IVF November 2022 - thread 2

[countrypunk]

Hello everyone, shiny new thread for us IVF warriors.

@Crystal88
@Jx3303
@LF82
@Hopewishprayer
@Foreverhoping33
@Cat89

@countrypunk So sorry you have had a bad day, I agree with everyone else if possible try not to compare to others though I know that will be so so hard! If it’s any help I have a friend who is 5 months and had no morning sickness at all.

@countrypunk @Foreverhoping33 @Jx3303 @Cat89 thank you all for the support over the last few days. just had the call from the embryologist and one of the 4 has formed a blastocyst and is being frozen, she said another looks like it might do the same this afternoon and the other 2 embryos are still compacting so they will leave them until tomorrow. I won’t get a call this afternoon but a full and final update tomorrow. I am very grateful to have 4 frozen and would be delighted if we get another one out of the 3 still working at it today! I have been so anxious this morning whilst waiting for the call. Trying to work so I would be distracted but it wasn’t working!
please keep your 🤞 for me for tomorrow!
Much love to you all x

@LF82 I am so so happy to hear you've one more safely going into the freezer today, and I have everything crossed another/others join it!!! The calls are so nerve wracking and I know after last time it would have been even more so! It's definitely the most nervous I've ever been waiting for some of those calls. I hope that you can breathe a little knowing one more is safely in the freezer ❄️ I'm delighted for you I really am 💕

@LF82 that's great news about having some in freezer, i bet its such a relief

sorry all for radio silence been having some me time, i went out to watch the Lion King yesterday in Birmingham with my mom which was fantastic and I've booked holiday for mid September to Rhodes

still waiting for 1st August for feedback appointment, but like with last time i had my withdrawal bleed on the test date and finished and then yesterday started to bleed again after 6 days. This happened exactly same last time where i had 5 days of bleeding then, 4/5 days off and bleeding again. took me about 2 months to get back into normal 28 days cycle. But what different this time is today i have the cramps but no blood, so i don't know what's happening with my body, so I've only had one day of bleeding, or should i say a bit of brown old blood, IVF certainly messes your body up lol xx

@Jx3303 thank you so so much, I was so nervous as the numbers were so small so I know the chances/odds were against us and cycle 2 going so badly was at the back of mind. X

@Crystal88 I am so glad you have been taking some time for you and have booked a holiday - I think getting that rest and relaxation time is so vital and amongst all the stresses of ivf. Will you be able to speak to your clinic re your withdrawal bleed/second set of bleeding? Just in case they have any advice I guess x

@LF82 i asked them last time and they said some people it takes a few months to fully reset your system. They said if it continued then to see my GP but within 2 months it had sorted itself out. Hoping it will be the same again this time otherwise i wont be able to start again in October after my holidays

Will just monitor it for now, and i will contact my patient coordinator if needed, trying not to stress has i know it wont do me any good xx

@Crystal88 thats reassuring and totally agree stress isn’t good at all! We get far too much of it on this journey x

@LF82 oh I'm so so happy for you! What a wonderful start to a Day 5 update hearing that you've definitely got at least one more added to your frozen count! Fingers crossed you might get another tomorrow, I ended up with one more at Day 6 so perfectly possible! I hope you're feeling happy and much more relaxed now after the call?

@Foreverhoping33 Have you had another scan since your viability scan?
@countrypunk @Foreverhoping33 I had absolutely no symptoms whatsoever except bloating. I remember at the time other people saying how horrendous the first trimester was and how they had to take time off work, yet I felt completely normal and honestly wouldn't have known I was pregnant! I look back now and it was a true blessing, just wish I wasn't so anxious!

@Crystal88 @Jx3303 I'm glad you've had a nice weekend/holiday and are doing nice things with people. If there's one thing I'll stress, don't let the process of IVF take over our lives and stop us living our lives. We still need to carry on ❤️. IVF will work when the time is right but until then you can still keep making happy memories and achieve things in other ways. I know it's hard mentally to always want to do things tho 😘.

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@countrypunk

@Hopewishprayer lovely to hear from you!
How are you getting on? Remind me of your status now?!!
(Apologies, I wrote this days ago but just realized it never actually posted!)

@LF82 WOOHOO! That's so great! On my latest round when they called me on day 5 I had one ready for transfer, and two more that were still early blastocysts. Both of them made it to the freezer on day 6 so keep the faith! 💜💜💜

@Crystal88 Lush, sunny holiday booked! Hope we get another pic of you with cocktail in hand 🍹 You deserve a smashing time away. Let us know how your appointment goes. Xx

@Jx3303 DP is home! And as predicted dog got first cuddle! Feel much better for having him here. I did have a counselling session last cycle but I haven't this cycle yet. I might investigate...

Like @Cat89 said, it's so important to carry on living our lives and doing nice things with the people we love. It's all too easy to let IVF take over isn't it. It's good to try and be present in the moment rather than constantly looking to the future. IVF makes that really hard sometimes.

It was really nice being with my mum but she got a bit annoyed with me over all my worrying. Which I understand because she's never had IVF or lost a pregnancy and wants me to be positive. But like you say, we need to acknowledge the feelings and not bury them. Xx

@Cat89 Thank you, that's so good to read! I don't know why I do this to myself but I've been reading studies that say no morning sickness can be an indicator of miscarriage 🙈 I've got to step away from Dr Google.

