IVF cycle November 2022

[HJen22]

Hi ladies

Just wondering if anyone is doing a cycle in November, looking for some cycle buddies.

I started stims yesterday, this is the 3rd cycle for us (2 NHS rounds where we didn't make it to transfer either time) and now we have signed up to a private a 3 cycle package with Create in Manchester. 3 egg collections and hopefully some embryo banking before and potential transfer. X

@Foreverhoping33 i know what you mean, i get upset hearing my friends pregnant. i have one who said she didn't want another one, and then she announced she was pregnant recently. And then last week my other half nephew who is 17 has announced his Girlfriend is pregnant, they have only been together a few months. My future mother in law was so happy she is going to be grand grandmother, i burst into tears and said some horrible things, i had a heart to heart with her then i don't think she realised how i was feeling and how much IVF takes from you.. i don't think people realise how emotional things are unless you go through IVF, and smallest thing can set you off. Its strange i always thought when i ovulated that there was a chance i could get pregnant but now i have given up hope and IVF is the only chance. For me no one has never said why i cant get pregnant everything is normal and only issue is slight low sperm mobility. I am desperate to start again but I have my holiday first end of April, keep checking website on when I can book my baseline scan again for April but slots are only up to March at moment

remember your not alone we are all here for you xx

Oh @Foreverhoping33 my heart really felt for you reading your message. 16 pregnancies is such a lot to have to deal with especially with all that you are going through. I have myself truly found it hard to watch other people get pregnant, have babies and do it again whilst I am still no where near. And if I am honest I have taken a step back from some friendships because of that.
I hope the doctors can advise on what to do to hopefully mean you can have a transfer next month. look after yourself over the coming days - my counsellor says it’s best to accept on the days that tears come that it’s just going to be that way that day and don’t try & feel differently x

@Crystal88 I'm so sorry you're having to deal with pregnancies so close to home too 😞 totally agree, people don't understand how it effects everything in life, the mental toll I find is so much harder than the physical side (albeit it physically I'm now in terrible shape but that's another story - putting on too tight jeans at the weekend put me in an even worse mood), and sometimes peoples lack of knowledge and understanding just irritates me. I know the waiting is so so hard, but it's nice you have your holiday before going again. Where are you off to again?

Thank you ladies for reading my earlier rants. Decided to do something nice for the weekend so we are going away (my colleague has a second house not far from balmoral castle, which isn't far from us at all, and it's free for us to stay) and I think a change of scenery and something diffident will do me good! Take the dog, have a nice walk and a few drinks.

@countrypunk how are you doing? Xx

@Jx3303 your trip sounds wonderful, i love Scotland even though I've only visited with work, we have a depot in Edinburgh so i used to be over every couple months pre covid

I am going to Torremolinos, cant wait for some sunshine

i am off work tomorrow, so im decorating then and Saturday and hopefully Sunday might go shopping to get some holiday clothes xx

@Crystal88 @Jx3303 completely agree with you that people who aren’t going through (or haven’t been through it) don’t understand at all. I think that’s why I only have told one friend (she has had ivf herself) I couldn’t deal with the stress of people asking what’s happening when they didn’t understand how it felt …. Wasn’t sure if I had made the right choice but I think I probably have

with my age I am worried that I will start getting more & more people ask ‘when are you going to have kids’ and am really not prepared for it

Ps your trips sound great! We went away last weekend and it made a huge difference

@Crystal88 yeah it's a lovely little place called Ballater, we've stayed at his house before and it's been snowing here so hopefully be nice and pretty ❄️

Oh lovely!! The sun will be great. I haven't been there but to Benalmadena close by and it was great! I was actually surprised at how much I managed to relax when we went on holiday last year - it was a much needed break and I really hope it helps you getting away too 💗

It's really good that we have a place here where we can share all the sadness that comes with infertility. People really, really don't understand unless they've been through it themselves. Sending special love to @Jx3303 @LF82 @Crystal88 @Foreverhoping33
Well to everyone really! Doesn't get easier does it.

@Jx3303 That sounds like a lovely weekend plan. I'm jealous! I bloody love Scotland. I've never been to near Balmoral but I've been to the west coast a lot. It's wonderful. Enjoy!

@Crystal88 Have a fantastic holiday. Some sun on your face and relaxing will be just the ticket.

Feeling progressively more anxious the closer tomorrow's scan gets. At the stage now where I'm really not sure if I can put myself through all of this again. Although I guess I might feel differently in a few months. I'll update here tomorrow.

