IVF July/August 2021

[Bethpalmer20]

Hi everyone.

I couldn't find a thread for ivf cycles July/August 2021 so I hope it's OK to start one. I was on the March/April thread for my fresh cycle and it was so nice to have support from others going through the same thing.

My fresh cycle was successful but unfortunately I miscarried at 8 weeks pregnant. We are start a frozen cycle with one of our 2 frozen embryos. Aiming to start tablets around the 10th July with the hope of transfer towards the end of July.

Would love to know if anyone else is in the same boat or has any tips!

Hey @janefx40 it's hard to keep up with everybody, where are you at on this round? Have you had successful rounds before? I was just reading some really old ivf and TWW threads and noticed your name a few times. I didn't realise you had been on this journey so long. I'm 6dp5dt currently, strong period type cramps and just feel like I'm out of this cycle. After a BFP on my first cycle and then a miscarriage shortly after I really feel like this is never going to happen for us. You have so much strength to have gone through 6/7 rounds. I'm in my early 20s and feel so lucky to have age on my side but I can't help but have this niggling feeling in the back of my head of 'what if we never get there'.

Sorry to add a bit of a downer to the thread, I'm finding it hard today 😢

@purplemichelle It's so hard to process the whole thing. I feel like we've just sort of ploughed through treatment after treatment and we've lost years of our lives to this journey. I have friends who have done 9 rounds of IVF before having success. I don't think I am that person though. I have one more in the freezer and I don't even know if I can bring myself to use that. I think a break is a good idea to regroup and get some air.

We've not shared any of our ttc journey with anyone. I don't know if it was the right thing to do in hindsight. People are incredibly insensitive about their own successes and I do wonder if I might have felt better with more support and people to talk to but it's too late for that now.

Thanks all for the sympathy on the egg collection. I won't be doing it again, that's for sure. So I think what we got from this collection will be our only shot.

I also find the progesterone suppositories have a really strong effect besides the irritation.

Hi ladies!
I have been a bit quiet on here because I have been so full on at work. It’s made this 2ww go a lot faster than my last one.
I’m now 10dp5dt and haven’t yet tested. I didn’t want to over the weekend because I knew I had to be on top form for work and knew I couldn’t focus with a BFN. I haven’t tested today because it’s my birthday.

Tomorrow is definitely test day. Had anyone else felt like they didn’t want to test?
I feel different this cycle to when I got my BFN but I don’t want to burst the bubble. I’m being silly, I know.

@Purplemichelle I don’t know quite what to say, other people have said it much better, but I really sorry. It’s not fair and it’s ok not to be ok.

I had my first monitoring scan today. It was reasonably positive, quite a lot of follicles growing and on track for egg collection on Friday. The experience wasn’t pleasant though. It was a different doctor with a medical student and they were less respectful of my privacy (eg walking in unannounced when I was cleaning up and changing). The probe was uncomfortable. They spent a lot of time talking to each other and even joking a bit about the PCOS. I’m probably emotional due to the hormones but I ended up quite tearful on the way home.

@Bethpalmer20 strong period cramps are usually a sign of pregnancy for me so you never know. When is your test day?

@Bethpalmer20 I had 2 rounds of ICSI back in 2018. The first was a chemical and the second resulted in my DD for which I am eternally grateful. We then did an FET in June 2020 which resulted in miscarriage, a fresh cycle in March (BFN) and have so far done 2 back-to-back egg collections and are heading to the 3rd for embryo banking/testing. Then we stop.

@Towerpin sounds like you have been through a lot. A break might be good - it's in the freezer so the embryo isn't in a hurry. If you have time then it can be worth taking some to regroup.

@MaggieMoo86 happy birthday! And best of luck for tomorrow. When I get right to the end, I also get reluctant to test because I don't want to burst my bubble.

@53rds great about the follicles but sorry about the bad experience. That is so unprofessional. You'd be within your rights to complain but we only have so much energy so it would be understandable if you don't want to. Exciting to have a probably day for EC

Xxx

@janefx40 I really hope it's a good sign and not a sign of impending AF. I didn't have period type cramps when I got my BFP so I can't help but compare the two cycles 🙁 Clinic have given me 4th of August as official test day (8dp5dt) however I think their general rule is 9dp5dt but this would be my birthday so I have a feeling they moved it forward a day so as not to have a potential negative on my birthday? I could be wrong but last time they asked me to test on 9dp5dt and from a bit of research that seems to be the general rule for my clinic. Wow, you really have been through it, you're so incredibly strong. And what a blessing to have had your DD although I'm sure that doesn't make future cycles any easier😔 Well done for managing 3 back to back egg collections, that's incredible. Seems like that is the best thing to do though. I assume you will then progress to FET for the embryos you have banked?

