeping everything crossed that this works out for you xx

I’m sorry that your scan was inconclusive @GCS34 and I am keeping everything crossed that all is well on Monday x

@GCS34 sorry your scan hasn’t been completely reassuring….I hope the one on Monday shows everything is growing perfectly. It is such a stressful time. The desire to google everything is so strong. I’ve had terrible insomnia (very unusual for me) and wake up for hours in the night googling everything.

My next scan is the end of the month. I have done my maternity booking and have my first appointment next week.

@Hopingforno2in2023 Do have another scan today? Hope everything goes well and the day is less stressful than Wednesday!

I do yes @kirstysmbc, at 12. Very much hoping it is less stressful 😂 Do you have a date yet?

@Hopingforno2in2023 Yep, transfer is on 9 November. Good luck for today 😊

Oh, babe, I'm so sorry this was inconclusive but having seen a heartbeat is really indicative of things going well! The likelihood of miscarrying after that is hugely reduced.

I went to the EPU this morning -- they scanned and said there is a bit of tissue left but not much, so just to let it pass naturally. So I seem to have had the most painless and bloodless miscarriage of all time, which is something at least!

So exciting @kirstysmbc!

My CD10 scan went well :) my lining is 12.7mm and I now have 7 follicles (had 5 on Wednesday). I have 1 x 17.5, 1 x 16.5, 2 x 15.5, 1 x 14.5 and 1 x 11. Am continuing to stim over the weekend and have another scan at 9 on Monday. If all good then EC will be Wednesday.

I’m glad it has been largely painless @girljulian

@Hopingforno2in2023 wow rhats a great lining and a great number. Especially when 3 days ago there were 5!! Good growing girly. And sounds really promising if you’re going to carry on for another 3 days. That 11mm should be at 15 by Monday meaning another hopefully mature egg!

@kirstysmbc @Hopingforno2in2023 Thank you both for your messages it’s one of those isn’t it? I know in my gut it won’t end in a baby this time but having a contingency plan is really helping me and what will come if it’s not this time. I guess the silver lining is it’s double bubble next time 🫣I always said I wanted twins… 👀🙈 as you say tho Kirsty, I’d rather know than have a wishy washy false hope you know? Definitely going to speak with o then about counselling Monday tho. Regardless of the outcome.

@girljulian thank you darling. It’s just bullshit isn’t it? I’m so pleased that you’re having a relatively painless journey so far. Do you know why there is still retained and are they going to operate to remove it? How are you doing mentally and where’s your head at about the future and what have the clinic said?

They don’t know why it’s retained but they want to just wait for it to come out. The pregnancy sac and all that is gone. I did pass some clots but no heavy bleeding at all.

clinic haven’t said anything at all! I am feeling very…I don’t know. Terminal? There is an embryo left but I feel like that was the last go. And also I hated being pregnant so much, it was horrendous.

Really worried this morning that I ovulated overnight. I feel less full and tender and have lots of CM. Would my scan and bloods yesterday have shown if ovulation was imminent though?

@Hopingforno2in2023 sorry to hear you are worrying this morning. I know it's not a nice feeling. I actually did ovulate the day before my egg collection. My bloods and scan didn't suggest it was going to happen, but I think my body had other ideas. I know it's so hard, but try to put it to the back of your mind. Odds are everything is fine, and the hormones are plying tricks on you. When is your next scan?

@GCS34 I'm sorry the scan wasn't as conclusive as you had hoped. I've got everything crossed for Monday and that it comes down to the sonography not being very good.

@kirstysmbc not long to go! Does this mean you started progesterone today?

@Hopingforno2in2023 oh I hope that’s not the case!! Did they mention that yesterday? Are you on the antagonist to stop you ovulating? If so that defo shouldn’t be the case.

Thanks both :) I feel fuller again so hoping all is well. I am on Cetrotide so shouldn’t ovulate. Just woke up feeling normal and panicked

@Jellyfish1956 Yep, started lubion and cyclogest today, can't wait for those side effects to kick in.

@Hopingforno2in2023 The CM is definitely due to the oestrogen, I panicked in my first cycle when this happened, but it's perfectly normal. Apparently that's what causes it in a normal cycle, and obvs there is more of it with all the eggs growing. I've also had a lot on the patches. Glad you're feeling a bit better this afternoon.

@girljulian I'm sorry things are taking a long time to resolve after the miscarriage. It is so frustrating and I found I couldn't start to move on until everything was clear. What I will say is that before my first miscarriage, I had a lot of unpleasant symptoms, and with my successful pregnancy, I had none at all. So each pregnancy really is very different. I hope you can move on soon.

@girljulian oh I’m so sorry. That’s not uncommon though which I guess is kinda reassuring in a way but also not any less frustrating. Did you not want to do medicated / surgical (sorry if that’s personal)? Really pleased it’s been relatively painless and by the sounds of what’s ‘left’, you’ve done the worst.

so sorry you’re feeling like it’s the end of the road. Would you consider another fresh round or are you done? You hated being pregnant from a symptoms aspect or mental health aspect? Sending love.

@Hopingforno2in2023 phew! Pleased to hear you’re feeling more ‘full’ and that you’re on certitide. They going to be looking for transfer Friday then, if Mondays (hopefully) the final scan check in?

@kirstysmbc exciting you’ve started the waxy crayons! That is the official gateway to transfer!! Woohoo! Sending so much love and luck for Thursday.

@Jellyfish1956 @ARM23 thabk you both for your luck and wishes. If good wishes account for anything then I’m defo set for good news based on all your guys wishes. You’re a lovely group honestly thank you all of you. Xx