FET March/April

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Hi everyone,

Does anyone have any dates pencilled in for an FET during March/April? I have been given the dates of 30/03 for baseline scan and transfer the week of 12/04.

It would be great to see if there are many others on similar timelines?!

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I wonder how many people actually wee on the consultant. It’s a genuine fear of mine!

I definitely echo what others are saying about not drinking too much, a large glass 30 min before was fine for me with transfer 1.
I am ready for my transfer tomorrow at 1pm and feeling nervous that the embryo won’t survive the thaw as it’s our second and last embryo from cycle 1, so we will have to do a whole new cycle if this fails. I’ve had acupuncture today and am trying to relax. Tomorrow I plan to rest as much as possible but maybe do a gentle walk.

Gosh I had a terrible experience at my transfer. I was drinking water slowly as I have such a small bladder and then the nurse and my partner started telling me to drink more and more. The doctor was 30 mins late. He let me empty my bladder a little before the procedure but afterwards I was in agony and I tried to wait the full 20 mins on my back per his instructions... I sent my partner to wait in the car. I was so distressed afterwards because I though the straining would have been bad for the transfer but I guess it had no impact. Just wish I was more comfortable so I could have enjoyed the process more instead of trying not to pee on everyone

I have a question - I am on pessaries - do I still insert them before transfer? Or will they get in the way? Did anyone else get told not to or to put them up the other entrance? Worried now.

@BambiOnIce80 yes I read laughter helps ! Strange isn't it but worth a shot 👍🏻👍🏻 9 days should hopefully fly by for you, think I have to wait 16 days 🤣 so not going to happen. I also have a hair appointment booked for exactly two weeks after transfer so I'd like to know the result before that really as I'm para about the bleach lol.

I'm going to have a wee before I leave the house, luckily clinic is only 5 mins away from us. Then I'll drink a 500ml of water when I get there and that should do me, I just know I won't be able to hold any longer otherwise.
I've also wondered how many consultants have been wee'd on, part of the job description and everything 🤣

@Gensola I've been told to still have the morning one ! Check with your clinic though

@Gensola I was told to take it as normal before transfer. They wash the pessary gunk out before they do the transfer. Good luck and thinking of you today 🍀🍀🍀

@elsaesmeralda 16 days?!?! 🤯 🤯 🤯 What kind of fresh hell are your clinic trying to inflict on you?!?!😮 I don't test before OTD, but I can safely say I would if I were with your clinic! I'm glad you've got a 'don't pee on the consultant' plan in place 💪 I hear you about the roots issue - my hairdresser rang up as soon they were told they were allowed to open and wanted to book me in for the 17th, which has worked out as being OTD. I decided that I'm leaving it for now and waiting to find out what the result is. If it's a BFN I'll ring up and book an appointment, but if it's a BFP I'm going to leave it for a while... my roots are horrific though 😞

Embryo on board - it had defrosted perfectly but was only just showing signs of re-expanding so not sure if that’s a bad sign? My lining was 14.3mm up from 7.1 last week - I think acupuncture has worked wonders there.
OTD is 20th. Now we wait!

@BambiOnIce80 I know it's ages isn't it but I know it's for an accurate result, I guess it saves unnecessary stressing but still I'll be stressing regardless !
Exactly same here! I really don't mind my hair looking a state for a few more weeks if I get a bfp it's all worth it to me !

@Gensola ahh, good luck!! How was the transfer ? Wow what a jump for your lining !

I keep having what feels like slight period pains and it's worrying me! Hoping it's just the progynova !

Out of interest what dosage is everyone on for progesterone pessaries ? I'm due to start them tomorrow and my dosage is 800mg a day. So two 200mg tabs in the morning and two in the evening, does this seem high or is it standard ?

@elsaesmeralda my dosage is also 800 but each of mine are 400 so it’s one in the morning and one in the evening.

Congratulations on being PUPO @Gensola and fingers crossed the embryo is getting snuggled in! Excellent work on the lining!!!!

Lining scan went well today and I’m booked in for Friday. Had to make an on the spot decision about whether to transfer one or two! Wasn’t expecting to be asked that! Sad that DH still isn’t allowed in for transfer. Hoped he might be this time.

