IVF/FET Jan/Feb 2022

[Juno231]

I know I'm a bit early but knowing that I get to start in January I think I'll go mad just twiddling my thumbs until then.

With Christmas clinic closures I think there's a fair few of us around waiting for Jan to start, so hopefully we can gather here for support in the mean time?

About me - 33 years old (although I turn 34 in Jan!), TTC#1 for two years with unexplained infertility. Am due to start my first ever round of IVF in January (NHS). I've been told I'll do short protocol and in terms of next steps I've got a trial embryo transfer in two weeks' time, and both OH and I have to get blood tests done in Dec. I can order my meds from the pharmacy in Dec as well so got that to look forward to ha.

I'm currently predicted to start my cycle on the 31st of Dec which would mean having to wait a whole cycle due to the new year bank holiday getting in the way. My cycle can vary by a few days though so I'm really hoping CD1 actually comes a day or two later!

@Dobcaty so sorry to hear this, was this 2 from a fresh cycle or frozen? Did they tell you what their gradings were? I’m planning on having two put back too but not sure if we are doing the right thing or not still

@heywhatswrongwitu
Hiya, im sorry to hear about your baby loss, It's hard going through treatment whist still grieving. I have also been having lots of counselling and it definitely helps, although I have found going to scans triggering especially when it's not fantastic news. I hope this cycle of ivf goes well for you and brings you everything you want/need.xx

@Dobcaty I'm sorry to hear about your negative results, it's hard isn't it not to feel like a failure, I always feel like I must've done something wrong in a past life, but try to stay strong. Xx

@Frenchiepupmama
Good luck with egg collection today, I hope they get lots of eggs. Try to stay relaxed xx

@Dobcaty @Aimz40 I totally feel the same about feeling like a failure when it doesn’t work. Was having a breakdown last night thinking about starting the cycle next month and fear of failing was what I identified the root of my anxiety. I have started counselling and had my first session yesterday morning. I hope it helps me cope better this time as the failed cycle in December is still pretty fresh for me

@Dobcaty sorry to hear this-how long to your OTD? On the cycle that worked I was convinced I had one of my signs of AF arriving so you never know. On the other hand on the cycle that didn't work I didn't feel at all that AF was on the way.
@heywhatswrongwitu so sorry to hear about your loss. I'm glad you're getting the support you need.
@Frenchiepupmama good luck with egg collection. I didn't find it painful at all, not even any discomfort after so try not to worry.

@Bluehawaii29 @womeninkent @Aimz40 thank you.
They were 3 days old and graded Bs, one of them w 8 cells the other one w 9 cells, but fragmentation were about 25%. We had 11 eggs, 10 mature, 6 made to day3, 2 put back, the rest of the 4 didn’t make day5. So chances were already low, but you know the hope… I’ve already saw some blood this morning after shower, so I believe this is end of this chapter. I’m going to call the clinic for their advise as my OTD is on the 31st Jan.

@Dobcaty aww try not to lose hope for next time. I also bled before OtD on my first cycle so didn’t really get chance to test it out. I’m hoping they can adjust your meds for next cycle to increase your chances of them getting to a day 5 transfer. Hang in there, I know it’s easier said than done though xx

So I talked with the clinic, they still want me to take the Crinone, call them tomorrow about the spotting situation and go in for blood test on Monday. In reality I know its failed, so I've asked when we can start again, they said its a possibility for beginning of March.

@Hopeful199thank you

I'll see how it goes tomorrow . I'm nearly 3 hours away from clinic so to nip over is a long trip. Still there a bit this morning. But not as much .

@Dobcaty sorry to hear about your negative. It could be a bit early for testing . Hopefully if you test on 31st that will change x try not to feel down what we ate doing is amazing. Our bodies are not meant to go through this . X

I just had the dreaded call from the embryologist, neither eggs survived the icsi process, he said the eggs looked fine snd there was nothing wrong with thrm, they just didn't like being injected. I'm actually quite annoyed, I didn't want to do icsi, we had done ivf the first round and had a better fertilisation rate. We got 10 eggs with ivf and all of them fertilised, 6 abnormally but at least they did. Then with the second round using icsi we got 11 eggs and only 2 fertilised. I didn't want to do it again, I wanted to do ivf, people pursaded me to go against my instincts.

