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IVF/FET Jan/Feb/March No2 2022

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Dobcaty · 28/01/2022 22:39

As our current thread is filling up soon here is our No2
Baby dust to everyone. Please tag others if I missed 😘

@Frenchiepupmama
@Cayandsimit
@Janefx40
@GodspeedJune
@thislittlebird
@Coops0406
@PcosSOS
@Aimz40
@Bluehawaii29
@lucymills1234
@Justwannabemam
@womaninkent
@Jennie154
@Sydney1986x
@Bluebonnet3
@Gigi89x
@NaomiNatNat
@heywhatswrongwitu
@Mochii

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LuckyNovember · 10/02/2022 16:34

@Eggbert83 welcome! One good blast is worth 20 dud eggs, well done!

I was pretty tired the day of EC, but not for too long... this probably has to do with me taking it VERY easy for about the next 10 days though!! I only really picked up this week, even rode my bike for the first time again today at 8dp5dt!!

LuckyNovember · 10/02/2022 16:38

@Dbop100 @TTCinmy40s i got confused about who asked the original Covid question 🤦🏻‍♀️

womaninkent · 10/02/2022 16:40

@LuckyNovember is your OTD tomorrow? If so really good luck. Got my fingers crossed for you.

TTCinmy40s · 10/02/2022 18:02

Thanks @LuckyNovember

xreadytoglow · 10/02/2022 18:15

Hi all 🙂
I’m new here and also an IVF newbie… I’m currently on day 6 of stims and just really wanted people to talk to that’re going through the same journey. My wife is obviously incredibly supportive but is probably tired of me harping on about it all day and Googling if things are normal, lol.

I have my first scan on Saturday morning to check how I’m responding to the stims. Fingers crossed that it is working 🤞🏼

Looking forward to chatting to you all & sending lots of positive thoughts to everyone on their journeys x

LuckyNovember · 10/02/2022 18:35

Thanks @womaninkent
I almost don't want to test, quite like things as they are now believing the best!!
Will keep you posted 😬😬😬

LuckyNovember · 10/02/2022 18:37

Welcome @xreadytoglow you've come to the right place 😊

Good luck with the next few days, it's pretty intense! I'm a first timer too, and if I get nothing else out of this cycle, at least I know what's going on now (more or less 😉) and will feel much more prepared on the next round!

xreadytoglow · 10/02/2022 18:45

@LuckyNovember thank you! I lurking through some of the pages and thought I definitely have to join. Best of luck for your first cycle too! 🤍 where are you up to with it all?

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Dobcaty · 10/02/2022 19:38

I've been quiet in the last few days I am sorry, I hope everyone else feel better, I had an emotional breakdown on the weekend, finally started to feeling better then DH's first son announced that we are going to be grandparents! I'm not even a mother yet! DH knows this for over a week now, but didn't know how he should break the news. I’m feeling completely lost and I just want to be in a dark place, please someone close me in and lose the key.
They arranged a facetime tomorrow and obviously I am so happy for them but I can't hide my feelings...

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Eggbert83 · 10/02/2022 20:22

@xreadytoglow Hello and best of luck on Sat. Its such a trying time, we know! At the end of my first week of stims I felt such relief at the weekend that for a few days I wouldn't have to muster up interest in anything that wasn't my body or ivf! It did really help me though to have my partner waiting downstairs for me so we could go for brunch after and do something nice. It's early days so even if you aren't bursting with eggs yet (and you may well be!) it's still all to play for!

@Dobcaty Not sure of your situation but that sounds super tough. You can absolutely break yourself trying to deny how you feel so let yourself process this big news and feel every and any way at all. There have been days through this I've found it hard to listen to 2 min voice notes about nothing at all, let alone process someone else's happy event. Its a lot and the news needs time to settle. Be kind to you.

womaninkent · 10/02/2022 20:35

@Dobcaty that sounds so tough. I'm so sorry you're in that situation. Do whatever you need to do to take care of yourself-fake a migraine when they FaceTime or whatever.

Eggbert83 · 10/02/2022 21:00

@TTCinmy40s, thank you. Your message actually reminded me I've probably lost my appetite the last few days so I filled up on protein bars and just had the most restorative nap. Yay!!

