FET cycle buddies May/June

[Bluemeadowbaby]

Hi ☺️
Just starting up a little thread if anyone wants to join me on their FET journey for May/June. I've never had a FET cycle before and wondered if anyone was or is on their way with this journey to offer support and guidance x

@HopingForRainbow2021 so exciting to hear you have your little embie on board! Wishing you all the luck in your world, have you anything nice planned for your evening? X

@HopingForRainbow2021 *the world. But hey...I think your world sounds good too 😄❤️ x

Girls I have had a very bad day today.
Someone suddenly pulled out opposite me as I was parking and I swerved to avoid and scratched up another car quite badly (spoke with the owner- gave her my details of course). I am absolutely fine, completely unhurt.
Then because I was feeling upset I got really down about the chances of this transfer working so took a frer (I am only 3dp5dt) so of course this is negative.
I rationally know it’s far too early, I’m not sure what I was thinking. :(

@MaggieMoo86 aw no, I am so sorry you had such a stressful day. I know it can be a shock having a bump in the car, whatever the circumstances. Focus on the positives if you can - nobody was hurt, and day 3 is far too early. Be kind to yourself tonight, try to relax and look after yourself x

@firefly37 what good news. Exciting day for you. Try and chill tonight!! I am keeping everything crossed this one is a sticky xx

@HopingForRainbow2021 hope you enjoy your evening with baby on board too!! It's such a lovely feeling.

@MaggieMoo86 oh no - that sounds horrible. Try and relax if you can - you are ok and don't worry about the other car - that is what insurance is about.
The testing thing - well I am a none tester as you can see from my posts! . I did everything I could to stop myself ! I just couldn't do it. Put them away if you can til at least say 9 now.... you will only cause yourself upset and unnecessary stress which is 100% not what you need at the moment.
Big hugs xx

@2mumlife thank you :) I really hope that you're looking after yourself and indulging in whatever things you enjoy - plenty of chocolate, ice-cream and treats.

@Pingupp thinking of you, and really hope you get a clearer picture after your blood results - the not knowing what's going on is so hard.

@Bluemeadowbaby hehe, I like both! Thank you :) I am just being a lazy bum tonight, feet up and allowing DH to wait on me!

[quote 2mumlife]@Orsh I had a lot of cramping this cycle. Its still there even though I've stopped the progesterone now (waiting for AF)

@MaggieMoo86 I was told it should be comfortably full :)

@firefly37 Those little cells mean EVERYTHING when you're trying. How rude of her!

@HopingForRainbow2021 Good luck for transfer! Do you know why your lining degenerated on your fresh transfer? I'm so grateful we had 1 frostie so we didn't have to go straight back into EC. I found the whole EC experience awful last time - I stimmed for too few days, got way too few eggs, was an emotional and hormonal wreck and started AF just 4 days after the transfer. I just don't want to go through that again. DP and I are talking about whether we do a planned freeze-all given how badly the fresh transfer went and how much better the FET went.

I feel a bit like getting back on the train today - supplements ordered, diet planning again, even having a think about doing accupunture as its the only thing we've not tried at this point. I want to get the EC out the way over the summer whilst its much quieter work wise, so it means I've just got to get my head back in the game I guess.[/quote]
So sorry I missed this @2mumlife

They think my lining degenerated because of the shock to my system of stimming coming to an end. I don't think my lining is ever that great at the best of times, and this seemed to just kickstart degeneration. If I have to go through this again I think I would opt for freeze all and FET just to be able to concentrate on one thing at a time - stimulating ovaries for the cycle, and then concentrating on making a lovely lining during FET :) x

@MaggieMoo86 What a stressful day. Day 3 us far too early. I'm a "don't test" convert at the moment!

@HopingForRainbow2021 I've been trying to do non-foos nice things, as now on a mission for clean eating again as need to do another EC

This AF after chemical thing is horrible. Really stabby pains this evening and I normally don't really get cramp.

Also go my official outcome letter from clinic today. In which they said it was positive I "got pregnant" as this is a positive indicator for future cycles.

Yes the used the quotation marks around "got pregnant" because it was a chemical pregnancy. Bit of an "ouch" moment reading that...

@MaggieMoo86 this sounds like one of those days I'm sure you want to forget ASAP and I feel for you so much. A knock in the car is always a horrible time and more so with a negative test, but remember you are in one piece and 3dpt is way too early to test (I mean that so kindly...trying to put a positive umph in the moment 🥰💪🏼) everything is going to be okay lovely, tomorrow is a new day. One day away from a stressful day but one day closer to hopefully that bfp ❤️ x

Thank you everyone for well wishes and support xx
I've woken up feeling a bit "meh"... I think it's just been such an anxious stressful time, I may be on a bit of a downer... Hopefully I'll snap out of it soon! Wish I could get home sooner but my flight isn't until 9.30pm xx

Oh if anyone uses tiktok... Check out my "final FET" little video I did whilst bored last night! @sonict1980 xx

Morning ladies. Bloods back and levels are dropping so I just need to wait for my miscarriage to start. No idea what to expect as never had one before. Any advice? I think it has just hit me properly and it is really over. It's so shit. I think I was holding into some false hope that they would find baby T hiding all safe and sound.
Got my review meeting on 19th July so hopefully we can get going again soon although there was talk of getting the rest tested. Have any of you had your embabies tested? God knows how much more that will cost us.

Is it the weekend yet?!! X

@Pingupp So sorry to hear your news. I was much earlier than you, but I've just found AF was a slow starter, and having a lot more cramping than usual, so don't know if it might be the same for you? Never had our embryos tested, its hideously expensive (though cheaper I guess than the drugs for a FET, but not by much...)