Due date so close for you now! Have you been nesting!? Xx

@countrypunk thank you! I am
going to do my best to stay occupied after work tonight & hope that tomorrow brings some good news x

@LF82 🤞🏽🍀🐞

Morning, hope everyone is well. The lab just called & we have one for in the freezer. The other two didn’t make it. So that’s 5 in the freezer overall after 3 egg collections. Doesn’t sound like a lot does it but I am truly hoping quality over quantity. On to the next stage of the journey now & down regulation. Am going to ask for a treatment consultation for them to actually explain what that means and what happens x

@Crystal88 how lovely you've got a holiday booked and are having some you time - it's really needed in amongst all of this isn't it. Sorry to hear your cycles are off now, hopefully they sort out and you don't have too long a wait 🤞🏻

@Cat89 yeah it's so easy for it to take over life and I really try to enjoy things in between treatment. It can be difficult when you're sad but it does help when you get out and about I feel. How are you doing? X

@countrypunk ah must be great to have DP home ❤️ sure you and the pup very happy to see him. Counselling isn't for everyone but I really find it helps to have someone impartial, who won't just try and say the "right" thing, she always makes my feelings feel so valid. It's difficult because people really don't understand the worry and anxiety even though they try. They just want you not to worry - but it's not that easy.

@LF82 that's wonderful news 💕 and a great number of embryos. Definitely ask them for a consultation about that's next so that you understand and are feeling prepared.

Cycle day 1 for me, 6 days late but at least here finally! I was worried after the MMC it was going to to awol, it was at the normal time last month. You just can't help but have that tiny bit of hope can you though, oh what if I got pregnant on holiday sort of thing. Sadly not but we move. Ugh also had a letter for my smear, just what I wanted 😂

@Jx3303 thank you! Honestly don’t think I could do another round off egg collection if we had got nothing.

ah glad your cycle is here though I truly know what you mean about that little bit of hope we all have each month with what if it happens! Sending lots of love xx

@LF82 That's perfectly ok with your one addition to the freezer bank, 5 is a really good number and hopefully should give you 5 attempts now at transfer. Exciting that you can now move to the next stage!! 😃
Am I remembering correctly then that you've not yet done any transfers, and went with the multi-cycle package to collect eggs in multiple goes before attempting to transfer?

@Jx3303 holla to your cycle returning! It might feel strange after what's happened and I guess a sign of your body moving on and preparing itself for next time. I hope you're doing ok and mentally can start preparing for next time too. The anxiety is unreal and totally understandable, but we're here and got you 😘.

I never know how much to talk about me as I'm very sensitive to how hearing baby updates can make people feel. As a few have asked..
I'll be 37 weeks tomorrow which officially makes baby "term", due date is Week 40 which is mid August so very close now eek!. The whole pregnancy has gone very well where every test, scan etc showing a healthy growing bubba so I feel extremely grateful for that. I'm kinda surprised but once I finally got a viable pregnancy, there seemed to be no problems whatsoever. So my advice for those who pass the Wk6 viability scan and especially Wk12 mark, embrace it! Don't go looking for problems or waiting for something to go wrong, leave the past issues behind and enjoy just it ☺️. Hopefully the last part now will go ok 🤞. Xx

@LF82 That's brilliant, 5 embryos is an excellent number! So pleased for you. And now you can look forward to the next stage 💜

@Cat89 I definitely like reading about baby stuff on this thread! It gives me hope. It's wonderful.

It's lovely that your pregnancy has been plain sailing given the difficulty of getting there. I hope it's the same for all of us 💜

@Cat89 thats so lovely to read and I agree with @countrypunk baby news on an ivf thread gives me hope!

yes I am on a multi cycle egg collection so next step is a transfer, though I have to have 3 months of down regulation first as last cycle they diagnosed mild andenmyosis and down reg is the best way to increase my chances of a successful transfer apparently. X

@countrypunk thank you! X

@Cat89 as the other ladies said, it's so nice to hear your update and we are all so very happy for you, and it gives us hope ❤️ without hope, we'd not all be here I guess. I'm so glad that it's been plain sailing for you the last wee while, it's what you deserve and I'm so glad you've been able to enjoy your pregnancy after ivf robs us of so much x

Yeah I didn't expect my period to come so quickly after the MMC last month, so when it was a bit off this month I thought oh please don't disappear on me! But it's here and I'm enjoying summer, my step daughter is here and we've had a fun day out bowling etc. and I've had a few beers 🍻 just need to live life for now and the next steps will be soon x

@Jx3303 Love the sound of your day. Although I'm absolutely rubbish at bowling and always embarrass myself. Xx

@countrypunk I broke a nail the first go 😂 but yeah it was such a nice day and a good distraction. Last summer she was up I was miserable as we'd just done our second disastrous NHS cycle and I really just want to have a good time this summer. I treated her to some make up and pjs and she helped me pick some good make up dupes in primark too that all the kids know about haha so that was fun for us xx

@Jx3303 It sounds like you two have a really nice relationship. So lovely! Xx

@Jx3303 your day sounds so lovely, you seem to have a really good relationship with step daughter ☺️☺️. Ditto I'm crap at bowling haha!

Aw yeah she's lovely, she is up here for holidays so it's always nice to have her up. It's not always been the best timing in recent years, and I really wanted to make up for that and be happy this visit and for us to have fun. I always try and I'm sure she's not noticed but I have that guilt knowing I wasn't myself. I've got a girls day out planned Saturday too and there's been so many times I've said no or not managed or not been able to drink so it will be nice to see them this weekend and have a few drinks and most of them know my situation, let's hope I don't get too drunk and cry 😂 although they'd be super understanding if I did I'm sure.

World IVF day today, it's crazy to think the first IVF baby was born in the UK 45 years ago. What an amazing thing. I hope that this hugely life changing science takes us all where we so badly want to be 💕