FET cycle buddies May/June

[Bluemeadowbaby]

Hi ☺️
Just starting up a little thread if anyone wants to join me on their FET journey for May/June. I've never had a FET cycle before and wondered if anyone was or is on their way with this journey to offer support and guidance x

@firefly37 little fraudster over here too 🙋🏻‍♀️ I always feel a bit mad at myself that I'm getting my head back into the whole "what if it doesn't happen" and I feel so awful as I have my beautiful boy sleeping soundly from my last cycle. I always try to tread so carefully on this thread as I know how hard the process is and don't want to come across at all insentive to anyone as I have what many ladies desire and feel quite selfish to some degree, but at the same time I'm so glad I made the thread as it hits home that I really am not over how hard it is and still is to get to where we all want to be.
Ahhh...enjoy your icelolly and try not to delve too much into the grading. A good friend of mine had a grade 3CC transferred 4 years ago and she has a beautiful child meeting all the milestones, she also had a grade 4AA transferred which did not take so I don't believe in the grading too much even though we get quite drawn to it. I understand fully though if I were in your shoes it would give me that sinking feeling but trust the process, that embie waited for you and you just need to wait for them and see 💕 x

@Bluemeadowbaby... You have such a lovely way with words... Thank you 😊
Wow... A 3CC... That is fantastically amazing! I do try not to fret on grading... But must be due the fact that I have to quarantine at home for the next 10 days so can't keep myself distracted when the kiddies are at nursery... I've experienced every emotion today.... Again! Tried to focus on my little veggies im growing... I nearly started crying over my first mini cucumber lol... Hormones. Started 4th series of line of duty and back to love island as well xx

@firefly37 home green veg is actually as exciting as you think it is, that’s not hormones - we had our first broad beans this week and beetroot and it is giving me life to be able to go out with the colander and food shop in the garden 5 minutes before cooking. Jealous of your cucumbers, haven’t managed those yet. I planted tons of sweetpeas this year too and they are such a treat.

@firefly37 ah that's so kind of you to say 🥰 completely get all the feels but I think I too would be emotional over the cucumbers...mini cucumbers are so cute! 🥺 my dad has an allotment and whenever I go there I feel so calm, when I go to see him we pick fresh corn on the cobs in the summer and boil them in a pan at the allotment and eat them 😄 proper country gal at heart. Ahhh I just love line of duty! The letter of the law! The letter! And love island...such an easy watch especially on days you're feeling a bit numb x

@Bluemeadowbaby... Omg series 4 is nuts! Watched the first two episodes! Lol x
@Verbena87... I'm new to this home growing but I've got loads in the pipeline! Potato's, spring onions, onions, mini cucumber, sugar Toms, chilli's, broccoli, lettuce, radish, cucamelon and ball carrots. I planted some black strawberries but no show from them :(... I love seeing things grow tho! Lol x

@firefly37 - focus on love island and that big bar of chocolate! Not what an embryologist said! As people have said it doesn’t always need to be a good quality embryo to work!

@Bluemeadowbaby - I’m also desperate for a sibling here too! I do feel very blessed to have my daughter but I feel she would make an amazing sibling (most of the time).

@Verbena87 I also prefer frer over digital. I’ve ordered two more for my OTD!

I don’t feel much this morning other than bloated! I need some distractions to make the last part of the TWW go quicker! I think the distractions may have to include a family size bar of chocolate 😂

Distractions are key! I’ve become a cleaning freak the last couple of days - deep cleaned shower room yesterday - and currently up to my elbows in the cutlery drawer… desperate times! 🙈

I have decided to sack off work for one more day. Setting up new laptop instead that we got at the weekend. Wish me luck!
I watched love island last night - swore I would not get into it but here we are and I am hooked!! Chris not that impressed but he will get over it

A note on tests - Frer are the ones I used and trust for sure. Keep busy ladies!!

Hope you all have a good Friday and an even better weekend xxx

I think I’m out this month.
Woke up in the night to period pain like cramps. Bad enough to wake me from sleep.
They have eased off now but I’m due on tomorrow.
I did POAS and got a BFN at 7dp5dt. This will be the third transfer between my gf and I. We are feeling very flat and despondent today. We have nine on ice but I’m worried there is a problem will all of them.

@MaggieMoo86... I'm sorry ur having a shitty day. Don't give up hope just yet... Couple more days still 😊... And if it comes to it... 9 on ice is a dream. I would do anything to have a few back ups xxx

@Pingupp... I'm hooked already! My DP pretends he hates it but watches it with me

Oh... As I'm stuck at home I have been drawn into symptom watching... So yesterday (3dp6dt) at 2pm I had light stabbing pains down low that lasted about 40 seconds. With both my previous pregnancies I had stabbing on day 3... With my first it was strong enough to cause me to fold over... With my second it wasn't as strong and I just remember smiling that it had worked. I really hope it's a good sign too x

@MaggieMoo86 you never know... try again in a few days. 9 is a great no to have in back up. Clinic should advise re testing etc if it doesn't go your way this time.

