FET March/April

[PT8998]

Hi everyone,

Does anyone have any dates pencilled in for an FET during March/April? I have been given the dates of 30/03 for baseline scan and transfer the week of 12/04.

It would be great to see if there are many others on similar timelines?!

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@lucymills1234 that’s great news! Good luck for Friday!

@willithappen Congratulations!!!!!

I’m 7dp and having hot flushes since yesterday but also getting some major AF cramps and PMS emotions and really feel like my period is coming so pretty convinced it’s not worked. So scared to test and see the negative. Test day is Wednesday.

Hi, how is everyone this wet Wednesday?

@CLP20 did you take your test? Don't feel you have to say if you don't want to, but I was wondering how it went.

@willithappen have you tested again since Monday?

I don't know what's going on with me but I am really struggling today. I took progesterone suppositories yesterday but that's the only medication I'm on so I don't think it's a side-effect...

Can't put my finger on exactly how I feel or why, beyond a feeling of sort of sadness dragging me down. I am single and have been for quite a while but for some reason feel particularly alone this week. Maybe doesn't help that I found out an ex and his partner have just found out they're pregnant, and most of my friends don't even know I'm doing IVF so I don't have many people I can talk to.

I think I am just not feeling much joy in life right now (work is difficult, lots of IVF debts hanging over me, some issues with my house...) and that probably places even more pressure on the transfer to work, but then I don't want to get my hopes up as it may not work and on goes the mental spiral!

I wanted to go into Friday's transfer feeling relaxed and positive not anxious and depressed!! Anyone got any good tips to change my mindset pretty fast?

Sorry to go on a weird rant...

should say still using the cyclogest.. yesterday was just the first day

@lucymills1234 I tested with a digital on Tuesday which came back positive (wasn't the weeks one though) and then I tested with an FReR today but wasn't fmu, still a good positive and looks slightly darker so fingers crossed! Not gonna test again for another week though for otd.

I wish I could give you tips for transfer but i went In a complete wreck, actually had an anxiety attack while it was happening, blood pressure dropped and they had to monitor me before I could leave. I was sure that this would mean it wouldn't work because how worked up my body was!
I guess best advice is just to keep thinking of the final outcome. This is steps towards that and one of the final steps to getting that BFP. I walked out clinic thinking omg I have actually just done that, and felt quite proud of myself for getting through the entire IVF process. It's a lot and we should all be proud of ourselves for what we have to go through.

@lucymills1234 Thanks, sadly it was negative. I’m completely crushed and spent the day in tears. Now got to wait and see what the doctor says.

The only thing I have to say is I don’t think it really matters how you go in to your transfer. I went in so positive and excited with good vibes and look how that turned out. Just be kind to yourself.

@willithappen congratulations! That is a lovely line/progression!

@lucymills1234 good luck for Friday! I hope your feelings subside, I think with it being so important it has been bound to take it's toll on you! I think hearing that news will always be a bit of a kicker, especially as we are all having to go to the extra lengths to get pregnant. So don't beat yourself up!

@CLP20 I'm sorry, I am thinking of you!

@louloulemons @elsaesmeralda how are you both?

Thanks @willithappen and I hope the wait for OTD doesn't go too slowly... sorry to hear transfer was so rough for you.

@CLP20 I'm so sorry to hear that. I hope you can take a moment to collect your thoughts and feel the grief. It's so awful to get a negative test, I think part of the reason I feel weird is the thought of going through that again. Take care of yourself.

Thanks @PT8998 I hope I feel better soon as well! I'm struggling to see the wood for the trees at the moment. With my first round last year I had a fresh transfer so there was momentum from one stage to the next. This time has been stop/start because I wasn't expecting my March EC to be a freeze-all. I think I've probably had too much time to think about it because of that delay. Then the news from my ex was another blow, which I feel awful saying as obviously happy and lovely news for him!

Tomorrow is another day, right..?

@lucymills1234 how are you feeling today?

I had my OTD today - finally!!! I have been booked viability for my viability scan, only 19 days to go! 🤞🏼❤️

Hope everyone is well!

That's amazing @PT8998 I hope the days to your scan pass quickly and smoothly!

Thanks for asking - still feeling pretty out of sorts despite efforts to distract/cheer myself... I've got some quite involved work meetings this morning which really need my full brain but I'm distracted by the fact that I'll be getting a call from the clinic sometime about whether my best embryo thawed ok and when to go in for transfer.

On the one hand I'm glad transfer day is here, on the other once you get to this point you know it's the TWW ahead... and then the test which could either be the best news or the end of hope for this round...

How is everyone else doing?

I am five days out from otd, have my positive but honestly so scared of it not sticking and paranoid at every step. Especially today.
Managed not to test yet today though...
over analysing tests!

@willithappen everything crossed for you. Stay strong on the no testing policy!

Had my transfer this morning so joining you in the TWW...

@lucymills1234 congrats on being PUPO! I have everything crossed for you!
I went to rugby training the night of my transfer, doctor who did the transfer insisted on it and said it would help blood flow and make it better for implantation. Seems to have worked so far!
Go for a nice walk if you can :)

Thank you @willithappen I had to come back home after my transfer and get straight back to work, but planning a walk once I'm done :)

I didn't get any advice on the do's at my transfer, only the don'ts! So interesting to know they advised you to do your training.

