Continued chat of all things IVF, FET & to feel sane...cycle buddies August/September -

[Bluemeadowbaby]

Hey ladies ☺️

A new thread to continue the one we've maxed out from the FET cycle buddies May/June. Anyone wishing to join no matter what stage you're at we're here to support you along the way.

A little background around me - I have a little boy who's 16mo from my second IVF round in 2019. I'm just embarking (restarting after covid setback) on my first FET cycle with the embryos I have in storage in the hope for baby #2 🤞🏼
I have severe endometriosis, hydrosalpinx tubes which have been removed so my only hope is for IVF to work again. It's been a long old journey but if I can give any hope, faith and a tonne of support to anyone who needs it I'm happy to share my story, updates on my cycle and be there to have a general chin wag ☺️

We've got this! ✨ x

@Bluemeadowbaby thank you - it's this constant waiting for everything during IVF that can drive you slowly insane and question everything.
Chocolate would be most appreciated - I shall have some tonight ! Xx

Thank you for the reassurance ladies ❤❤

@Pingupp Hope you're doing ok today xx

@Pingupp @Millie029 how are you both doing? I took up my counselling session yesterday and so glad I did! A huge weight feels lifted. I've also taken my house off the market, it's stressing me out already and I think that kind of stress can wait 😌 x

@Millie029 feeling the same to be honest. It's because I keep seeing people on Instagram with their beta test results and my clinic doesn't do them. So I could not be pregnant again now and still pumping my body full of crap. It's annoying me! Only 5 days to go til scan - so I am keeping busy. My parents are visiting so that is a very welcome distraction!
@Bluemeadowbaby glad counselling helped. I am a massive fan of it - just having that someone who isn't involved in stuff to vent to really helped me.
Glad you have removed a stressful event from your calendar! Plenty of time for that.

@Bluemeadowbaby
So glad you found it helpful. I too am a huge fan of counselling, having recently utilised it for managing grief. It's such a valuable resource! Is it provided through your clinic? You're right, the house stress can wait. You've got a lot on your plate already.
I'm ok thank you, having a day of less symptoms but trying to embrace that as a positive. Today will be the last of some of the meds, which I'm now kinda looking forward to finishing.
Somethings just niggling me right now though.. i thought when you have a FET with a 3 or a 5 day embryo, it adds additional days to your gestation date. (There are online ivf due date calculators to work it out), so at the point of a positive test day you're apparently 4w and 3 or 5 days pregnant. My clinic didn't count it like that so said i was 6w3d when i thought i was 7w1d. I measured right for 6w3d so wasn't worried as they were happy with it. But it's since been playing on my mind.... i know the clinic knows best.. but that ivf anxiety is rising 🤯 .. Just need to chill and wait til the scan! Xx
@Pingupp It's understandable to feel that way. The beta tests seem like such a good way to check on what's happening, i don't know why some clinics don't do them!? (mine doesn't either). The patience required for IVF is incredible.. the time waiting at every step is awful. Sending you a hug and hoping those 5 days fly by for you. Is it on the 14th? Xx

@Millie029 Weds - I can't even count!! 1pm...... I reckon by Tues I will be a mess.
Still feeling nothing - a little tired today but that is probably from the heat last night! Man it was HOT!! X

@Bluemeadowbaby Sounds super sensible not to move in the middle of IVF!

@Pingupp My clinic would only do an intial hcg and only keep monitoring if it was low, so you're not missing out on much really! Good luck for scan!

@Millie029 Try not to twist yourself in circles over dates! Good luck for next scan!

Its my first scan tomorrow to see how I'm doing on stims. I hate that my clinic don't test until a week on stims, seems ridiculous to be doing all this and no one having any idea if my dosage needs adjusted or not! I'm just hoping we have more follicules growing than last time given what a poor egg collection we had. I am feeling kind of tightness down below which I never experienced first time around so I'm hoping thats a sign I've got more follies growing this time! Absolutely convinced I'll be told to trigger on Saturday for egg collection Monday, seeing as in my previous 5 rounds I've always been told to trigger straight after scan, but I guess we'll see.

Wasn't it just @pingupp! 🥵 it could be from the heat.. or it might not be! You've got this 💪💪 xx

@2mumlife It sounds silly doesn't it.. I'll try to shift those thoughts. Thank you!
Tightness down below sounds positive!! Hope all goes well with your scan tomorrow, everything crossed for you xx

@2mumlife good luck for scan today. Keeping everything crossed for you x

@Millie029 well I hope it's the other! We'll find out soon! X

@Bluemeadowbaby how are you doing? Less stressed now? X

Thank you for positive vibes ladies.