Xx

@countrypunk can’t begin to imagine how you are feeling, hope they can at least tell you more tomorrow. Thinking of you x

@countrypunk good luck for tomorrow

what ever the outcome we are here for you🤗

@HJen22 ive been a few times, our hotel is nearer the port of Benalmadena. it will be nice to get away from everything and then all being well end of May i will be able to start IVF again. As you know it all depends if your body is ready.xx

@countrypunk really glad we have this chat too 💗 thank you! Decided to be proactive and plan something since I spent last weekend so miserable. You are doing so well lovely, I really can't imagine how agonising that the wait is. I really hope that tomorrow is good news, and that they can tell you some more. Totally understand the feeling of sometimes thinking you aren't sure if you can do it again. I have been thinking that recently myself. I will be thinking of you tomorrow 🙏🏻

@Crystal88 such a nice place all the way along the coast isn't it! And I am sure you come back all refreshed and ready to go again x

@LF82 im glad you had a nice weekend away 😊 where did you go? Do you have much else on this month to keep you busy whilst waiting on AF? X

Thank you everyone xxx

@Jx3303 we just went to Chester - so nice not to think about it & I treated myself to some wine! Not got lots on for the rest of the month but going to try & make sure we just do things each weekend to stay busy. I am not so bad in the week as work keeps me occupied. Keep wishing the next few weeks away but know that’s not the best thing to do! X

@LF82 lovely! That's not far at all from you is it? I went as a child and would like to go back! And glad to hear you treated yourself to some wine too! I am completely the same, I wish the days away and then feel bad about it, but it's so hard not to! I'm wondering if I should contact my patient coordinator and tell her I've my bloods booked to get redone on Monday and if I should schedule a Dr call in advance to go over them - so I'm not then having to wait for a Dr call for days after? Xx

@Jx3303 it was lovely. Definitely recommend. I think I would definitely do that if I was you - otherwise you will just end up waiting & if you are anything like me give yourself anxiety x

@LF82 yeah I agree, I want to be able to talk the results through with the Consultant either way. If I don't get it booked now I'd likely have to wait til the following week to speak to someone and I just don't want an added wait, so I've sent her an email 🤞🏻

@Jx3303 oh good, hopefully she will respond asap & get you an appointment x

Morning everyone. Miscarriage confirmed at the scan this morning. We're OK. I think we both feel weirdly relieved after the rollercoaster of the past 3 weeks. I'm going to wait a week and see if nature does its thing. If nothing happens I think I'll have the surgery.

Hope everyone's OK and this doesn't bum you out too much. We're going to stay positive, probably take an IVF break for a few months and try naturally - you never know! The thought of going back to my clinic right now doesn't feel good.

Thank you all so much for your support, I feel like I've had loads of strangers' arms round me and it's been lovely.

Xx

@countrypunk I am
so sorry to hear that and hope you are both doing as ok as you can given the circumstances. Do everything you need to look after yourselves, and put the pair of your first. X

@LF82 💕

We're jumping on the holiday train too - gonna book a week somewhere hot next month. We're so tired after the past few months.

@countrypunk I'm so sorry love 😢 that must have been a very difficult appointment, sending love 💕 you have done amazing to get through the last 3 weeks waiting, I really hope you are ok. Closure hurts but it also closes one door I suppose doesn't it, and when you are ready you can look to the next. But absolutely no rush, it is a good idea taking a break, looking after yourself, taking a holiday and living. We absolutely all have our arms around you xxxx

@countrypunk sorry to hear that, I understand that relief feeling. Last few weeks must have been so difficult, a holiday is a great idea, take a break do some things you enjoy and you will feel ready eventually to get going again ❤️

@countrypunk oh I’m sorry to hear that, I have being thinking of you all day

we are here if you need to talk

enjoy your break and take the time you need xx

@countrypunk wanted to check back on you today (sorry for not sending a msg before your scan).. I'm so sad to hear your update and can't imagine how you both must be. I know you were cautious, but it's still rubbish and hard hearing things officially. You've had a particularly difficult time too with ups and downs and conflicting info - it was hard enough just hearing it once!!
Some embryos are just not strong enough and that's a really sad reality we face, but my gosh the amount your body was trying to keep it going hopefully gives you the strength to keep going too, you're so close even if you don't feel it right now. You take good care of yourselves and have a break from it all on hols. Sending lots of love xxx.