IVF Feb/March 2

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A new thread to carry on supporting each other as the old one was full.

That's lovely @confused107. Congratulations!

Another healthy scan for me. I'm really going to try and stop worrying now. The baby actually measured at 11 weeks 1 day which is a little ahead of its actual age (11 weeks tomorrow). I'm taking that as it's strong and healthy.

It's starting to look like an actual baby. DH was delighted at actually getting to go in for the scan.

Oh wow @Pinktruffle that's great news congratulations. Very clear picture too x

@Pinktruffle great scan pic! It must feel such a relief. Congratulations x

Thanks again everyone. I could see the arms and legs, baby seemed to be asleep and had their legs crossed which was a habit of my grandma's that she's passed down to me and it made me chuckle

@confused107 and @pinktruffle awesome photos! I'm so chuffed for you both.

That was meant to be a grin! For the love of god. Sorry!

Today is 12 weeks! And you know what that means. Goodbye pessaries!!!

@PickleKid lol I can’t wait for that day to come!!

Yaaay @PickleKid! I can't wait for the day to come, I'm down to my last pack so that day is around the corner

@PickleKid are you going to start sharing the news now do you think?

I've shared the news from the beginning. I did IVF at the end of one supportive, lovely job and the start of another. I was honest that it was my priority and if they wanted me they would work around it as the current employers had been. As soon as I knew I was pregnant my new bosses told me not to come to work and to be careful.

I'd rather be open and be myself and if miscarriage had happened, be upfront about it even if people are sad or awkward. There's no shame in a miscarriage or grief, I think. Women's issues are family issues and they need to be accepted.

That said I'm not all transparent. My husband and I are separated for 4 years and although he knew about my partner and I doing IVF and I knew about him and his hating children and on the sterilisation list- I haven't told social media yet because I'm not ready for him to know.

I don't know why. We don't want to be with each other and would have been divorced long ago if we didn't have US/UK assets to split. The paperwork is his job (he wanted this) and he is rubbish at paperwork.

I think I just want my baby to feel like the future and telling him feels like introducing him or her to the past.

I can completely understand that @PickleKid. I was fairly open about my previous miscarriage and was actually quite open about my IVF too so quite a few work mates know. I also told my parents and my siblings from the beginning as well as some of my friends.

Due to the lockdown, not all the friends who knew about the IVF know about the pregnancy yet. I have some people in my life that I know don't wish me well, the exact opposite in fact and I really don't want them to know about my pregnancy so haven't told extended family yet and feel a bit scared about telling them all. Sadly this has meant I don't want to tell relatives I'm close to either in case word gets around.

I 100% agree with you about miscarriage being more openly discussed, I feel the same about all womens issues- menstruation, Infertility etc. They should be openly discussed and I think if they were more openly discussed we would actually have made some headway with understanding and treating things like endometriosis and PCOS. I work in a high school and I'm that embarrassing member of staff who is very vocal about female issues and encourage all my students not to be embarrassed about it and discuss it openly. It scares me how little some young woman know about their own bodies.

Aw @Pinktruffle You sound like an awesome teacher and I wish we had more like you!

I went to a catholic high school where a nun once told us if we got semen on our legs it could swim up and impregnate us.

@PickleKid if only it was that easy 😂

@PickleKid were you given any instructions in regards to stopping your pessaries? My nurse didn't really say a lot, just said to reduce use and stop at 12 weeks when they have all run out but didn't really specify what reduce us meant. I haven't really thought about it till now.

I have read that if you don't slowly reduce use it can cause spotting, not sure if this is true? I was thinking of going from twice a day to once a day till they run out. Did you just carry on with two a day till the end?

Well if I'm being totally honest, I was reducing leading up to the 12 weeks. They were really irritating my rectum (TMI) so I was like one a day the last week or two anyway. I feel like a bad mom out of the gate. There was not spotting or I'd have ramped back up. I was told take 2x a day until 12 weeks, not talk of gradual reducing.

They are irritating my lady parts too so dont worry about it!

You are not a bad parent for not using the pessaries as instructed! My nurse told me I didn't need them after 8 weeks, she checked my ovaries in the scan and said they were back to a normal size so were producing their own progesterone. It was my complaining about it that made her re-prescribe after much eye-rolling at me so I don't think you will have put your little one in any danger what so ever.

And thank you, I think I'll start cutting down from tomorrow. I'm 12 weeks on Thursday

Just catching up on all the updates. I was told I could stop taking them at 9 weeks, or if I prefer keep taking one a day until my supply runs out. Felt more confident with that option so been doing one a day. Only 3 left!

Thanks all. I had a scan at 9 weeks and ovaries were the normal size then so that makes me feel better.

Looks like we are progressing provided the clinic get their plan to reopen approved this week. Had nurses consultation by phone and they are dispatching my prescription, a quick baseline scan next week in the clinic with lots of Covid precautions but if all ok look to start down reg next weekend for a transfer in mid June. Has anyone else who was stopped and who is planning an FET had any progress as yet?

@granddesigns I had a phone call yesterday. I’ve just missed this month but the plan is for a natural modified FET around the 17th June. The only negative is that my partner won’t be able to come in with me. Have you been told the same?

Oh no @CarbsAndCheese - at least you can get it ready for next month and who knows what guidance will be in place by then! Fingers crossed everything lines up ASAP. Yes we are hoping for this month but they said if they don't get their licence in time or the baseline scan doesn't show everything has settled it will be next month. Cycle picked up where I expected it to be last month so hoping it will play ball and not arrive till scan complete and drugs received and licence granted! Yes they have said DH not allowed in for scans or the actual transfer but they will give photos and video where possible and we just felt we ought to proceed as this is first FET (we have 3 embryos) so could need more transfers potentially and we don't know what the future guidance/pandemic stuff will look like..... also just stuff like age and likelihood of success and possible plans for a sibling.

We are go! Just had a call from the clinic and they have been approved to reopen immediately. We will be doing a natural modified FET (just with progynova) starting my next cycle, due on 2nd June.
They've said that dh can come in with me, they allow you plus partner but have to wait in the car and call to say we're there waiting.

We just have 1 blast frozen so my hopes are hinging on that before we think of starting all over again.