Sept IVF/FET Part 2

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For more chat!

@AutumnHoping fingers and toes crossed for you. Rest up during TWW xx

Thanks everyone! So nice to be the other side now oh @JenniferRo28 so close. At the minute it doesn’t seem so far away - I’m looking at it as beginning of October and we are now nearly at the end of September which seems less that the TWW lol x

Hey ladies, can I rejoin please 🤞🏻😬🥰
I've tried to read through & it seems loads of congrats are in order!
@JandL2020 😘🤗congrats! @thefishthatcouldwish 🎈🎁 @Alexm06 that looks positive! Congrats 🎉🎊I've probably missed loads I'm sorry

So I stopped on here because I got to my womb scan and it was 5-6mm the week before FET was meant to be (so should have been 7mm) and then I started bleeding. Full on bleeding, was told if it continued I was likely going to be abandoned. So I stepped away.
However, I was told to keep going on my estrogen (at that point 2mg 5 times a day) & to keep my scan appointment this week to just see them have bloods this weds & a scan & decide but after 2.5days bleeding it would likely be abandoned as was proper AF at day 14.

Scan this weds though showed a lining of 7.9mm, which I've never had before. Even on my last FET (which was put back twice due to thin lining & went ahead at about 7mm) I got a BFP but had to have a medicated miscarriage at 7weeks. Bloods were all ok.

After talking & discussing the bleeding they had no idea why, they said the estrogen should stop bleeding but my lining looked good & they were happy to go ahead next week with FET if we were, especially as my lining has never been that thick. I said yes. The nurse then went back to the consultant & 10 mins later came back & said actually they had decided they felt it wasn't the right thing, and they couldn't fully see the quality of my lining & didn't know what stage of my cycle I am so they would rather abandon, wait for another AF, start northisterone on day 21 again & fully manage the cycle again with downregulation & hope we get my lining to that point.

I left in tears & confused what had changed in 10 mins with no different information.

I drove to DHs & my work & debriefed on the way back & both of us were so deflated. We didn't want to wait another 2 months - our lives are really stressful right now & we saw light at the end of the tunnel.

So I asked for a call back to discuss why the decision changed
The clinic called back & asked if we were asking if we wanted to continue - we did.

They said we could but it was not their advice, but honestly I don't think we are in the right place atm & need some closure as opposed to worrying if my lining might not get there next time & going in negatively or worse- what if we can't continue cos of hiding away from Covid fir another 2 months??

So yeah....now it's progesterone bloods Monday, Covid test then too & transfer weds!

We feel its the right thing to do 🤞🏻but no idea really. We have 2 frozen embryos left

@Minster2012 ahhh I had been wondering how you were getting on! Good news then bad news then good news, gosh you've been through it. I can only imagine the stress. I'm sorry your clinic was like that with you. But how exciting for Wednesday, I'm so happy for you 😍 x

Thank you @ivfjourney5 & I meant I think we are at the right place now to see it through & get closure either way 🙈🙄 I hate northisterone & DH & I think that stopping now would be "for not a good enough reason" really when they said yes continue to start with so yeah we'd rather roll the dice now we've got this far. Otherwise it will have been since last nov we will have been started, meds, BFP, miscarriage then waiting, then meds again then waiting then meds so we'd rather get on!

Hi @Minster2012. Oh wow what a rollercoaster. Great on the lining and good for you for putting your foot down. As I mentioned before (I think) surely it could never have been AF at day 14. Maybe just some unexplained bleeding. I have cervical eruption and often bled quite heavy for no apparent reason or after an internal - obv I don’t know the reason for yours - but often it is nothing so I hope all goes well for you next week x

@Minster2012 I’m sorry you’ve had such a rough time 💜. How horrible to be on again off again on again off again etc, it’s cruel. I had some bleeding before ET too, they said they were going to abandon cycle but I declined, they then went on to examine my cervix and also found an ectropion which was causing some bleeding by being fussed with so much. So ET went ahead again. I know everyone is different but you never know. Good luck for Wednesday xx

