FET March 2023

[Rainbowpeach]

Hi All,

Looking for others starting their FET cycle in March. This will be my 5th cycle (after 4 cycles last year). I did PGT-A testing this time and my embryos went down from 13 to 4. Hoping for success this time round and just wanted to go through the journey with others.

Mine is 23 December, just hoping that it is successful, trying not to get my hopes up or over think it. 2 weeks chilling in the Spanish sunshine is just what I need (even if it has pushed my scan back).
The timing has been great because I had Easter weekend to rest after my transfer on the Thursday and then this holiday to rest too, both complete coincidences.

@Jazsimone ahh new years eve 🥰

@northernduckling yes I'm exactly the same - trying to not get ahead of myself. My transfer was the Wednesday before Easter and agree it was nice to rest! I can't wait to go on holiday now!!

Hi everyone,

I just had scan today. I'm 7 weeks. Unfortunately it's a chemical pregnancy 😭 I'm going to stop all the medication and then everything will come out with bleeding. We didn't expect this news at all.

I wish everyone all the best ❤️

@Bookiebooboo Good luck for your transfer tomorrow Hun x

@zus omg I am so so sorry for you both, this is just not what you need after everything! I am sending you big hugs and take the time to look after yourself. book a holiday if you can give yourself a break. It’s not easy I know. Thanks for the good luck, my husband tested positive for covid this morning so not sure if I’ll be having the transfer tomorrow but that’s here not there . I truly am so sorry 😞 xx

@Zus I am so SO sorry I cannot imagine how you are feeling 😔😔 did they say any reason why this might have happened when you had strong BFP and no spotting even? I am so sorry lovely nothing I say will make you feel better, please please look after yourself ❤️❤️

Really sorry @Zus to hear of the news today. Nothing anyone can say will make anything remotely okay or bearable, but thinking of you today and giving you all the strength we all can.

We had our scan today, all is good. Not out of the danger stages by any means at this point as we all know all to well, but seeing baby in the right place measuring well with a good heartbeat has meant a sense of peace today but not after a tonne of tears. I cried before and throughout the whole scan. Having had my own daughter 11 years ago, it’s so surreal to go through this process being the ‘other parent’

How is everyone else today?

@MrsRandMrsR I am so happy for you both this is such lovely news 🥰🤗 have they booked in your next scan?

I will be honest I am really struggling, every single day I spend the majority googling success rates and miscarriage rates and just constantly anxious. I feel like the only thing that would reassure me is someone telling me with absolute certainty it will work out (which obviously is impossible!) they have booked my early scan for 16th May where I will be 2 days away from 8 weeks so I’m going to call them tomorrow and ask if it can be 12th May when I should be 7 weeks as I’m so anxious

Hey@MS2692 No further scans now with our clinic which is scary, we’re now discharged from our clinic and now have to go under the NHS. So next scan typically through the NHS will be 12 weeks (though planning to have one before then and a private scan at 12 weeks to show our daughter she’ll be big sis) It is so hard mentally and I can totally appreciate where you’re at now. I think now we’ve had the scan I think I’ll focus far less on the negatives and stay away from most groups/stats/websites. It is enough to drive yourself mad. What is okay for one, isn’t okay for another so what I’ve learnt is, it sure as sh*t doesn’t really matter and all the looking in the world isn’t going to settle anything, but we still continue to search and look because we’re human and we don’t like the unknown 🫣 Have you considered a HCG test or a private scan to provide some reassurance. We had one booked for Sat being 7 weeks but we put it back as they brought our viability to today so didn’t want to waste it. When we spoke to the private scan place and explained our situation for putting it back and told her our HCG levels, she said that the clinic at that stage will definitely see a heartbeat so we’re 6w5d and we did. You think the TWW is bad but then you realise the viability scan is just as a difficult wait. I definitely recommend getting something as soon as you feel it would give you some peace in your mind and heart, maybe at the earliest just before 7 weeks? For me, today has alleviated so much angst and anxiety and while it might not last the whole duration of the pregnancy, at least today there is some still and calm because I’m the worlds worst when something means so much.

