FET in September/October

[MyEasterEggs]

I’m preparing to start my treatment cycle in a month or so and thought it might be helpful to start up a thread for anyone heading for FET soon.

This will be my first FET so I’m nervous but also feeling hopeful having gone through a fair amount of testing and treatment. Think I’m about as prepared as I’ll ever be!

Current cycle finally got going two days ago after a bit of a delay and I’ve decided to use it to focus on eating well and getting into the right headspace.

Anyone at a similar stage and want some company?

@Bookbug92 you might remember I had a similar experience a couple of weeks ago. I was around 8.5 weeks. My symptoms just vanished and it was very stressful so I’m holding your hand from afar. Do go and get checked out if you can as I found that very reassuring. Some units will see you on this basis 💛

@Bookbug92 I had exactly the same this week too at around 8 weeks. Not had much sickness overall but last weekend was feeling quite nauseous all day. Then Tuesday it was like someone flicked a switch, didn't feel sick at all, boobs weren't sore at all, funny taste I've had since the start was gone. I tried not to worry and kept telling myself it was normal but of course you can't help but worry. Went for a private scan yesterday for reassurance and baby was fine and still measuring the 1 day behind it has been from the start. Symptoms still havn't come back apart from the funny taste so I'm glad I went for the scan or I'd still be worrying! Hope everything is fine with you too, you do hear about this happening alot around this time and everything is usually OK.

Thank you so much for your messages of reassurance @hopefullsosbry @MyEasterEggs and @Kelvie103 I have tried to calm down as it does seem quite common for symptoms to sometimes disappear so I will just keep hoping everything is okay. I did try to book a reassurance scan but everywhere near me is fully booked - strangely as I know I can't have a scan I feel more relaxed, as there is nothing I can do.

How you doing now @Bookbug92?

Hope you’re doing okay @Bookbug92 💛

How’s everyone else?

I’m heading down to London for intralipids tomorrow. Had hoped to have them closer to home but my clinic took two weeks to organise a letter then sent something so poorly written it was impossible to arrange. Added a lot of unnecessary stress to scan day on Friday!

Managed to sort out a plan B with another clinic I’d recently consulted about recurrent miscarriage treatment. And I already have an updated treatment plan and schedule in place so feel much calmer.

Baby was measuring bang on date again and did a little dance. Impossible to get a clear pic because of movements but that was such a good sign that I didn’t mind.

Think it was the moment this started to feel real. 12 week scan in two weeks’ time and already anxious about that but edging closer to trickiest milestone…

Hey @MyEasterEggs, sorry to hear the clinic are being sh**ty, but glad you’ve worked out a plan B, but it’s so disappointing you had to find an alternative!

Lovely to see your baby wriggling away though and measuring bang-on 💛

I have another check-in with the clinic on Friday when I’ll be 8+1 weeks, so we’ll see how they’re doing.

I planned to go back at 9 weeks, but I guess the clinic just wanted to double-check progress, not sure if they’ll release me next week or keep me longer. I know they’re deciding if I should continue my medication until week 12 or 14 though.

I am a little bit worried about the size of the babies, though the clinic were happy and said they were measuring bang on. Looking at the scans there was a difference though, one image said one was three days behind. Obviously I Googled, and apparently this is normal, but in extreme circumstances sizes can be vastly different. Not that I know what counts as a vast difference??!

The twin thing is crazy really, haven’t wrapped our heads around it. I have ‘meet & greets’ with a private midwife and two consultants next week, so hopefully these will put me at ease!!

Are you planning to have private care throughout @OrangeBengal?

Try not to worry about the size of the babies at this stage. When I had my 6 week scan little one was behind slightly. It’s hard to get an accurate measurement until at least 7 weeks. Even then, there can be slight differences, and I believe one twin is often a little smaller. The babies will be in different positions too!

It’s such a shame about the clinic. I feel so let down and quite sad because I’ve had some good experiences with them. But I’m having a healthy pregnancy, so far, so I’ll make peace with all the blunders and try and turn the negative energy into positive energy for baby 🥰

Thinking of you @Bookbug92 I also had this around 8-9 week but it came back with a vengeance! I hope you get the reassurance you need x

@OrangeBengal the size is so inaccurate, please try not to worry. And trying to measure two is even more difficult! I've read that ultrasound scan measurements are about 43% accurate!

@MyEasterEggs you've had such a rough time with your clinic. That's so frustrating. Thinking of you x

Thanks @MyEasterEggs and @chloedancer88, this helps.

My original plan pre knowing we had unexplained infertility was to give birth at a midwifery centre, and I was really into this, but then fibroids were found and I was told if I was ever pregnant I could only have an elective caesarean. Which has taken a lot for me to come to terms with.

When my fibroids were removed they did it via open surgery, so I have a circa 12cm scar already. It’s important to me that not only my babies safely delivered, but that I’m left in the same condition I’m in now and already having had a very similar surgery complicates thing. Hence trying to find a sh*t hot surgeon!

