Continued chat of all things IVF, FET & to feel sane...cycle buddies August/September -

[Bluemeadowbaby]

Hey ladies ☺️

A new thread to continue the one we've maxed out from the FET cycle buddies May/June. Anyone wishing to join no matter what stage you're at we're here to support you along the way.

A little background around me - I have a little boy who's 16mo from my second IVF round in 2019. I'm just embarking (restarting after covid setback) on my first FET cycle with the embryos I have in storage in the hope for baby #2 🤞🏼
I have severe endometriosis, hydrosalpinx tubes which have been removed so my only hope is for IVF to work again. It's been a long old journey but if I can give any hope, faith and a tonne of support to anyone who needs it I'm happy to share my story, updates on my cycle and be there to have a general chin wag ☺️

We've got this! ✨ x

@2mumlife what did you clinic say at your first round about having all immature eggs? In my case they said they couldn't find a reason this happened to me.

@Francesmalin oww god that's totally shit (am I allowed to swear on here?) It is though and I'm so sorry they haven't got any decent answers for you. Good for you asking for a deep dive with them into it. My hubby was telling me when he went for his sperm test the clinic he went to had advertising for a refund programme where you get your money back if it's not successful, I'm sure there's some kind of catch as feel's a bit too good to be true, and you have to find the money to even start it, but I just wondered if it might help, just google IVF refund programme. xxx

@pinkrose100 congrats on your results! It's great news! Xx 😘

@Francesmalin bless your heart, this really is so shit and I am so sorry to hear this news 😔 you've done the right thing by asking the clinic to have a full in-depth discussion with you with regards to what's happened. I hope they treat you kindly, I know clinics are fully aware of the process but when you're the person experiencing it a good bedside manner is definitely required. Sending you so much love & support. Take your time to process things. We are still here for you x

@PinkRose100 this is excellent news! Keeping my fingers crossed for you that they stick in there. I'm so sorry to hear of the experiences you've previously had, one step at a time lovely - you've got this x

Ahhh @Pingupp 💕 this is just the message I needed to see today. You must be absolutely delighted! Not long now until your next scan, it's very daunting when they hand you back over but trust the process lovely even though I know how daunting it feels x

@2mumlife thank you, I'll take a look. The two I have frozen are 2BA and 3BA grade - hopefully they will survive the thaw and survive whatever path they're going to take 🤞🏼 I guess all clinics are different with their grading and freezing procedures. I know a lady who has her little girl from a 3BC so here's hoping x

@Verbena87 good for you for going for it! It's just nice to have a normal - if you can call it normal - conversation with another person going through a similar thing. I spoke to a friend about the process once and she just didn't quite understand the emotional side of it all, tried so hard to put herself there and bless her asked all the wrong questions but speaking to someone on the same wavelength (even better when it's a stranger!) you can kinda just leave all your dignity at the door so to speak and just let it roll out your mouth and not feel you're having to kind of guard what you're going through.
😂 stop it!! Your wording is just too funny you really crack me up! 😂😂😂 did you talk to the clinic about if you could do all 3 at night/why you've got to spread it? The pessaries that is... 👀 x

@Bluemeadowbaby thank you. We are really happy obviously - still sinking in. 
@PinkRose100 I am sure if things progress ok - he will start believing..... he's just very cautious and his main concern is me and not getting hopes too high. I kind of get it. Congrats on your results. Fingers crossed for you now.
@Verbena87 how are you getting on with the pesky pessaries? Mine are aggravating me a little and nurse told me to switch mine to 1 in the morning and 2 at night. I asked her about the time between both inserts so to speak and she said it's ok so going with that for now. There was mention of popping up the other area....- errr no!!!!! The glamour of ivf is great isn't it!
@Francesmalin I am really sorry honey. I hope you get some answers and they are kind to you. I can imagine you have a lot of rage. Don't let that build up - let it out. Hopefully they would do a free cycle.

Feel so bad for all the ladies who are struggling on here. I totally understand the upset and frustration that ivf throws at us. Sending lots of positive vibes for anyone who needs them - along with lots of chocolate and gin xx

@Pingupp pessaries are not great, they seem to mess with my head so badly.