@Pingupp I am so sorry you are going through this. It’s just so cruel. I had a miscarriage at 8 weeks last November, but I can’t really help in terms of what to expect. My body refused to let go and I ended up having surgical management. All I can say is that when I knew the pregnancy was over I felt the overwhelming need to get the physical side of it over to let me move on. Don’t be afraid to push for help if you need it - it’s awful just waiting. Thinking of you and sending love and strength x

Hi all,

I've not posted here before but hope you don't mind a latecomer. I'm doing this solo with a sperm donor so there's no-one to wait it out with me or to talk to. I had an FET on 20 June so I'm 9dp5dt. OTD is Thursday and I do a home test.

My transfer was a 4AA, but I've had two previous failed transfers that were both 5AA (one fresh, one FET) so I am not holding out much hope. All using eggs collected from two different cycles when I was 41, so it's probably my age that's the issue. I didn't test early after previous transfers and haven't tested this time, though getting tempted to test tomorrow which would be a day early.

I've had some period like cramps over the last couple of days which is making me nervous. Has anyone else had cramps this close to OTD? After previous transfers I thought I had some 'symptoms' but it must have just been pessaries, so this time I've been trying to ignore everything. The only thing I've really noticed is that my digestion seems off (lots of strange gurgling and rumbling!) and the cramps. I've been quite tired the last few days but that could be anything.

I want to hope for a BFP but the stats for my age and my previous experience tell me a BFN is far more likely and I'm trying to brace myself for another disappointment (not that you really can).

@lucymills1234 hi there - bless you. Do you have anyone else to support you? It's a hard road to go down. But this group of girls are very responsive so there is always someone about with some friendly advice :-)
So I had some period cramps mid way through mine and got a BFP. Try not to overthink what is going on as the meds made me feel well weird!!! And you can really start to overthink every twinge, pain, fart!
When are you going to test? Xx

@HopingForRainbow2021 thanks - I am prepared for it and want to over as quickly as possible now so that we can try again.
I am being kind to myself as it's so easy for bad thoughts to creep in.

@2mumlife we may give it one more go and then get them tested. Waiting for price list to come through!

Just popping in - still not planning to test early but ugh, the waiting!!!

@Pingupp all our embryos were PGD tested as we did ivf because my husband has a genetic health condition. It was NHS funded due to his genetic wonkiness, so can’t help on costs. It took ages but I think that’s because it was PGD (where they sequenced proteins on husband and father-in-law’s DNA then created a specific probe to test the embryos) - think it was about 5 months wait. However, I think less specific PGS might be quicker and cheaper.

@firefly37 I hope you're feeling a bit better now and that you have a safe journey home. I think it's natural to feel ups and downs at this stage - the progesterone doesn't help I don't think.

@Verbena87 when is test day??
I think we may go again and starting testing off at same time as a just in case - but does depend on cost of course..... x

Test day is the 6th so a week today. It feels a long way off but no way I want to test early as I already know implantation is possible so either result at this stage will just add to my mental load I think.

@Pingupp sorry to hear your news. I’ve had two miscarriages one at 13 weeks where I had medical management which didn’t work followed by surgery. 2nd was 7 weeks and I just started bleeding and didn’t need any medical intervention.

My advice would be make sure you have pads (big ones) a hot water bottle, painkillers, someone to provide sympathy and treats. Just to be prepared, you might not need it. My second miscarriage was actually not painful but I did bleed a lot.
Be kind to yourself and take time away from work if you need to.
Also I found that strangers in places like this are very supportive especially as I didn’t like to talk out loud about it.

@Mancbear88 thank you - good advice - appreciate that. Sorry you have already been through this too. Xxx

@Verbena87 you are doing well to hold off. Enjoy being pregnant and hopefully all will be ok on test day. Next time I will try and enjoy it a bit more and fret less if I can. Xx

Hi All,

Just wondered if I could jump onto your lovely thread? I’m 6dp5dt (FET) and going crazy! I was very fortunate to have a successful ICSI cycle and fresh transfer a few years ago and have been desperate for a sibling for my daughter. We had my last embryo transferred last week & they told me it was already degenerating after the thaw but not to worry (it was a bit late for that)! I don’t have any symptoms at the moment - so I’ve pretty much convinced myself already it hasn’t worked.

My clinic have said to test 14 days after transfer - but I know I could do it earlier (maybe day 10?) - I can’t decide what to do!

Sending you all loads of luck and positive wishes for BFPs!

I’ve tested this morning at 6dp5dt but I’d already written it off as I decided it hadn’t worked so when it didn’t come up immediately I went back to sleep. When I checked it 45 minutes later it had the faintest line.
I think it’s pink but 45 minutes is obviously too late to be sure it’s not an evaporation line so I need to check again tomorrow morning. 🤞

@Belle268 welcome I’m not the best for advice on this as I’ve already tested. But it’s not been too helpful! 14 days seems a lot longer than some people get given though I would think you’d get a result on a FRER at 10 days.

@Mancbear88 I definitely tested earlier than 14 days with my daughter. I think I’ll try and hang on for day 10 - but I can’t promise I won’t break in the mean time! I think I’m just nervous about the quality of the embryo and the fact it has cells which were dying. I was thinking what’s the point but it was my last frostie!

Going back to your test - Fingers crossed it wasn’t an evap line and just an early sign of a good BFP! Sending positive HCG vibes your way!