@firefly37 ha ha chris will be more into love island than I will be by the end of this.
Re the symptoms - it's hard not to read into everything isn't it. Try and go with it and enjoy all the little changes and hope that this one is a keeper xxx

Thanks @Pingupp @2mumlife @Bluemeadowbaby and anyone else I missed :)

I don't really know where I am at the moment. I tested on Wednesday morning and got a good positive (10dp5dt) on a FRER. It wasn't a super dark line but definitely there and solid. I ordered more tests which should've arrived on Thursday but they got delayed and arrived today. I held off from going to the loo for about 3 hours and when I tested today (afternoon, FRER again), there's only a very faint line. I've only tested on Wednesday and today so I don't have any other results to compare.

I called the clinic and they said test again on Monday. They don't do bloods and even if they did I'd not get answers sooner. I've had no bleeding which they said is a good sign but it sounds like others here who've had this experience didn't bleed until quite a bit later anyway? It feels like this is all over already - I'm really struggling to see any hope in the situation and trying to hope for the best seems a bit pointless?

I've had some cramping on and off (which clinic said could be totally normal) and have felt pretty tired and a bit nauseous but am even wondering now if the symptoms have got better since earlier in the week. My head's a mess, basically.

Not sure where I am going with this ramble. Just felt a need to get it out.

Hope those of you still in the running are getting positive signs :)

@lucymills1234... I remember my tests at the start with my daughter were different strengths of lines... I think it's sounding positive for you. Do another tomm perhaps FMU and see how it looks x fingers crossed x

So I’ve just realised that I used a first response rapid results test at 7dp5dt and not a first response early detection test. I got some new tests today and realised they are different as they say to wait 3 minutes for the result. Are the sensitivities the same? They probably are but I’m clinging onto some Hope that it might make a difference!

@Belle268 I don’t think those are as sensitive - I bought some by accident once and I’m almost sure they weren’t. Really hoping this was why for you xx

@MaggieMoo86 how are you doing today? Sending luck and calm thoughts.

@lucymills1234 wishing you all the luck too.

@firefly37 I’m a new gardener too but really loving it.

@HopingForRainbow2021 I’m jealous of your cleaning urges - house is a state as I just want to lie down once my little boy goes to sleep!

I am having a hard time not testing now - only got to get to Tuesday but it feels impossibly far away!

@Verbena87 it’s a fine line… husband keeps telling me off saying I’m meant to be taking it easy 🤣 I had been told that weds was my test day, but when I spoke to clinic earlier in the week they’d told me wrong and now say it’s Friday - which does make more sense, but agh those extra two days! xx

Morning all.
Hope ur all holding up xx
I stupidly started testing based on others having got early BFPs... Today is 5dp6dt (technically 4.5dp6dt) and nothing on the early strips (10mlu). I have ordered a couple of Frer... Never used before but apparently test at 6.5mlu so will give it a go. Definitely having to quarantine at home has not done me any favours! Usually we would be out doing stuff which would distract :( xx

Anyways.... Love island helping cheer me up and obvs gave the big game tonight 😊 xx

Morning ladies!
Well my terrible period pains have gone- poof vanished. I feel so perplexed by it all. Whenever I have that pain it means my period is either already here or is hours away.
I’m now 8dp5dt and don’t really want to test again.
A tiny part of me hopes that maybe this embryo was late to get going and we would get a positive on d10 but this is probably wildly optimistic. Any thoughts?

I haven’t been able to get in to love island this year- just find them all quite uninspiring! Would be good to find something rubbish to watch to take my mind off though!

I hope you’re all having lovely weekends x

@MaggieMoo86 glad the pains have gone, fingers crossed you’ll get good news on test day - how long have you got to wait?

@firefly37 it’s super early days still. Quarantine is not ideal for the 2ww! Don’t envy you there. Will you wait a few days to test again?

I’m so tired today I had to have a nap after lunch. Hoping this is a good sign but still feeling like it hasn’t worked. I think my brain is just mush at this point really.

@Verbena87... I've tested too much already :(... I started this last FET journey relatively chilled but have increasingly got in a state about it so I'm not doing so good. I believed it was gonna work... But as the days pass I'm sure it hasn't.

Hope ur OK x

@firefly37 agh it’s so so hard resisting testing isn’t it. I’m terrible at it, but husband is very strongly against it so I am trying very hard for him. I know you know, but it’s so early. Really hoping you get a positive next time you test. Quarantine must make it harder than ever. I had my mums 70th today so had a good focus there - but have still been Googling way more than is healthy. I had that weird javelin bum pain today but I think a lot of women get that around AF time. Hoping it’s not a bad sign. Other than that feel pretty normal.

@MaggieMoo86 so glad that your pains have gone. Really hoping for positive news for you over the next few days.

@Verbena87 being tired enough to nap sounds like a good sign to me - fingers crossed for you! :)