Oct/Nov IVF, ICSI & FET - Let's do this!

[Marmite83]

Hi all

I recently had a mmc from my first IVF cycle and am waiting for AF to appear (probably 3-4 weeks away) so we can do FET. I think we'll probably go for a natural cycle but am waiting for some information from my clinic to make a final decision. Had follow up consultation yesterday and will be having nurse consultation in the next couple of weeks hopefully. If anyone is happy to share their FET experiences I'd love to hear them. A little worried that a natural cycle might be the wrong choice. Anyway, if anyone fancies joining me for some support then join the thread.

@sometimesalways I know what you mean, there's something nice about thinking you could be pg. That's why I'm a little nervous about testing it out. I'm hoping the test will go negative after 2-3 days so I can then wait until otd to do a test. If it never quite goes negative I could spend days feeling quite anxious. Hats off to you for waiting!

@Marmite83 have you checked how long it would take for the hCG to disappear from your system? I think there's info online about dosage and time. When is your OTD again? If the line never disappears it might be a good thing, as you might have had implantation by now 🤞

I woke up feeling like sh** today, hot and bothered, and slept like a log, just couldn't wake up. I'd better be pregnant or else I am coming down with something

thank you for your support! It's been tough and rough since my last update. Yesterday was 5 years since my mum’s passing. And everything else went horribly wrong. As we stand today I’ve got pregnancy of unknown location (PUL)!

Run for HCG to London yesterday and the bastards didn’t send results same day which never happened before and I waited till 5 and it added more to my already collapsing state!

Went to EPU and had scan. She couldn’t see the sac and said lining was only 4mm. My red bleed is still here but not like period! I had some dull pain in my lower back on both sides on and off but that’s it. So why lining so thin?!

PUL means either early miscarriage or beginning of pregnancy or ectopic pregnancy which is terrifying

Today I should get my HCG results and repeat them at my EPU tomorrow to conclude this fucking saga. And I’m really sorry for my swearing. I’m a strong person but this all knocked me off of my feet yesterday and I was crying buckets and the rest.

We then lost my daughter’s blankie which bake had since she was 3 months! And I was absolutely inconsolable! Run around JOhn Lewis like a mad woman! I cried on the tube and train and EPU and finally into my sleep at 9pm and now I’m wide awake as my brain is progesterone fueled and keeps me awake since 4 every morning!

My doc wants me to continue with all my meds till unknown becomes a bit clear which is tomorrow

I’m feeling numb and lost. This is all new yet again and just in total disbelief 😢😢😢

@Russkispy
Sorry to hear your news - I've had two ectopics (one from an ivf transfer) both ruptured losing both tubes.
Keep us updated on your hcg levels? If you are bleeding it suggests your hcg level is low and that your body is trying to resolve it itself
Keeping everything crossed for you x

@Russkispy I'm so sorry, what a dreadful day. I hope you get some better news today but we are here for you whatever happens. Good luck x

@Russkispy oh that's incredibly stressful. No words just everything crossed for you.

@Russkispy oh no I am so so sorry you are going through this. What a stressful time. Please don't feel like you have to be strong if all you want to do is cry. Crying helps. Just do whatever you need to to get through this. We are all here for you if it helps to come talk to us. Sending virtual hugs

@Russkispy sending you a big hug - no words except I'm so sorry you're going through this x

Thank you ladies!

after emailing and screaming at Wimpole Street, results are finally in. HCG is only 112. I’m pretty sure the game is over. Repeating bloods tomorrow at EPU and based on those, they will tell me what’s next.
And I’ll be speaking to my coordinator later.

I always maintained that DE it’s not the answer to it all. And kept grounded but was hoping for the better the outcome than this. I seriously never thought I’d be going through this on first DE round.

I was hoping for better outcome especially after I’ve just had back to back miscarriages

Feeling numb....

Oh no @russkispy I'm so sorry tou're going through this, and the limbo is awful. I had a very long drawn out series of scans for my first mc and it was torture. Thinking of you

I finally had my scan to see how the lining is yesterday and it's all good so I'm booked in for ET on Tuesday. Eep. 🤞

@Russkispy I hear you, my mc's are 'unexplained' and so while I'm hoping that ivf will be the answer I really have no idea. It's such a bloody gamble.

@Russkispy I'm so sorry to read about what you're going through. It's really horrible not knowing what's going on. Sending virtual hugs to you

@Russkispy what an awful wait, hang in there. Of course you are upset and have every right. Try and keep yourself occupied today and time will hopefully pass quickly. Whatever the news is tomorrow, at least you will have some clarity so that you can plan next steps, even if that is doing nothing for a while and regrouping. Not that that makes it easier of course... A low hCG may not be something in itself, so I guess they want to retest tomorrow to see if the numbers are rising? Has the clinic given you a reason for previous miscarriages at all?

@Russkispy I'm so sorry you're going through this and really hope you get some clarity soon.

@sometimesalways I can't find anything online to say how long it will take for 1500 of Gonasi. All the stats seem to be based on 2500 at the lowest which takes 7 days as a guide so I'm guessing it should be around 4-5 days. The test this morning was very strong so think it will take a while. OTD is 11 Nov which incidentally was also the due date of my first mmc 4 years ago. How are you feeling today? Not long until OTD for you now!

@Russkispy I'm so sorry

So I tested today at 5dp5dt and it's a definite positive. I am in total shock. I can't actually believe it worked first time again. I feel incredibly lucky.

@justtheonethen oh lovely news, congratulations!

@Marmite83 4-5 days seems like a good guess to me. And it is quite close to your OTD isn't it, which is why they prob felt safest to do bloods too. I hope you get some lovely news for that day now!

DH and I discussed and might actually test tomorrow instead of Thursday, as I have an early work thing on Thursday and don't want to be surprised with bad news, as I won't have time to process it. Don't want to end up crying in a work meeting! So I will test one day early, I doubt it will make a difference anyway. SO nervous about it. I have been mostly positive about it but now the time has actually arrived I am not so much... oh well. We will know soon enough

Fantastic news @justtheonethen, congratulations!!

I've got everything crossed for you @sometimesalways. My clinic does OTD as 9dp5dt so I'm sure tomorrow will be fine. Good luck!

Oooh exciting @justtheonethen, congratulations!

Good luck @sometimesalways fx for you

Egg retrieval in the morning, zoiks!!

@BettySwoll0cks good luck tomorrow

Thank you @BettySwoll0cks and good luck tomorrow!

Thank you @Marmite83 🤞🤞🤞

@BettySwoll0cks good luck for tomorrow and have a nice rest after it.

@sometimesalways that sounds like a good plan. That's why I'll probably test on a Sunday so I don't have to deal with the outcome at work. It's awful how you can go from feeling positive to utter defeat within no time at all. Good luck.

@justtheonethen wow congratulations.

Not much happening here. I started progesterone on Sunday and I thought I might I have started feeling the effects by now, usually sore breasts but nothing yet? I'm on crinone gel (which I've never used before) and lubion so I hope I'm getting enough. So ready for ET on Friday 😬