Transfer this week?

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Hi,

Is anyone else having or had a transfer this week? I need people to talk to during the TWW! x

@Goldilocks2528 thank you, I’m certainly feeling more positive.

So my clinic just arranged for a beta hcg for me as standard just after I got my BFP, so perhaps check with yours? My one today was also via my clinic. However last Thursday I found a private gp that did prenatal bloods near my office and it was £50 with same day results so depending on where you are that could be an option. It’s just a standard blood test x

Thanks @Ivfgottahope, it's not something the clinic have offered to do. I'll hit google to see if I can find anything near me.

Hi guys- it’s so nice to read good news on here :)

We had our beta on Monday (13 days post transfer) and got the result yesterday- it’s 143. We are both quite upset about it as our last transfer was 400 at this stage. We are so worried about a MC.
Our clinic don’t seem too bothered and just booked us in for a scan.
What do you all think?

@MaggieMoo86 I'm sorry that you are feeling worried. Hcg is a funny thing. My clinic put us all through what we call "Hcg hell" where they test us every 2-4 days until about 6 weeks or beyond. So we all have a lot of information on Hcg levels! There are plenty of women who have had lower Hcg levels and had successful pregnancies. I was chatting to someone the other day whose Hcg was 5 on test day and had a healthy baby. Another woman's was 57 and she also had a healthy baby. Often people will say the rate of increase is more important than the actual number - but even then there are plenty of women whose rates don't double normally but go on to have healthy babies. You could arrange more Hcg tests to check the doubling or you could just wait for a scan. I can totally understand feeling worried (and I have been there too) but there really is no way to know whether the pregnancy is healthy or not other than time. I know it is agonising. We will be here to support you in any way we can and fingers crossed all will be well x

@Goldilocks2528 good luck with your Hcg test too! It is always worth booking more than one so you can see the increase. But as I've just said to @MaggieMoo86 it is sometimes more worrying to know your Hcg than not. True if it decreases then you know it isn't good news but other than that, you really won't know more until you get to a scan.

Early pregnancy is such a worrying time for those of us who've been through IVF. We are just more aware of everything that could go wrong than other people. Fingers crossed all will be well x

@Goldilocks2528 we will have a follow up appointment in a couple of weeks but I doubt they would change much. It actually went pretty well given my age (44). I was pleased to get 5 eggs with 3 to transfer but at my age you expect most of them to be sadly non viable. So it's just a question of trying again to see if we get lucky!

We’ve had some bad news today. Beta has gone from 142 to 90. The clinic told us to go to our local early pregnancy unit tomorrow.
I just feel so devastated.

@MaggieMoo86 I'm so sorry. I have been there too and I know how devastating it feels. I wish there was something I could say to make it better but I know that for me personally it was just something I had to go through and there wasn't anything people could say or do to help. We will be here if you need us. Sending you so much love xxx

@MaggieMoo86 I’m so sorry. Sending you a lot of love and as @Janefx40 said we’re here if you need us xxx

Sad news my side today too, my bleeding increased so I went for a scan. One healthy embryo & heart beat detected however there was a second gestational sac that’s empty and the likely cause of the bleed. Terrified about what this means or what may need to be done as I’m guessing it can’t remain there. Avoiding doctor google until I’m seen next Thursday xxx

@Janefx40 sending more hugs and so much love.

@MaggieMoo86 oh no what a stressful time.

How did you get on at epu today? Be really kind to yourself and just do what you need to get through the next few days.

