IVF cycle November 2022

[HJen22]

Hi ladies

Just wondering if anyone is doing a cycle in November, looking for some cycle buddies.

I started stims yesterday, this is the 3rd cycle for us (2 NHS rounds where we didn't make it to transfer either time) and now we have signed up to a private a 3 cycle package with Create in Manchester. 3 egg collections and hopefully some embryo banking before and potential transfer. X

@Crystal88 Thank you for the positive vibes, and sorry you're poorly. I hope you feel better very soon x

@Jx3303 Thank you 💕 I don't think it's going to have a happy ending this time, but I'm making plans to move to a new clinic (mine haven't contacted me since they scanned me last week. Feel very uncared for by them so don't really feel like spending ££££ with them) and doing lots of research which is helping me feel more positive about things.

Hope things go a bit more smoothly for you this month. Are you planning a transfer after your next cycle? Xx

@countrypunk I'm so sorry that's the feeling you have about it 😞 I can't imagine how hard it is. Where are you based again?

Honestly I'm too scared to get too ahead of ourselves. The plan is still to do a transfer hopefully along with the second cycle but given the last 2 months nothing is a given and the disappointment hurts. Really had hoped to have done more than one cycle by now, November feels like forever ago! But will see what the next set of prolactin results are and hopefully if they are lower we can go down for cycle 2 🤞🏻 until then I'm just not looking into anything at all re travel or accommodation or anything like that x

@Jx3303 I know, it's so hard. You can't count on anything going the way it's supposed to with IVF! But I really hope it does this time for you.

I'm with the BCRM in Bristol at the moment. Some of the nurses are lovely but it feels like a fertility factory. There's no real care. You see a different person at every appointment and we've only seen a doctor once - for a 15 minute zoom call after our first transfer failed. I'm really not sure what the doctors do all day there and I doubt any of them have the slightest idea about our case.

@countrypunk thank you ☺️ I've had a cry and had a few down days, sometimes I feel like I don't really have time to process the bad before I'm trying to sort out what's next. The waiting in between is bad enough so I of course want to get going and move forward but it can get overwhelming. Especially being so far away from the clinic and having to arrange bloods up here myself privately etc.

I know what you mean, although everyone we have dealt at our clinic has been lovely, Drs and nurses, every call I have had has been with a different Dr. I guess it's just whoever is on shift that day to do the calls etc. I think even with my scans last time it was a different Dr each time. It's awful that your clinic haven't contacted you since last week - but you are back next week is that right? Xx

@Jx3303 No, I've been under the care of the EPU at my local hospital. Nothing booked in with my clinic. I know it's not their fault that this is happening but I would like to know they cared and wanted to make a plan for the next cycle.

Processing it all is so very, very tough, I agree. I think it's really important to cry. It's good for you. It's a physical acknowledgement that this is really sad and really hard and I think that helps your mind process it.

The waiting is shit too!

@countrypunk I'm so sorry, that's really hard that they haven't been supportive or involved in what you have been going through.

Yeah, waiting for my period to come as well won't have helped my emotions! I said to myself I wasn't going to spend the month miserable so I'm hoping the days get better, easier said than done isn't it.

I hope you have lots of support around you ❤️ how is your partner feeling? I'm sure taking very good care of you xx

@countrypunk that's good that the embryo is still beating away and growing 😊. I'm sorry they couldn't give a definitive answer tho and you still feel in limbo, another scan in a week's time sounds like a good approach to take? I'm rooting for you both! Fingers crossed 🤞xx

I had my Wk16 midwife appt on Monday and heard the heartbeat which was lovely and another good checkpoint for reassurance. I can feel faint fluttering sensations too so that's again a nice comfort and feeling. Went to the Baby Show in London Excel center today to get an idea of all the products. We hoped to come out with clear ideas but it's only left us more undecided lol. Hopefully many of you girls in this chat group will be following me soon xx

@Jx3303 glad you managed to speak to the doctor at least. It’s so hard when someone says don’t stress as stressing is the only thing I do during this whole ivf infertility journey! I have my fingers crossed for you all goes to plan from now on and you get to do a transfer at the end of your next round.