Had a different nurse today who was nice and let me photograph size chart. So I've got follicules measuring ~ 23, 22, 18, 17, 17, 15, 15, 14, 12, 11, 11, 11, 9 and a little one

Trigger Sunday evening for me, egg collection Tuesday afternoon. Estradiol level suggest we might get 3 or 4 mature eggs this time which would be a good result for us.

My sister is getting married Tuesday afternoon though, so I've just had to tell her I'm going to miss her wedding. Luckily I'd pre-warned her this might happen, and she's been really lovely about it. Not sure what to tell parents though, as they don't know we're TTC.....

@2mumlife hey - exciting times for collection. Hoping you get some good ones.
Omg you poor thing missing the wedding.
Could you play the Covid card?? Say you have been in close contact with someone have have to self isolate?? It's a small fib, I am sure they will understand once fingers crossed a baby in on the way??
Or just say you have come down with a vomiting bug - you absolutely cannot go to a wedding with that!!!
Xx

@Pingupp Wedding was really small anyway so sister was totally fine about it all. I did say though I'd try to come to the meal in the evening (its just at a nice restaurant, very low key) so fibbing wouldn't really work.

Spoke to parents and just said I'm having an egg collection and that went fine. Told them I didn't really want to discuss it and they've agreed they'll wait now until if and when we have something we want to tell them. I just hate there are now MORE people who will know if a baby doesn't come along that we had tried. I'd rather not have people know private heartache if it never happens.

@2mumlife sounds positive egg wise, though I’m sorry about your sister’s wedding. It’s difficult feeling pushed into telling people if you’d rather not, hope you’re not feeling too prickly and uncomfy about it all. And bags of luck for collection.

@Bluemeadowbaby I think getting the house off the market is a really smart move. There is distraction, then there is major stress!

@Pingupp and @Millie029 still wishing you all the best.

I’m on day 7 of my cycle/estradiol and have egg white cervical fluid going on - is this a thing with estrogen? Please tell me I’m not going to ovulate naturally and screw this cycle up!

@2mumlife totally get you don't want to tell loads of people. We are keeping things to ourselves for now until there is something solid to tell.
Hopefully you will feel up for the meal and get to share a part of the wedding. Xx

@Verbena87 - I did have some funky discharge at the beginning of my cycle. Maybe it's all the hormones. Do you have a scan soon to check lining? X

If you are wondering why I am in here so early/ late..... I have terrible insomnia - partner has indigestion from our curry tonight - what a pair!!

@Pingupp thanks, hopefully just hormones. I have a lining scan on the 20th so that’ll give them a look at everything and they did say they’d be able to check I’d not ovulated with that. Sorry about the insomnia, me too at the moment.

@Verbena87 I've had random changes in discharge too

@Pingupp I hope you manage to get some sleep!

Feeling ok this morning about having to tell them. Was an off conversation in many ways. My sister is actually heavily pregnant at the moment and my dad actually said hes still less surprised to hear we're TTC than my sister as I'm more maternal! I just know my parents never struggled to conceive so I just don't want them to think this is suddenly actually going to work

@Verbena87 fingers crossed it's doing what it should be xx
@2mumlife my parents are the same! Bless them - they mean well but it's an added pressure. Mine are still visiting us ( we brought them back south with us last Sunday ) they needed a break as my dad has not been well and they hadn't left their area since lockdown kicked off. So we have got the added pressure for scan day on Weds - of it's not good news, my mum is going to be devastated again but thus time in front if me...
I had quite nasty cramping again in middle of night and this morning
Xx

Hi All, I've been lurking for a while during my transfer this week....your stories have kept me going.

I've been quite anxious and stressed since the procedure - any idea if that can affect things? Also, have some of you ever not had implantation bleed but still fallen pregnant? The times ivf has worked for us I've had an implantation bleed but not this time 😬

@Pingupp It must be really hard having then know when it's still early days. Hopefully everything goes well with scan

@Mamaemmeline I like the mindfull IVF app to help with stress and anxiety. We've had 4 IUIs and 2 transfers. I only experienced implantation bleeding on my chemical pregnancy which has been only BFP. I think there are plenty ladies though who get a BFP without implantation bleeding

@Mamaemmeline hi when was your transfer? On my 1st no bleeding and we got a BFP but it didn't progress. I think every transfer and scenario is different. Try not to read too much into that. X

@2mumlife it's really hard but I am trying not to let it ruin the last few days before the scan. I am soooo bloated but that's probably the lubion and progesterone pessaries. I look pregnant ( well I am but you know what I mean ) like showing already - surely that can't be right!
Trying not to eat badly but there are lots of coffee shop visits with my folks and of course, decaf coffee needs a cake!