FET cycle buddies May/June

[Bluemeadowbaby]

Hi ☺️
Just starting up a little thread if anyone wants to join me on their FET journey for May/June. I've never had a FET cycle before and wondered if anyone was or is on their way with this journey to offer support and guidance x

Also at least I can go and get jabbed on Thursday without fretting about lack of first trimester safety data. Small wins eh?

@firefly37 after a failed fresh followed by enforced freeze all I’m hoping that frozen is going to work for us. Have to try and keep the hope going.

@HopingForRainbow2021... Frozen works for many people! Just not for us it would seem... Everything crossed for u xxx

It’s so hard when it’s your first as I think when it’s worked once u just think why wouldn’t it again!! What about embryo glue and assisted hatching I have these as after my 5 failed on 6th I went to Prague first thing she said try assisted hatching as the outer layer of your embryo can sometimes be to thick for it to hatch out and it worked for us then again for our FET u may already if had these also have u had a scratch before transfer ? Just some of the things I’ve had previously x

It’s still really early I got wrong last time for testing early said some can be late in planters I’ve said if I got a no Friday then I know I’m 100% out I also tested this morning got a BFN but I was actually sure last night as I could feel some pulling sensations which I’ve had with my 2 boys so I am disappointed but think I’ll hold on for some hope until Friday I have known people to test from day 6 have BFN not get any faint line until day 9 &11 think everyone body is difffernt my frustrations are each time I’ve had success they put 2 back but this new doctor refuses too has anyone on this thread got a positive ? X

@Mack262308 no glue or assisted hatching, will see what the clinic say.

The embryos have also been biopsied so I don’t know if that works like assisted hatching in a way as they have had a cell/cells removed which I guess might make a difference to the shell.

Ah yes I’m not sure if that would be a similar thing it’s frustrating that it all costs more money as well and it’s not exactly cheap x

Verbena, I’m really sorry for your news. I hope you’re allowing yourself time to just feel a bit rubbish. Have a nice dinner tonight. Good luck with your jab.

Since getting my BFN i have been feeling quite flat to be honest. The nature of my job means that there are certain areas/ tasks I can’t do if I’m early pregnant because of a risk to the foetus so I have had to tell quite a few people at work that it didn’t work.
Ugh.
I just worry we will never get there. After my gf’s two miscarriages and my BFN I just worry it isn’t going to happen for us. I guess that’s natural.

@MaggieMoo86 right with you on the flat grey mood. I’m having the fear that we’ve used up all our luck on our first go and that’s our lot now: finding it hard to believe it could happen again, and we’ve only the 2 left. Definitely can’t afford another cycle with the PGD so this is probably our lot. It’s a head-wrecker for sure.

Bugger about work - though I have told everyone anyway as I can’t be arsed having to keep my brave face on when I’m not in front of a class. Was my day off today and am slightly dreading going in tomorrow. Feel like the chance of telling a year 9 to fuck off is worryingly high!!

I am just catching up after having a few days off here..I didn't have a great weekend and just felt very down and I keep seeing pregnant ladies everywhere rubbing my nose in it and also I am dreaming about babies - really vivid dreams. What is my brain doing to me!!!
On a positive note - we have booked to go to Majorca on 22nd. I will NOT look like one of the love island girls !! ;-)

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@MaggieMoo86 sorry you got a bfn.
@Mancbear88 I hope the clinic can work out what's happening. Really sorry.
@Verbena87 I am really sorry to hear about your bfn too. What a lot of bad news for you ladies.

Sending big hugs and positive vibes.
Take the time to process it as it's a lot. The build up to transfer is massive and it's only after you sit back and think about it all is when you realise what impact it has on us, physically and mentally. Chocolate and alcohol has helped me Xxx

Tested this morning using a frer. 9dp5dt. Negative. Absolutely heartbroken. If I can’t make a perfect embryo stick I don’t know what I can do. Don’t think I can take much more of this.

@HopingForRainbow2021... So sorry for ur news. Take some time and then decide on ur next seeps positively x I'm out too xx

Also just thought I’d post this as I know so many of us are tempted to look at tests again later. This was an hour or so later and that’s a very cruel evap line x

@firefly37 so sorry to hear that :( I know it sounds awful but it just feels so unfair. So many people get to make babies the fun way - bloody IVF, and even more bloody IVF fails :( xx

It is unfair... There is no sugar coating it but we have to try and make peace with it and not let negativity drag us down. How old r u? Did u get any NHS ivf? How are ur hormone levels? My AMH is low and my FSH is very high... We are rushing to get one last cycle started ASAP but if my FSH repeats at the level it was last time it could be game over for us xx

@HopingForRainbow2021 I am so sorry for you - big love xx

@firefly37 I know, you're absolutely right, but it's so hard. I'm 36 in August. I'm not sure about my hormone levels to be honest - they were both well within where my clinic wanted them though. We didn't get a single cycle on the NHS because we already have a little boy. We appealed, because we felt let down by NHS (we weren't told when husband was diagnosed that we should have sperm frozen straight away - and we now know we should have been). I think I am going to have a few months off. I am taking this so hard, and worry that I am just going to lose myself to my desperation for a sibling for my son.xx

@Pingupp thank you - to you too xx

I’m so sorry it will happen let’s hope this is your last heartbreak

@firefly37 how are you doing ?

I haven’t bothered to test today as I just know it be a negative again and the hubby is away working till tomorrow night so we both agreed Friday morning will be last test as that be 100% (only doing this for him as I know it’s a no but since my friend had a similar situation tested negative but then 12do5dt was positive she got very low beta think her number was 23 and was told poss chemical but after 48 hours her beta tripled and she now has a beautiful baby girl ) late bloomer!! however I know I’m not that lucky

I’ve already e mailed my clinic in Prague and asked what they will do next time trying to be pro active and keep positive

Ladies it’s such a hard journey and we are all amazing please do not give up it took me to round 6 to get my first beautiful boy

I think I’m looking at a chemical rather than an evap. I just tested again - on a first response rapid result as that’s all I had. This was the test within 2 mins

Did u say your 9dpt ? Could it be poss ur hormones just starting to come through??? I’ve seen images that have shown that line ??

I just had to do a pregnancy test and call the clinic - just to be 100% clear the pregnancy is over for their records. It's the gift that just keeps giving! What a waste of money too!! Bastards!!

@HopingForRainbow2021... That's not a bad line!!! Repeat tomm... Its not over for u pleased for u xxxx

@HopingForRainbow2021 I agree with @firefly37 I think you’re still in with a chance. I’d test again at 11dp.

@HopingForRainbow2021 it’s got to work for one of us, surely?!? Hopefully you! Xx