IVF warriors - the journey continues 2

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@seekingbabyk
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@1stcycle
@KLM25
@ralno2
@acaciabluebell@Tinkerbell098

Another thread needed ladies! Please tag if I've forgotten someone! :)

@1stcycle God, it's so hard isn't it. Do you feel any better after having the scan done? Did they say what they might expect to see in another week?

@1stcycle so so sorry about how the clinic has handled this and that email is just appalling. I'm glad you have complained, it's so very insensitive! Sorry about the scan too that it wasn't conclusive. Did they not do bloods? Being in limbo was the worst thing I found. You are being so strong. Hope you can do something nice to take your mind off things. Take time to heal and we are always here for a chat X

@ralno2 they basically said that the pregnancy had ended but they can’t offer any treatment yet as it’s needs to be over 7mm without a heartbeat at this stage for them to offer treatment. So that’s why I have to wait another week. But she said stuff like this is the yolk sack that was feeding the baby etc. she said it’s up to me if I keep taking progesterone or not. She said for piece of mind might be better to take it but understand it’s also annoying doing it when you know the outcome.

@Tinkerbell098 no bloods taken no, I think it’s obvious the outcome just they can’t legally offer treatment yet. We had already accepted it so don’t feel like I am in limbo now just would have been good for closure if we could have sorted it now and not wait another week. This journey just sucks!!

@1stcycle I didn't think that it had to be a particular size before they decide to do any management?

Look after yourself this evening, feet up and just take it easy, it's been a tough week x

@ralno2 I’m not sure she just said it needed to be over 7mm without a heartbeat for them to legally give treatment today. Maybe because first time they saw me so they have nothing to base it on not growing etc. I’ve read online that anything over 7mm without a heartbeat is not viable. There’s probably a cut off with certain amount of weeks though maybe if I was further along. Thanks I’m just chilling and ordered a McDonald’s because I can’t be bothered to cook lol!

@1stcycle I have my scan tomorrow, I went to the EPU last Friday but they just took my bloods.

I'm worried they will make me wait weeks to decide on the medical management. No signs of any natural miscarriage with, no bleeding/ cramping etc.

I am going to Australia start of April and I really don't want to be miscarrying on holidays.

My scan at the IVF clinic last week showed the CRL 2.9mm and measuring at 5wk6days( when I should have been 8 weeks).

If they tell me come back for a scan I'm not going to be happy, I just want this over and done with and care bare it having it drag on for weeks and weeks.

Anyway, I'm glad your resting up and getting your McDonalds. You deserve it! X

@ralno2 that is frustrating that they didn’t scan you because at least they would have something to go on. Unless they are happy to compare with the clinic scan. My CRL was 3.3mm in the clinic which they dated 6 weeks 4 days when I should have been 7 weeks 4 days and then today at the EPU the CRL measured 3.8mm but they said that was 5 weeks 4 days so that really confused me. I doubt it’s grown more since Tuesday more they just measure differently.
i really hope it’s sorted for you soon as I can imagine it’s stressful with your trip coming up too. Are you still taking progesterone?

Another thing she said is that my womb is tilted back which no one has told be before. She said it’s won’t cause issues just that it’s harder to scan and surprised no one has said before to me.

So sorry @1stcycle that you didn't get just a resolution today, you're being so incredibly strong.

@ralno2 hope you get your resolution too before Australia, will be thinking of you tomorrow x

Awww @1stcycle it's so frustrating the waiting game. I wonder if it's that they can struggle to find a heartbeat under 7mm so need to rule out it's not growing? It will come around quickly just take time now to relax and take care of yourself. Is your next scan next Thursday?

@ralno2 thinking if you tomorrow too. That's a lot of stress having a trip booked. How long are you away for?x

Omg girls I just did my first jab to myself! Hubby is at pub with his friend and was going to come back to do it but I put my big girl pants on and did it. Feel quite emotional about the whole thing lol!

So sorry to hear this @1stcycle - you're so strong and it's an awful thing to go through. Sending you lots of love.

Hope you're holding up too @ralno2 and that tomorrow goes okay.

Well done @seekingbabyk! How did you find it doing it by yourself?

I remember when my OH first tried injecting me and we had to psyche both him and myself up 😂 plus we're both clumsy - I find it better when I do it - like I have control, but totally understand it's nerve wracking the first few times!

It was completely fine @MinBins thank you! I just didn't let myself think about it and did it! Actually the menopur is really stinging this time round so it was probably better in that I could stop for a second when it started to hurt, etc.

The first round I just didn't want the stress of worrying about it so hubby just took the whole thing on but actually feel much better about it now x

@seekingbabyk yeah I think that’s it they need to see me twice to rule out not growing etc. so I imagine it being the same/still small size next week then they will be able to confirm and then I can choose what steps next. Well done on the jab, hope stimming goes quick for you. Hope the side effects are not too bad for you. When is your first stims scan?

@1stcycle Monday is my next scan. I feel ok at the moment just run down, tired, headache- the usual stuff lol.

I hope you're ok. It's really rough having to go through all this. I hope the EPU nurses were nicer! Did you hear back from your complaint email?

Good luck today @ralno2 x

@seekingbabyk ahh I’m glad you are feeling ok, I know stims do really take it out of you mentally and physically. Yes the nurse was very nice in the EPU. I’ve had some apology emails but just saying sorry was a clerical error etc. just thought I haven’t even passed the baby yet or know how I’m going to do it so frustrating getting that email before having my own closure.

I bet it’s just like a tick box to them in the clinic though, and don’t think about peoples feelings. They even gave me a prescription for cyclogest in case everything was ok yet then tell access that the pregnancy ended. Madness! But I’m over it now just need to move on and think of next steps. They gave me a leaflet for the different options so will have a think about them before my scan on Thursday.

I'm so sorry @1stcycle - it sounds like maybe one person made a very unfortunate mistake BUT with this whole process being so emotionally hard it's an industry where mistakes should not be made and everything should be double checked.

Were your rounds nhs funded? Do you have blasts left now?

There's a lot to think about re next steps - it's probably a good thing you have a week between scans to get your head around it all and what you want to do. I'm really sorry you're going through this x

@seekingbabyk thank you.

No growth or HB today. I am having a D&C on Monday.

Oh I'm sorry @ralno2 - how you feeling?x

So sorry to hear this @ralno2 it's an awful thing to have gone through. Do take the time to heal from it and I hope you're okay. 💖

@seekingbabyk no it was not NHS funded, I did a 2 multi cycle and unfortunately no blasts so it would be another cycle we would have to do. I think we will have a few months off though if we were to do another cycle.

@ralno2 aww I’m so sorry hope you are feeling ok. At least you can have closure on Monday now and it doesn’t impact your trip to Australia! Rest up this weekend xx

Oh @1stcycle I'm sorry. It's so heartbreaking- our first cycle I only wanted to go one so just thought we'll give it a chance. Got one blast and did a fresh transfer which didn't work. I remember that feeling after having been through all of that. BUT I've definitely come back stronger, more experienced and more guarded. We just take it bit by bit now and want to just take our time with each bit so after this EC we don't even know when we'll do a transfer but i feel so much better for that so definitely just take your time and don't overload yourselves x

Quick question please. My menopur is at 9 every night. Should I do it at 9 tonight with the clock change or 10?

I'd say 10 so it's at the same time as it has been daily so far, so the same gap between injections and even distribution. Saying that I don't think an hour is a huge difference, though I know the clinics drum in it has to be same time.

So sorry @ralno2 , I hope you're doing ok, and your OH xx