Hello! Sorry I've been a bit absent lately. Trying to have a bit of a break from obsessing too much!
@birdbybird yes, a natural pregnancy that resulted in miscarriage, I think because I had a hycosy in dec. I had spoken with a friend (a dr though not a fertility dr) in Jan and she had said that my not getting pregnant might be a sign that my body is just good at detecting the non-viable embryos and not implanting them. (For optimistic stories (!) she had had 2 mcs and 1 tmfr before finally getting pregnant and having a healthy baby in Feb at 43) I then had a consult with the Evewell and the consultant suggested that the hycosy can act a bit like an era and make implantation more likely. So I probably did get pregnant because of the hycosy, with an embryo that my body would usually have rejected. Clever stuff, albeit pretty heartbreaking to go through.
@lucymills1234 I'm so sorry it was not successful. Have they done any of the tests around implantation/ natural killer cells? It is possible that the embryos weren't genetically normal if you didn't get them tested? Which means the odds of the last two being normal are hopefully much higher! Not many tips, unfortunately, have you thought about changing clinic?
@Pinklady81 so sorry your cycle had to be cancelled :o( hope you're feeling a bit better and not too sore? I know they look out for it but haven't experienced it myself. I know how gutting it must be, really hope it resolves itself soon so you can start again.
@Hopeful199 good luck with the 2ww!! Sorry you lost an embryo in the thaw and hopefully the one that survived is a sticky one!!!!
I'm ditching my clinic after 3 unsuccessful rounds and having consultations with 3 new clinics (Evewell, Argc and lister). It's expensive, but I figure that it's a lot cheaper than the ivf itself (!) and I might get some tips along the way. So far I have seen Evewell and lister. I prob won't go with Evewell because they aren't open on weekends and that was the cause of my last cancelled cycle and I absolutely can't face that again. They also seemed to be keen to suggest lots of extras that I don't think are necessarily indicated (my issue is getting any viable embryos). I really liked lister. Very straightforward and he suggested starting DHEA and that they would use a different type of stims that would be a purer form than gonal f/menopur (also more expensive because of course it is). They also cater for egg donation, which the Evewell don't and feels like our next step if the next round doesn't work out. We definitely won't go with Argc because the process makes me stressed enough as it is without having daily scans and not knowing when I'll get to work/having to lie to work (I've heard some horror stories about wait times etc), but i am curious to see what they suggest.
My partner is definitely borderline about doing another round of ivf. I think he'd prefer not to waste any more money with the risk that we get the same result (no blastocysts), whereas I feel like I'd rather not look back in 5 years and wish we'd given it one more go. But he may be right that it's time to cut our losses and stop putting ourselves through the excruciating process that is ivf!!!