FET November/ December

[Prayingforabubba]

Hi,

I'm not sure if there is already a thread open for a FET in November / December.

I was due to have a FET last week however after having two lining scans, I tested positive for coronavirus 🙄. I should now be having a FET after my next bleed (mid November) and hopefully a FET early December. Would be great to chat you others on a similar timeline. X

@tulipsandsnow I’m so sorry, this is such a cruel process.

@coffee1988 I had similar scans to you, 5 something than just over 6 4 days later so they bumped me up to 5 tablets, and 4 days later I was over 10, so hopefully meds increase will do the trick. I also drink beetroot juice as it’s supposed to help and I upped my protein a bit but not a lot.

Has anyone else had really severe cramping from cyclogest? I’ve always had a bit of period type pain with them, but this time it’s off the charts and waking me up and making me really nauseous - been on them 3 days now so hoping it subsides…

This has given me hope thank you @Faerun I’ve fallen down a black hole of despair wondering if it will ever be thick enough to get to the transfer stage. I guess Friday will tell all 🤞

@FET2021 sorry you're still testing negative! It may change. How are you feeling otherwise? I'm still not having any symptoms 😒 which is what's making me think it's failed. It seems very similar to the failed cycle.
I did have sore boobs smarter starting the progesterone which disappeared at 5dp5dt. This happened in the failed cycle too. Now just finding it so hard to be positive. My hubby is like we will get good news for.thr blood test. I'm like how is he being so positive. Living in a bubble for a few more days atleast.
We have guest coming over the weekend and I'm finding it hard to plan for it or even be excited as I just know I'm going to feel like s*.

@ShareLove how are you doing? Have you re tested?

@tulipsandsnow
How are you hun? Hope you're getting the support you need.

@CharlieBalf welcome to the group lovely!

@ExhaustedPigeon1988 so glad your transfer went well. Fantastic news and great they thawed beautifully. Good luck with your 2WW.

@Bb30 How are you? Have you had any signs or symptoms? Fingers crossed you get to your OTD. I started bleeding on my fresh cycle (1st one) on 5dp5dt and I thought I was out. It actually ended up being implantation bleeding. So if you do bleed before sometimes it is a good sign.

Hope everyone else is well and sorry if I have missed anyone x

@Twinmummy15
Hey yes I have tested but still negative , I am on day 6 past trasfer , my official test day is in 8 days . I count myself out already . Not even a hint of a line . I’m not hopeful as I only got given 25% chance anyways so far less than all of you with your beautifully thawed embryos .mine barely survived thaw . So I’m not suprised if it doesn’t work . I’m sure I should be seeing a faint like by now and it’s so annoying I have to take medicine for the next 8 days yet it’s like what’s the point . I already know it hasn’t worked . I don’t have any symptoms but I never did to begin with really , even progesterone oil injection doesn’t give me any symptoms I do have like dull pain in my uterus area for the last few days but it’s probably progesterone and it’s not that bad really , Just like full ache . It’s probably my period wanting to start desperately but I’m delaying it with progesterone haha I haven’t had my period for like 8 weeks now since I started my FET protocol 😂

@ExhaustedPigeon1988 wow congratulation pigeon 😍 sooooo happy for your trasfer ! Very lucky to have beautifully thawed embryo ! Well done ! Now the horrible tww 🥳😣

@Twinmummy15
Have you tested yet ? Xx

@Twinmummy15 how many dpt are you xx

@ShareLove I know what you mean. It's such a reminder of how it probs hasn't worked every time we have to have the meds. I just feel sad when I take the medication and think what's the point.

I am 8dp5dt and I am not planning on testing at all. Just waiting for the blood test day to come!