Ahh thank you @AutumnHoping & @Fightingtobepositive that's good to know (if you see star I mean!) that others have had bleeding and continued! Where are you guys at in your journeys? Anyone had bleeding & got BFP? 🤞🏻😬

We are hoping that seeing as a good lining is a pretty big factor it's better to go with a good lining this time the week before & hope it means it's not getting ready to bleed next week 🤞🏻

@Minster2012 I’m 5dp5dt and to be honest, I feel no different at all. So trying not to get my hopes up all though we are still hoping and praying 🤞🤞🤞 I also have endometriosis so I guess the odds may be against me anyway. But your transfer is booked so stay positive ☺️

I dint think it means anything @Fightingtobepositive, I got my BFP in feb & felt nothing!

@Minster2012 what a rollercoaster ☹️ I would do the same in your position. Hope it all works out for you. Will they transfer 2?

@Fightingtobepositive I didn’t really feel anything, other than just tired coming back from walk afternoon then later that evening eating a Chinese felt so full up and bloated.
By day 7 though I got painful cramps which I’m guessing must have been implantation. I never really suffered from ovulation pain or painful periods so this felt like something else to me. Everyone is different though.

Good luck to everyone today testing xx

@Minster2012 sorry you’ve been on such a rollercoaster 😩 I’m glad you got the outcome you wanted though and transfer is going ahead!

So I’ve just been for my scan and lining is 8.1mm so I just made the cut as my clinic won’t send you for transfer unless it’s over 8 😅 just waiting for a call to see what date next week my transfer is! 😬

@Minster2012 what a difficult time you have had.

@Minster2012 crikey what a journey! So glad that they've agreed you can proceed, wishing you luck for next week.

@LKSF good news for you too!

I'm 6dp5dt today and feeling a bit impatient. My pg tests arrived yesterday and it's taking a lot of willpower to hold out til next Wednesday. Not feeling much different, a bit tired and nauseous but that's probably the progesterone. I've got so many things to get on with (our house is on the market) but they involve lifting and moving stuff which I'm obviously not going to do, I would just like to know either way so I can either crack on or ask for help. We've not told a soul irl so you all get my angst instead!

Thanks for sharing ladies, hearing others experience does give a little hope ☺️

So what’s everyone eating? I’ve been really good up until last night when I had Indian 🙈 and now DP wants to go for food (where I literally don’t have it in me to not choose the healthiest option)
Please help!!!! What’s everyone been binging on?

@Minster2012 welcome back 😊 so glad your getting to go ahead with transfer x

@Fightingtobepositive so my diet hasn’t changed at all, I eat healthy mon-fri then pretty much have whatever I want at the weekends, I’m going to my fav tapas restaurant tomorrow night and plan to stuff my face. I’ve been drooling over the online menu this morning. Cut yourself some slack and enjoy x

@Minster2012 wow what a time you've had of it, I really hope this time is straightforward and positive for you!

@LKSF how exciting!! Soon you'll be PUPO!

@Rumtopf I feel you on the frustration. Waiting is so hard! Every state of this process seems to be the hardest yet somehow.

@Fightingtobepositive I've been trying to eat fairly healthily but had a blip when we were away the other night as we got fish and chips. They were delicious though!

@AutumnHoping congrats on transfer!!

I'm 9dp5dt today and still no symptoms really to report. My boobs are a little bigger than usual but not sore, I'm a bit bloated and gad some cramps on and off 7 and 8dpt but not sure if they're still there or not. We are going to test tomorrow morning and I'm so scared. Had a meltdown when Sainsbury's had no FRERs and DH ended up trailing round the chemists to find some 🤦‍♀️ in my defence I had very little sleep last night as a neighbours alarm woke me about half one and I couldn't get back to sleep after that. Feeling weepy today which could be tiredness, hormones, nerves or an unholy combination of all three. Part of me wants to find out but also I just can't face the thought of bad news which makes me not want to. It's a rollercoaster, one minute I feel almost optimistic and the next I'm just thinking well of course I can't get pregnant, that's ridiculous. Hoping to have a nap later to at least get a break from worrying about tomorrow!

