August 2020 IVF - continued

[Lepatz]

Morning ladies!

We hit our 1000 limit on the original thread! That’s 1000 messages of support and advice, celebrating every happy milestone, and being there for uncertainty and bad news too. Thanks @Mseddy for setting up our little cohort :)

Will try to tag the regulars, apologies if I miss anyone. @Custardandcream @nextweek @kikisparks @StayingPositive8 @Bruce2 @CardboardCat @MrsT36 @loulamay @MsNoons17 Argh, my phone is refusing to autocomplete properly - I hope that works.

Wishing everyone heath and happiness - whatever stage of the journey you're on xx

@Lepatz nice to hear from you again. Glad you and OH spending some QT together and all the luck with FET process

@Custardandcream good luck for today, I really hope it's the best of news xxx

@nextweek @Custardandcream good luck with your scans today xx

Thank you for the good wishes. Unfortunately our scan didn't go as hoped, they could see the pregnancy sac but there was nothing in it, no heartbeat. We're completely devastated. I've been told to stop taking my progesterone pessaries but no idea what to expect next. Don't even know how to describe it, is it a miscarriage at this point or a chemical pregnancy?? Feeling really overwhelmed right now and the thought over starting all over again is really tough.

@nextweek I don't even know what to say darling.
I'm so sorry

I’m so so sorry @nextweek X

@nextweek I'm in tears for you. I'm so so sorry. If there was a sac then your frostie will have implanted but sadly stopped growing at some point. I would term it a miscarriage but either way it's a loss and either way it's devastating. I don't want to write too much and add to what you must be feeling right now. It's just so so tough. Lots and lots of love. x

Thank you all. This was our first fresh transfer, we only collected 2 eggs and only one fertilised so it was a day 3 transfer. Not a great outcome but I guess its a good sign that it did implant. Since we didn't get any to freeze we'll need to start all over so I'm really hoping they can adjust my medication next time as it would great to get more than one embryo

@nextweek I'm so so sorry to hear this x

@nextweek That’s exactly what happened to me with my first egg collection. They upped my drugs and made a big difference. Got 16 eggs in the next collection 3 of which ended up as embryos so I would definitely ask about that. Sorry again to hear your news. Hope you manage to have some time to yourself to process it. X

@nextweek I'm so so sorry about the news of your scan today. I hope you are able to have some time to yourselves to process this as you need

@MsNoons17 hope the transfer went ok today and you're feeling ok?

@Custardandcream how did you get on today, hope everything went ok

@loulamay just wanted to come back to you on your question re cycles. After my DNC last year my period returned exactly 28 days after the op, which really surprised me. I guess some people's hormones can bounce back so hopefully you try on your own if you want to!

Thank you for all the messages. I've had a really difficult afternoon because my clinic called me later to say they want me to keep taking the progesterone and come back for a scan in 2 weeks just in case something develops! If they still can't see anything then they'll know 100% that its not a viable pregnancy. Its completely messed with my head as I really believe its just delaying the inevitable, its like its giving me false hope. Just don't know what to think!

@nextweek I’m so sorry, that’s really confusing from your clinic I’m sorry

I had my scan this afternoon, there was no heartbeat and it was only measuring 6+1 and I should be 7+2 so I’ve been referred to the epu to manage the miscarriage. I’m very upset, the thought of going through the whole process again is awful, I’m currently not sure I can cope with the stress but at the same time I desperately want to try again

@Custardandcream I'm so so sorry, its just a horrible situation isn't it. I feel exactly like you, I really want clear answers so I can move on and start again, but at the same time the thought of it terrifies me.

@Custardandcream I’m so sorry. I don’t know what to say. X

@Custardandcream I'm so sorry lovely. The anticipation and disappointment is just so crushing. Hopefully the staff at the EPU will take good care of you - when are you seeing them?

@nextweek - 2 weeks seems like an awfully long time to wait for the next scan. We saw our Dr 5 days after the first scan that had no heartbeat - asking you to be in limbo for 2 weeks when they could tell if there had been growth before that seems unnecessarily torturous.

@loulamay I know, it's going to feel like such a long wait. I feel like I've already mentally & emotionally accepted that this time hasn't worked, but I can't move on physically yet, if that makes sense. I was really hoping we'd be able to try again before the end of the year, but the longer it drags on for the less likely that will be.

@MsNoons17 sorry I missed your message yesterday. That's reassuring to know you had better results with increased medication. They did say that I was on the 'middle dose' so there should be scope to increase it next time.

@nextweek Yeah much better results. Think was increased to 400/450 dose from 300. Sorry to hear there is more waiting for you!

[quote Custardandcream]@nextweek I’m so sorry, that’s really confusing from your clinic I’m sorry

I had my scan this afternoon, there was no heartbeat and it was only measuring 6+1 and I should be 7+2 so I’ve been referred to the epu to manage the miscarriage. I’m very upset, the thought of going through the whole process again is awful, I’m currently not sure I can cope with the stress but at the same time I desperately want to try again[/quote]
I've just seen this message.
I'm so so sorry to hear this, I hope you managed to get some sleep last night and try get your head round things today.
This is just rubbish. I'm really sad to hear this
Sending you lots of love xx

Hope all you girls are holding up ok.
Just a little message to say I'm thinking about you all loads.
Hope this weekend is an easy one for you. Rubbish weather so perfect excuse to have a weekend in.
Sending lots of love xxx

@nextweek @Custardandcream just seen your posts, I am so so sorry for both of you, it’s just an utterly shit and unfair situation

@nextweek @Custardandcream I am so so sorry for your losses. This is a cruel cruel journey sometimes

Thank you both @kikisparks & @Mseddy It's just really frustrating that I'm having to wait for another scan to confirm when we're already pretty sure it hasn't worked.

@nextweek that must be so hard. Even a little glimmer of hope no matter how small makes you crazy. Even after my fading lines and bleeding I was still somehow hoping that somehow it would all turn out OK even though I knew it was impossible. I've got everything crossed for you that maybe it's good news though

@nextweek would blood tests give you any answers? I know with my miscarriage they took bloods every 2 days, 3 times in total, and the hcg fell each time (although it only started at 22 so I knew it wasn’t a viable pregnancy from the first test) if so could you ask EPU or clinic to do blood tests for you so you’ve got some indication of what might be the likely outcome whilst you wait for the next scan? Making you wait 2 weeks is too long imo. I appreciate it’s hard to advocate for yourself at this point though, I know I found it nearly impossible during my miscarriage and just went through the motions of whatever they told me to do even though I now think things could have been handled so much better by the clinic.