Anyone doing IVF at 40+ pt 2

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Setting up a new thread as the old one was nearly at the limit.

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Thank you @LouScot @99pctpractice
This was our second round of IVF this time with IMSI. Last one with ICSI as we have MFI. This cycle we had a positive test and I continued to test positive up to 7 week scan. At this scan they were concerned that baby was only measuring week 6 and that my yolk sac was very large. Size delay beyond a couple of days is not good sign with IVF and large yolk means chromosomal abnormalities. The clinic asked that I go for a follow up scan with early pregnancy unit at our local hospital as baby still had heartbeat. Today would have been 8 weeks, sadly no heartbeat and baby got smaller. In a way I had prepared myself as the evidence was compelling and I had lost all pregnancy symptoms. We are beyond devastated and wonder if there is any hope for the future. I had 29 eggs collected over two cycles but only 1 made it to a 5 day blastocyst. I am 42 to make things worse. Absolutely broken.

Oh @Lulu106, I'm so sorry to hear this happened to you. What a shit road this is. I'm a similar boat after many collections and no success and will be 42 in Oct, but I can't begin to imagine the heartbreak of getting a heartbeat... and then not 💔
Please mind yourself x

I am so sorry @Lulu106 . My heart goes out to you.

I am so sorry @Lulu106
What a horrible time you’ve had of it all. Please don’t let age hold you back. I was 43 when I fell pregnant successfully and it did work in the end so please don’t give up…
bug hugs.

Thank you @Unicorn9 @Anxiousbuthopeful @Nessylink it's been one of the worst experiences of my life and I'm not sure where this leaves us on the fertility journey. I know everyone on this thread understands the pain and anguish but it's so hard to be hopeful right now. I never imagined life without a child of my own which is what is making this grieving process harder. 🌈

@Lulu106 I think its really a positive that you were able to sustain a pregnancy for 7 weeks though and you fell pregnant with Ivf. I tried it three times with supposedly normal embryos and not a single one worked so maybe your journey isn’t finished maybe it’s just beginning and you had an embryo that wasn’t viable but the next one could be? I really hope the next one works for you. It’s so hard to be living through it… my heart aches for you.

@Lulu106 I am so sorry you are going through this. We do understand your heartbreak but wish we could help in some way.

it is such a brutal and unfair journey.

I really hope you can find the strength to try again ❤️

@Lulu106 @birdbybird I am so sorry for you both I have gone through exactly the same this week and waiting surgery next week as have no symptoms so going as a missed miscarriage it really is such a cruel journey sometimes 😢

Oh @Pinklady81 I am so truly sorry. It's such a cruel world. Please DM if you would like to. I'm happy to exchange contact numbers if you want to talk to someone this week. It feels incredibly lonely.
It looks very much like ours was due to chromosomal abnormalities which means completely out of our control. Sending love 💗

Mine was natural conception between ivf cycles so a miracle on some way but we saw heartbeat everything at 6 weeks then at 8 weeks nothing . I had an ectopic a couple of years ago and that broke me , this time I'm determined not to go down the slippery slope of that again so I'm just taking each day at a time but don't really feel that this is happening to me ! Im more than happy to exchange numbers I go into hospital Wednesday have you had any management of yours yet? X

@Lulu106 I'm so sorry that's absolutely heartbreaking. Sending lots of hugs - I am also really afraid that we won't be successful and won't bring a baby home after a miscarriage in March. It's hard to stay positive after going through such a devastating experience - hope you can take some time to feel sad and grieve your baby.

@Pinklady81 exactly the same for us. At 7 heart beat but stopped growing at 6 weeks. 8 week scan showed heartbeat had stopped. They've given us options but were advising to go with the tablet as my first official miscarriage. I need to call them back tomorrow with our decision. I'm trying to find a clinic that help us todo a biopsy of embryo but not having much luck.
I will private message you later and send contact details. I'm sorry this is the second experience for you. Xx

I'm going away on holiday shortly and so I don't want to have to deal with this while I'm away. I've opted for surgery as feel medical isn't for me but I had to kick up a right fuss to get to this point I would have been nearly 10 weeks and still have symptoms . Now got to decide what to do with the foetus afterwards which didn't cross my mind at all....😢

Oh @Pinklady81 I am so so sorry to read this 😔 That is devastating. There are no words but sending love and hugs. Sorry you are having to deal with this. It is just so cruel.

@Hopeful199 it is but trying to look for a positive somewhere ..... I don't know if I'm dealing with this how I should but I'm just trying to keep busy and do what's right for me and get through the hospital part x

Oh @Pinklady81 I'm so sorry. Hope going on holiday allows you to take some breathing space. It's so so hard to have to deal with. Sending big hugs.

So sorry to hear this @Pinklady81 @birdbybird @Lulu106 x

@Pinklady81 I have messaged you via the private message function. Speak soon xx

@Lulu106 I've replied xx

How is everyone getting on? I start my stims this weekend. I made the mistake of looking at stats again which are rubbish of course at my age (almost 44) but I'm trying to think "oh well you never know"..

Hi @LouScot!

how is the stims going? How are you feeling? Hope all is looking and going well.

I have just started my meds for my next FET. This is the last emby in this batch and so far 2 BFN….. so really hoping this is the one!! 🤞🏻

@Pinklady81 I hope you are OK

how is everyone else getting on? x

@Hopeful199 thanks for asking. Not great to be honest - I had my cycle cancelled last Friday due to poor response. I was very emotional and upset but I'm slightly more at peace with it now - well at times anyway. Got a follow up at start of October, but I genuinely don't think they'll suggest doing much different, I think they're just putting it down to age (and maybe that I'm overweight). I do want to try again though.

Oh, lots of luck for this FET. Hopefully this will be the one xx

@Hopeful199, Best of luck with your FET! It's so exciting to be at that stage.

I had a pre-cycle baseline scan last week and all looks good to go, now I'm just waiting on my period to start with stims again. It's my 6th stim cycle - last of 3 banking cycles, and probably last overall. My husband and I have thrown everything at it this time. Once we have this egg collection, all our embryos will be pgta tested, and hopefully we will have something to transfer later this year 🤞

@LouScot, ah crap, sorry to hear. Are they suggesting to switch medication or protocols now?

@Nessylink I don't think they're considering alternative protocols, no. I was on their "advanced maternal age" protocol, and I don't think they do much else, but hopefully there will be something. I'm kind of stuck as there are hardly any clinics in Scotland. I'll see what they say next month.

Best of luck with your next cycle.

@LouScot sorry to hear. Hopefully things will be different at your next cycle.

I had follow up consultation with our clinic following the miscarriage. After two IVF cycles, 29 eggs, 2 transfers and 1 miscarriage their solution is to go with donor eggs. This is because out of 29 eggs we only made 1 blastocyst therefore this means my eggs are not good enough. The end 😭