FET cycle buddies May/June

[Bluemeadowbaby]

Hi ☺️
Just starting up a little thread if anyone wants to join me on their FET journey for May/June. I've never had a FET cycle before and wondered if anyone was or is on their way with this journey to offer support and guidance x

@HopingForRainbow2021 is everything ok this morning?
I am literally feeling nothing ... really not sure how to think xx

@Verbena87 hi - so I had my 2nd jab yesterday and she was talking about it in pregnancy and my nurse said to not have it til 2nd trimester.... but it's up to the individual.... it's all very confusing so hopefully your gp call can clear it up.
I was gonna go for 2nd trimester myself but no real reason for it - just thought give baby t a chance to cook a bit!

@Bluemeadowbaby I am ok - think the worst has passed now. It was bad!
Had a duvet day and started to watch big little fires on Amazon which kept my mind occupied and then love island last night which is so mind numbing but a perfect distraction!!

I am back on my hrt patches now so just waiting patiently for review on 19th and then hopefully have a plan to get going again. Ding ding round 2 🥰

How is everyone today? Must be a few girls desperate to test. Hang on in there.
Xxx

@Pingupp - I am so glad you are moving forward ... this journey is hard but its necessary to pick ourselves up ASAP and keep going. I hope round 2 comes out fighting for you :)
@Verbena87 - have you not tested yet? If so I am in awe lol ... I (like a knob) tested today at only 3dp6dt ... stupid but I had just read that someone got a BFP on day 3 with a hatching! It was obvs bright white but I dont feel too bad about it at this stage!

Hope everyone else is ok today xx

Very very faint line again today. This one definitely appeared within the time period so I guess I’m pregnant!

Just got to wait and see if it’s a sticky baby, I feel like the line should be thicker at this point (8.5/9 days as transfer was very late in the day), but a line is a line!

Yay congrats @Mancbear88... You must feel amazing xx how many, what stage and what grade did you transfer? Xx

@firefly37 thank you. I actually feel like shit 😂 but in a yay I’ve got some symptoms way. Just hoping it sticks fingers crossed. It was my last embryo from my first cycle - 6AA just the one.

Also I have done the testing on day 3 thing it’s absolutely crackers what this process does to your head.

@Mancbear88... Awww I want some symptoms... Had a couple of minor twinges and little boob ache but not much else. 6AA... Great one... Fully hatched and perfect appearance. Very lucky 😍... My last little one onboard is a frozen hatching grade 2 (Czech clinic grade them differently)... But I think it would likely convert to a 5BB maybe (I like to think I'm a budding embryologist with all the research I've done! Lol)... My son was a fresh 4BB (grade 2) and my daughter was a fresh grade 1 (4AAish) I think xxx

Hi All

@Pingupp - hope you’re ok! You sound like you’re doing amazing! Fingers crossed for round 2!

@Mancbear88 - that’s amazing news! Congrats on your extra line!

@firefly37 - your little embryo sounds like a good one! Fingers crossed it sticks!

I had loads of symptoms yesterday and was sure I was pregnant. I stupidly tested this morning and it couldn’t have been a clearer BFN 😞 I had my transfer last Thursday (my clinic said that’s day one but I think I’m 7dp5dt today) and it wasn’t the best embryo even if it was a day 5. I’m obviously going to keep going with my meds but I feel like I’m out already now. Is there seriously any hope for a positive in the next 7 Days (my clinic say to test on day 14 but I think I may do day 10/11 and 14).

Thanks @Belle268...
Frozen transfers can longer to implant apparently... So I've heard. Give it more time xx

Thanks @firefly37 - there’s a small sensible part of me somewhere that completely agrees with you - but hormonal me is struggling with this as it’s my last embryo. Fingers & toes crossed for us all xx

@Belle268.. My last one too 😔... Although whilst having a cry yesterday to my OH I did say I'm not sure I can stop and I have my heart set on 3 kids. He refuses to discuss it as he thinks this one will work... I hope he's right. At 41 with two kids it's a huge risk due to my age and probably financially irresponsible... But I'm not sure I can close the door. How about u? Xx

@firefly37 my OH is the same and doesn’t want to talk about it either. I’m not sure I could go again - everyone is different where they feel they need to draw the line though - what’s right for one isn’t right for someone else. For me I don’t think we could keep on spending on a chance like we have been. It’s becoming a bit too all consuming again sadly. Fingers crossed my frostie is just taking its time to implant - I just hoped like others that I would have a squinter of a line. But I have no idea what my hcg should/could be or the detection levels on the tests. I used a FRER earlier.

@Belle268... I've never used a frer but I know they are very popular. I use the no frills medical looking strips on ebay! They are like 20 for 2.99 and read from 10mlu I believe xx everything crossed ur little one will make a late appearance xx

@2mumlife thank you for sharing your experiences xx It has stopped and hasn't come back so far.

Now I am daring to hope that it isn't all over... and I find the hope terrifying.