@Ivfgottahope crikey not at all what you expected. Gosh I hope you can get answers and know more next week. Take good care of yourself until next week. Take time off with if you need too. Xxxx

Thank you, yeah one worry has just translated into another. Very worried my body will self abort both. Just have to hope xx

@Ivfgottahope I'm so sorry you have yet more worry. I totally get why this would be terrifying. From what I understand it is relatively common and doesn't usually cause an issue for the other twin. I realise that won't reassure you because it must be such an anxious time. What did the doctors say at the scan? Sending lots of love xxx

@Janefx40 thank you, I’m beside myself. It’s just one thing after the next. It was one of those window to the womb jobs so it was solely a sonographer, he couldn’t give me any medical advice. I’ve contacted my clinic but it was at 6pm so they were shut. I guess at least I know the cause and I’m not driving myself mad with wondering what’s going on xx

@MaggieMoo86 I'm terribly sorry, that's so sad. I'm sending you love and hugs x

@Ivfgottahope I'm so sorry about the second twin too :( hoping your baby stays strong and you have good news soon x

I am so sorry @MaggieMoo86. I hope you have a good support system around you. Please take care of yourself and if you need to talk we are all here for you x

@Ivfgottahope oh goodness. The good news is that you have one healthy embryo but I am so sorry to read about it's twin. I can absolutely understand why you are so very worried. At least you now know why you have been bleeding.
Have you spoken to your clinic today? Sending you much love x

Thank you @Goldilocks2528 I’m booked into the EPU at hospital on Monday morning for a thorough exam. The bleeding has intensified today again though so I suspect it’s passing now. Either way, I’ll deal with whatever happens but at least now I know. Hope everything is progressing well for you? X

I have literally everything crossed that it's fine for you @Ivfgottahope (legs, fingers, even hair...). I hope the weekend goes past quickly for you so you get some answers xx

I'm ok thanks. Keep going from excited to super cautious and anxious. My other half keeps talking about getting a new car and names, and it's just too early for all that. I love that he is so excited, and he does understand that its still a very dangerous time (his ex. had an IVF miscarriage so he has lived through that in the past), but I feel like I need to try and protect myself by being a lot more conservative about it. I really want to be happy and excited but I feel like if there is no heartbeat when I have my 7 week scan, I'll be even more devastated if I allow myself to be happy/excited now. Hope that makes sense!

I’ve rushed to a&e now, I’m bleeding heavily and it’s red so it’s not going to positive so I’m signing off the internet for a while. My heart has just about shattered into a million pieces. Best of luck to you all with your journeys and thanks for your kindness over the last few weeks x

I'll be thinking of you and sending you lots of love @Ivfgottahope - wishing that it's not as it seems x

@Ivfgottahope I'm so sorry to read this. Hope you're ok. Sending lots of love. Totally understand about switching off from Mumsnet. But we are here if ever you want us x

@Ivfgottahope I am so so so sorry. Totally understand and like @Janefx40 has said, if you ever want to chat we are here. I am so sorry x

@Ivfgottahope so sorry to read this. thinking of you!
I have had my EC yesterday and today i was told 7 fertilised.
I guess being 41 i should be content with this number?
for me now its all about not getting my hopes up (first IVF) as i have only 20% chance of a live birth at first cycle at my age.
dont mean to sound negative, but this process can be very heartbreaking so i m trying to protect myself for disappointment.Any over 40ies on this thread?
@paitentlywaiting hope you are doing great!
xx

Hi @CyclingMumKent congratulations - IVF always feels like a numbers game but actually you only need one good embryo. We all do the same tho and feel better with higher numbers. I'm now 44 (eeek) but I started IVF at 40/41. Conceived my daughter from our second cycle at 41. That cycle we had 8 eggs, 5 fertilised, 1 made it to blastocyst and was frozen and 1 was a morula which we transferred as they didn't think it would make it to freezing and we wanted to give it a chance. That one is our 2 year old DD. It's lovely to be young but 41 isn't that old in IVF terms! 44 is madness but that's another story...

@Janefx40 thanks what a lovely story
If you dont mind me asking, did you transfer the other embryo or are you going through another EC?
Lots of love x

@CyclingMumKent I miscarried a singleton pregnancy from our frozen embryos (there were two - one from each cycle) last August. So now we are back to fresh cycles x