IVF/FET October/November 21

[2021babyhope]

I think I'm a bit early on some of the other threads so starting one for October/November 😊

1st fresh cycle in august ended in CP.

Booked for follow up consultation 30th September so hopefully I'll be able to transfer late October early November 🤞🏼

5 frozen blasts. Hoping to transfer 2 this time round but I'm not sure they'll let me 😬

@strawberrysummer19 thank you for checking in :) Hope all's good with you?

I had EC yesterday and they got 12 eggs. Fortunately I didn't have to wait too long this morning for the first update - all 12 are mature and 10 have fertilised, which I am really pleased (and surprised!) about as it's the highest fertilisation rate I've had out of 3 cycles! The other two aren't completely out of the running, they are showing early signs of fertilisation so are a bit 50/50 for now. So far, so good, but I know how steep the drop off can be from here out.

Although it wasn't my highest number of eggs collected I feel a bit more sore than after previous ECs and have had more bleeding. But nothing extreme.

@Justawannabemam after my chemical I had a bleed about 4 days after stopping progesterone (as I continued it past OTD) which I took as cycle day 1, then used ovulation sticks from day 9 just to see what was going on - I ovulated at about the same time as normal for me. But, I didn't have the earlier bleed that you did.

@ExhaustedPigeon1988 I am totally with you, I always want to know all the info which may not always be sensible but I feel more empowered if I know what's going on, personally.

@paintfairy @MrsC2018 and others I am sure I've missed - hope you are all doing ok post EC!

@lucymills1234 10 is amazing! What were your past numbers? Fingers crossed for them developing well.

I'm OK. Still really bloated. I can't hold wee so god knows how a transfer would happen. 🤣 I have had trigger shots for iui before though and they made me feel like this. So I'm not sure how much of it is that, and how much the EC process?

@lucymills1234 that's fantastic! Well done
That's a fab number

@paintfairy I have the exact same worry re my bladder! But I keep thinking I hope we even have one to transfer but still the thought of that full bladder makes me worry.

Feel less sore than yesterday and im back to work tomorrow but hopefully another day of paracetamol, drinking and hot water bottle then I'll be ok xx

@strawberrysummer19 I don't feel sore, just bloated. Yuck.

Really interesting stuff discussed on this morning just now about infertility. There's also a phone in.

@lucymills1234 wow thats really good . I bet your delighted. Fingers crossed they all develop lovely for you.

@lucymills1234 Yay ! Very good starting point I would say ! Ill keep everything crossed for you ! :)

@lucymills1234 amazing! Fingers crossed they're developing beautifully right now! 🤞

Fab news @lucymills1234 🥳

@Justawannabemam ❤️

Hey guys, sorry I've been off this thread, have been struggling to cope. My update's below my response to folks' news, but it's not great *but not terrible either.

@lucymills1234 12 is fantastic, and ten fertilised. I bet they're multiplying their cells beautifully and really fighting to be strong and amazing, it must be wonderful to think of them and send them good vibes and manifesting and stuff (I know all that stuff might sound like bollocks, but I believe there is something in it, maybe??) Kind of like @paintfairy picturing them in a dish, I love that kind of visualisation, and how magical this science is, if painful - full of pain and magic.

I hope yours are doing OK too @strawberrysummer19 - is your transfer this coming Sunday, seventh? I keep on thinking about the advice you gave about DNA fragmentation. I hope it's worked really well for you, it's hard for me to convince my dp to lead a healthier lifestyle, as he just sites his friend who's nineteen stone and a smoker and got his wife knocked up once on purpose and once by mistake - like, 'I'm healthier than him, so there's no problem.'

Also good luck to your embabies @MrsC2018
@Justawannabemam it sounds super shitty, I'm sorry. No wonder you're feeling low. It will be so unfair if you're declined due to age, especially after the bloody pandemic pushed everything back by eighteen months. Our unit automatically does counselling, which is good.

@ExhaustedPigeon1988 I'm obsessive too, I have to actively stop myself engaging in mad obsessive thinking (if this happens it means X, kind of thing)

I think I will be super late November, if at all (update is below) so test day will be the same if it happens.

My news is that despite injecting the Buserelin for eighteen days, my body hasn't responded. I have an Ovarian cyst (new, not there at last scan) which is making lots of hormones. They've doubled the Buserelin to 1mg and I'm going back for another scan on Wednesday, If the cyst is still there they will drain in on the Friday (12th) and then begin on stims, and see how I respond, with a new goal of getting eggs on 24th November, and if we have an embryo I guess transfer on 29th.

It's a delay, definitely, but I'm trying not to let it knock me too much. It's hard though as I had it all planned out in my head.

@theotherfossilsister I know its so frustrating that others who don't even try to be healthy can get pregnant so quickly! But he really needs to be on board with the lifestyle diet - can you talk to him? I hope it's made a different but we were under the impression that we will do all we can and then we know that we've tried

Sorry to hear you are going through it
Keep strong - light at the end of the tunnel still
Rooting for you

Xx

@theotherfossilsister yeah my DH is the same! His SA results are just OK (they fluctuate) but I have pointed out that this doesn't show everything. The weeks leading up to EC he really pissed me off and couldn't even do as he was told then, never mind before. He's not unhealthy so he views it as all fine.

I've had my provisional transfer time. 10.40am Saturday.