Supposed to transfer Monday and husband is snotty and coughing today so waiting pcr results. I want to cry. No idea what happens financially if we have to cancel transfer, does anyone know? I’m feeling a bit rubbish but I think it’s because I’ve not really slept. Work is insanely stressful (30% of our students - that’s upwards of 600 kids - currently off ill, mostly confirmed covid cases. Ofsted immanent. High staff absence so trying to cover other people etc etc.) - feel I’m drowning today.

@Verbena87 oh no. Fingers crossed it's a negative result and transfer can go ahead as planned. You may need to call the clinic and advise them of the pcr test - can you call them tomorrow?
So many coughs and colds about - it's mad.
Sorry work is stressful. I have Frieda who are teachers and it sounds horrendous at the moment. Let alone trying to do ivf during this shit show.
Big hugs and pray for a negative test xxx

@Verbena87 keeping my fingers crossed it's negative!! Have you had both your jabs? I believe if you have you can continue? X

Girls once again thanks for your support in the last few days. I am still upset and I can't wait to recover from egg collection to I can go to a boxing class! Two eggs matured in the machine but they didn't fertilise... I know that fertilisation rates for IVM are really low so I didn't have any expectations.

I will leave this thread now cause I am going to have a break from IVF, babies and TCC as I need to recover but also I want to have fun and a bit of party before deciding what to do next. In the last few months I had to constrain myself from going out, drinking etc and now I deserve a bit of fun! Good luck girls!

We’re both double jabbed yep. I sort of assumed if it’s negative we don’t need to let clinic know as I can’t imagine you not being allowed in off partner has a cold? Is that wrong?

If positive then yes, will call them. It’s normally Monday-Friday for phone calls but there must be an out of hours number - managed to speak to someone out of hours by calling hospital switchboard last cycle.

@Francesmalin Enjoy your break and letting your hair down, I feel emotional saying goodbye to you. Thank you so much for the support your gave me, you really helped like no one else in the real world has. Lots of love, party hard! xxx

@Francesmalin wishing you all the luck in the world - you party on girl you deserve it! Remember we are still here waiting for you whenever you're ready or even if you're not - we're hear for you even if you just fancy a chat about every day boring shiz x

@Verbena87 I'd say if he had a cold then no they wouldn't need to know that unless he's actually aloud in the clinic with you for transfer? With my clinic my partner isn't allowed in so the forms for health and well-being all falls on me. Keeping my fingers crossed it's negative - the one test we all pray will be negative and don't for one second get line eyes on 😄 x

@Verbena87 I've just seen on the news apparently there's the "worst cold ever" doing the rounds which mimics covid symptoms but isn't actually covid...so let's hope this is just man flu! X

Yep @Bluemeadowbaby half my a level kids (all hardworking non-moaning girls) are off with it, all pcr negative, all feeling awful. Bit of a stress as 1) I don’t want it, and 2) I don’t drive and could do with him being able to drive us down to London for transfer.

Having such a hard time settling my head about it though. If he gets a +pcr Sunday I’m not sure how to let them know and I’m paranoid I’ll loose an embryo. When do they defrost them?

Keeping everything crossed @Verbena87 that everything will be okay. I believe they give you a call the morning of transfer and ask you to go in at X time and I also believe - correct me anyone if I'm wrong - but the thawing process only takes around 30 minutes? If you ring your clinic out of hours you should be able to be put through to one of the nurses at home. I had to do this once on a previous cycle so hoping you have the same sort of facility x

@Bluemeadowbaby thanks so much for your sanity and kindness. Feel much less foggy with panic. Thank you. Xxx

Aren't all of you cute? @pinkrose100 super good luck with your next steps! Finger crossed everything goes well and you will send me a message to give me good news!

@bluemeadowbaby I love parties so my soul is in good company! Ahahah i am on antibiotics just now but next week I can drink all the wine I bought last week! I sound like an alcoholic but I knew I was doing a freeze all so I was ready to give myself a bit of a break!

