FET/IVF/ICSI July 2023

[Olivia199]

Hello!

Just wanted to start a thread and see if anyone was going ahead with a transfer in July.

I've just had my nurse consult and hoping to have my second FET in July (my first was successful in Jan 2021 and I had my wonderful DD).

The first time around I was of course beyond nervous, excited, terrified it wouldn't work etc. This time it feels like that's doubled! I'm a private patient so I've saved everything for this but should it fail, it'll be a long long time before I could afford to try again.

To add some nerves, I'd need to be cycle day one no later than the 6th July to go ahead, as my clinic is moving locations. I'm currently due on the 5th...! So every chance it's moved to a Sept cycle.

Would be nice to have some company!

:)

@IVFfirsttimer91 how did you get on with your bloods yesterday?

@21C - Oh wow, that's interesting! I've heard so many protocols covering so many different drugs/days/scans/tests etc so it's no surprise to come across another I hadn't heard of! Mines exactly the same this time as it was last, I think it's my clinics standard package.
Will be thinking of you tomorrow and hoping for some lovely news!

@Anas86 - No tips on the bloating I'm afraid. But I did hear sports drinks and salty foods too!

@ASGIRC - Glad you got your protocol sent to you. Its officially on countdown now!! This time tomorrow you'll be done! Also, from the perspective of a solo mum to one already, you've absolutely got this when baby comes. It has it's days but it's the best thing I've ever done.

@Orchid29 - Wow, shared motherhood is absolutely amazing! It's so lovely that you are doing that. 💕

@wtawtaw - I'm so sorry you're feeling like this, it's such an emotionally intense process, added to a crap ton of hormones, anxiety and physically tough stuff. I have absolutely everything crossed that in just a few days you'll get that beautiful positive!

@Walker12 - Hope EC went well today and good luck for your update tomorrow!

@IVFfirsttimer91 - Hope bloods went well today!

I'm doing the same as everyone else in terms of not telling. My mum knows because she's looking after my daughter for transfer (and also knows everything about everything so I couldn't have kept this from her if I tried!) But other than that I'm getting all my support from you lovely ladies! I did tell people last time, but ended in a freeze all anyway. So on the FET I kept it quiet for everyone but mum again. I did tell her test day was 2 weeks exactly though. So when I tested early I surprised her a bit but it also gave me time to process if it was negative before I had to tell her.

I'm feeling fairly positive about this round I think. Though can no longer tell what's bloating and nausea from the bug and what's from the meds. Still, first day in the new hospital tomorrow with the hellish commute, so it should keep my mind off things if nothing else.

@Walker12 9 eggs is good!! Fingers crossed for your fertilisation call!

@orchid29 I think shared motherhood is wonderful. I’m sorry some of your family have been a bit funny about it.

We’ve not told anyone. My sister knew last cycle because she needed a lift during her own crisis but I couldn’t help out in the end because of egg collection. She lives with my mum so I’m guessing my mum knows too but I’ve not actually told anyone else. Dad has no idea, my nana who I’m really close with has no idea. I told one friend when I was hammered last October I was on a waiting list for IVF but I haven’t said a word since.

Literally no one irl knows apart from my boss. Who only knows because I can’t really use anymore holiday!! And I can claim the time back for appointments which is useful.

Hubby’s work colleagues/boss knows because he’s been going with me to the appointments so has taken quite a lot of last minute leave. He manages people and I think he’s told them so they know why he might look a bit absent the next coming weeks.

The idea of explaining to people that transfers didn’t work is horrible. I’d just rather not.

Hi @Olivia199 bloods were yesterday (and again tomorrow to check that levels are rising as they should. My levels were 1764!!! Which I was quite shocked by for 14 days post transfer. Considering last time my hcg level was 146!! So we are really happy and I think I can relax a bit after tomorrows blood results come back (if they’re doing what they’re supposed to and have doubled anyway). Hope everyone else is doing well!

@IVFfirsttimer91 - Sorry! Getting all my dates and days mixed up. So so glad you had such an amazing result! Massive congratulations!!

@Olivia199 thanks so much!! It will be a releif if everything comes back as normal tomorrow tbh. I’m feeling so anxious about it. I’m keeping everything crossed!

@IVFfirsttimer91 - My clinic only does the one HCG blood test. Can imagine extra anxiety with two but honestly those results are bloody amazing. I'm so so thrilled for you.

