Anyone doing IVF at 40+ pt 2

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Setting up a new thread as the old one was nearly at the limit.

@Anxiousbuthopeful
@Islandstars
@Woodcottage1
@Unicorn9
@SerenditySunshine

I could have ovulated later (something I never check as I never get pregnant), but I do tend to be regular 28 days cycle. I am hopeful it is 6 days younger the embryo. My ivf clinic booked me in Thursday which should have been 7 weeks from last period, and I’m hoping the embryo grows the relevant amount to suggest viability if it is younger by that time. The lady who did my scan I know very well, she did my cyprus checks. I just feel she was negative and trying not to give me hope. The measurement for the baby is 1.9mm, if it’s 5mm on Thursday I might have hope. I’ll see what the ivf clinic says on Thursday and if there’s growth. Thank you x

Hello, we’re now 3.5mm so we’ve had growth, I have a scan in 10 days to check if we have a heart beat 🙏

Oh good @Woodcottage1 - Fingers crossed for you. Keep us posted!

@Woodcottage1 the waiting is th e worst part but just keep thinking positive. Have everything crossed for you

@Woodcottage1 hope everything goes to plan for you

On a separate note the season is upon us and I really am not feeling it this year due to unfortunate events earlier this year . I'm finding it really hard to hold it together some days and preparing for a new cycle to start in January how do we do this with all the Christmas magic, alcohol and fun around xx

@Pinklady81 sorry you're finding things difficult. I guess all there is to do is do whatever helps you the most - or upsets you the least. If that means skipping "fun" things and looking after yourself then do it without feeling guilty x

Dear @Pinklady81, I’ve been following this thread for some years now (pt 1 and 2); going through similar and remember 2020 Christmas was incredibly difficult. During that December I made it an opportunity to find a second opinion and met a Dr that really lifted me up and gave us hope. His advice for supplements and new protocol gave us something to look forward to in preparation for the new year.

During that Christmas and new year time, I prepared as best as I could (ate well and got lots of cosy sleep). I took supplements and bought a white light for daytime (face) and a red/near infrared body light to use at night. I also got blue light blocking glasses to help me sleep.

Wishing you a positive next few weeks and best of luck for the new year and new cycle.

Hi @Pinklady81 . I understand. Had two miscarriages last year and found the whole thing harrowing. Moving to DE soon and have made peace with it, I think.

Thank you @Pinklady81
i personally would have a bit of moderate fun. I’ve done the healthy eating and no drinking, and the only times I’ve had better results is though supplementation and potentially acupuncture, and then surprisingly this oxygen treatment. I have so many friends struggling with it as well, eating perfectly, not drinking and every month entering the hell of no success. But as @LouScot has said, do what makes you feel better. x

@Pinklady81 ive been watching this thread and my heart aches to read it. I have been in your shoes… the only time it worked for me is when I said I give up now.
After 6 miscarriages and then 3 failed Ivf transfers of euploid embryos I fell pregnant the month after the last fail and now have a little boy. It didn’t work because of anything I did I don’t think. It just worked because of sheer luck. I stopped eating perfectly, stressing, stopped trying everything under the sun. I just gave up on the dream. I couldn’t carry on anymore tbh it was nothing brave. Maybe just enjoy this month, this Christmas, just one month to breathe and love your body for what it is… maybe your miracle is just around the corner too… I sure hope so.

Not looking good, couldn’t properly measure and only measure was not much different than the week before. I’m taking the positive that it was a pleasure being pregnant, that I can fall naturally pregnant. I’m having another scan next week and then will stop medication. Perhaps 2023 will be the year 🙏

@Woodcottage1 I was literally just thinking about you. Sorry to hear this update but absolutely love the positives you're taking from it xx

Hi all, I'm having a bit of a downer this week. My IVF cycle in the summer was cancelled due to lack of response and since then I've turned 44.

I can't get my head around donor eggs at all, and I'm single so no chance of a natural conception. My family think I need to accept things and try to move on. I'm going to try another cycle in January but to be honest I'm staring down a lonely, childless future. I have days when I can cope and days when it all seems bleak, this week has definitely been a bleak one.

wishing you all peace this Christmas xx

@LouScot sorry you are feeling down it’s a difficult time of year. I’m struggling with feelings of anger and frustration. If it helps I think of donor eggs as adoption without the hassle of the adoption process but that’s just my view on it. Though when we looked at option of donor sperm I have to say I struggled with it much more than my OH.

Hope it’s ok to post I turn 40 in a few months so started following this thread. Doing IVF with OH. Hoping to do some transfers early next year.