@Twinmummy15 i feel like the entire process is me in different bubbles 😂 Just one big bubble of anxiety and anticipation. 5 dptbis quite early to tell anything- and its great you have support. Can you get out of the weekend plans? Are they the understanding kind of friends or not? X

@twinmummy15 I'm feeling very positive the last few days but I'm probably just being silly. I'm not sure if I'm imagining these symptoms but I had a weird scratching feeling in my womb the day after transfer and since yesterday I feel like there's something going on in there. It's not quite cramps or a heavy feeling like you'd have before a period, it's more like extremely mild tingling. It's weird! I feel like I may be imagining it though cause I need to concentrate to feel it and it's not there all the time. So weird! I've been tired too but that's normal for me 😄 my boobs were really sore up until yesterday but now they're not too bad so that could be a bad sign. 😔 so confusing! I'm still too scared to test.. I don't even look down when I'm using the toilet or changing clothes for fear of seeing blood 😔 I think I'm definitely going crazy!
Your husband seems like a great support. It's good he's trying to keep the positivity because you really don't know until test day! Fingers crossed. Lots of people get positives without symptoms. It's a new cycle so a new chance for you! Pity about the visitors at the weekend. Could you put them off? I've told so many people I have covid symptoms just as an excuse to keep them away. So bad but it's easier than explaining the fertility treatment stuff!

@FET2021 I’m so sorry to read you’ve had another BFN. How are you feeling otherwise? As others have said, it’s still early, hang on in there and keep testing.

@tulipsandsnow this whole process is so painful and cruel. We’re all here for you, sending lots hugs 💕

For everyone in the 2ww hope your managing to keep sane and distract yourself with something nice.

@lauradxoxo& @CharlieBalf I’m with you guys too- hoping to get a transfer in before Xmas 🤞🏻 Sounds like you’ve had a really rough time with it @CharlieBalf hopefully this one will be your one 💕 Do either of you have an idea of your likely / aiming for transfer date yet? I’ve been told I need AF to arrive by Friday for me to get a transfer before the Xmas closure at my clinic, quietly willing it on 😂

@Bb30 your symptoms sound really promising! How many days past transfer are you? Keeping everything crossed for you!!

@Agapanthus13 I had my lining scan yesterday and all good to go so just waiting to hear from the lab what day next week my transfer will be!

@FET2021 @ShareLove have you tested again today?

@tulipsandsnow how are you doing today lovely? Xxxxx

@CharlieBalf they don't actually know we're going through FET. We decided not to tell anyone. It's been hard but in a way not having to answer everyone's questions has been a blessing. I think it will just be either a really depressing day or the best day ever and I'll totally be looking forward to it if I get a positive.

I'm not really feeling hopeful though. Just think I've run out of luck and used it all up in my first fresh cycle which I am so grateful for.
How are you doing?

@Bb30 I'm the same. I'm so scared to test. Hubby is really supportive but I've asked him to stop asking me how I am everyday. I know he wants to keep the hope alive till official test day, but I can't give him that positive outlook.

I had moderate cramping yesterday evening and during the night. I was 8dp5dt yesterday when the cramping started. Today I'm 9days past and it would be exactly 2 weeks from "ovulation" would have been and I usually get my period dead on 2 weeks after ovulation.

So I am feeling a bit down thinking it's AF cramping trying to push its way through, but the progesterone and cyclogest is stopping the bleed.

That's a good excuse to use Covid. May have to do that lol.

@Twinmummy15
Hey hope you keeping well xxx
My test is negative as it can be . I knew it . I didn’t have hopes for this FET to work from the beginning after poor results on my embryos , to be honest iv taken it better than I thought , I’m really not bothered any more . I feel like I want to give up trying now and abandon the ivf idea altogether once this cycle is over . It’s too much for my mental health and always hoping and hoping and all coming crashing down at the end . I feel like I’m very strong person . I have had 5 pregnancy losses at 6 weeks all natural and I feel like I’m immune to the pain . I feel numb . So this cycle of FET not working is nothing compared to my losses previously . I can’t be bothered to test anymore as it was negative today at 7 days past trasfer . So I know I am done with this cycle and just can’t wait to get my period and my body back to normal without all these medicines messing up my body and mind 😖😞 I feel like enough is enough .

@Twinmummy15
My mental health has taken a lot of blows .
I feel under pressure to have a child as I’m Neally 30 and everyone else has had a family already and they keep asking me when I’m having kids without knowing iv already had 5 losses in couple of years .
I just don’t know where to turn for help .
My ivf doctor says that my losses are probably because of bad egg quality but it’s very hard to belive that all 5 were bad egg quality !!
I don’t know what else to do . Iv had recurrent loss testing done all basic stuff and all seems ok !!