@53rds so sorry about the bad experience, that sounds terrible and extremely unprofessional. They really should be a bit more sensitive. I don't blame you for being tearful, I would have been too. It's such an incredibly stressful time as it is, you don't need added stress from the people that are supposed to be there to help you! Sending you a big hug x

I had my second scan today. They saw 27 plus smaller ones. The follicles are now
4 between 20 and 22mm
14 Between 13 and 18mm
9 between 8 and 12mm

Im waiting for confirmation but they expect EC to be Wednesday morning. The nurse said that the 14 between 13mm and 18mm should be the right size. Im worried that the 4 really big ones will be over mature but hopefully some more smaller ones will catch up a bit.

@53rds sorry about your scan experience. It’s very insensitive to be joking around in just an important time for you.

[quote Janefx40]@iattc I'm sorry again about your cycle. After my FET and miscarriage, I had mid-cycle spotting for a few months. I would basically spot around ovulation? Could it be that? We take so many hormones that it can mess things up.

@Purplemichelle I can well remember feeling like I could never do it again. I had a friend who had done 7 rounds of IVF and after my first failed, I thought I couldn't imagine doing that many. Now I'm starting on my 7th (depending how you count it and with success in the middle of that journey). Just go slowly and see how you feel when the first shock fades. This stuff is hugely traumatic but we tend to push that to one side and just keep ploughing through - from time to time (especially when things don't work) the weight of that trauma and grief hit us. You just have to be kind to yourself while it happens.

IVF is really hard and nothing changes that but when it works, it really is amazing. [/quote]
Yeah I was thinking it could be ovulation as well. Hope it goes away, jus found it weird as it didn't happen on my previous cycles x

It's a BFN for me. Going to take a break for a bit. Best of luck to those still waiting!

Oh no @Hoping4baby21 I’m so sorry to hear that. Take some time for yourself and remember it’s just bad luck and nothing you did or didn’t do.

@Purplemichelle @Hoping4baby21
Oh I'm so sorry guys it really does knock you doesn't it but like others had said take time for yourselves and hopefully next time will be your guys time! X

@Hoping4baby21 I'm so, so sorry... take care of yourself at this difficult time xx

@MaggieMoo86 happy birthday and I hope you had a lovely day :) keeping everything crossed for you tomorrow - I never want to test as I always prefer to have that last sliver of hope even when I know there shouldn't be any, so I know how you feel, but I really hope it's good news for you!

@manny33 very best of luck for your EC tomorrow!

@XjustagirlX those are great numbers even if those 4 are overmature (but hopefully they won't be!) :) do you have to trigger tonight?

@53rds Great news about the follicles and EC coming up but I'm sorry to hear about your rubbish experience today - emotions are running high enough with having to deal with disrespectful doctors! Hugs to you xx

@itsmschanandlerbong hello and sorry to hear about your previous chemical pregnancy. Fingers crossed for a much better outcome this time round :)

@Bethpalmer20 don't give up yet, only a few days to go... I know it's hard towards the end but here's hoping they're pregnancy symptoms for you xx

@Janefx40 thanks so much for the strength and advice you share on here - you've really been through it all and it must have been hell many times but your messages are so encouraging and helpful xx

I hope everyone else is well - best of luck and lots of love all around xx

So sorry @hoping4baby21 I have a feeling I will be joining you tomorrow 😢 take time to rest and please be kind to yourself. Sending you a big hug xx

@Hoping4baby21 so sorry to hear. Keep your strength up🙏🏻

Thank you @beachbum85 we have 9 eggs collected and await to hear how many fertilise Tomorow 🤞🏻

@Hoping4baby21 Im so sorry. Take care of yourself.

@beachbum85 my EC is Thursday so I’ll be triggering tonight. Just waiting for a call from the nurse to tell me what time to do it.

Another BFN for me.
This process is so hard.
Sending lots of love to you ladies x

@MaggieMoo86 I'm really sorry :( it's unbelievably tough... Lots of love back to you and take care of yourself. We're here if you need us xxx

Really sorry to hear about the BFNs 😔

Really sorry @maggiemoo86 I was thinking of you this morning😢 you're right, this process is so emotionally and physically hard. Big hugs xx

Oh @maggiemoo86 I'm so sorry.

I don't think I'm pregnant either. My clinic doesn't want me to test until 14 days past (!) which is still a week from today. I don't understand why every clinic seems to give something different as a time frame?

I am so so sorry to you guys who have got BFN's.....there are just no words to describe this roller coaster!! Look after yourselves! @girljulian yes I noticed this.....my clinic is always 12 days after.....I'm almost scared to test now....I had a positive last time on day 8 and it stayed positive until day 11 and went to negative on my actual test day resulting in a chemical pregnancy. Everywhere seems to be different

@MaggieMoo86 and @Hoping4baby21 - so sorry to both of you

Sorry to hear about the BFNs. It is so hard, isn't it?