The TMI April onward IVF thread

[AliceAbsolum]

@hopingforbabyd @pleaseletitbeme @phreedam @westywoo @mouse1234567 @viletta @hoping1 @twiglet2353

A bunch of April IVF ladies onto another round. Graduates and waiters we like hearing from you too.

@TTCRose sorry it's BFN. Definitely shit st this time of the year. Sending big hugs.

@Pleaseletitbeme still hoping there's a chance for you 🤞🏻

@Viletta glad to hear you're doing well and distracted yourself from this IVF malarkey

@WorriedButterfly fingers crossed for BFP 🙏🏻

OTD is Friday for me...not too long to go!

Needed some advice and if I should start new thread just let me know...
Clinic has said we can go ahead with another cycle but asking whether we would like follow up with Dr first.
Follow up wouldn't be until possible beginning of February and that's when my 2nd natural cycle would be starting so obviously when we could start cycle.

Do you think we should have follow up? Will I learn anything from that appointment. Sort of know cycle failed due to transfer not going well. But I've got a AMH if 5.1. So quite low and I was a poor responder. Believe the highest dose of menopur my clinic do is 300.
Any one been in a similar place and know why they respond poorly?

Is there any questions you'd want to be asking the doctor before starting another cycle?
Thanks everyone...means a lot x

Hi @TTCRose my clinic have a clinical review following a failed cycle and they decide what to do next, we've seen the Doc both times, but it has mainly been a repeat of what they've said over the phone. Questions I would ask: can they up the menopur dose (last cycle I started on 375, then changed to 450 and only had one follow, no eggs. This time 5follies, 3 eggs so it can make a difference.) could you take dextamethsone to help ovaries absorb the menopur (again I did this time) should you look at taking DHEA to improve egg quality (takes 3 months to kick in). I don't think you need the doc appt, but could you email the questions you have so you can absorb the response? Good luck! x

Thanks @WorriedButterfly

Don't know if I could email as having NHS treatment. Would be great if I could though!

Where to people buy DHEA and what's the benefits?

Did they ever explain why you were a poor responder?

Oh! No, sorry I didn't realise you were nhs! I got mine from biovea in the US as you can't buy it here. I would discuss with a doc before taking them, they are supposed to improve quality and reduce MC, not sure how or why!
My most recent AMH was 1.3, this time last year I was 5, so they've put it down to that. In my first cycle I responded within a week, which is why they lowered my menopur in my second cycle - which in hindsight they shouldn't have done.

It's been 8 days and I don't think I'm coping. Crying a lot and just feel so desolate. So angry and alone.
Don't know what to do. Can't stop thinking about it

Oh @AliceAbsolum, I'm sad and sorry for you. Back in May it struck me so much harder than I'd ever imagined. It will get easier (I'm sorry to say that as it is utterly shit). Give yourself time, surround yourself with your favourite people and things. I saw on tv the other day tears of grief have a different chemical make up so it is a good thing to get the grief out of your body. We're all here for you. x

@AliceAbsolum I feel so sad for you and just want you to know I'm thinking of you & sending so much love x

I'm freaking myself out reading studies where medicated FET has higher miscarriage rates and that's all my clinic offers

I got a BFP this morning, I'm completely thrilled, scared and trying to be optimistic. After a MMC in May and a complete failure in Oct I didn't think I'd get here again. Thank you for all your encouragement. x

@WorriedButterfly congratulations that is wonderful news!! Wishing you all the luck in the world xx

@WorriedButterfly this has absolutely made my day! So pleased for you! Take it steady over the next few weeks. I haven't been in your position before of MMC and I understand how worrying this time may be, but remember every pregnancy is different and your clinic will be aware of this and do their best to look after you. Make sure you embrace this festive period and feed that little babe up, you deserve to enjoy it all x

@WorriedButterfly That's bloody brilliant!! Very pleased to hear that. Xx

Huge congratulations @WorriedButterfly

WB congratulations!!! What fantastic news xxx

@WorriedButterfly fantastic news! So happy for you!

Thank you all so much x

Having massive regret about freezing our 4 frosties in 2's. Yes it makes success rates higher and after 4 years and 2 rounds without a BFP (and the 3k cost) we made the best decision we could at the time. But now I've lost one I'm so scared of the risks twins could bring. Urgh

Oh Alice. I feel for you.
I’m rooting so much for you.
Maybe 2020 is going to bring you the joy of twins after all this heartache? Xxxx

I just don't know how you can keep positive after all of this. As the years go on the disappointments get bigger and the trauma increases. Twins is high risk, what if I lose them at 20 weeks or something? I feel like I could be setting myself up for a whole new world of pain

Not you specifically, I meant "one"... But I'm not that posh 😊

@AliceAbsolum I really do feel for you 😔 does your clinic offer you fertility counselling as some support? X

No because its in Cyprus. The hospital gave me a leaflet...of where I work. Thats the thing about working in NHS MH services.