@paintfairy that's so exciting! Not long now
How are you feeling? I was feeling better - less sore but now feel so bloated - feels like lots of trapped gas so I've been quite uncomfortable the last couple of hours xx

@strawberrysummer19 I'm the same. I also get some pains if I laugh or sneeze. I wish it would go away!

What do you wear for transfer by the way? Do you just take your trousers off, like when you go for a scan? Or is it like EC where you wear a gown?

About to start Burserelin tonight 🥴 but wondered if anyone knew...

I'm on 500iu to begin with - is that the 50 mark on the syringe? It's a 1ml syringe I have for each injection. Thank you!

@paintfairy for mine they said to keep my top on and they gave me a gown to wear over it, with a fetching hairnet.

@2021babyhope hey yeah that's the same as me, so 50 on a 1ml, hope you stay well x

@2021babyhope I think its always the same. So yeah 50. Which should be half the syringe.
@Holskey thanks. I'll look forward to the hairnet! 🤣

@paintfairy @ExhaustedPigeon1988 thank you both 🥰

How're you getting on?

Keeping my fingers crossed I don't get bad side effects!

@paintfairy for me I was just taken in the room and took my bottom halves off x

[quote strawberrysummer19]@paintfairy for me I was just taken in the room and took my bottom halves off x[/quote]
It's so strange how different they all are. I had to put plastic covers on my feet too, but not until I was stood on the sticky mat right outside the transfer room. It had more of an egg collection vibe than a scan vibe. Very sterile. I just remembered that when I arrived, a nurse watched me wash my hands too 😂

@Holskey yes interesting each clinic is so different. Oh yes I forgot about the overshoes
Pretty sure I didn't get them on transfer last time only collection

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@Holskey @strawberrysummer19 it is strange how different they all are. I guess i will find out soon enough!

I had my transfer this afternoon - I was given some lovely disposable slippers to wear 

My fifth transfer and absolutely the worst one: when i arrived the nurse quizzed me on when I'd last been to the toilet, decided I'd drunk too much too early, and ordered me to empty my bladder and start again. Then of course when it came to the transfer the doctor couldn't get in as my bladder wasn't full enough  He really did try, and I'm very sore as a result, but in the end I was ordered to down a litre of water. I did actually cry. I blame all the extra hormones.

But the embryo is in there now - and they gave me a photo of it!

I'd completely forgotten that with impeccable timing PIL are staying this weekend, so were there when I got home. I'd also forgotten to put away my meds - no doubt I'll be quizzed by MIL tomorrow on what I need oestrogen patches for. God give me strength as I can't even have gin now 😂

@theotherfossilsister the one thing I've learned about IVF is that you can't control it, or really plan it. DH is a natural planner and gets really frustrated by this: i just try and see where it takes me. Probably no help, but I know what you mean about plans!

@Justawannabemam you are coping so well with it all. It's just one stress after another isn't it. I really hope you manage to sort funding. It's madness that depending on where you live decides your entitlement too! After our failed cycle I was just so desperate to crack straight on with the next, and it did sort of help, but tbh now I'm there I'm really not so sure I am ready for the heartache if it all goes wrong again, maybe I would have been better taking some recovery time, who knows lol, does it ever get easier?

@paintfairy it's safer to be negative isn't it, but sometimes you just want to be excited, I just get too scared to be excited. Last attempt was our first ever cycle, and everyone I know whos been through it has been successful on first try, so I was convinced it was going to work, so when it didn't it was a real smack in the face, do this time I just can't get excited at all, which I think is why I feel so depressed. It just feels hopeless, which is crazy as it's only second try, when so many people are positive yet been through much worse- I'm just a moaning Minnie 😂

@lucymills1234 your numbers sound really positive, I got 14, 13 fertilised, and 4 made it to blasts, 1 transferred and failed, am now attempting double FET, so I really do think you're in for a good shot :)

@theotherfossilsister I'm so sorry you haven't had the best news, I am the worst for over thinking and researching, I literally drive myself crazy and can't stop until I find an answer even if it's not great news, then I worry over some stupid shit I have found! It's like my brain wants something to worry over tbh! If all goes to plan for you our transfer will be the same day :) again I know I Rd now what you were hoping for, but atleast there is treatment, and they are happy to proceed with the cycle... you will get there, chin up :)

@2021babyhope what is your protocol? Are you fresh or FET? I have had lots of mild side effects, then seem to be getting stronger as I go. Headaches, mild sickness and mega upset tummy, but they all come and go. Hopefully you will sail through without any problems :) had a teary day today, everything has upset me, other half is amazing, but I still wants to scream, cry and shout- without him having to our up with me lol.

@paintfairy @strawberrysummer19 @Holskey my transfer was done in the EC theatre, so it felt really intense with scrubs and plastic booties. I was told to keep my top half on and was gowned, is it just me or does everyone feel really self conscious in these situations?

Sending love and positive vibes to everyone, night ladies x

@ExhaustedPigeon1988 I know what you mean. I know some people who it's worried first time for and they seem to think that's the norm. But my friend was so positive and sure it would, and it didn't. And she was gutted. I did sit there thinking are you deluded this will just work? Because I knew if it didn't, the reality would be awful. And it was. So I just don't know what to think!
@ginandtonicformeplease congratulations! Fingers crossed for a sticky embryo. Not so good about the process. My instructions are drink so you have a full bladder but not too full. 🤷‍♀️ What the hell is that?! I feel bloated and awful, and like I'm permanently needing a wee right now, so I have even less of a clue than usual. 🤦‍♀️
So yeah, I can see it going well for me too. 🤪