Transfer this week?

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Hi,

Is anyone else having or had a transfer this week? I need people to talk to during the TWW! x

@Goldilocks2528 wow!!!! This is amazing news to see this morning. Congratulations!!! So exciting. See - cramps are a good sign!!! Enjoy it xxx

Congratulations @Goldilocks2528 that's amazing and I'm so happy for you!

Unfortunately it was a BFN for us this morning... Obviously gutted but also not very surprised. We'll have to try again and hope for a better outcome.

Best of luck to everyone still waiting! x

@beachbum85 I'm so sorry. It's a horrible feeling even when you're expecting it. Take some time to process and be nice to yourself. I always think that IVF is ok...until it doesn't work...and then it is bloody shit. I've been there in various different ways. Sending lots of love xxx

Thank you @Janefx40 I appreciate that! Yes, in fact, I was thinking it wasn't as bad as I expected, but now it turned to shit... But we can't give up yet! Lots of love back and thank you for your encouraging words x

@Goldilocks2528 I’m so so pleased for you, hope you can relax a little now and try not to worry too much over the coming weeks.

I’d be lying if I said I’m great, I did one of my hpts - no issues. But I’m just sick of this whole effing process and the bleeding. I work near Harley street so went to a private doc today for another beta test. Should get the results shortly so hopefully that’ll help put my mind to rest. I just want to be one of those glowing ethereal earth mum types and it’s clearly not happening 😂

@beachbum85 I’m so sorry, sending you a big hug. This process certainly is so cruel when things don’t go to plan, really hope you’ve got good support around you to process it. Everything crossed for you next time around xx

I am so so sorry to read that @beachbum85. You mentioned trying again, any idea when you are able to do that? I hope it is fairly soon. In the meantime take care of yourself x

Thank you @Janefx40, you were right 🙂

@Ivfgottahope, don’t be too hard on yourself. IVF is a massively stressful process, and then when it works it is of course brilliant but the worry and the stress continues. This morning my other half told me to be prepared to worry constantly for at least the next 18 years (he has a child already so speaking from experience I guess).
I hope the results put your mind at rest a little bit x

@Ivfgottahope being pregnant post IVF is really hard even though that is difficult to admit especially to those who are still waiting for that elusive BFP. Last time round I started a thread called BFP post IVF or similar so we could all obsess together. It was quite helpful in a way but we possibly worried each other more!! Just make yourself comfy and ride it out. Hopefully all will be well x

I've formally stepped away from the pregnancy tests and feel so much better. It's a relief. I will test on Monday a day before my blood test. I'm still certain that I'm not pregnant but I am clearly hoping to be proved wrong.

Xxx

Hope tomorrow morning gives you a positive result @Janefx40 🤞🏽

Thanks for thinking of me @Ivfgottahope
I feel sick at the thought of doing the test - you've all been there so you understand. I've felt really disheartened all week about lack of cramps etc but suddenly felt crampy and shattered today so that gave me some hope.

Hope you're ok. How are you?

Xxx

Negative test here on a first response. Mostly just feeling tired currently. Not sure how long we can stay in this limbo.

Hope everything is going well with the rest of you

Xxx

@Janefx40
Sending you love. Gosh. It’s such a hard time. Hopefully you can do your clinic test soon and know either way. Xxxx

@Janefx40 still spotting every other day, it’s still brown but my second hcg on Friday was at a good level so again, lord only know what’s going on. I’d have thought if it was a MC it would have completed by now as it’s been a few weeks of this. I’m going to try and go into my clinic this week as it can’t be considered normal now and I switched my pessaries to the back route on Friday so they can’t be the cause of bleeding now. There’s evidently something up.

I’m so sorry to hear that about the HPT, hopefully as it’s early days it’s just not picked up and tomorrow will deliver some better news for you. How are you feeling?

I have everything crossed for you @Janefx40, hopefully it's just taking a bit of time to show on the hpt. Will you be able to get a blood test at your clinic, or will you test again tomorrow? Sending you a big hug x

I hope you get an appointment at the clinic this week @Ivfgottahope. I have read about people spotting a lot and it being fine. It would help if you could see them to check though, for peace of mind. Sending you lots of love too x

Thinking of you both @Ivfgottahope and @Janefx40. Hope you are doing ok x

Thanks ladies. Yes my negative result was confirmed by bloods today. I already knew because I had tested negative on a FRER 14 days post egg collection, so there was no way I was pregnant. I was relieved to have a clear negative as I wanted to avoid a chemical which I've had in the past.

I had a sad day yesterday but woke up today feeling more positive and relieved that I can take a break from the endless blood tests and injections (my clinic are super intense). If my period comes back ok, we should be ready to go again in 4-5 weeks.

