FET November/ December

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Hi,

I'm not sure if there is already a thread open for a FET in November / December.

I was due to have a FET last week however after having two lining scans, I tested positive for coronavirus 🙄. I should now be having a FET after my next bleed (mid November) and hopefully a FET early December. Would be great to chat you others on a similar timeline. X

Hi Ladies!
Sorry, I've been quiet since my negative Nov cycle.
I'm so sorry for those who have had negatives, those who had positives and then cruelly snatched away and happy for those who have positive results and have stayed pregnant.

Are there any ladies starting another FET? Or have started this month?
I'm due to have a lining check on Monday and then book in transfer if all is good with the lining.

I'm getting very anxious and nervous again and just been really down its not going round work again.

Just thought I'd pop in and say hi to all.

Happy New Year and I hope this is our year!

Hi @Twinmummy15 happy new year to you too
No more FET here until mid-late February very soonest- have my 2nd egg collection on Saturday, a freeze all so if get anything will try transfer next cycle next month!

@Twinmummy15 I have really struggled too, I should be starting meds on cd2, which I predict maybe around Sunday next week, transfer is booked for 2nd March all being well. Seems to much to go through again all for nothing. I'm the same as you, really struggling to be positive in everyday life, let alone IVF life! Hope you find your sparkle again soon x

Thanks ladies! Good luck for potentional egg collection on Saturday @tulipsandsnow And also for starting your cycle @ExhaustedPigeon1988

I am booked in for my transfer on Monday!
This time they're saying I should start lubion on day of transfer and cyclogest I am starting tomorrow.
I asked why and they said possibly the other 2 transfers I may have had "too" much progesterone and therefore missed the window of implantation.

I don't know, I am feeling a bit annoyed about this as I feel we may have wasted 2 embryos! On the other hand I am happy for the change and hopefully this is our time!

Hope everyone else is well.
Xx

@Twinmummy15 really interesting about the progesterone, I guess I assumed the higher the better the day before the transfer, but I guess its about how soon it rises rather than the level you get up to?

My egg collection happened a few days ago on Saturday, got day 3 results and have plenty of 'good' (tho none excellent) cleavage embryos, so now just waiting for Thursday/Friday for day 5/6 results :)

@Twinmummy15 it sounds horrible but I feel they just experiment with us til it works! I guess in some ways that's all they can do as everyone is different, but it's hard to accept isn't it. Hopefully this change will make a difference, and this will be your cycle :)

So I've had some changes, I was booked for 2/3/22, but with the horrible doctor. So I've asked to be changed (they had previously told me I couldn't have the transfer any sooner). I have sent a few emails with my concerns regarding previous cycles, the mix up of drugs, not being told to increase drugs for twins, the horrible doctor telling me I was ending up in hospital etc.... now suddenly they are being transfer forward to 24/2/22, and have arranged for me to go with the doctor I want.... I'm pleased they have listened, but it feels like an admission of guilt that my twins could have survived too! Bitter sweet as always!

Hi Ladies
@tulipsandsnow @ExhaustedPigeon1988

Yea definitely interesting re the progesterone.
When my first FET failed I did a Google on the possible reasons why and I I read about too high progesterone levels meaning you actually miss the window of implantion as the endometrium starts shutting down and becomes unreceptive to an embryo! So I'm had wondered if this was the cause. Can't be sure, but I was planning on bringing it up with the consultant but before I did they already said they'd get me to start the lunion later than I had done in both my other transfers.

You're right, we do kind of just get experimented on but also as you said everyone is different and they can't have one particular way of doing things for every person.

Great news on your egg collection Tulipsandsnow. And hopefully you will have a lovely large number of blasts! Keeping everything crossed for you.

Exhaustedpigeon, I'm sorry about your twins. I feel like I missed this? Perhaps I had signed out then. What happened if you don't mind talking about it.

X

@Twinmummy15 hey, so 29th November had a double transfer, positive 4th December, started bleeding 14th December. I emailed the clinic who told me they would scan me at my 8 week scan as planned!!! No help or advise FCK all! So I called early pregnancy unit, they done a scan and told me (15th December) both embryos looked good and there was no reason for bleeding. 2 days later a second blood test confirmed HCG wasn't doubling but was still increasing. After speaking with the clinic they told me increasing progesterone could help stabilise the bleeding.... 21st December I got 3rd blood results, the clinic hadn't given me the advise in time and I had lost BOTH babies :( I will NEVER forgive them, and they obviously will never admit they are SHIT! I also still have one frozen with them and am signed up through access fertility for another egg collection and all frozen transfers with the same crappy clinic... I feel trapped, I have to continue with them. Like many of you, I will never conceive naturally, so to get to our goal we HAVE to continue, but I resent that I am now going through it all over again. I have mega anger issues and mistrust in them all, I haven't actually had to visit since, and I'm dreading walking through the door and seeing the B*TCH that told me to wait until my next scan as I may kill her!!! I apologise for the bold writing, doing it off my phone and have no idea how I managed it lol x

@ExhaustedPigeon1988
Wow! I'm so sad to read this, it must have been so heartbreaking and I can understand your anger towards the clinic. So dissapointing! Take care of yourself and take the time to grieve. I can't imagine what it would feel like to lose 2 babies especially after what we have to go through to get to that stage in the first place. Xx