@LouScot Hiya… I wondered if you knew of a site called Fertility From the Soul?
fertilityfromthesoul.com

Im not sure if you are interested in the more holistic side of falling pregnant but it certainly helped my mental state. The lady who runs the site fell pregnant in her 40s, twice. I also know of a lady who fell pregnant with donor egg and sperm in her 50s so it’s not out of the question with donor egg and sperm but maybe don’t let anyone push you in that direction?

Feel free to tell me to sod off if you don’t want the input from someone who eventually did manage to get it to work. I know it can seem incredibly frustrating when it’s not working for yourself and then someone tries to help but they aren’t.

I also did hypnotherapy btw! It was actually really relaxing!

im sorry it’s so hard. I really do understand to some degree that it’s just so unfair…

Thanks @InvisibleDreamer and @Unicorn9 . I'll certainly look into Fertility from the Soul. I feel my current mental state must be likely to reduce chances, so I'm open to that.

Re donor eggs, I guess I wanted to carry on my families genetics. For me personally, I'm questioning if it would be fair to being a child up alone being 45-46 at birth - especially when I'd need to use both donor eggs and sperm. I look my age, and live in an area where most people are parents early 30s. Funnily enough I can get my head round donor sperm easier, it's the loss of my own genetic material that bothers me (more accurately, the loss of my families, not mine. My siblings are also childless).

I've booked counselling through my clinic but not likely to get appointment until I'm already on stims, but at least if it comes to the worst and cycle is cancelled I'll have appointment to talk things over. I need to think positively though!

Sorry, my post above seems very pessimistic. I'm going to really try to embrace positivity over the next few weeks and months xx

Hi @LouScot. On the run up to your cycle please come and stay in Cheshire with me for a few days (if you’re able to work from home) and we’ll do an intense round of oxygen treatments, I have already paid for them and two people can use the treatments at the same time. Regarding donor eggs, I have three friends who have used donor eggs, and to great success. The similarities between mum and kids is incredible, and regarding being older mums, we’re going to be incredible mums. We’ve lived our lives and will focus on our deeply desired child/children. This pain we face with our battle to be parents, makes us more appreciative when we get there.
@Unicorn9 ill have a look at your suggestion x

Hi @Woodcottage1 that's so kind of you. I'll see how things go. I just don't think donor eggs are for me unfortunately, so really hoping against hope that things work out with my own. Hope you're bearing up xx

@LouScot just been reading the downloads from Fertility from the soul, looks great. I’m going to get on her recommendations :) xx

Oops, just realised we might need a new thread soon. Does anyone want to start one, I don't know if we should tag people who haven't been active for a while as I'm guessing they're taking time out? xx

I’m not great but I’m just going to focus on the positive x

Hi. I am still lurking. Have moved on to DE. Also a rocky road, to be honest. We just got 7 embryos (2 good 2 medium 2 poor and one awful) but have just been told that partner may share a genetic mutation with donor which would mean we have to start from scratch…

Hello, may I join you 😊? I am 43 on second round of IVF. I feel a bit lonely since I don't want to share with my family and friends how difficult this is for me. I have a daughter 12 and it took me a lot of years to overcome anxiety and depression to be able to try for a second one. Our first one was conceived without trying and I felt that it was probably going to be easy. So here we are 2and half years one miscarriage one failed IVF and on my second round, testing tomorrow however I have been spotting since yesterday. I had 12 and 14 eggs respectively 60%fertilized every time 2 average blastocysts day 5. Not sure what is going on, normal thickness endometrium. I can't help it but feeling something is being consistently missed. All the time the answer I get is my age and the quality which I agree but can't help having this gut feeling that something is being consistently missed. Sorry for the long post 😞. Hope everyone is doing well. At some point we shall get to our rainbow 🌈 whatever that means for each one ❤️

Hi @iloveteddies. I think my infertility is down to my age, my endo, previously due to a polyp in the way. I thought it was an autoimmune issue too. I’ve never been able to fall pregnant. However 7 weeks ago that changed. I am currently pregnant, but unfortunately my little bean is not growing, and consequently it looks like it’s unviable. I’ll have it confirmed next week, but I’m dealing with what is going to be the inevitable.
Other than completely clean eating, I’ve done absolutely everything you’re told to do, no alcohol, no plastics, no nail polish, supplements, acupuncture, etc.
The difference on the run up to this miracle pregnancy is I’ve been doing the equivalent of cold water swimming and I did hyperbaric oxygen treatment. I was still doing my supplements and occasional acupuncture.
Consequently when I face the inevitable of what’s coming, afterwards I’m going to try to be moderate with alcohol, try and remove sugar and processed food, do my supplements, no plastics, no nail polish, careful on my creams and makeup but most importantly I’m going to continue with the treatments which are removing inflammation, which will be cold water or equivalent and hyperbaric oxygen treatment.