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Starting the journey thread 3

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squirrelnutkins1 · 02/08/2019 20:02

Don't want to lose touch so new thread ready x

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2fingers22018 · 10/10/2019 19:04

@FinallytakingtheplungewithIVF oh hun im soo sorry hugs this infertility crap is soo cruel take care of yourself xx

2fingers22018 · 11/10/2019 07:25

Did any of yous take time off work for your transfer? Im just wondering if id be okay to get it done in the morning and then go back to work..ive decided to not tel them im doin ivf i know i will prob need to tel them nxt time round..

BambiOnIce80 · 11/10/2019 07:32

Sorry for the lack of update yesterday ladies. Crazy, busy day, lots to process and my bestie has arrived for the weekend, so catching up now whilst I can 🙂 So. Let's get into it! Bit of a mixed bag yesterday with a few curve balls. 1st curve ball was logistics; because of how AF lands in November (should be the 8th) we'd be due ET on the 25th of December... yeah, during the labs 2 week shutdown 🙄 So, unless AF lands on or before the 6th of November (and, let's face it, she won't do me that favour 😏) December IVF is out 😔 Seems AF is due today for me, the nurse tried to get us into November IVF instead (which was very kind of her), but then ET would fall in November, slap bang in the middle of when we're in Italy... we're basically screwed for getting IVF this year 😔 It'll be down-regging in December and ET in January. Obviously disappointed, but at least we know where we are (and I admit to being quite pleased that we can now binge on all the good cheese, salumi and vino whilst we're in Italy now too! 🧀🍾🥂 Every cloud, right?! 😏). Second curve ball was DP's SA result from the sample he gave just before the appointment. We'd discussed a split cycle (and I said I was worried about "permeability" @CloudSway , but DP gave me a little smile because he knows that's the code name for slutty and hard-boiled, which are obviously the correct and scientific terms! 😂), which they say we can absolutely do as long as we get a minimum of 8 eggs (tentative 'yay' there then 😊), but then it turns out that based on DP's SA on the day that his numbers had shot up (they weren't bad to start with 🎈) but his forward motility was only 19% 😕 It was over 40% on his previous 2 SA's! 🤷‍♀️ She said that if that sample had been our EC sample then we would've had to have had purely ICSI, which I was actually quite pleased about! 😬 Not the point, of course. So the lab lady told DP that if that happens on EC day he'll have to be prepared to make the decision of the type of treatment we consent to (because I'll still be smacked off my tits on fentanyl from the EC and won't be compos mentis enough to make the decision!🤤). The colour definitely drained out of his face at that point 😳 I told him not to worry - I will have given him a one sided SOP with a decision tree on it by then! 😁😂 Third curve ball was that because we are self funded, we can choose whether or not to have 2 embryos put back in - wasn't expecting that! 😲 DP's face lit up at that one, so I think that's going to be a long discussion (at least we've got another 2 months to have it in 😏). But do you know what, after all this information, is going through my mind on a loop? ➿ The nurse mentioned that we need to bring our own pj's/nighty/dressing gown to wear to the EC (more comfortable/relaxing/whatever) and all I can think of is "what's suitable night wear for an EC?!" 🤯🤪 I either have little silky slip type nighties or a couple of comfy pj's (aka ugly and not fit for public consumption)... the first wouldn't be appropriate and the second surely wouldn't be practical?! I'm envisaging a shopping trip dedicated to finding a suitable 'EC appropriate night ware' solution... Yes, I am aware my sanity is indeed unravelling 🤪

@2fingers22018 I think more along the lines of the epic 80's favourite that is Highlander - "there can be only 1" (has to be said in Sean Connery's voice, obvs! 🏴󠁧󠁢󠁳󠁣󠁴󠁿). I'm getting excited for you!! 🤞🏻🍀🤞🏻🍀

Still keeping everything crossed for your bloods today @FinallytakingtheplungewithIVF 🤞🏻🤞🏻🤞🏻

How's things looking at your end @CloudSway ?x

Sorry for the very long and me, me, me update!😳 Needed to get it all written down to help make space in my head 🤯

2fingers22018 · 11/10/2019 07:43

@BambiOnIce80 dnt apologise i was dying to hear your update sorry you have to wait longer than you thought, but the only bonus is at least you now have a plan in place. I went shopping for new pjs aswell😳lol well the way i see it is if we re doin the hard bit we at least deserve an excuse for a shopping spree😉 i got given a horrible theatre gown with open back ass out to make the whole process even more dignified lol but i was told to bring my own dressing gown and slippers maybe theyl do the same with you? I say comfy nightie easy access for them as warped as that sounds haha would you go for the2embryos?! My clinic dont offer that option thank god i dnt think i could handle twins 😂