I had my hair booked for a week after transfer but you’ve all got me thinking maybe I should move it! Roots are absolutely awful, haven’t been able to get them done since August. Do you think it’s a risk?

@elsaesmeralda I'm on 200mg utrogestan every 8 hours/3 times a day. I had some weird flutters once I started it, which settled down pretty quickly. It could well be progesterone causing the cramping. Not sure if my dose is normal or low 🤔

Great news that everything went smoothly with transfer @Gensola 😊 I've actually spent my morning reading papers about re-expanding embryos and clinical outcome! 🤓 My embryo hadn't fully re-expanded on my last (first) FET and that ended up as a CP, so I jumped to the conclusion that it must be a bad thing but couldn't work out why the medical staff weren't arsed about it! 🤷🏻‍♀️ My embryo hadn't fully re-expanded yesterday either and, yet again, the medical staff weren't arsed and didn't have time to answer questions about it. The papers I read this morning looked at FET's that had taken place with embryo's that were still collapsed, partially re-expanded, fully expanded and hatching, that were transferred at 3 hours, 5 hours.

It concluded that there was absolutely no statistical significance in outcome between transferring collapsed, partially re-expanded, expanded or hatching embryo's, so that's blown my CP theory out of the water! 😂 Pleased it has, to be honest 🙂 It concluded that if the morphological grading of the fresh embryo's categorised them as viable for freezing, then that was all that mattered. My transfer yesterday took place an hour and a half after it had been defrosted and I read in a separate article that it normally takes about 4 hours for the embryo to fully re-expand (so it wasn't likely for my transfer). Also read that the embryo usually fairs better if they transfer it ASAP, which is why clinics don't defrost them the night before to see if they fully re-expand/hatch or not. Makes sense now. I'm for once glad that I googled because it's actually helped calm me down instead of freaked me out! 😄

@BambiOnIce80 thanks so much for that you have made me feel so much better! My last transfer (also my first FET) failed with a top quality hatching blast, so when she said it was “only just starting to expand” I was a bit
When is your OTD? I am not sure how I’m making it to the 20th!!

I cross-posted with you @louloulemons - sorry! 🤦🏻‍♀️ Very glad your lining scan went well and you're booked for transfer 💪

The only reason I'm avoiding getting my roots done for now is that the NHS guidance is to wait until after 12 weeks (it's a bit wishy-washy about how it came up with that number, but that's what it says). There's some evidence that the chemicals in hair dye did damage to animal embryo's in several large studies, so I guess that's why they say to be on the safe side and wait until after 12 weeks when the baby is no longer technically an embryo. I know loads of people that didn't wait to 12 weeks and have had healthy babies, but I know I'd always be wondering "what if" if I have another miscarriage after getting my roots done. I had them done at 7+4 weeks of my pregnancy that ended in MMC and I'm sure having my roots done was bugger all to do with it, but I still want to minimise the risk (but the MMC has made me more than a bit paranoid/crazy 🤪).

I'm on a cross-posting roll @Gensola! 😂 My face was 🤨 on both occasions that they said it hadn't fully re-expanded, so that's why I couldn't help looking it up this morning (despite the danger that I might have found something out that I didn't like!). Glad I could help 😊

My clinic do a beta hCG blood test at 9dp5dt, so that makes it next Saturday (I feel really lucky that they crack on and put us out of our misery pretty quickly). Have you got plans to keep yourself distracted?

@BambiOnIce80 we are going to Dorset for the week, so by the time we are back from there it will be getting close to OTD so I can hopefully hang on. What I find hard is thinking is it in there? Is it still alive? Is it implanting? I can’t turn the questions off!
I had a bit of brown spotting today, probably from the procedure itself as she really had to jam the catheter in. Ouch!

Oooh @Gensola, that sounds like a very lovely plan indeed! 😊 Excellent distraction tactic! I feel you on the speculum/catheter discomfort 😏 I've not had any spotting, but a little bit of tightening that I'm chalking up as being due to that.

