Sept IVF/FET Part 3

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Keep talking! xx

@AutumnHoping i am so so sorry for your clinic. I think that is standard practise as they schedule a follow up at about 6 weeks and then discuss next plans (are you with NHS?).I hope you are doing well. Take this time to maybe recover and get yourself fit for the next one? I am frustrated with my clinic so i am Looking to start a new cycle with another and then go back and do the frostie.

@poupou gosh I’m so sorry that must have been awful, it really makes me feel that I would never announce my pregnancy on social media etc because I would never want to make people feel the way it makes me feel when I see announcements! No AF hasn’t shown yet, I think they say 2-7days after you stop the medication don’t they?

@AutumnHoping that’s really horrible that still haven’t acknowledged it, you should definitely mention something to them! I submitted the result through my portal yesterday and they did email back straight away just to say Sorry it wasn’t successful and to contact my hub clinic to also let them know the result, I haven’t got round to doing it yet, I’ve accepted the negative and want to move on so I don’t want to call them, think I’ll brave it tomorrow!

@poupou aw that’s horrible. It’s like a dagger in the heart hearing others good news. No I’m private. It doesn’t seem too common as most on here have at least had discussions with their clinics - I spoke to a receptionist. Not what I expect from private tbf. To not even comment on my failed cycle too just seems so so poor.

I hope next time is positive for us all!

Exactly @LKSF. Nothing. No response to my portal message. And had a receptionist call me to book in the review. No mention of it.
My husband called after to give off and requested a call back from a consultant. They told him to send a message using the portal. That was Monday. No response. At this point I’m more angry at their lack of communication and compassion than the negative result.

@AutumnHoping that’s honestly so awfull, makes me angry how they could do that! 😤

Thanks @LKSF. Glad I’m not over reacting haha.

@AutumnHoping ohhh honey! w..! This is so unprofessional. I am also not happy with the clinic that i am now and looking for a new but its so much hassle and all the tests that i need to do again. I hope you will Get some answers soon sweetie and they will Schedule your next fet soon.

@poupou thanks. I’d like to change clinic but I don’t have many options unless I want to travel overseas which I’d prefer not to have that hassle. I seem to need more monitoring than the ‘norm’ so don’t think it would be too practical - believe me I’d love to tell them I’m done with them! You seem to have a good plan. Such a pain getting tests redone but prob better in the long run. Even for your own peace of mind. I hope it works out for you x

@AutumnHoping thank you and i hope everything works out for you as well!
I also looked for abroad and some clinics have fantastic success and very personalised approaches. I am worried as well about the monitoring as i also need more! And work wise i can not leave for 3 weeks. So not sure. I will have to decide soon and book further consultations here, but as soon as AF arrives i am doing all the tests to be ready for maybe december time.

So it’s not good or bad news. There were 2 sacs but one doesn’t have a heartbeat and the other is bradycardic (slow heart rate) so they need to re scan me next week. They are both measuring at the correct size for 6 weeks with fetal poles. I’m really concerned about the slow heart rate and just hope one makes 🤞 I’m not feeling hopeful the other twin will catch up ☹️ Had a good cry during the scan but feeling a little better now I’ve had time to digest it. From what I’m really a slow heart rate isn’t a good sign. Sending love to everyone this is so damn hard ☹️ Xx

@JandL2020 oh I'm sorry, not surprised you had a cry! From what I've read it seems positive that measurements are right for dates? Keeping my fingers crossed for good news next week, look after yourself as much as you can tonight x

@Eggling a slow heart rate isn’t a good sign from what I’ve read :( xx

I understand it's really worrying, I've read some things that suggest it could go either way though, particularly if growth is on track. It's so hard isn't it, so much is completely out of our control. X

Sorry it wasn’t great news @JandL2020. you think when you get your BFP this is all over and the excitement begins but it really doesn’t 😢 take each hurdle as they come and keep positive for your next scan x

@Eggling @LKSF thank you. Will try and stay off Dr google and try and stay positive. I’m very tearful now 😢 xx

@JandL2020 I’m so sorry your in limbo for another week, try to stay positive and stay away from google, it’s the enemy (I wish I can take my own advice) I’m keeping everything crossed that little heartbeat picks up xx

Hi all - it's taken me a while to find this group, I think I probably commented on the first version and there has certainly been a lot of activity since! I think I'm all caught up! Reading all your comments really does hit home that this is a complete rollercoaster of emotions - sending love and best wishes to you all.
I got a BFP on Sunday and the initial delight has faded to anxiety - first scan next Thursday. This is my first BFP since my daughter (conceived naturally - she's now 6.5) and I just feel emotionally so different to then - I guess it's to be expected after such a process to get to this stage x

@JandL2020 I am sorry you have another week of uncertainty. My understanding (and I have done a lot of Google research) that at 6 weeks it is hit or miss if they see a heart beat. I hope you can stay as calm as possible and get more good and certain news next week.

@LJM83 congratulations! I think it is completely normal to feel very different when you have had such a difficult journey. I am not sure if the anxiety really goes!

I had my scan yesterday and measured at exactly 8 weeks with a heart beat. I suddenly feel like I can start to believe this might actually be happening! I have not even taken a pregnancy test this morning, but have looked obsessively at my little video of the heart beat!

@UnicornPuff thank you. Fab news on your scan 😊 xx

@UnicornPuff thanks for your comment - I have a friend who told me she is pregnant (a week ahead of me) and I envy her excitement about it all. Anyway, I really do appreciate how lucky I am to be in this position.

Great news about your scan 😍 x

Wish me luck guys 😭 my scan is tomorrow! I was measuring behind with a low Fetal heart rate and a SCH . Things don’t look good and I think i already know the same out come 😭😭😭😭

@LJM83 congratulations on your bfp! Yes the anxiety is horrible, your scan is soon though, how many weeks will you be? I do think things are different for those of us who have had to go through infertility treatment. I remember saying to a friend a few months ago that I feel robbed of what should be a happy and exciting time, that I wouldn't have that joy at finding out I'm pregnant. She said "oh of course you will" - it's impossible for those who haven't been through it to understand.

@UnicornPuff congratulations!! So glad to hear little bean is doing well.

@Heidi37 best of luck tomorrow.

5 days until my scan and I'm losing the plot tbh. I'm having cramping a few times a day that feels like period cramping which is really scaring me. Still no sickness or anything, just big (not sore) boobs. I'm so scared something will have gone wrong, I was at such a low point earlier this year and I'm scared of being back there again. Also googling far too much. This waiting is horrible.

@Eggling thanks for your message. I'll be 6 weeks when I have my first scan (next Thursday) on instruction of my clinic - now I'm worrying that's too early and they won't be able to see anything and that will send me over the edge! Argh!

Maybe we should make a pact to stop googling until our scans - it might do us both some good! Sometimes I can rationalize and think the odds are in my favour but then I think how complicated everything is that is going on inside and am just more aware of what can go wrong.

I have period type pains and felt nauseous yesterday for a short time, but nothing major - nothing like what I had with my DD but perhaps I was further along when I started to feel sick all the time with sore boobs.....who knows! 🤷🏻‍♀️ x

@LJM83 yea I promise to try and stop googling! It really does no good. I'm sure your clinic know what to look for if they've asked you to go in then. It's so hard but I guess we have to trust their expertise.

I was saying to DH last night that one thing I think is messing with my head is that the odds have been stacked against us until now and I still feel like they are. All being well I hope that that will change but who knows 🤷‍♀️ just got to sit tight and hope for now I guess!