As we were already planning this and I’m still under the care often fertility clinic, it seemed like involving the NHS would just complicate things and be potentially anxiety inducing. Plus my local hospital is apparently pretty bad.

Well done for your Zen thinking @MyEasterEggs, I know how much energy being zen takes! How are things with you @chloedancer88?

I had some red bleeding last night, which freaked me out, used my clinic’s emergency number and they were quick to come back, which was great. They said more bleeding was somewhat expected as I have a small subchorionic haematoma under the gestational sacks, but of course I wanted to come in. No appointment at my clinic today and the EPU in Brighton have been rubbish. Fresh bleeding has stopped and there seems to be only brown spotting in my pad and when I wipe. Plus I threw up this morning, all of which I’m taking as a good sign. I’ll be seen my clinic tomorrow morning, just trying to not go crazy before then!

Oh @OrangeBengal I’m sorry your EPU have been unhelpful but glad the clinic can see you. I’m on another thread where a couple of women have had subchorionic hematomas. One had a pretty large one which has been healing and she’s now in second trimester. I believe the smaller ones can resolve themselves over a couple of weeks but ask them if it’s decreased since last scan.

Thanks @MyEasterEggs, I will make sure I ask that, will be interesting to see if they decide the clexane was helping or hindering too. Have been off it for less than a week, so perhaps it’s too early to say. Will report back tomorrow.

Will be thinking of you 💛

@OrangeBengal will be thinking of you. I’m sure it will be fine. So annoying that the EPU haven’t been great. Mine couldn’t have been nicer last weekend when I had the same. Made all the difference to call me down.
however if the bleeding has stopped now then hopefully it’s nothing to worry about.

this isn’t a nice easy road is it?? I’m permanently thinking the worst

Thanks @LT103, my nurse at the clinic said it’s a good sign that it’s stopped now, so that’s reassuring. It just seems like there’s going to be something every couple of weeks which will be exhausting!

I told my boss today too, which was weird as I haven’t even told my mum yet, but I figured if I’m already going to be in out work I’ll have to say something. She was wonderful about the whole thing, so that made me feel better too.

We lost one of the babies.

Oh @OrangeBengal I am so, so sorry. This is such sad news. I know you might need a little quiet time to process it all but we’re here if you need us. Sending so much love 💛

Oh @OrangeBengal I'm so sorry. Please look after yourself and vent as much or as little as you need on here ❤️

@OrangeBengal so sorry to hear this. I hope you can get the time you need to process. Thinking of you x

Oh I’m so sorry to hear this @OrangeBengal. Take time and grieve and look after yourself. Make sure you have lots of rest too. We’re here if you need us ❤️

@OrangeBengal so sorry to hear that x

Thank you for your thoughts and words @MyEasterEggs, @chloedancer88, @Kelvie103, @LT103 and @SL42smbc. What I am finding especially hard is that there were no specific symptoms that suggested this was happening / had happened. My consultant didn’t even want to scan me in case there was more risk in doing that. All the bleeding is due to the subchorionic haematoma, and that’s just going to continue bleeding all colours of the rainbow until who knows when. Makes me anxious about the remaining baby and it’s harder then ever now to think positively. It took so long for me to absorb the body positive messages of my visualisation - trusting my body and myself feels like an absolute joke right now. I also keep thinking does the baby know its twin is dead, did it know it was alive, did it feel the loss? It’s very early so probably not, but my mind is going everywhere now. Plus there is the fact that if we do make it with the remaining baby, its twin will be there in every image and at the birth, knowing that I’m carrying both death and life is a lot. I also don’t know if this adds any additional risk, though I plan to discuss this with my potential consultants. Thank you for the chance to download.

@OrangeBengal I can only imagine the range of emotions you must be experiencing right now. But I can appreciate what it’s like to put so much trust in your body, only for it to then let you down.

My sister lost a twin during pregnancy. I think she was around 24 weeks. And I know that was particularly hard at scans but she found ways of coping. At such a small gestation I think it will become harder to see the smaller of the twins but you know the baby is there and that can be enough to make it difficult to process.

Did they say anything about the size of the hematoma and was the other baby okay?

Thank you for sharing your sister’s story @MyEasterEggs, was the remaining baby born healthy? I think (I hope) you’re right re visibility on our scans as we lost them so early.

Haematoma-wise they could tell me very little not, if it had grown or when / if it would go. Just advised me to do very little, actually said avoid stairs which is impossible as I live in a house that has stairs up to it and everywhere in Brighton is hilly.

I did some reading myself and people who have had miscarriages and uterine surgery are more prone to them, so I fall into the second category. I meet with private consultants from tomorrow, so I’m hoping they offer more practical assistance.

I’m also worried about not being on the clexane anymore and if this contributed to the baby dying. There was no red blood whilst on the clexane.