FET cycle buddies May/June

[Bluemeadowbaby]

Hi ☺️
Just starting up a little thread if anyone wants to join me on their FET journey for May/June. I've never had a FET cycle before and wondered if anyone was or is on their way with this journey to offer support and guidance x

Little update from me ladies, so I've had a horrible couple of days worrying about this wonderful fluid found in my uterus. I've spoken to the dr at the clinic today and I'm back in on Monday for another scan with a dr who will talk me through what it is. They seem to think it's fluid from my previous section and they may need to take a sample of my womb lining to see if it is inflamed. If it is I'll go onto a course of antibiotics to see if that gets rid of the fluid, if not then we will face whatever route we need to go down. I feel so deflated atm and a little sorry for myself that things always seem to be a shitter for me. I did ask the dr is that means conception wouldn't be possible and he said yes, it would not be possible at this stage as the environment is too hostile. I feel quite numb by that and have kind of written myself off from having baby number two. I feel so strange but trying to be kind to myself and count the blessings I already have in my little boy. Life just feels so cruel when a choice is not even an option when it comes to infertility x

@Bluemeadowbaby I'm so sorry! You have been a shinning light in this group always so positive and encouraging. It's completely valid to feel sad, numb etc. From what I'm reading I'm also hearing that the time isn't right now but never. I know that is also not what you would like to hear and potentially not comforting right now which is fine.

There is hope that this can happen for you and the antibiotics could clear it all up and allow you to love forward maybe next cycle. It's all just going to take a little more time that initially anticipated. Try not to lose hope completely. I hope you feel better soon!

@Hoping4baby21 thank you lovely, that means a lot 💕 oh absolutely, I will take the rough with the smooth and hope for the best. I know fully this journey is by no means plain sailing and there is always a hurdle but if I've got to get over them I'll try my damn hardest 💪🏼🥰
I think I just had in my head because everything went so well after my second round then everything would be just fine and the outcome would hopefully be a positive - I know we all hope for that but I think I'd convinced myself I was maybe out the woods and the complications were put to bed.
I'll take it as it comes and really hope things do sort themselves out.
I'll be sure to stick on this board to support you all and see how your journeys are going!
What's the saying?...it's not over until the fat lady sings! 💪🏼 x

Ah fuck, I’m so sorry. Will not do the “well at least.../could be worse” thing, just holding space for your achiness. If you were here I’d wrap you in a badly-knitted blanket and mix you the kind of drink that might knock a lesser mortal over. As it is, sending fierce sympathy your way. Xx

@Bluemeadowbaby Oh geez, thats horrible, I'm sorry you're having to deal with this. I know you'll know all this, but just take things one thing at a time, and be kind to yourself. I hope Monday brings more answers for you, and clairty on the way forward

@Bluemeadowbaby how are you feeling today? Waiting to find out ‘what next’ is always really tricky - hopefully the coming week will bring you some answers and a bit of a plan. Thinking of you xx

Does anyone know anything about outdoor swimming during treatment? Was hoping to get a couple of open water swims in before transfer - is there any reason not to? (Water temperatures are around 10 degrees at the moment I think - so not like midwinter but deffo a bit fresh!) Don’t fancy it after transfer (just feels too shocking) but can’t find any info about before. And have people stopped running for treatment?

@Verbena87 I don't do open water swimming, but I can't really see why not before transfer? My clinic just says to try get on with normal routine after transfer minus baths or doing anything too strenuous.

@Bluemeadowbaby ... I am so sorry to hear your setback but stay positive!! I am sure it will all work out. Its good its been found now as if missed, it may have really caused upset. Sending you lots of best wishes for a quick resolution.

@Verbena87 ... I have nothing to quote or back this up ... but I wouldn't do any "cold" swimming on the cycle you are looking to transfer. I remember being advised/reading somewhere that heat is really good for the preparation of the womb lining and receiving an embryo! The day before my transfer with my daughter in the Czech, I boiled myself in the hotel jacuzzi for an hour to get the blood pumping to my womb! lol ...

I am trying to catch up on everyone ... bear with me!

For me ... I have a breast scan on Tuesday and then day 3 to 5 blood test. We then have a little holiday and will be ready to start meds in next cycle! I have been getting a little stressed about the travelling element for me ... with Czech being on the Amber list, I have to have a covid test the day before I fly and in the Czech before I can fly back :( ... I still can't book flights or hotel yet until cycle dates confirm as can be a day or two out of sync... But trying to stay focused!