@firefly37 blimey far from a fraud! You have experience, and more than that experience of success - it is wonderful to be able to chat with you about all of this! I feel a little fraudulent in a way as I have a little boy. He's 5. I am just so desperate for a second. Our story is that since we had our little boy, my husband was diagnosed with leukaemia. He's on a life long medication which it isn't safe to ttc on. He had a treatment break last summer to allow us to ttc safely and to have sperm frozen to enable IVF. We had one month and fell pregnant straight away, but later miscarried. They won't let him take another break for at least 3 years, so here we are. I'm 36, he's 37. We wont be able to keep going much longer financially either, so really hope we get there this time. I'm also feeling literally nothing - no more bleeding which is good, but nothing else. Although I have to say, on my failed cycle in Feb I had crampy feelings, sore and swollen boobs, and even felt a bit nauseous - and BFN... so trying not to worry too much xx

@Belle268 thank you for your support and kindness :) Definitely hoping. How are you doing today? I was so sorry to see you had a negative test - but it is definitely still very early. I will be keeping everything crossed for a positive outcome for you. x

@Pingupp thinking of you during this horrible time. It sounds so positive that you're thinking ahead to round two x

@Mancbear88 congratulations to you! Sending lots of hope and best wishes for you x

@HopingForRainbow2021... Wow bless u guys... My friend had similar. They had their little boy and then her hubby was diagnosed with cancer. They froze sperm and when he was better they were able to do ivf... They ended up with a little girl ❤️ I really hope this works out for u! Everything crossed for us and all the ladies going through this xx

@pingupp did the nurse say why to wait? Nurse at my clinic said she can’t really advise but in my job she’d be inclined to just take it when offered too.

@firefly37 deffo not going near a test til test day, it’ll just mash my head.

@Belle268 with my first transfer I did a digital test at 13dp5dt and it was negative. It was positive the next day.

@Mancbear88 - oh my thats amazing! Maybe hold out for day 14 then? Was that a fresh or frozen transfer?

@Verbena87 - I wish I had your willpower! But yes it does do your head in! I thoroughly do not recommend it! When is test day for you?

@HopingForRainbow2021 - what a story! I have everything crossed for you! 🤞🏼

@Belle268 that was a fresh cycle. I’d had a positive at day 13 on a FRER but then the digital confused it all by saying not pregnant. So must have been a late implanter

@Verbena87 if you are at any risk yourself- get the jab. Do what is best for you. I have heard of ladies getting the jab one day and next day finding out they are pregnant and they are now very pregnant still so I think risk is very low.

@HopingForRainbow2021 wow what a journey for you guys.

@Belle268 hopefully it was a late implanter and a lovely line will appear.

@firefly37 all the symptoms / no symptoms bit is a killer isn't it. Not long to wait and then you will know. Keeping busy is key.

@2mumlife what are the next steps for you?

I think I am ready to work again tomorrow - I have had 2 days off to clear my head and deal with you know - the lady stuff downstairs - I need another focus now. It's just like a period now - has really calmed down thankfully.
No doubt I will be back moaning about how shit work was tomorrow.

Keeping fingers and toes crossed for some good news from the ladies in their tww xx

Thanks @pingupp - that’s kind of where I’m leaning at the moment. Secondary teacher and it’s rife. You are an inspiration: hope work is not too monumentally shit tomorrow.

@Mancbear88 freaking out about you not getting a positive till day 14 - I’m supposed to test day 11 then stop all meds if negative 🤷‍♀️. Congrats on your positive - hoping it’s a sticky bean.

@Belle268 I think I’m holding off testing because I really feel like it’s not worked this time and I’d rather be in hopeful limbo a bit longer. Had way more symptoms last time by this stage: this time I am just extremely tired, with progesterone cramps/wind, and am unreasonably pissed off with the entire world.

Good luck and large bars of chocolate to other TWW girls. This is tough!

@firefly37 if you’re a fraud so am I - as far as we know we’re both fertile (ivf is so we can eliminate my husband’s cancer-predisposition gene, rather than for fertility reasons) and our son is the result of our first ever transfer. I feel like I’ll be devastated with a negative but that seems ludicrous when others have had such long roads already.

@Verbena87 that was just on the digital I’d had a FRER before that

@Verbena87... That sounds like a very valid reason to me and I really hope its worked for u.
I've really upset myself... I stupidly sent a picture of my transferred blast to a guy in America who was an embryologist for 4 years. He offers an embryo grading service. He said mine was a 5BB or 5CB... He has graded the ICM (baby cells) as a B/C... I was just devasted to see C and the words fair/poor quality. I thought grade 2 hatching was still considered good 😢
Now eating an ice lolly to console myself x

@Mancbear88 thanks so much, have got a frer waiting, I’ve never used a digital so won’t start now 👍🏼.

@firefly37 enjoy the lolly and try to let it go if you can: I’ve got one friend who was trying for 7 years and her little boy was their last embryo and ‘poor quality’ - he is now a healthy happy toddler meeting all his milestones.