We are hoping to start putt next round at a similar time to you. My AF is technically due around 21st March but am guessing my cycle might be a little out.

@countrypunk how are you doing? Can’t believe the lack of support from the clinic. Hope you are looking after yourself as much you can.

@Cat89 so glad all is going to plan! Exciting times ahead!

@Jx3303 It's very hard to think of anything else when you're going through IVF isn't it. I'm looking forward to coming up for air at some point. I hope you can plan some nice things this month too to distract you a little bit.

Partner is being really wonderful. He's a bit more positive about it than I am. Friends have been lovely too. Xx

@Cat89 Thank you 💜

Oh wow, you're starting to feel the baby move! And hearing the heartbeat must have been so special. Xx

@LF82 Yeah I'm alright. Just trying to take things day by day. A little bit scared of how/when miscarriage might happen, honestly.

Hope your period arrives bang on time!

Hey all, little update from me, visited the clinic in Darlington today for scan to check pre transfer. It was not a great experience today! I went in for the scan and the doctor asked me so how are you getting on with the injections? I am a de recipient so no injections - then as she was scanning me asked the nurses to let her see my notes which she read as she scanned me, then she called for another doctor and he came in and she didn’t speak to him just showed him the screen, he was like ok so your supposed to be 7 weeks now right? WTF!!
no I am here for scan pre transfer!
anyway, they identified a small cyst like growth but said they are going to ignore it as it’s small and won’t impact transfer - I don’t know how comfortable I am with that after the terrible scan experience today 🤯
so they will thaw and fertilise the eggs Thursday with transfer planned for next Tue 😬
I have had soooo many scans and never had a cyst before so hoping it’s not anything to worry about…..

@Hopewishprayer oh no that sounded traumatic

I’ve had cyst before didn’t know until I had ultrasound it was quite big as well but it went on it’s own so hopefully yours do to xx

@Crystal88 thank you, that’s good to know. I’ve never had any cysts all 4 ivf rounds with OE and the one time I’m doing a transfer when it should be “easy” in comparison I get this 🙈 typical!

@LF82 hopefully AF comes on time for you and you can get going again! I know what it's like just wanting the time to hurry up! Are you doing same protocol for second cycle? We plan to - I think we were the same weren't we, 150ui bemfola? And we also got 3 frosties ❄️❄️❄️

@Cat89 aw that's great news, congrats. And how lovely you are feeling the baby 💗

@countrypunk how are you doing lovely? So glad to hear your partner and friends have been wonderful. I hope you had a nice weekend. Yeah having things planned is always good, we just can't really plan anything just now which I think makes it a bit harder. The not knowing if and when. I had quite a down weekend after promising myself I'd not be miserable all month, it's not that easy sadly!

@Hopewishprayer oh my goodness that sounds like a very disorganised clinic visit and I can't believe twice they got it wrong why you were there!! That's unbelievable! Super unprofessional of them!! Did you say anything to anyone following it? Sorry you had to go through that!! Not what you need at all!! Hopefully the cyst as they say is nothing to worry about, do share with them your concerns and perhaps they can talk to you and reassure you it's all good to go? All the very best for thawing on Thursday!! Xx

@Jx3303 yes same protocol as last time, I was on gonal f. Checked with the patient co- ordinator that the consultant didn’t want to do anything different and they said no. When’s your AF due? Am wondering if mine might be delayed due to the last round etc x

@LF82 I'm really not sure, I had a 35 day cycle last month which is very long for me but likely due to the high prolactin. Maybe 31st March. I'm not holding my breath for getting down next cycle either though to be honest. I've bloods again next Monday to see what the levels are like 3 weeks later. If they are still too high I might have to go on medication. Knowing my luck. Such a defeatist attitude I know, but just feeling so down about it all. Wishing the days away, for likely more waiting x

@Jx3303 I'm OK. Living from scan to scan, next one on Friday.

I'm sorry you're feeling down, we can all relate. Just take care of yourself and don't berate yourself too much for feeling the way you're feeling - it's fair enough, what you're having to go through is shit!