Hope everyone is ok and managing to stay slightly saner than I feel today 😂 xx

@JenniferRo28 I tell myself that and then pig out but then can’t cope with the guilt, so wonder if it was worth it in the first place 🤣🙈.

We also usually do well mom to Fri (well lately, mon to thurs) then have a few weekend treats.

@Eggling so excited for you to test, although I am exactly the same with the actual process of wanting to do it because then it’s real either way and the wait is over. It’s a crazy ride, this!

Strangely I’ve had 1 or 2 cramps today, nothing major and I’m also a little constipated so could just be that 🙈. Oh the joys of tww!

@eggling I'm no saner than you, I totally feel what you're saying. Sorry you had a rubbish sleep though, definitely make time for an afternoon nap. Good luck tomorrow.

@Fightingtobepositive I'm currently eating a bacon roll so not all that healthy! and I'm making Indian food for dinner. We normally eat quite cleanly although I'm really keen on big glasses of cold milk the last few days. Organic full-fat which is unusual for me but it's not bad for me so I'm going with it. Cut yourself some slack and have what you fancy. What kind of food are you going for?

@Rumtopf I wondered about milk? Because I was told to eat as if your pregnant and have no clue what that diet entails lol. So far I’ve avoided raw eggs, sauces etc.

We are usually a med type of diet try to eat fish at least once a week if not twice, chicken and vegetables/salads pasta atleast once often twice, I am a bugger for cheese though. But when the weekend comes we are always out and about so maybe dinner is a roll and then maybe a meal out somewhere, and a take away one night too. So we have plenty of goodness and everything we make is from scratch but I can’t help feeling guilty when we have the treats 🙈

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@JandL2020 no we've chosen to just do one by one embryo, as though we could do 2, we already have a DS from IVF one to my best friend as surrogate & 2 active dogs as well as I have many health problems so we don't want to risk twins.

@LKSF that's great though! Another hurdle passed and it's there so don't worry! Ours book transfers from 7mm the week before and I got BFP last time when mine was under that.

@Rumtopf we've only told my best mate so it's really hard, I'm gonna have to try take it easy next week but it's easy to forget. Our clinic encourages carrying on as normal though except for lifting & twisting

@Fightingtobepositive I eat healthy I think in general, we do a couple of meat free days a week, plenty of veg, water, & I'm drinking pomegranate juice. But we have a takeaway a week which we aren't changing & also I'm still drinking which I guess most ppl won't. Not excessively but I'm not worried. I do lots of exercise which I slow down on after transfer but still do Pilates & plenty of dog walking.

@Eggling you sound exactly like me last time! I totally understand it, Not long left lovely 🤗🥰everything crossed for you 🤞🏻

Hi All,

I have been dipping in and out of this thread during my TWW, OTD is tomorrow and I feel so anxious. Similarly to @Eggling at time’s I feel positive and others I feel as if I can’t be pregnant.

I haven’t really had any symptoms so that has made me feel quite down.
Scared to test tomorrow because I just don’t know what to expect. DH is so optimistic and said it can go one of two ways...

I said what? Either you can drink and celebrate alone, or we both drink? His response....

No we either both embabies stuck or only one!

Xx

@Sunshine015 good luck for tomorrow I was shaking when I tested.

Am full of cold ( not Covid) snotty nose! (The joys of working with 3/4 year olds). Up since 4 so really need sleep. I am finding I am peeing for Britain.

Roll on 4 15 when I’m out of here.

@Sunshine015 I like his positive thinking, good luck for tomorrow. I understand about the pressure and fear. I'm anxious to and reluctant to test all at the same time because for the moment I'm pregnant. But when that result comes back I probably won't be and it's awful. Sending best wishes.

@Fightingtobepositive we generally eat low carb. I have to be gluten free and it is easier to control my weight and hormones this way. Although I'm having rice with my curry tonight as I particularly fancy it. Organic dairy is fine while pg so my sudden taste for milk isn't something I'm concerned about, but I normally only have a splash in my tea etc, I must have gone through 6pints this week.

Is it really windy with anyone else? I have to go and get dd from college in a mo and I really dislike driving in it.