FinallytakingtheplungewithIVF · 11/10/2019 07:55

Bfn for me on an frer so I’m out am waiting for bloods but I know it’s a know so willl be enjoying some wine this evening

BambiOnIce80 · 11/10/2019 08:12

I'm so, so sorry @FinallytakingtheplungewithIVF 💐 It's so unfair 😔 I'll be thinking of you and putting a little wish in for your next cycle when I have my glass of wine tonight.x

We've got a MacArthur Glen outlet mall not far from us @2fingers22018 , so I think I'll be hitting that to find a knee-ish length nighty to preserve modesty and allow easy access! 😂 Sorry if you've said already (my heads all over the place! 😣), but when do you get an update about your embies? Sending positive vibes your way 💓💞

2fingers22018 · 11/10/2019 09:33

@FinallytakingtheplungewithIVF@BambiOnIce80 i just got a fone call 18 eggs 16gd quality they can use and 15 fertilised! Im gob smacked i just hope they can survive the nxt few days its insane to think theyr in a lab growing right now! Enjoy ur shopping when u go i think i might go out for meal with my OH tonight set it up for a little surprise at his fav place. Regardless of the outcome i think we deserve a treat x

BambiOnIce80 · 11/10/2019 10:16

Bloody hell, well done @2fingers22018!! 🎉 😍 🎉 😍 That is an excellent haul!! 🤩 You could literally have a football team (with subs!) in the freezer! 🥚❄ Excellent idea on a nice meal out too - you definitely deserve it.x

2fingers22018 · 11/10/2019 10:28

😂im tryin not to get too excited tho cause we obvs need to wait and see which ones survive and/or high quality by day5 they said theyl fone us 2morro..too much waiting aaagghh. Im buzzing bout the house tryin to keep busy before 2nite might txt my friend and ask her if she wants to do sumthin this afternoon i need to be busy!

2fingers22018 · 11/10/2019 10:29

Im just stressing now thinkin well why hasnt it happened all this time maybe i have a problem with implantation..im nuts i know lol

FinallytakingtheplungewithIVF · 11/10/2019 13:13

That’s a great number!! @2fingers22018

GreyC · 11/10/2019 17:45

Well done @2fingers22018 that’s awesome!

I don’t test untill Monday but have awful back ache all day - however I think it might be a UTI so have to drop a sample off on Monday or go to walk in centre over the weekend if I start to feel Poorly!
Feeling all ok though luckily so hopefully it might even pass on it’s own!

2fingers22018 · 11/10/2019 20:13

@GreyC ive been feeling the same maybe its the egg retriaval? Fx for u on mon the wait must b killing u!

GreyC · 12/10/2019 08:55

I only had 4 eggs retrieved over two weeks ago now so I doubt it and it’s suddenly came on hence why I’m going to get it checked. Have a bit of a sore throat today aswell so could be the lurgy that’s going round work.
I am excited but also terrified

2fingers22018 · 12/10/2019 09:36

@GreyC yh prob i was just meanin sumtimes these procedures cause u to get an infection so keep a close eye on it hun x i know im the same i want it to b bfp obvs but a part of me is scared for that aswell i feel like al b on edge the whole 9mnths thinkin what could go wrong..soo stressful wish i could go to sleep n wake up in a fortnight! How do u find the suppositeries? I hate them they make u feel gross and dirty almost like u have loads of discharge from a yeast infection(sorry tmi)

GreyC · 12/10/2019 09:48

Ohhh yes I see what you mean. Every time I started a new drug I had the sniffles for a day or two aswell!

I have my odd tasting throat too at the minute. I know I keeping thinking I might be - as some things I’m experiencing but other times I’m like nah because I’ve had no cramps/spotting like some people have and the only time I have is been right side near my pelvis like a burning/twing/pulling around day 6 after transfer and the evening after I thought I was going to get my period!
I started using them vaginaly (Sp?!) but this last few days now the back door way 🙈 as I was getting sore and didn’t want to get thrush or anything! So much better this way! A little windy 🙈 but that’s just the drugs haha

2fingers22018 · 12/10/2019 12:37

@GreyC yh im using them vaginally i might switch if i get sore at least its an option suppose i think might b easier than this part..im soo windy too😂😳no dignity in this process is there lol