@LuckyNovember Thank you! We are so happy with our little one that made it though. It seemed so unlikely so we feel so grateful. Think that's why I've been so exhausted the last few days, the adrenaline leaving my system from all the stressing. Hats off to anyone who goes straight from that into fresh transfer and the 2ww, takes enormous personal resources and I can see from today's messages it can be very hard going so love to you all x

Autumn245 · 10/02/2022 21:12

@dobcaty I know exactly how you feel. My step daughter announced recently she's expecting baby number 2 and hubby's nephew also announced their 2nd baby on the way. Its a hard one to swallow and be happy for them. I try to put on a brave face and try not let it get to me but some days I just break down and wonder why we are having to go through this process when it seems everyone around us can get pregnant so easily. Ivf doesn't start until April for us, the waiting is also killing me. We just have to hope and pray our time will come 🤞❤

xreadytoglow · 10/02/2022 21:14

@Eggbert83 thank you! I will be on to update you all. Yes we will definitely have to have a little date day after to spend a little time invested in each other and to process. Your brunch sounded lovely.

@Dobcaty sending strength and hugs to you. That doesn’t sound easy at all.

Mochii · 10/02/2022 22:26

@Dobcaty if you don’t make the FaceTime tomorrow you will have plenty of times to make up for it in the future, no one will think anything bad of it as they will be too wrapped up in their own situation. Take care of yourself first and if you don’t feel up to it then it’s fine not to join

Justawannabemam · 11/02/2022 00:40

@Dobcaty I can't imagine how you feel like you say you want to ve happy for people but for me there's always a little bit of jealousy. I don't know how to hide it either which makes me worse. I go into panic mode and get all nervous.

Do they know you are trying and going through this? Take care I hope youf OK xx

Cayandsimit · 11/02/2022 07:41

@Dobcaty It must be really though. I think you don't have to attend the FaceTime call. Maybe DH can tell them that you are outside to meet a friend etc. When you feel more comfortable, maybe write them a congratulations text... Please take care of yourself 💐

kennetrose · 11/02/2022 07:47

I am on day 6 of stims. Almost every day this week I’ve been awake so early even though I haven’t slept particularly early. I guess it’s hormones? Did anyone else have this side effect? I thought progesterone was the one that caused insomnia, not oestrogen, but I’m not complaining…I’m not usually a morning person.

What complex feelings you must have @Dobcaty. I find it bad enough when friends announce, can only imagine how tough it is when it’s your step son. Put yourself first, there is plenty of time to be happy for them when you have the energy, and feeling your feelings takes nothing away from them.

Mountaingoat31 · 11/02/2022 07:51

No result here yet this morning - poas test failed. Hopefully some better results soon from the rest of today’s group…

womaninkent · 11/02/2022 07:53

@Mountaingoat31 so sorry to hear this.

Mountaingoat31 · 11/02/2022 08:01

@womaninkent I’m still holding out some faint hope. The control window didn’t change. I thought I was well-practiced at doing these tests, maybe that’s why this batch was half price in the supermarket haha. how are you feeling?

womaninkent · 11/02/2022 08:02

@Mountaingoat31 that sounds strange-what brand is it? Definitely sounds like you need to do another. Got my fingers crossed for you.

Mountaingoat31 · 11/02/2022 08:20

Thanks, it’s a clear blue, but different to ones I’ve had before - colour changing tip and super fast result within one minute supposedly… they told me not to get a digital one which didn’t leave any choice. Will try again later…

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Dobcaty · 11/02/2022 08:25

Good morning girls!
Thank you for your all replies, feeling much better and optimistic than last night, as finally I had my big cry, I think I just needed to let go the failed cycle and having no time bc of work, had no opportunity the break. So thats done. DH was so amazing and supporting last night, usually he can’t deal with emotions and the fact that he was struggling to tell me, made me realise he struggles too. I know we are together in IVF, but I felt during the IVF, that he was taking easy, happens what happen, obviously my judgment was not right. He booked a few nights away for us for next week, having some pamper days he said wouldn’t hurt, as I’m already booked for holiday next week.

I will take the call today, as I am happy for them and don’t want to ruin their happiness as this little bean will be the first grandchild for him. They don’t know that we are struggling or trying and if I cry during the call I’m just gonna say because I am so happy for them.

I believe we have a couple of girls who are having EC today! Good luck @thislittlebird @NaomiNatNat @Dizzyhedgehog, let us know after! (I hope I didn't miss anyone)
How are you @LuckyNovember and @Mountaingoat31 let us know how your EDT goes 🤞
Welcome on board @Coops0406, wonderful news!

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TTCinmy40s · 11/02/2022 10:47

@Mountaingoat31 good luck for your try again later.
@kennetrose my sleeping has been terrible since I started stims, I'm awake for a few hours in the middle of every night. I had a few nights respite between EC and ET but back to watching TV for a few hours in the middle of every night now as I'm just wide awake after about 4 hours!