FET cycle buddies May/June

[Bluemeadowbaby]

Hi ☺️
Just starting up a little thread if anyone wants to join me on their FET journey for May/June. I've never had a FET cycle before and wondered if anyone was or is on their way with this journey to offer support and guidance x

Hello,

Just wanted to give you a little update after my blood test yesterday. Unfortunately it's as I suspected and my pregnancy has turned into a chemical. I am really sad obviously, but I think because of all my crazy testing I already suspected and so it was as of a shock, which is the one good thing.

I still have one frostie in the freezer so I will get back on the horse ASAP and hope my optimism as returned by that point. I feel a bit defeated at the moment x x

Thank you to you all for your messages and support, it was so helpful to me x

@StrongEagle I'm so sorry to read this I really am 😔 sending you big virtual hugs and hoping you are okay. Keep with us, we are still all here to support you x

Thanks all for the pessary tips. Will load up on party liners and hope for the best!

@StrongEagle I am so sorry. Do remember you don’t owe permanent positivity to anyone: hope you can find some quiet space for yourself to process and regroup. Xxx

@StrongEagle So sorry to hear your update. I know it'll be tough just now but the positive is you can get pregnant, now you just need a healthy little embryo. Best of luck for your next cycle, it's fantastic you have a frosty when you're ready X

@StrongEagle I am so sorry to read your update. I am so sad for you, going through this. This journey can be incredibly cruel. Take care of yourself, and look forward to the next steps when you're ready xx

Hi

I hope you don’t mind me joining, I’ve been lurking on/off a bit (trying to stay away from google/internet in general). But I can’t help myself - I’m so lonely going through this on my own! Only my sister and mum know I’m going through this.

I had ET on 4th June - 3rd attempt. I got BFP 5dp5dt, I tested on OTD 15th June and it’s still there.

Previous 2 transfers were perfect pgta-tested, but didn’t stick. This wasn’t and has stuck 🤷‍♀️.

My clinic don’t tell you exact grades, literally as they were lobbing it in the Dr gave me numbers 2-3 on a range of things. I didn’t take it in, but he stressed it was AVERAGE/LOW QUALITY embryo.

Now I’m driving myself crazy until scan, when I’ll be 7+5 😭. OVER 3 weeks from OTD to scan - 2.5 weeks to go! I don’t know how I’ll manage or if I’ll get there.

I’m on cyclest, lubion, prognovia and clexane. I take them everyday and wondering whether anything is growing in there.

Mild symptoms, no sickness which makes me wonder whether it’s the meds or my natural pregnancy. I’m finding it very hard .

I’m very pessimistic - before IVF I had recurrent miscarriage.

Anyway, got it all off my chest before a week of work ahead! I’m sleeping terribly!

Hope you don’t mind me crashing…..

@CurlyWurlyTwos There are lots of success stories with lower grades embryos. Stay positive your pregnant!

I'm not very hopeful for today's blood test. I'm out of FRER but did a clear blue digital and dye test. Digital is showing as "not pregnant". I swear I can see a very faint blue line if the dye test, but I think it'd all looking like I've had a chemical....

@StrongEagle oh I am really sorry to read this. I hope you can take some time to grieve this and come back with a plan. I will keep my fingers crossed for you lovely xxc

I’m sorry @2mumlife, its so tough when it doesn’t look hopeful.

Follow clinics orders, and see what they say. It’s all a long, horrible waiting game!

Have you any more to put in?

@2mumlife oh god- just read this now. How many days are you now?
Have you got to official test date?
I really hope the clear blue is wrong honey. Sending positive vibes your way xxx

@PingUpp Today is OTD. Just waiting on clinic carpark to be allowed in for blood test (since covid we have to wait in cars until we get text to say they are ready and we can go in)

@CurlyWurlyTwos This was our only frostie this put in this cycle. I've weed on every test in the house now

Thank you so so much everyone for your support, these forums have been so helpful for me x does anyone know how long it roughly takes for your period to come after you stop meds?

@2mumlife will you get your bloods back same day? I am really wishing good news for you xxx

@2mumlife good luck - keeping fingers crossed. Hope they come back today xx

@StrongEagle @Pingupp Bloods done now. Yes I will hear back today's but not until afternoon and nurse said I'd it's busy it can be after 4pm before I hear anything. Nurse was really nice about me having a bit of a cry and reassured if they do find HCG and its low I'll be back in for repeat bloods every other day until they know what way things are going

@2mumlife I am glad nurse was supportive.
Big hugs honey. 🙏 xxx

@2mumlife it makes such a difference when people understand and are supportive x my consultant didn't answer my call and sent my results in a text, I text him back with a question and he didn't read it and didn't reply. Fuming

@StrongEagle What a horrible way to handle a really emotionally tough situation! My clinic is by no means perfect, but test results have always been communicated through a phone call. They've never once even done it via voicemail if I've missed a call, they'll always make sure to call back so you have that personal one on one. Can't fault my nursing team at all - I've been at this awhile now so I've met them all I think now and they've always been empathetic

Nurse today was lovely. She said she wishes she was able to tell me just from looking at blood right then what the outcome was, and just said IVF is really tough and all these natural things like chemical pregnancy are picked up more often which makes it harder

Interestingly she also said a previous clinic she worked in used to get everyone with a negative on OTD in for a blood test just in case it was a false negative

Clinic just called. Blood hcg came back at 21 so a very low positive. Its probably a chemical pregnancy but having bloods checked again later this week to compare. So, limbo now while we wait and see.

@2mumlife as I never had the bloods - I am not clued up on what it should be.
I am really sorry for you. This is so unfair xx

@2mumlife sorry it’s not the news you wanted, and more waiting around to be sure is hard too. Really glad to hear the nurse was so fab but it’s still so hard. Xxx

@CurlyWurlyTwos welcome - sounds like you’ve had a rough road and I can’t imagine how lonely that must feel (I’ve told loads of people because I need the support and I STILL feel alone a bit), but fingers crossed your scan will bring good news.

I have had a bit of a day, severe panic attack at work and have come home early and slept most of the afternoon. Is this a thing with the progesterone? Feel so blooming anxious and knackered. Also wanting to weep a bit at the idea of emergency dentist tomorrow (had a very sore jaw last week, think maybe my wisdom teeth are up to no good), and transfer on Friday. Both just feel like so much effort.

@Pingupp I've been trying to look this up. It seems like anything under 50 is quite worrying. Could signal chemical, could signal ectopic, and very low chance of live birth.

@Verbena87 I've been really tired. Anxiety was through the roof today but I'm not blaming the progesterone for that!

@2mumlife are they able to do a scan in a few wks?? Do they just let things do their own thing til then?? This must be agonising for you xx

@2mumlife so sorry to hear about your blood result. I know it’s not much comfort just now, but the fact the embryo implanted is a good sign, as it means you can get pregnant. I have also had a few chemicals (3) so thoroughly researched HCG levels and found that they should ideally be around 100 and at least 80 on the day before your period is due (mine were 12, 70 and 49 for my 3 chemicals). Wishing you lots of strength, it’s a rough journey.