@lucymills1234 he basically told me absolutely don't go home and just stay lying down and still. Do everything like you normally would and I mentioned I had rugby training that right and would it be wise and he said absolutely do it, he insisted. Seems weird to think as you feel like you need to just stay still and protect but activity is good for blood flow :)

Congrats on being PUPO @lucymills1234! Hope you’re feeling ok and the next few weeks until OTD go quickly for you

@willithappen I totally hear you. I think when we just want it so much and then suddenly it’s within reach, the thought of losing it again is terrifying.

I got the GP to check my HCG in the end. I must have done about £50 worth of tests and I was sick of squinting at them twice a day trying to work out if the line was any darker.

The lovely nurse from the clinic called today for my support call after OTD and she was just so kind and understanding. I felt so much better after a good cry down the phone!

Everything still all good with you lovely? @louloulemons

I know just so hard not to over thinking every detail and think something bad is away to happen. Gonna be a looong wait until getting to 12 weeks and even then I'm sure the anxiety is just as bad after

Hi all, it's gone pretty quiet on here which is because I guess most people have tested at this point?

@willithappen must be nearly test day for you? Hope you managed to enjoy the Bank Holiday despite testing being on your mind. I did go for a walk on Friday and have every day since. I never really know what's ok to do - I did a lot of gardening on Saturday but there was no heavy lifting or digging so assume that's ok. I was lugging a heavy hoover around on Sunday doing a fairly big clean and carried heavy shopping etc but I'd hope that wouldn't do any harm.

@louloulemons glad that your clinic was so supportive. No one can make it stop feeling crap but speaking to someone who understands the intense process you've been through definitely helps.

Counting down the days through my TWW. I've had a stomach twinge here and there but convinced I'm being over sensitive to everything and it's probably just digestion! No spotting or anything, though I know you can't really read anything into 'symptoms' anyway.

Various info I've read says implantation starts 48-72 hours after transfer which I guess means this round has already either worked or not by now...! Just have to wait until OTD to find out.

Hi! I can’t even remember if I have commented on this thread before. 🙈my head is all over the place and I am following a few infertility threads.

Congrats on the BFPs. Lovely news.

@lucymills1234 I had my transfer the day before you, with a 6 day embryo. It was quite low grade, so not full of hope, but have been feeling things here and there. When is you OTD? Mine is this Saturday.

Hi @BeHereNowx32 not sure I have seen you here before but my brain is a sieve at the moment so welcome / welcome back!

My FET was a 5AA, the best out of my second fresh IVF cycle (which had to be a freeze-all). But I had a 5AA fresh transfer last year and got a BFN so grades are really not everything.

Your OTD is coming up quickly! Mine isn't until next Tuesday for whatever reason. Guessing it's not just that my clinic want to torture me! Loads of luck to you, hopefully the things you've been feeling are pointing in a good positive direction - keep us posted!

Thank you @lucymills1234 do your clinic do HPT or blood test? I am getting a blood test, which is why it could be sooner?

The symptoms I had earlier have gone now, so they were probably nothing! 😅 good luck to you too x

@lucymills1234 official test date is tomorrow! It feels like it's taken forever, and especially because I tested at 6 days past lol. So tomorrow I'm 15dp5dt so my clinic make us wait a loooong time lol
I tested today with a digital and it's moved quickly on to 3+ already so I'm happy with that!
I'm going to do a digi tomorrow as well and then phone clinic and then put the tests away so I don't drive myself insane 😂

Was good to know at 6dp5dt but it's also meant this last week of knowing I'm pregnant has felt like 9 months already! Be another two week wait for me for getting my scan!

@BeHereNowx32 ah, mine is a HPT which might be why. I'll use a FRER. How are you distracting yourself during the wait to test?

@willithappen bet you can't wait for tomorrow so it's finally 'official'! It's amazing you got a result as early as 6 days and todays test has progressed already. Do your clinic scan at 6 weeks?

I don't plan on testing early because I think if it was positive I'd doubt it and if negative I'd hold onto hope - either way I'm not sure it would be good for me... I'm fearing test day, because of the devastation of my last BFN. It's that catch 22 of you want to test if it's good news but if it's bad it extinguishes all the hope you'd been clinging to.

@lucymills1234 well I was feeling confident but I spotted some very light pink in my pants earlier today. Nothing when I wipe but definitely there so obviously I'm back to thinking the worst and heartbroken

@willithappen everything crossed for you - if it's only a little bit of spotting then I really don't think you're out but I know that nothing I say will reassure you like no more spotting will!

You've had a positive test today so keep remembering that... you've got every reason to keep thinking you're going to still be positive for OTD tomorrow. Keep us posted and take care of yourself whilst you wait

Everything's good so far thanks @willithappen! As far as I know anyway! I made it to OTD last week so now it's just the lovely waiting game for viability scan.

I know any spotting will always cause panic but from what I hear, it's really common for IVF pregnancies, and I've had some myself which turned out to be fine, so @lucymills1234 is right, keeping everything crossed for you that you'll be celebrating tomorrow's OTD! I tested the same time as you, and I know what you mean, it's a long old wait between 6DPT and OTD so well done on making it through, it's a real headfuck!!!!

Hang on in there @lucymills1234! I am in awe of your willpower, you're doing so well!!