Anyone doing IVF at 40+ pt 2

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Setting up a new thread as the old one was nearly at the limit.

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Hello, I had a positive test but am measuring 6 days behind with no heartbeat at a scan when I went at 6weeks 5days. Feeling very deflated at the moment. I have another scan that I need to go to in 10 days.
does anyone know how quickly one can get a d&c after a Mmc is diagnosed? My last miscarriage I had spotting this time I’ve had no spotting. So I suppose the first step would be to stop the pessaries.

Hello all, hope you are coping alright with the heat.
It's been 5 months since I posted last, but wanted to report on my mixed success over the spring/summer.

We did finally settle on a clinic in Madrid, went with IVF Spain Madrid. They put me on Metformin we and had a brilliant first cycle there in April (after 3 unsuccessful cycles in Ireland), and at age 41.5 was able to bank 5 x day5 blasts. (My husband was on clomid and had varicocele embolized in Feb and this time we did different stim meds that might have worked better). In 3 cycles before we had only managed 7 blasts total.

Unfortunately, then our luck ran out. Was on day 3 of stims for 2nd cycle in June when I tested positive for Covid for the first time , and so had to postpone cycle as I couldn't travel to Spain. Managed to keep hubby safe by me isolating in a bedroom for 10 days - that was not fun.
So, on day 3 of stims in July now, but this time hubby tested Covid positive yesterday and he's now miserable with cough and fever. Trying to figure out if we should go ahead assuming I'm still "immune" and won't catch it again and can travel - we can use frozen sperm they have on ice in Spain - or if we ould postpone yet again and wait until Sept to try again.

@Pinklady81 i so hope you are doing well and your scan went well and the spotting stopped sp you dont have to worry so much

@birdbybird, oh I'm so sorry to hear, what dreadful news that must have been. I have no wisdom to share as I never made it that far, but I feel for you. Mind yourself until your next scan x

Hello everyone

just a quick update I had a scan everything is okay but I’m on edge all the time worrying any advice would be grateful thinking of you all x

@Pinklady81 fantastic!! Understand you're worried though. That's you what, 7 weeks? Did they see heartbeat? From what I understand that's a very good sign. Really hope it all goes well from now on x

@LouScot I'm nearly 7 weeks yes saw a heartbeat on the scan but I'm worried at every step x

@Pinklady81, delighted for you!! I'm sure the worry is very normal for what you've been through so far. I think all of us probably have a bit more anxiety around any pregnancy we experience compared to your average pregnant couple out there - just because we went through so much more to get there, and we know the misery of doing it all over again.

@Pinklady81 such good news! Fingers crossed for you.

Hi all,

We have our first fertility consultation for IVF coming up. Trying not to stress myself out about it and praying for a miracle so we can conceive naturally. I am waiting for my CD 3 blood results and basically counting down the days until we have our appointment. We have been TTC with 8 years, and while I have managed to get pregnant, I have been unable to get past 4+5 days. We did 2 IUI's previously, and and I got a POSITIVE, but I had another loss again. I am going to ask for the Chicago Natural Killer Cells test, as I want to rule out immune issues before we start the IVF process.

It's been a long road and I am trying to stay positive despite feeling like it's going to be tough to go through.

Hi all, I'm going to be starting IVF stims next month for my first cycle for fertilisation. I'm almost 44, didn't respond well to stims when I was 40 for freezing. I'm consumed by sadness thinking it's not going to work. Does anyone have any suggestions about how to cope? Also for those of you who have had multiple rounds and transfers, how do you afford it? I've paid for this cycle upfront but as I'm single it's so expensive, especially as I need to buy sperm as well. Plus I'm in Scotland so hardly any clinic choice!

Just needed to vent. I want to hope for the best but know my chances of success are low - I feel like I'm pretending to be okay with the odds but deep down I'll be devastated if it doesn't work and I'm not sure how I'd cope.