Hopefully I will give you good news soon ! You never know after all of these drugs I might get pregnant naturally !!! 🎉🎉🎉

@Verbena87 you're most welcome 💕 xx

@Francesmalin you go and enjoy all the wine lovely! If there's something I've learnt from this process is you can restrict yourself and make sure you have all the right foods, drinks, sleep, acupuncture, books, praying and willing but the outcome will be what it's meant to be no matter what you do and I hope you take comfort from that when & if you choose to get on the ivf train again. Personally my first time I did all the right things and was so disheartened at the outcome, then I let go and did everything I would normally do - damn I even had all the caffeine so much so I should've had shares in Costa and boom...the outcome was what it was meant to be and who knows, you might be right and it just might happen - praying for you it does 🥰 For now, take your time and enjoy that wine...I'm off for a few wines myself tomorrow & will be toasting to your strength ✨ x

Totally meant to update yesterday 🤦🏻‍♀️ but I had that lovely big zoladex injection 😣 stop norethisterone on Monday thank god I need these night sweats to stop! But it was a little bitter sweet when I left, that's the last time I'll ever go to that clinic as they're moving this weekend. I felt such a rush of emotions, it's where we first started and I pray my embryos will make it safely on their way to the new clinic 🙏🏻 if all goes according to plan myself and my partner have decided for me to go for the transfer alone - as in travelling - he's not allowed in for it anyway and I feel a huge pull to wanting to go alone so I can maybe (hopefully 🤞🏼) be able to keep it to myself and surprise him with a positive outcome to feel like it's a little bit "normal". I crave normality of trying so much however it'll never happen that way for us because both my tubes have gone so maybe see this as a little bit of therapy? Call me crazy maybe but I feel I need to do this. Of course, if it became too much I wouldn't push myself to keep things secret but for now this is keeping me going to looking forward to it all as best I can x

@Pingupp I have everything crossed for you for Wednesday x

@PinkRose100 such amazing news about your embryos! X

@Francesmalin I'm really sorry to hear what you have been going through. I hope you are able to have a good meeting with your clinic and get the answers that you need. I hope you recover well, get to that boxing class and thoroughly enjoy the wine! Wishing you all the best on your journey x

@Verbena87 sorry to hear work has been so stressful.. it's the last thing anyone needs when going through ivf and preparing for transfer! 🙏 for a negative pcr result! Echoing Bluemeadowbaby, the thawing process isn't long at all.. i was told by our clinic that the morning of transfer, that they thaw the embryo and call to tell you if it is usable before going in.. for us that phone call was around 9am and i think the staff only started work at 8am x

@Bluemeadowbaby Well done on getting through another zoladex! SO much happens behind those clinic doors, those places become so famailiar and a huge part of our lives.. The place where we share our hopes and dreams for creating/building a family ❤
I understand your concern about your embryos being moved, as the exact same thing is happening with ours.. i almost feel like we should be given a tour of the new clinic so we can see where their new home will be!
Not crazy at all! I think it's a lovely idea of surprising him with the outcome. The ivf process takes so much away from us.. the surprise and excitement of TTC, and in turn brings so many negative feelings. It's your journey, so you do whatever you feel is right for you ❤ you've always got us here to talk through the TWW x

Thanks all for your kindness. Negative pcr 🎉🎉🎉 and a whole handful of paranoia-fuelled negative lateral flows for DH so just have to hope I don’t succumb to the snot now.

@Francesmalin if you’re still checking in please drink a large glass of something delicious on my behalf and enjoy your headspace.

@Bluemeadowbaby you don’t sound crazy to me (and I hear you on the weird mourning round trying naturally. It’s strong for me because our treatment is to avoid passing on a dicey gene, so end up being super vigilant about contraception whilst yearning for a baby.)

@Verbena87 what a relief! I hope it all goes well on Monday. At least everyone has to wear a face mask even if you do get a bit snotty under it. I’m also in for a Monday transfer. I’ll be thinking of you 🤞 xx

Thanks @PinkRose100 - will be thinking of you too. What time are you meant to be in?

And thanks all for bearing with me - feel I’ve disappeared into my own head really badly the last week or so, so sorry if I’ve missed things.