Thanks so much ladies I'm feeling the love and support from you all 💕 keeping my positive head on for tomorrow and I'll keep you posted. Also sending you all lots of positivity in the upcoming weeks! Stay focused ladies 💪🏼

@Verbena87 im feeling okay today thank you, had a lovely day seeing my dad who I haven't seen since July so it was such a lovely day.
I'm not too sure about outdoor swimming however I know when I was getting ready for transfer I remember the clinic advising me not to have baths, not because of the warmth but because I was using the pessaries 🤔 I think it was something to do with risk of infection being sat in water and then obvs not to have heat after transfer. Might be worth a check with the clinic just to be sure x

Meant to put there that they told me not to have baths when I started with the pessaries which if I remember rightly was after collection anyway x

Thanks all for the tips, I’ll ask the clinic to check (was planning to go before starting pessaries anyway).

@Bluemeadowbaby glad you’ve had a nice day - such a long time to go without seeing your dad, must have been great to see his actual face not-on-a-screen. Sending all the good wishes for tomorrow.

@firefly37 that does sound stressful - I’m fretting enough about travel to london and back. One thing at a time I guess.

Ladies!....Had my scan. Fluid has gone!!?!!!
Endo is making a lovely appearance on my bowel and my ovaries are stuck to my uterus which I knew anyway but whaaa?! dare I say I'm back in the game?! 👀 x

@Bluemeadowbaby excellent news!!! So happy for you. So it all proceeds as planned? Was it just a regular scan they did they gave you all that information?

@Bluemeadowbaby sorry about the endo adhesions (ouch!!!!), but that is such fab news about the fluid. Literally just got home from work, looked out the front window, saw a huge rainbow then opened this and saw your message. Feels like good luck to me (and yes, I am otherwise a rational human with faith in science, but still.)

@Bluemeadowbaby Yay! That's great news :)

@Hoping4baby21 it was a very in-depth scan with a dr who is fully trained in endo & diagnosis so I was very pleased and felt in confident hands. Thank you so much 💕 I'm hoping we can go ahead as planned, the dr said sooner rather than later and also asked if I had frozen embryos as my ovaries are pretty much fucked. I have a haemorrhage in my left ovary (don't know what that means but it didn't sound too great) and my right ovary is really buggered anyway as that's where the cyst I had removed on my first lap for endo and it was huge! They always struggled to get any eggs from that one so I think this is kinda my last shot x

@Verbena87 I'm a real spiritual kinda gal and that really made me smile 😊 I always look for rainbows as a guide and with my little boy I always used to see them in the most random places during his cycle so that has bought me a lot of comfort ♥️🌈 x

@2mumlife thank you so much I feel a little more lifted x

@Bluemeadowbaby wow that is so good that they could give that much detail! So reassuring and like you said you could feel confident in their hands. So happy for you! Love that you saw the rainbow @Verbena87 🌈. I think take it all as a good sign that this is your time.

I saw rainbows right through my son’s cycle too. I think I tend to tune into nature more as a bit of a balance to all the laboratory/artificial hormones side of it all.

Aw how lovely 🥰 I love a good sign from nature, it's true that it takes the science form away in some sense x

I'd seen you all chatting about rainbows, and I saw a rainbow on the way home today and it really cheered me up, so thank you!

Ah, rainbows all round (some consolation for all this wretched wet weather!).

I’ve got my medication being delivered today which makes things all feel a bit real.

@Vebena87 That's exciting! I've hidden all of mine in a large caserole dish in the kitchen so they're not constantly looking at me! When is AF due? I' m hoping for it arriving 18th so we can get going!

@2mumlife haha I've put mine in a container in the fridge out of sight out of mind. I should start injecting on 18th so pretty close.

@Verbena87 the meds arriving do make it real when do you start your meds?

I’m starting buserelin on day 21 of this cycle which will conveniently be 21st May (a week tomorrow). Mine are on the top shelf of the wardrobe out of the way. They seem to have sent kind of all-in-one type syringes which is a bit of a bugger as last time I found they were blunted enough by piercing the rubber bung to smart a bit, so we’d use one to draw up and another to inject. However. I’m sure it won’t kill me.

My main worry at the moment is kids at work taking masks off from Monday. We already have a class off because of a positive case last week and I can’t see how unmasking an unvaccinated population who are then going to spend 5 hours a day in close proximity makes sense really. Sick of feeling unsafe at work and I’ll be so pissed off if I get ill or have to isolate and it messes things up. However. That’s a rant for another day and I’m quite sure none of us need the stress of debating government policy, so I’m trying to keep my head in the garden and take each day as it comes.

Increasingly feel I’d love a vaccine though!

@Hoping4baby21 Ah none of mine are refrigerated this time round :) AF due around 18th for me so hopefully starting same time as you! Are you waiting for AF or are you starting CD21 like @Verbena87? Interesting you're a CD21 start, I'm just injecting from CD1 for transfer that cycle.

It sucks you don't feel safe at work. I teach but adults so it's all online still and I'm working entirely from home still