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Hi @LouScot - I totally get where you are coming from. So I know it sounds kooky but I got help from a fertility hypnotherapist who was great and comforting. Lisa Jackson. Not cheap but she did provide some solace.

Thanks @Anxiousbuthopeful I'll Google. I'm thinking of doing the circle and bloom meditation. I just have moments of overwhelming sadness and despair. Part of me thinks it'll all work out despite the poor odds. I truly hope so. It's so nice to know I'm not alone, thank you. I hope we all find success x

@LouScot there are actually some resources for childless women, so if it comes to that know you would not be alone ( gateway-women.com/)

Fertility a tough road. I honestly used to think if you want a baby and can't have one naturally, you just do IVF, and poof, you are pregnant and get your baby. I had no clue that it is such an uphill battle and that in some cases it doesn't result in the baby at all.

During the process I actually found my acupuncturist brilliant. She specialises in fertility, has gone through IVF herself, and has really done a lot of research (she asks me for all my test results and helps me formulate questions to ask the clinic). Now, I'm not sure if the acupuncture actually works, but I have to say it's been worth it just to bounce ideas off her. Personally, I enjoy massages more than having needles stuck into me, but after 4 rounds of stims I sure am getting used to it 😀

@Pinklady81 that's brilliant :o) sorry you're struggling, i know how difficult it can be. Especially when it's what you've always wanted but feels so slippery. Just try to take each day as it comes and remember that today you are pregnant. Sending hugs.

@LouScot I'm sorry you're feeling so anxious about this round. It's so difficult because you feel like if you don't do it you'll wonder what might have been. Definitely schedule lots of distractions during stims, that's when I get the most stressed out about the whole thing. Would you consider donor eggs? That's still floating in the back of my mind if this round doesn't work, but it isn't a straightforward decision. The financial side of things is a horror show. It frightens me how much money we have/will have spent by the end of this round. We're lucky to have some savings but with the cost of living going up, etc it does make me feel quite nervous to be spending them.

@Greeneyedfairy good luck with your consultation! I have just had my bloods sent off for immune testing, hoping that everything is ok so it doesn't delay me starting the next round in August....

@99pctpractice thanks. I'm not considering donor eggs, no. It's not for me unfortunately. I might feel differently if i was with a partner, but no, can't get my head round double donor. Will see what happens with this round and see. Fingers crossed!!!

I mean I'll see if it works or not, not considering donor doh! I appreciate I've not the best odds but really really just hoping things work out xx

@birdbybird just checking in and hope you're doing ok? 💗

@Lulu106 yes thanks. Had an MVA and am going to get the embryo tested to see if it was abnormal. Have a follow up with the ivf clinic on Friday.
I also have an appointment to look into reproductive immunology in September as this was my third early miscarriage.
How are you doing?

@birdbybird I am so sorry you've had to experience this repeatedly. Had a 7 week scan yesterday but we are measuring a week behind and have enlarged yolk sac. However, the positive is that we have a heartbeat. The clinic have referred me to the early pregnancy clinic for another scan in a week. They started off being negative then seemed to change their tune. Feeling petrified and confused.

I'm so sorry this is happening to you @Lulu106. I hope your story has a happier ending than mine. We never saw a heartbeat this time.
Was this a PGT-A tested embryo? Mine wasn't tested, and so I'm getting the pregnancy tissue tested to see if it was abnormal.

@birdbybird we weren't offered any testing at our clinic. I think this is because in 2 cycles I've only produced one embryo therefore, their take put it back and hope for the best. I was reading that some clinics believe with older mums and low blastocyst rates it's not worth waiting. I think we know that for us (me) egg quality is going to be a problem.

@Lulu106 I hope the week passes quickly for you. Do let me know how you get on at the next scan xx

@birdbybird our baby died 💔

@Lulu106 I'm so sorry. Sending so many big hugs and hope you can take some time to recover and process. Xx

@Lulu106 sorry to hear your sad news x