@ShareLove oh no don't say that. You can't give up! I know how mentally draining it is and I can't imagine going through that many pregnancy losses, but like you said you are a strong person and you will get through it. It will work for you and your time will come. Can you not also keep trying naturally as well?

We just know it won't work for us naturally and never experienced a positive test when we tried naturally for years. But if you're getting pregnant naturally maybe that 1 special one is there just waiting. How old are you? You don't have to say if you don't want to.

I know exactly what you mean though, when you know you're out you just want your period to start.

I wish I had the courage to test so I could stop the meds for the next few days. I feels like such a kick in the tummy taking the meds when you really think it's for no reason.

I hope you don't give up hun! I'll be thinking of you. X

@ShareLove you answered my question regarding age! You're still so young to have bad egg quality.
Do you take Coenzyme Q10 tablets?
I was told to take them and the difference between my two fresh cycles were so different.
First fresh resulted on zero embryos to freeze. Second I had 1 transferred fresh snd 4 frozen.
This enzyme is supposed to help with egg quality.

@Twinmummy15
I am 29 xx

@Twinmummy15
I just don’t understand how it can be bad egg quality , I had my 4 losses between age 19-24 and last loss was at age 28 so I was in my early twenties when I lost all 4 . You would not think someone that age has bad egg quality , unless they just trying to fob me off so i do my free nhs ivf cycle so they can get rid of me and my problems .

@Twinmummy15 I did take q10 with my egg collection and had 5 to freeze xx don’t know if it helped or if I would have got same result not taking it as it was my first round x

@Twinmummy15 I feel like nhs recurrent pregnancy loss testing is just basic ! All was fine there . I feel like I need further testing like natural killer cells autoimmune problem , and some steroids ect as in my heart I feel like my body is attacking my pregnancy’s as foreign bodies . If it was bad egg quality then why am I getting to week 6 and losing all at the same time ? I though if you have bad egg quality then it would not even implant ? But nhs don’t do further testing other than just basic .! I just don’t know where to do it or where to turn for help , I feel helpless and in so dark place at the moment .

@Twinmummy15 sorry for these long essays . I feel so down. I know my recurrent misscarrige is so irrelevant to this group chat ,

@lauradxoxo I'm 7dp5dt today. Longest week ever!!! Best of luck with your transfer next week xxx

@Twinmummy15 sorry to hear you're feeling down. It is horrible taking the meds when there is no guarantee that you're pregnant. Just a few more days to go xxx

@ShareLove so sorry to hear about all your losses. I can't even imagine the pain of going through that! You're so touch to keep trying this long! I'm only 2 ivf cycles in and this is only my 2nd transfer but I'm stopping for a few months if it doesn't work this time. I feel like life is on hold when you're having difficulty starting a family. You're either prepping for ivf, going through ivf, prepping for transfer, in limbo after transfer or grieving. It's so draining 😭 maybe a bit of a break would do you good? It's very hard though when everyone around you has moved ahead with their families. It feels like a race and you're stuck at the starting line 😕

@Bb30 thank you for your message
Yes it feels like a race and I’m stuck at starting line .
It’s feels like trying to breath under the water but you can’t and you don’t know why.
And the last thing I want is taking a break as I’m getting older and the pressure is getting bigger as I’m 30 in may next year and all the asking when I’m going to have a grandchild ect starts again , I was hoping to be pregnant before I’m 30 . I want to start again ASAP . xxx

@ShareLove have you told anyone about your fertility issues. I had the same nonsense of people asking inappropriate questions when I got married. My husbands aunt even announced I was pregnant to the entire family at a Christmas party a few years ago just because I wasn't drinking! It was horrible. We told his parents then and the word was spread around... I didn't want everyone to know but it has helped in a way. People don't ask us about babies anymore so we don't need to make excuses. The pitying looks people give us now is annoying and we are a bit left out but I find that easier.

I wouldn't panic too much about your age! I'm 31 and on my first round of ivf the doctor said my egg quality was terrible. I didn't believe it and demanded a change in stims meds for my 2nd round and then my egg quality was fantastic! Sometimes they seem to use egg quality as an excuse cause there is no real test for it. You're safe enough age wise if your amh is good and you're under 35.

I don't really know anything about miscarriage but could you book a consultation with a private clinic abroad as they might give you an idea of tests to do. I've heard some do free consultations!