GreyC · 12/10/2019 14:38

Nope - no dignity at all.
I have had back ache now for two days.. with nausea (could be imagination) boobs aren’t sore but they have a odd pain every now and then I don’t know if that’s a sign or what.
I think I’ve pretty much decided to test tomorrow morning as we have a busy day Monday morning

CloudSway · 12/10/2019 16:45

@finallytakingtheplungewithivf I'm just so sorry for your news, it's not fair ❤ 18 months is such a long time to wait as well, i can't imagine how you must feel, take care of each other and give yourself time to do and feel what you need to xxx

@bambionice80 well on the pj front I can get you 20% discount off m&S clothes from Thursday lol, and I am now spending my time thinking about what I might want to buy too.. ..! Another thing that didn't occur to me! Its disappointing you can't get in this year, but it does sound like it's happened for a reason - italy is my absolute fav place and eating and drinking absolutely everything in sight is definitely a silver lining!

I got my drugs delivered! Hooray! Didn't realise there would be quite so many though, I've only got a little fridge... quite nervous now I've seen it all in my hands 😕 that's a looott of needles. I don't feel like I've been told I can't do anything except unprotected sex once I start, was anyone told differently? I want to get in whatever I won't be able to do while I can!

@greyC all the luck in the world for your test tomorrow. I'm not overjoyed to see how many boxes of pessaries there are either 😬

CloudSway · 12/10/2019 18:12

Speaking of pessaries, have you been told what they are actually for? I feel like it's the one thing no-one talks about (except you guys thank God, otherwise I'd be very concerned when they turned up in the post!)

2fingers22018 · 12/10/2019 18:28

@GreyC my boobs are killing me right now and ive not even had my transfer yet must b all these bloody hormones..ooh exciting test day(also scarey) good luck!🍀 @CloudsSway some of meds didnt need to be refridgerated just watch out for that hun..i was just told the usual no smoking no drinking no caffeine. The pessaries are progesterone i think, i got told to take mine after my egg retrieval i think they help build up the lining in ur womb? Theyr horrible not painful(well not the 1st few days) they just make me feel eww😂 thanks for the tip on m&s btw methinks more shopping is called for lol x

GreyC · 13/10/2019 06:30

It’s a bfn for me. Il test again tomorrow. Just want to stop the drugs now. We can’t afford another round at the minute and I’m not 100% sure I want to do it again. Going to take 6 months out and try naturally as they said it still could happen- dps count is much improved to 13mill now with 52% motility. And see where we are and what happens; adoption is something we are open too aswell. Good luck everyone. Il still keep a eye around this post.

2fingers22018 · 13/10/2019 07:44

@GreyC Aww no im soo sorry!..al b sad to not hear from u😭but u have to do whats best for you both gd luck with everything hun x

GreyC · 13/10/2019 09:01

Aww thanks @2fingers22018 you guys have been so supportive. Il still pop in and out. We are just not sure whether spending more money is for us right now And the heartbreak of ivf on my body and we want to enjoy Christmas and the new year without worrying about ivf or anything. I’m secretly hoping we could get our little miracle during a year ttc. Positive thinking always.

BambiOnIce80 · 13/10/2019 10:22

I'm so sorry to hear it's a BFN @GreyC 💐 I'm with you - I haven't even started yet but I know I've only got one fresh cycle in me 😔 It sounds like you've got a few plans going forward and I'm keeping everything crossed that it happens for you naturally 🍀🍀🍀

It sounds like my brain and yours think in very similar ways @2fingers22018 ! 😄 If my eggs end up fertilising with no problems I'd be straight to "huh 😕 Implantation problem then?! 🤔" 😄 It's so frustrating being unexplained!! 😣 I'm certainly always looking for an explanation that may never be found 😏 How did your nice meal out go? I bet DP was delighted with the news? Do you get another update tomorrow or is it straight to ET tomorrow?x

Ooooh, I do love a discount @CloudSway 🤑😄 Did you say your near-ish Cambridge? That's only about 6 & a half hours away, but definitely worth it for M&S 20% off! 😁😜😂 Once my friend leaves in a few hours time I'm definitely getting on the Internet hunt for EC jim-jams 😊 On the drug front I was told very much the same as @2fingers22018 - no booze, no nicotine, no caffeine, but with the addition that when we stop the down-regging and start the stims, no exercise (winning! 🏃🚫😁). Something about ovaries being swollen whilst on the drugs and we don't want to twist or rupture anything. And yep again to what @2fingers22018 said about the pessaries - extra progesterone to prepare womb lining and hopefully improve chances of implantation 👍