Xx

@countrypunk I'm glad you are doing ok 💗 I am sending all the love for Friday.

Thank you ☺️ and yes, I know everyone can relate, sadly. We have to deal with so much through this journey and it's just shit isn't it. I wish none of us were going through it. I'm having real difficulty being happy for friends right now, one has been on an amazing holiday, one is due her baby soon and moving house, one has booked her wedding. All such exciting things and I'm just struggling to see any sort of happy ending which is so sad x

@Jx3303 i have my fingers crossed for you that the bloods on Monday give you a good result. This whole journey is so hard. And I completely understand how it feels to watch friends be happy when you are struggling. I really found counselling has helped me so would recommend. I think if I am honest I have also pulled away from friendships a little where I was struggling - I decided to put myself first. Hoping for some good news to come your way very soon xx

@countrypunk hope you are ok as can be. Wishing you all the best for Friday x

@LF82 thanks so much, I had to get it off my chest as it's making me feel so guilty for feeling that way! I think the reality of it now being a whole year of IVF is hitting home (as well as the 2 years TTC before that), I know so many people go through IVF for such a long time, I just didn't picture it taking this long. And then having such a good outcome cycle 1, the last thing I expected was this for cycle 2! I actually have an amazing counsellor, I have a session with her next week - she's still my NHS one who I've been speaking to for a year and a half, it definitely helps. I have for sure pulled away from friends and a lot of things cos I just don't have the energy most of the time, it's just so exhausting and trying to act fine in front of people isn't always easy xx

@Jx3303 trying to act fine going through IVF is the hardest thing in the world! So pleased you have a good counsellor and feel free to rant away on here! It’s hard what to know what to expect isn’t it. I had no idea on my first round and now that I know the ‘process’ so to speak its hard for the next round as I know that things might go completely different this time round x

Thank you @LF82 x

@Jx3303 Complete and utter shit. I'm finding family baby stuff especially hard at the moment too x

@LF82 thank you 💗 sorry for my moaning, I'm so annoyed that I feel down in the dumps cos I really didn't want to feel this way! I know, I really hope and am sure that things will go well your next round 🥰 I think my cycle going so well compared to the previous two it lulled me into a false sense of security so it was a huge shock to then come home after scan 1 😞 has made me so wary of making any plans now for the next time. I really hope, whenever it is, it's my last egg collection as it will be attempt 5 and I'm not sure how much more I can take. A year of IVF and no transfer is tough, it's like we've not had a proper full go at it yet. They advised us to go ahead with the 2nd seeing as my AMH won't get any better and it's good to do it now than later but we also can't afford lots and lots of transfers.

@countrypunk im sorry, I can imagine that is so terribly difficult for you right now 😔 it's hard at the best of times but what you're going through, just adds to it I'm sure. I sometimes just find it so hard cos we can't really do much not knowing what's going on, we can't just go on a nice holiday either as we're saving as much as we can etc it's like there's nothing to look forward to. So I'm jealous of everyone with their holidays and wedding plans. We got engaged in September and can't even begin to think about any sort of wedding planning given this journey is so much unknown xx

Hi all, I too know how hard it can be to watch friends go on to have babies as we are still struggling. In the last year 16 of our friends have got pregnant, including my twin sister and sister in law. To add to the kicker most of them on the first month of trying.

yesterday was my twins first day of mat leave as she waits for baby to arrive. It was also the day I was told my lining isnt thick enough to do a transfer this month. I don’t really know how to handle it tbh except for a lot of crying. My husband is amazing but he definitely struggles with my tears. Feeling very alone 😞.

@Foreverhoping33 oh my goodness that's so many pregnancies, I really feel for you 😞 and the close family ones must be particularly hard, I'm sorry you're having to deal with that, on top of everything else.

I'm so sorry your lining isn't thick enough for a transfer this month, so disappointing. I know how it feels to wait and then have more waiting. I also understand the tears, my OH bless him is always wary now about saying the wrong thing. He (and I) never know what sort of mood I'm going to wake up in. Sending so much support, what have the clinic said are the next steps? Different protocol for next month to hopefully help thicken your lining? Xx