@Ivfgottahope honestly spotting doesn't necessarily mean anything bad. Definitely check it out though because it is understandable to be worried. The thing I learnt when I had a miscarriage was that people can bleed heavily and not be miscarrying or not bleed at all (in my case) and miscarry. Baby loss and bleeding don't necessarily go together but it is only natural to be worried. I think we worry about everything being pregnant post IVF as I have said before. Let us know what they say

Xxx

@Ivfgottahope also depending on where you did IVF your clinic may not be that helpful. IVF clinics don't tend to be much help behind the process itself. You may need to be referred to your local Early Pregnancy Unit by your GP. They generally only see people from 6 weeks. Let us know what happens xxx

@Janefx40 I’m truly sorry to hear that, you’ve been so kind on here giving everyone lots of support and advice I was really hoping you got a positive result. It sounds like you’ve processed it really well, hopefully you’re period will come soon and the next few weeks will fly by.

I’ve got another hcg test tomorrow which I managed to get with my clinic so that should at least show whether things are progressing regardless of the bleeding. I asked for a progesterone test too which they refused bizarrely. I almost booked in for an early scan elsewhere as I hit the 6 week mark this Thursday but I think given my evident anxiety, I’m best avoiding that just in case a heartbeat isn’t detected yet due to it being so early. I just truly want it to stop, I’ve not been able to enjoy a single moment of this since the BFP and it’s the not knowing for me. If it’s an MC I just went to know so I can deal with it and then get back to initiating a fresh round when I’m ready. It’s this suspension in limbo that’s killing me and the over analysing every cramp and twinge X

@Ivfgottahope good that you have another Hcg test. Don't forget that Hcg slows down when it gets to a certain threshold - can't quite remember what that is now but worth checking out so you don't panic too much if it hasn't doubled as much as you hope.

If it helps, I was basically insane for much of my successful pregnancy. I was so anxious so I do understand. I just spent all day reading various online threads about pregnancy, Hcg, miscarriage and it was all that got me through.

At 6 weeks I felt more cramps than ever and freaked out. I went to my GP and just sobbed and sobbed. He was amazing actually (uncharacteristically). I remember saying "I just can't cope with the worry and I feel like I should be able to cope. He said "why should you be able to cope. Who could cope with this?". It made me feel so much better. He said he could refer me to the EPU for a scan but as it was early, I might not see a heartbeat and that could end up worrying me more. I said I wanted him to refer me because I didn't think I could be any more worried than I already was. I went and saw a heartbeat and just sobbed. I felt so relieved...for maybe 24 hours then the panic set in again. I was scanned at weeks 6,7,9,10,12,16 and 20 and then every 4 weeks until the end. With each scan I got gradually more relaxed. It was very gradual. It became easier once I could feel movement at about 18 weeks and by the end I was super happy and quite calm.

A very long story...

@Janefx40 I'm so sorry about your BFN - as you said yourself, it's terribly sad even when you're expecting it. I'm glad you're feeling OK and you can get started again pretty soon x

@Goldilocks2528 thank you x
The nurse has said that we have to wait for this bleed, 2 periods and then start again. I was on the long protocol this time which would mean end of June if it's the same next time, which is feeling REALLY far away. Now waiting for the review consultation where we'll talk about this.. always a waiting game :)

Thank you @Ivfgottahope - these days have really reminded me how great my partner is throughout all this, and our family/friends as well. Initially I was feeling quite upset that we both cannot keep our mouths shut and told so many people we were doing IVF, and then having to tell them it failed, but in the end we got so much support that I'm glad we did. It has really helped these last few days.
I'm sorry the spotting is getting in the way of you not enjoying this time. I hope the blood tests and eventually the scans confirm that everything is great x

Oh my goodness - I just had my beta hcg result back from the hospital. Despite the bleeding:

Last tues - 1681
Last Thursday - 3754
Today - 25129

@Ivfgottahope amazing!!!! There is nothing to worry about based on that level of Hcg. Hopefully you'll feel even more reassured once you get a scan in too. Do you feel better?

A little bit yes, as whatever is going on down there obviously isn’t affecting things. She said the bleeding can be my body’s reaction to the progesterone 🤷🏻‍♀️ Hopefully it’ll stop soon so I can adopt that ethereal glow people talk about 🤣

@Ivfgottahope
Wowzer!!!!!!!!!!!!! Supercalafradaliticexpialudocious news!

I don’t think they take my hcg levels at my clinic. I’m now waiting for a 7 weeks scan but time seems to be going VERY slowly!

Hi @Janefx40 I really am so sorry to read your message, I haven't been here for a day or so but I have been thinking about you. I hope you are doing ok. It is good news that you'll be able to start again very soon, and I wish you all the luck in the world for your next cycle. Do you know if your clinic will do anything differently next time around?

Hi @beachbum85, I know that seems like ages away, but I am sure the time will fly by. We will soon be in May, and every day is a day closer. I hope your review goes well and I wish you all the very best for your next cycle. I have everything crossed.

Ooh @Ivfgottahope, that's awesome news!! Things must be progressing well, and hopefully now you can relax a little bit. So chuffed that it's all ok!!!!

Does anybody know how I can go about getting a beta hcg blood test? I hate needles but I'm willing if it means I'll know for sure that I'm on the right track. My 7 week scan on 5 May seems like forever away at the moment. Cramps/pressure sensation which has been with me for ages now went yesterday, which freaked me out. Back a bit today, but it's just such a worry waiting to find out isn't it.