Meanwhile I'm over here looking more pregnant now than I did at 16 weeks with my first. Bloody progesterone. Thank god I work in scrubs!

@IVFfirsttimer91 Great news on the bloods! My clinic doesn't do any 😂

@wtawtaw Im so sorry to hear you are feeling this way. Do you think it’s also because of the drugs? The oestrogen makes me incredibly depressed, it takes all the joy out of everything for me. The time between the negative test and my period the last time was scarily dark for me.

But if it helps, very close friends of mine who have been struggling with ivf for 2.5 years just found out they are pregnant. So it can happen!

Congratulations @IVFfirsttimer91 those sound like amazing results!

@Lauralozzle I know right. With the last transfer i had to tell my orthodontist that i may be pregnant because i had to have an x-ray done and it was so awkward to tell her a month later again. But then it has been super helpful talking to a friend at work about it, so it’s a balance

Thanks guys :) my clinic usually only does 1 but this time round my consultant said I should have 2 as last time my pregnancy stopped developing early and they just want to check that it’s going in the right direction this time:) I’m so interested to know what the number will be!! Will keep everyone posted. Then it’s the agonising wait to get to my first scan on the 7th 😂 I think I’m going to be a nervous wreck until this baby makes an appearance tbh xx

@IVFfirsttimer91 - I hate to say it, but yes. I was very much a nervous wreck until she made her way into the world! First it was the wait for the first scan, then the 12 week one, then 20 (with a bonus scan at 16)... but honestly things felt much less scary when I could feel her wiggling around and making herself comfy!

Thank you @orchid29 yeah it may be down to the drugs too but I just feel like I can't enjoy life whilst going through this, it's the little things I can't do properly such as my resistance training, having a drink now and then, having a little break away or even a meal out as I feel I can't because our money has to go towards IVF. I know there's a lot worse things going on around the world but I didn't realise I took those little things for granted, I'm not sure I'm making sense 😅

Good luck today @ASGIRC!!!

Good luck @ASGIRC !! Let us know how it goes!

@ASGIRC All the best for today! :D

@wtawtaw i know how you feel. It just seems to take over my life and i feel like i’m just waiting all the time. it’s also been affecting my performance at work because the meds make me so tired - and during the tww i can’t even have the caffeine to make up for it!

And those small things make a huge difference! And particularly if you feel like your normal life is slipping away, not being able to do the things that you normally do makes it much worse.

I‘m driving myself crazy analysing every single twinge even though i told myself i wouldn’t do it this time! argh!

Good luck today @21C
I hope both your embryos are beautiful blastocysts!!!

@21C Oh yes, good luck to you as well! :D

Good luck @ASGIRC !

Thanks - still no phonecall yet. Really trying to hold onto no news is good news but I’m looking at my phone it feels like every 10 seconds…really scared.

Thanks girls!!!

And good luck @21C ! Its still really early! The clinic/lab will have barely opened for business! Id be expecting a phone call in the afternoon, not in the morning! It will be fine!

Its almost time to take the diazepam and leave the house!

Good luck @21C and @ASGIRC xx

Ohhh same! I felt it really difficult to focus on work too. In fact anything else really. I know what you mean about looking out for every symptom, we're driving ourselves crazy! My stomach just started fluttering/twitching so straight on Google 🤦🏼‍♀️

When is your OTD?

@21C & @ASGIRC Good luck today!!

Had my second stims scan this morning. I appear to have lost a follicle because they counted seven on Monday and six today. Biggest one is about 15 so still a way to go but getting there.

Waiting for a telephone call this afternoon as they’ll want to see me again on Friday.

@wtawtaw I know, i keep feeling optimistic but then I felt that way the last time and it was a BFN.

My OTD is super late - the 29th of July! last time i waited and it was super tough to get this sudden shock. So i’m thinking of testing earlier this time because maybe it’s easier to slowly lose hope rather than having one big shock. Or thinking of just not testing at all 😂

@Lauralozzle that part is the worst.

I didn't do stims, but am on a natural cycle and was at the clinic every other day to have scans and check how my one follicle was evolving... And also testing for hormones.

One of my arms is still bruised from bloods taken over a week ago!!!

Hopefully they'll be good on Friday! I had a 14mm on Monday and then it was 17mm on Wednesday and I took my trigger then!