Create Fertility - Experiences

[Sunflower360]

Hi 👋

I was hoping for people's experiences and thoughts on Create Fertility? I am considering them, so any thoughts would be much appreciated.

I am currently going through a short protocol with high stims with another clinic, baseline scan showed 4-5 follicles (expected that as I have low AMH/low ovarian reserves) but through my high stimulation am only showing 1, maybe 2 follicles that are growing...so cycle is not looking great.

So I wanted to consider Create as they specialise in natural modified and mild IVF, but would appreciate feedback on people's experiences as we would be going in multi cycle with my low AFC/AMH and want to ensure it's the best decision in those circumstances.

Thanks!

Sorry @HopefulElle, this is such an awful experience :(

@Doxy21 yes I’d paid for icsi, I didn’t even think of a refund, that’s a good question for them and I’ll use it.

@Sunflower360 yes, I have low amh and afc and first cycle 4 eggs 3 embryos, second cycle 2 eggs 2 embryos. My two NHS maximum stims led to no embryos for transfer. I have my call with the consultant on Monday for our next cycle and then we'll send whatever we have for PGT-A testing after my recent MMC.

I'm so sorry for you with cycles that haven't went as hoped. I really do understand the pain and disappointment. I am filled with angst for the next cycle. We've decided if it's cancelled we'll just send what we have for testing. This will be cycle attempt number 6 as I also had one cancelled and my mental health had taken a severe bashing x

@Jx3303 thank you - and sorry to hear what you’ve been through too. It’s so tough.

@Woodcottage1 thank you, it is. I’ll do the 3 cycles we’ve paid for, however long that takes, but then I’m done, I think. I’m trying to balance staying positive with the need to make peace with a life without children, and thinking about what an alternative happy life could look like.

Oh @Jx3303 its such an anxiety inducing process. I hope your next round goes well for you

We are the same @HopefulElle as that will have been 5 collections, an abandoned cycle and an iui and all our life savings for us. We are undecided if we then look at adoption or cut our losses and just spend any disposable income on enjoying holidays etc. I never thought it would be this difficult!

We have the same mindset. We signed up for the 3 with the thought that if we did those 3 along with the 2 NHS, we would know at the end we'd really given it our all.

It's so hard trying to find the hope and strength to keep going but also trying to as you say @HopefulElle make peace with the life it may lead to. It's such a hard journey and for so many of us SO much more difficult than we'd ever imagined xx

@Jx3303 hope your next round goes ok and as you have a few embryos testing may be good to prepare

@Doxy21 terrible to say but since it’s essentially anonymous, I’m not someone who unilaterally loves children. I was/am confident I’d bond with our own, but I’m not sure I’d be right for adoption. May well look into it further if this doesn’t work out, but currently our ‘alternative’ is looking very holidays/moving to the coast related. Definitely never thought it would be this hard either!

Completely, as long as we have purpose, then we will have a good content life, that’s what I tell myself. And of course if I want to go down the route, there’s lots of children who need love out there, fostering is completely in the back of my mind. I had a very interesting chance meeting with a lady at a woman’s event who fosters teenagers and it was enlightening. Things might not go to plan of what we thought our lives would be like, but there’s a lot of love to give and receive and a lot of need for this.

@HopefulElle im glad you find this a space safe. I’m not even 100% sure either. It started as ‘that’s what people do so we should too’ and now it’s ‘well if everyone else can why can’t I?!’ Type of thing. We always said if it happens it happens and if it doesn’t we will have a great life until we found out we couldn’t and now it’s an obsession. I think some babies are cute but kids are very annoying. I feel like my husband and I have a lot of love to give. We have 2 dogs we adore and we thought we’d be great people to give love to a baby. But I’m not convinced I would be completely maternal. But then I also don’t know what my true feelings are and if I’m safeguarding myself incase it doesn’t happen.

@Doxy21 I could’ve written that post almost word for word, really felt that last sentence ❤️ Are you me with an extra dog?!

@HopefulElle yes, I’m the future you - with a new puppy hahaha (although I’m hoping real future you has a new puppy and a baby)

Today I’ve done 5 tests, just done one and I have a very light line 🙏🙏🙏 filled with so much hope that there is one tomorrow 🥲

Oh wow @Woodcottage1 amazing news!Fingers crossed for you but that looks so promising!! Was it a day 3 or a day 5 embryo you transferred? X

thank you so much. It was a 5 day. I’m in shock and just hoping it shows positive tomorrow morning 🙏
I have been testing for about 5 days, and I’ve worked myself up to be a complete mess. I’ve told everyone thats asked that it’s not worked, that I don’t want to talk about it and late tonight I felt like my period was coming, and just grabbed a test as I always do if I’m at home and just so happy to see this faint line. Just hoping it’s a line in the morning 🙏🙏. I’ll see what happens in the morning 🙏

Ah amazing @Woodcottage1! ❤️❤️❤️

Tested twice since when I’ve needed the loo, white line and disappeared and the one just now a line just fainter than the one last night, so doesn’t full with confidence but I’ll hope 🙏

@HopefulElle I saw your post and just had to say I feel exactly the same as you- I don't unilaterally love children, but know I'd bond with my own. I don't think there is anything wrong with feeling this way; I'm not longing for other people's children when I pass them in the street, after all. Equally, I admire people who want to adopt, but don't feel it's for me. I'm considering donor eggs, but currently about to transfer my last embryo, so we'll see how that goes.

@HopefulElle @Doxy21 @MeadowMouse have to say I'm also in the same camp! If it happens great, but adoption I'm not sure would be for me and donor egg would not be for my OH. We both agreed it's either a part of both of us or no kids. So we already have a list of bucket list holidays we want to go on in our lives and will follow a new path, most likely with plenty of pets instead

@Woodcottage1 that looks promising! How many post transfer days are you? Is today your official test day? Stick with the pink dye tests and perhaps get a First Response one as they are very clear and pick up quite low HCG levels

We are the same, we don't have the money for donor after these cycles and I wouldn't be willing to wait the 2 years on the NHS. Adoption isn't for us either, after everything we've been through I don't think I could deal with such in-depth digging into our home, finances, work etc. not that there is anything to hide of course. I also have a step daughter which to me isn't much different to adoption.

We also have a dog and cat and they bring us so much joy 🩷 don't know what I'd have done without them at times.

Amazing news @Woodcottage1 ❤️ I have everything crossed for you. Do you have bloods scheduled? Xx

I should say though adoption is absolutely amazing, to give a child a home would be truly special. A step child is not quite the same I realise but to me, I have a child that's biologically not mine who I love dearly. Everyone is different and no right or wrong in how anyone feels x

@Sunflower360 same - we would like a child to be both of us or neither. Hence adoption if we felt the need. But that’s a big if.