It's really, really hard but I'm trying my best to try and not think about it (and failing miserably! 😂). Doesn't help that the middle of the night progesterone insomnia has kicked in now 😕 At least I've gotten the week off from work and can snooze during the day if I need to 😴 I hope you have a lovely time in Dorset 😎 Have things started opening up down there or is it a 'change of scene' kind of break?

@BambiOnIce80 we are just going to a little self catering airbnb and aiming for lots of beach walks, takeaway coffee/outdoor lunch and reading by the fire. What I really need is someone to block me from googling FET threads on the internet! I think I’ve read them all going back to 2004!!
I have a hair appt on 17th as well which is before OTD and I didn’t realise hair dye was an issue so now think maybe I should cancel, but god my roots are awful.

@Gensola that sounds like a nice change of scene 💆🏻‍♀️ It also sounds like you need someone to cut you off! 😂 Could you lock your phone in the boot of the car or something?! I've set myself a rule that I'm only allowed to check the thread if I get a notification through that someone's posted, otherwise I'm going to be going down the rabbit hole like your good self! 🐰

My roots are absolutely horrific - it pained me to say no (for now) to the appointment they were offering me! 😭 I think I'm just overly paranoid after the MMC and wouldn't have given it a second thought if fate had been kinder to me and that pregnancy had been successful. Here's the link to what the NHS has to say about it:

www.nhs.uk/common-health-questions/pregnancy/is-it-safe-to-use-hair-dye-when-i-am-pregnant-or-breastfeeding/#:~:text=Most%20research%2C%20although%20limited%2C%20shows,to%20when%20colouring%20her%20hair.

It's annoying because saying "most women wait until after 12 weeks" isn't the same as advising that women wait until after 12 weeks... do they not understand how neurotic I can women can be after years of infertility?! 🤨🤪

Well I've started the pessaries, they're lovely little things aren't they ! 🧐

How's everyone getting on?

@Gensola I love Dorset ! Hope you enjoy it and hopefully will help take your mind off things. I know I'm going to be the same wondering what's going on in there !

@louloulemons Glad you're all booked in 👍🏻 my partner still isn't allowed in for anything either !

@BambiOnIce80 How're you doing ?

@elsaesmeralda how are you finding them?
I have my lining check scan on Wednesday and I'm hoping I'm sent away with the pessaries 🤞🏻

Aren't they just @elsaesmeralda! 🩲😳😜 I can safely say that the upside of a BFN would be being able to stop them and not have to keep putting up with their junk until 10+0!

I'm feeling pretty good (surprisingly! 😂) thanks 😊 It's making me think the extreme anxiety pre-transfer was maybe just the progesterone enhancing all my worries about getting covid/lining problems/thaw failure 🤔 The only annoyance so far has been last nights interrupted sleep, but hoping that's a good sign 🤞 Knowing my luck it'll probably just be something to do with the progesterone though 😏 How are you feeling on it?

@Gensola Great news you now have an embryo on board! Hope you can relax in Dorset.

@louloulemons Did your transfer end up being booked for your birthday?

@BambiOnIce80 love the research!! If you find anything else interesting like that please post it!

Will do @CLP20 👍 Science is my day job and it's sometimes difficult to switch off, but at least it's occasionally helpful too! 🤓

Sending you positive vibes for your scan today @paitentlywaiting 💓

I'm glad you're feeling better @BambiOnIce80 yes the pessaries are delightful 🤣 everytime I put one in I'm like eugh !

I'm feeling so so nervous for transfer, not really the transfer itself but obviously if it sticks! This is such a rollercoaster of emotions isn't it

@paitentlywaiting sending lots of luck for your scan today 💕

@paitentlywaiting good luck for your scan today
DCat decided to punish us for locking him in (he usually goes out at night via his cat flap, but we had to take him to the cattery today so we can go to Dorset) by doing a poo on the upstairs hall carpet (brand new, cream), a poo sick and wee on the bath mat (new, pale blue), a sick on my peloton mat, a sick on the bedroom carpet (also new, cream) and a massive wee on the kitchen floor.
I feel very sick but pretty sure it’s to do with that and not a symptom! Little brat!
I’ve been reading timetables post FET and think that implantation should be starting today if it’s going to happen. Trying to stay calm and positive and keep thoughts of work and stress at bay.