@MrsRandMrsR yeah you’re absolutely right, from tomorrow I’m going to try and focus on work and my usual routine accepting exactly like you’ve said (which’s great advice) no amount of stressing or research will change the outcome (be it good or bad)! I also completely agree that now you’ve had the scan and it’s gone so well definitely stay away from the internet and embrace where you guys are I’m so happy for you and sincerely hope you both have a healthy & happy 9 months 🤗🤗

Thank you ladies for the kind words. We didn't expect such a bad news. I wish you all success.

@Bookiebooboo Hey Hun, are you going ahead with the transfer today? If yes, all the very best hun and lots of baby dust to you 😘

Hello @zus yes i am good to go for transfer today just doing it alone but at least I can still go ahead thank you so much for your kind words, make sure you look after yourself, I will keep you posted on how it goes and my outcome xx

@Bookiebooboo Hey Hun all the best! I have crossed my fingers for you ❣️

Hey ladies,

As I mentioned above my transfer was successful but it was a chemical pregnancy. Just wanted to know if anyone experienced chemical pregnancy and what was the reason. How long you have to wait for next IVF journey.

Thanks all

@Zus

I'm so sorry to hear that you are going through a chemical pregnancy.

Devastating.

I don't see why you wouldn't be able to start again next cycle.

I went straight from having a BFN to starting again 2 days later and getting my BFP.

Take a break if need it... let your body heal

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@Zus I'm so sorry - that's such an awful shock.

I had a chemical in February - but I had really faint tests that never got stronger and my hcg levels were too low to be viable. From reading I thought a chemical was any loss before 5 weeks.

So perhaps yours is a missed miscarriage if you've had no pain or bleeding? Or maybe they could tell from the scan that it never grew beyond 5 weeks so classing it as a chemical. Either way I'm so so sorry.

Did you have many pregnancy symptoms? Xx

@MS2692 I was the same as you the other day just really anxious and googling stuff for no reason. I ended up booking a HCG blood test and it did reassure me.

My scan isn't til the 9th of may and I'll hopefully be 7+4. I think with the bank holidays they are struggling and don't have any earlier appointments as I asked if I could have one at 7 weeks too 🙈.

It's so hard to stay positive after the journey we've been on already! Xx

@MrsRandMrsR congratulations on your scan!! That's lovely news after your initial panic. Just got to get through the next few weeks haven't we all - it's so difficult though

@laurapop I’m so glad it’s not just me! It’s absolute torture isn’t it! 😩 I called the clinic yesterday and she moved it to 12th May thankfully she said “I’m sure everything is fine” but that didn’t reassure me at all, I don’t think anything will until the scan 😂 she said they don’t like doing it earlier as they may not see anything but by the 12th I’d be 7+1 so surely you’d see a heartbeat by then?

Yes I want to have another hcg blood test done to make sure the numbers are progressing ok as I think that would give me some comfort! I have a CB digital test I was going to take tomorrow as I took one last Sunday and it said “2-3 weeks” so if tomorrows says “3+ weeks” then that will give me comfort that the numbers are rising as they should! Xx

@MS2692 yes nothing anyone can say really helps does it - only the scan!

Just a word of warning about the clearblue - I did one the other day and it still said 2-3 which is what sent me on my spiral.. the next day I had my blood test which was over 5000, well over the amount to show 3+ 🙈

Morning, just had my HCG blood test hopefully should get the results today... otherwise I have to wait until Tuesday 😖

How are we all feeling?

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@laurapop thank you I’m so glad you told me that otherwise I’d have been going crazy too! Xx

@Jazsimone yay! Fingers crossed for you 🤞🏻xx

Hi Ladies

Thank you for the support. Yes it is not chemical pregnancy it is missed miscarriage. I don't have any symptoms or bleeding.

Anyways ladies, I wish you all the best.

@Zus I am so sorry this is truly awful. I hope that you are able to have some time for you, sending many thoughts xxxxx

@Jazsimone did you get your results?

I had another couple of blood tests on Thursday and Saturday. My Thursday results were promising but then they only went up 50% by Saturday 😩. But I am 6+3 now and I've read after 6 weeks it does slow down to doubling every 4 days.

They've brought my scan forward to Wednesday and although I'm glad it's sooner I'm now so nervous 🙈

Hope everyone else is okay xx

@laurapop

No I didn't, I am going to have to wait until tomorrow .... i should have gone Friday evening to the clinic! Nevermind! I have been busy all week end so it's keeping my distracted!!

What are your numbers now?

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