The TMI April onward IVF thread

[AliceAbsolum]

@hopingforbabyd @pleaseletitbeme @phreedam @westywoo @mouse1234567 @viletta @hoping1 @twiglet2353

A bunch of April IVF ladies onto another round. Graduates and waiters we like hearing from you too.

Christmas could be so bloody hard for some of us this year but I still want to wish you a Merry Christmas full of good health, love and laughter and everlasting joy in your lives! And of course lots of BFPs who are still waiting and all the best for "graduates"! And hopefully soon we will join them! !Lots of love from Russki 🎄🎄🎅🎅🎅

Merry Christmas to you too @Russkispy & all you lovely ladies. Enjoy your day tomorrow with your families, just as you all deserve 🎄🎁

Survived Xmas day (when our twins were due).
This misery was to be replaced with more today when my uncle died.
What a shit shit time

@Pleaseletitbeme Thats awful I'm so sorry :(

Everyone survive?

Mine was OK. Could be worse. My heads in Cyprus in March now. Which is both hopeful and terrifying.

@Pleaseletitbeme what a shitty time you've been through! Sorry to hear it all. Big hugs

How's everyone else doing?

@Pleaseletitbeme sorry to hear that, big hugs

I'm ok, will be better when I have a plan and timeline for starting the next cycle. Won't be too sad to see the back of 2019 tbh - onwards and upwards! Hope you are ok ladies xxx

Sending my happy new year wishes to you all now - Hoping 2020 bring you lots of happiness, strength & all the dreams you wish for 💕 xx

@Twiglet2353 How's you? Xx

@Pleaseletitbeme so sorry to hear your sad news.

All the best for 2020 all-I really hope it works out for everyone x

All the best for 2020 ladies, and thank you all for being there throughout this year xxx

Hi @AliceAbsolum, thanks for checking in. We're in the depths of colic at the moment so finding things very difficult. Just waiting for that first smile that'll hopefully make things better 🙂

Sending you best wishes for 2020 to you and everyone else on this thread. Keeping my fingers crossed for Cyprus in March for you x

Sending my best wishes for 2020. Keeping everything crossed xxx

Guys I really need your advice.
So this is what my consultant thinks of our infertility.

In your case , the problem is clear which is low ovarian reserve which means
Low number of eggs
Poor response to stimulation
Low fertilisation
Poor quality embryos
Low success rate
High miscarriage rate ( if pregnancy happens )
The answer to this problem is really simple -- which is donor eggs
I understand you may be reluctant in accepting donor eggs treatment , but I am afraid this is the best solution with a success rate of 50%
However , you need to know that success is not guaranteed

I am quite happy to try the modified natural cycle IVF , provided you understand the low success rate & high cancellation rate
You may need to come for a follow-up to explain more about the natural cycle IVF or about donor eggs

What do you think? I’m absolutely devastated.
Was going to have another go.....
Just don’t think I could do the donor thing.... brining up someone else’s baby.

@pleaseletitbeme You're in the same position I was in in March. Its incredibly hard. You're going through a huge loss right now - to make a baby you need decent eggs and for whatever reason that's not something you have a lot of. That's really really hard.

However, if donor eggs is something you can get your head around then there is a much better chance of getting that baby. As you know we got 5 blasts last cycle. Am I sad they're not my dna? Yes of course. Do I wish they were mine, of course! But I want to be a mum. Full fucking stop. DNA is not the be all and end all, epigenetics and nurture play a huge role. You would also be carrying your partners baby.
It's not ideal, it's not easy, it's not fair. It may not be the right thing for you to do.
I'd say give yourself time to think, speak to other people, research it. You may come to believe that donor conception is right for you, or you may decide to try another cycle / adoption /whatever path. There is no right or wrong way, just take your time.

I grieved my own dna when the NHS told me in March 2019, then again after the tandem cycle when they told me my egg hadn't fertilised, then again when I miscarried (as they put that one of mine that did actually turn into a viable embryo and a donor one back) because that was obviously the end of the line. But over time I have come to accept my path to my child. My child that I carried and birthed and brought up xx

I got the past/future tense wrong at the end there. You know what I mean!

Alice. Thank you. You are so brave.
Xxxx

@Pleaseletitbeme I've just started preps for my next DE transfer. I've got my "own" DD from IUI in 2016 using DH's sperm. And the whole of 2018, 1 MC and a number of failed IUIs and IVFs, and 2019 I had a MC every other cycle, total 4 with other cycles recovering. And we decided for DE in October and was still a MC. But to me DE came natural, all I want was another baby and a sibling to my DD. I'm gutted I could have my "own" again, but so grateful there's another option to be a mum again! And all it mattered to me! And of course new baby will be all mine! I'll carry and nurture it for 9 months and raise it for the rest of my life!
Im on Insta and got found a DE community and we meet every month in London. And follow our progresses and support each throughout anything and everything so it doesn't feel I'm all alone in this.

Similar feedback for me - DE is a very personal decision and only you can know if it is right for you or not. I want to try one more cycle with OE (cycle 3) and if not I can always consider DE in the future

been given the green light to start new DE FET cycle today. Endo lining scan booked next Friday which will determine transfer date. Anyone else cycling this month?

@Russkispy good luck!

Thank you @Wesstywoo do you know when you're starting your next transfer?

How's @WorriedButterfly @Hopingforbabyd @TTCRose @Viletta @Maggie272

@Russkispy not yet, I still need to see the consultant to discuss options but had a pretty similar feedback call from the clinic as pleasetitbeme. I'm keen to try similar protocol to worriedbutterfly

@Wesstywoo no worries! Will be rooting for you!

Hi all!

I’ve started my FET cycle on the 30.12 so FEat booked for 17 Jan. It’s my last frozen embryo.. I decided to go off the forums for December to get my head off the infertility, which did work. Had a nice and relaxing December and spoilt myself rotten. Hope new decade will bring us all what we want!

@Russkispy glad to hear your next cycle is coming along so soon! Keeping my fingers crossed for you! I'm not too bad thank you, I've been called into the hospital tomorrow morning as I have felt really strange the last few days - extreme fatigue, dizzy and a fast heartbeat. It may just be iron levels but I'm extremely nervous for my little one and have realised the anxiety really doesn't go away x