Thank you @Twinmummy15 I'm heartbroken, and to be honest I don't think that will ever change. Just pushing forward and pretending life is normal lol x

Hey everyone, hope you are doing well.... how are you all getting on? Hope all the positives are going well, and those who unfortunately got negatives are able to find a way forward one way or another. Would love to hear updates, love to all x

Hi @ExhaustedPigeon1988 how are you? Have you started medication yet for your next transfer? I think about you regularly and always check to see if you've updated on here xx

Hello @Infertilitywarrior you must be a mind reader, I start buserelin again tonight :-/ just not feeling very interested in this round tbh, I'm very resentful we are in this position again. How are you getting on? X

Hi Ladies
Sorry for the silence.
I'm 5dp5dt and tested this morning and BFN. I know it's early but it just feels the exact same as all my other failed rounds.

@ExhaustedPigeon1988 like you I'm feeling a bit resentful we in this position again. I can't help feel its failed again. I'm pretty much 100% certain.
Just don't get why my good quality embryos just fail to implant.
The clinic just keep saying it's the embryo. They barely do any tests. I'm so feeling 😞 today.

@Twinmummy15 awww I’m so sorry to hear this. Is this your third round? 5dpt is still very early though don’t lose hope just yet. I will pray for you I really hope you get the news you deserve ❤️

@ExhaustedPigeon1988 I hope your doing ok. Hope this round is going well for you and your managing ok through the grief of your loss xxxxxxx

Hey @lauradxoxo good to hear from you, I'm a week into buserelin, transfer 24th feb. Delightful side effects have started, and I'm struggling to accept it's happening again. I'm already dreading the results! How are you doing? Any closer to starting a new cycle? X

@lauradxoxo thanks hun! I'm trying to stay positive, but those stories where you test one day and its BFN and then the next day its miraculously BFP just don't seem to happen to me.

This is my 3rd transfer. Have 2 frosties left. Started with 1 fresh and then 2 FETs. I feel like I'm just working my way through and all this will be for nothing. I haven't tested again as I'm now too scared.

How are you doing anyway?

@ExhaustedPigeon1988 glad you've started and hope this is your cycle. Fingers crossed for you.

Baby dust to us all xx

Hey @Twinmummy15 a lot of people don't get a BFP til day 8 or 9, so plenty of time yet, I do feel your pain though, I think you are at the hardest but now.... this is my third time too. I can see it's making me more and more angry and frustrated on each round. The first time I was naively convinced it would work, as I only know 2 people that have done IVF, and it worked for both of them first time. I was heartbroken when it didn't work. 2nd I was alot calmer, but as it was a double transfer I was hopeful but cautious. After losing the twins I'm just bloody terrified this round, I can't get my head in it, and I'm too scared to be even remotely excited or hopeful :( this is the hardest thing I have ever done! The physical part is the easy but isn't it! X

@ExhaustedPigeon1988 I know what you mean. After going through a few rounds and having failures and losses it’s just so hard to feel positive or find a remote but of excitement. I really hope this is a successful cycle for you you really deserve it. Will you be transferring one or two this time?

I’m able to call when my period comes at the end of the month but doubt down reg means transfer won’t be until April. I’m like yourself though already kinda dreading it and not even started. Just really worried how il cope If it fails again 😭

@Twinmummy15 how you doing have you tested again? Been thinking about you really praying you get your BFP 🙏 xxxxx

@ExhaustedPigeon1988 thank you I'm also hoping it was just too early. But I just don't feel any different to the ones that failed. Same old same old. It's really getting me down.

@lauradxoxo today I am 8dp5dt. I am too scared to test. My husband doesn't want me to test either as he wants to keep the hope. I just know it's keeping hope for no reason. I want to know but then again I don't want it all to be over! My god this is such a mind f*.

I'm just so annoyed we are back here again. I thought maybe new year and new luck maybe... obvs not!

How are you both doing? X

@Twinmummy15 I'm so sorry if it hasn't worked, and that you're feeling low. I am still just so hurt and angry, I feel so broken with no way back. We just have to keep pushing forward and hoping for our miracle. For me, I'm such a control freak I find it hard to accept my life isn't going to be how I expected it. Even if we do get our miracle I always wanted a big family, it's something I guess will never happen now as I'm already 34, so with years of trying between each it's just not realistic. We just have to be proud of what we have endured, and hope we heal x

@lauradxoxo I only have 1 left, which isn't the best grade either. I'm frustrated that I went with access fertility as you have to use all frozen before starting a new cycle. I would have saved this one and started again, would much prefer double transfers all the way. So just a single for me this time. Really hope you can push forward with your transfer... you need to speak to the clinic and ask for a day 2 start rather than a day 21, it's not much but it saves you 3 weeks... was worth the argument to me x

@ExhaustedPigeon1988 @lauradxoxo
I an 9dp5dt and I just took another Internet cheapie test. Do you see what I see? I am still in shock.

@Twinmummy15 OMG congratulations 🥳

@ExhaustedPigeon1988 thank you so much. I'm so happy, but so scared. It's so early days. I'm just praying this is sticking with us.
I popped out to get better tests and it's definitely positive! My beta is on Friday so I'm cautiously optimistic till then. Can't believe it.
How are you doing? I'm hoping it's your time too and I'll be praying for you also. 🙏