@Aimz40 oh no that’s so annoying that they didn’t let you decide. If you had good rates of fertilisation with ivf I don’t understand why they would have done ICSI this time? We had MFI so an actual reason for doing ICSI with our 8 egg, 7 fertilised all with ICSI and I don’t think the same would have happened ivf alone but I would always prefer for it to naturally happen rather than ICSI. They should have at least done 50:50. So what did they say is going to happen now then? x

They did icsi the second time because the 6 from the first fertilised abnormally, they said that it could've been too many sperm getting into the egg causing it. Then after the second round having even worse fertilisation rates they decided it was an egg problem, I said that I had read that if eggs aren't great quality that icsi can damage them, the embryologist said that she would still do it just to stop too many sperm getting in, I was not convinced, but everyone, even my counsellor told me to trust her "she's the scientist"

The embryologist is arranging for a consultant to call me. We will get just under 1000 pounds back, but we can't afford to do it again. I'm too old to save up 😭

@dobcaty I know how you feel. I’ve been testing every day and getting a negative. My blood test isn’t until next Saturday which will be 22 days past EC. I have a 34 day cycle so am not due AF until the 6th. Not sure if that’s why my otd is so far away. If I was going to get a positive I think it would have happened by now. Try and keep smiling, enjoy the sex and fingers crossed for March xx

@Aimz40 that is shit news. Take care of yourself today. X

@Aimz40 that is awful that no one listened to you. Common sense dictates that if they think it is an egg issue why risk it with ICSI. Is there any way the other two that are fertilised will be ok or do you just have to wait now?

@Dobcaty So sorry to hear that, I've also had it confirmed on a FRER this morning and the heartache is very real. It's very hard not to feel like a failure and I've been crying to DH about feeling so broken inside but the reality is it's just rotten luck and there's nothing anyone can do so no point blaming ourselves. I haven't called my clinic yet as I think I'll just get a lecture about testing early so will wait till Monday but know in my heart it's over for us too this round. As soon as my period is over me and DH are booking a weekend away, to get absolute drunk and shag not for baby making purposes. Due to work commitments realistically we can't have another go until June so I'm going to try and focus on us and our relationship until then. xx

@pcossos I’m really sorry, but lets see what Monday brings! If not good news, enjoy the weekend away, and get drunk sex over on the place 😘
obviously I didn’t mention the testing, just the spotting but I told them I know these signs for me af is approaching.

@jennie154 You still have more then a week to go, I have everything crossed for you 🤞🤞🤞

@Aimz40 I’m so sorry for your news today. Which clinic are you with? I was reading a lot in the last 6 months and BPAS set up a new clinic in London and their prices are much cheaper as they believe price tags shouldn’t stop couples to become a family. We had a think about them back in October/November, the reason why we stayed w our clinic as its much closer than London and they are charity based too, so no extra cost on treatments changes and with all of the travel/parking cost came up with the same amount.

You know girls the worst in this situation that I’m going to ruin my DH happiness when I tell him. He firmly believes that his new job is a good sign for starting the family together.

Just home from EC. Omg I must of peed a million times waiting to get taken in😂. That sedation was AMAZING!!!!!! Litarly awake one min, sleeping n back in recovery room ten mins later!!! All that worry for nothing🙈

They managed to get 7 eggs 🥚. Suppose got my age (38). That's OK I hope. Hubbys sample was great.

So get a call tomorrow to let me know if they have fertilised, then another call Monday, and hopefully one will make it and it gets new home Tuesday 🤞🤞🤞.

Hope all u ladies are doing OK 💜

Thanks for all your support and advice.

@Dobcaty Thanks, we are definitely going to cut loose for a bit - I already feel like my body hasn't been totally mine from years of TTC and we still have nothing to show for it. I missed that you had started spotting. If yours was a 3 day embryo could it still be implantation bleeding? This whole journey is killer isn't it? I think the hope is sometimes the worst part.

Congrats @Frenchiepupmama on the eggs and the sample - hope you get lots of lovely high graded embryos!

@Dobcaty really sorry to hear about ur result.I've just caught up reading the thread.

@Dobcaty Still over a week till otd but I think it is prolonging things as most clinics test much earlier. Tomorrow will be 2weeks past EC so should have a result by now.

@Aimz40 that is horrible news, I'm so sorry. Take care of yourself.
@Jennie154 @Dobcaty @PcosSOS I've still got my fingers crossed for OTD for all three of you. You never know for sure until then.
@Frenchiepupmama glad it went well. You've got this.

@Hopeful199 you were right. She said nothing to worry about just yet. Overleap will kick in . They'll scan me Monday as planned and if necessary they would do EC and possibly freeze. Which I would be unsure about as the quality last time wasn't the best. She mentioned the lining. So should that be thickening up now or is that after after collection when I start progesterone?

@Jennie154 @Dobcaty @PcosSOS I'm so sorry about the negative tests. IVF is a shitter sometimes. I'll still hope for miracles for you all xxx

I think I'm having a chemical which is bloody annoying because last time I had a chemical it took me 60 days to get my next period. Which means more delays. We've been doing treatment for 18 months solid now and it's killing us. Ugh

@Aimz40 I'm sorry about your news too.

Today is a crap day for IVF!

Hi everyone,

I did my 1st Buserelin this morning, it hurt more than i was expecting and i felt light headed for a short time after. Not looking forward to doing this again. Does it get easier?