July/August IVF/ICSI/FET

[TinyPaws]

Hi everyone,

Thought I'd start a thread for those of us undergoing fertility treatment in July/August.

I'm (hopefully) having a FET late July/early August, anyone else want to hop on this thread for the ride?

@DawnK77 I’m so sorry for your bfn it’s so unfair , I have a strong feeling I’ll be joining you but nevertheless I’ll do the test xx

Oh no @DawnK77 I'm so sorry to hear that ...I really am.

@Lola124 hopefully not, let's stay positive. I'm sending you all the good energies for tomorrow.

@Brambles7 yes, keep busy. I know time is standing still right now but you got this. Not long to go!

We have our day 5 call today to see if any of the other survived and can be frozen...I'm not very hopeful but at least we'll know for sure. The uncertainty drives me crazy.

Have a good Sunday everyone!

@DawnK77 i'm so sorry , huge hug 😢😭xxx

@Lola124 😭😢 fingers crossed

@Onisa7 hope you got good news to share... what will be will be. mine never make it to day5 and i still continue to try. huge evidence that doesn't mean it's bad eggs it's just eggs that prepare to grow inside mummy.

i'm struggling with the pessaries sideffects and reading again and again about bfn stories and trying to prepare .. statistics are painful but obviously we keep trying because we believe that we deserve this and WE DO! and hopefully it will happen to us one at time when it's our turn.

i don't know what ppl believe but pray, donate, give charity and do random good hopefully what goes around comes around 😘

@DawnK77 I’m so sorry!! Big hugs to you. I hope you’ve had some treats today. So unfair.

@Onisa7 hope you’ve got good news today?
Yes, time standing still!! I’m knackered after a busy day but it was good to get out and take my mind off things. Had too much time to think yesterday.

@Lola124 everything crossed for tomorrow!

@facevalue poor you with the side effects! I hope you are being kind to yourself.
Absolutely you DO deserve this. We all do who are prepared to put ourselves through this process. And step away from Google! Really hard to do I do know, I’m so guilty of it! but everyone’s experience is so different.

Thank you @facevalue for the reassurance. We actually had good news. They're both alive and kicking . Made it to pre-blastocyst so they're gonna keep them for another 24 hours to see if they develop a bit more and become viable blastocysts to be frozen. The embryologist said that they might still be discarded tomorrow if not enough quality but to be honest I needed some good news today and that just made my day. It also gives me hope for the one we implanted.

@Onisa7 that’s good news, I’m so pleased for you! Fingers crossed they develop even more overnight to enable them to be frozen.

That's great news @Onisa7, fingers crossed for more great news tomorrow. Keep us posted.

Sorry to hear your news @DawnK77, hope you're being kind to yourself.

Fingers crossed for your test @Lola124, I know it's hard to feel positive but there's still a chance.

I know what you mean re. Side effects @facevalue. I'm on Crinone and Cyclogest at the moment. The cyclogest gives me a really upset tummy and makes me bloated. The Crinone is just pretty grim all round. Today I've had light pink lumps of it when I've wiped, that's worried me a bit. I know I shouldn't complain and if everything works out it will definitely be worth it but it's just adding to my stress levels at the moment.

@Marmite83 i just say let's keep the faith regardless until test day.. please try to take it easy, no physical exertion, take your vitamins, drink water/ milk and keep calm xxx fingers crossed

@facevalue I'm currently 6+5 hence why I shouldn't be complaining about the meds because I really do appreciate how lucky I am.

@marmite83 hahaha 😂😂😂i'm so sorry i must have not read that part about you being already pregnant xxx lovely to hear it.. must admit when i got bfp in the past i didn't manage to keep the pessaries going for all the 12 weeks!

Morning ladies so just done the test and as I thought negative still no blood but discharge so period is defo on its way I actually fill ok I think iv known for a few days it hasn’t worked so that helped seeing that one line this morning , I’m going to call up today and try and get the ball rolling again .

@lola124 i'm so sorry😢 Gutted for you. plz take the time to recover and allow your selves some healing time / grieve ..

hugs

Thanks for everyone's nice words XXX

Sorry to hear this Lola xxxx

@Lola124 I’m so sorry to hear this. Make sure you have lots of treats lined up for you today, its not the day to be healthy. Is great you have a plan, allow time to grieve as well. Big hugs for you.

Thanx ladies iv rebooked for the 16th just to talk about it all and mayb start again Oct/nov we have just booked 5 days away next week to switch off and stop thinking about babies lol it’s so hard when it doesn’t work iv had my tears today and bumping into an old school friend today asking when am I going to have children didn’t really help 😢

@Lola124 ah great that you’ve booked some time away, I hope that helps a bit.

And Grrrrrr at the old school friend. Why do people still assume it’s okay to ask that question these days?! I’m so sorry they did that to you, today of all days.

Just popped back on and I'm sad to hear all the bad news. Hope everyone is taking care of themselves.

It never ceases to amaze me how many people think it's ok to ask questions like that. It's so upsetting to so many people, not just us struggling with infertility. I ended up in tears at a family wedding at the weekend when the bride had announced her pregnancy. We haven't told anyone about our treatment, so can't expect them to be gentle with us but I looked around the table of my husband and all of his siblings and he was the only one without a family, and I felt so guilty for not being able to give him that.

We are back on the 10th for our consultation and I have booked to have my AMH tested again so that we can make a more informed decision about how to proceed. My DH I think is more keen for another go than I am. We have had one go which I found physically and mentally exhausting, and the next time won't be on the NHS so it will completely drain all of our savings. It's just totally, totally shit

Hi everyone, I'm really sorry to hear that people have been unsuccessful this month. It must be really heartbreaking whether it's your 1st or 6th attempt.

I've just had my transfer from my very first cycle so I'm in the waiting game now. This has been the hardest part for sure x

@Lil221 it will work...I'm sure it will. Best best of luck!

Today we got bad news...our embryos didn't survive to be able to be frozen. It was so hard to hear those news. I was prepared for it yesterday but not today. So this is it...either it works with the one we transferred or we don't have anything else to come back to. Just feel that it's not fair but then at the same time there's people in so many worst life conditions than I am that I feel stupid and spoiled...

@confused107 sorry to hear about the weekend. That’s ones of the hardest things hearing about others pregnancy and to have it sprung like that, even as you said, then didn’t know the circumstances for you.

That’s good to get AMH tested again, so you know what you’re dealing with. Going again is a personal choice and only you will know if and when you’re ready for that. I took 4 months almost between cycles just to recharge and set myself and it definitely did me some good. Everyone’s different.

@Lil221 good luck with your 2ww - yep this is definitely the hardest part! Have you got any plans?

@Onisa7 I’m really sorry to hear they didn’t make it to be frozen. It’s not being spoiled to feel disappointed, this is a really tough emotional process to go through and you’re amazing and brave to do it. The rollercoaster of the hope zone vs reality. But You never know you may be lucky with your one little plucky embryo in you! Have everything crossed for that.

I’m so sorry to hear of BFNs and people’s struggles with this journey. It’s tough. I’ve felt pretty broken recently. I have our review with the consultant on Friday. That will be interesting as my husband and I aren’t really talking. Long story. Anyway, we’ll sort it out. I’m just expecting another blow on Friday as pretty sure we’re at the end of our journey. Don’t think I’m ready for that news just yet. Love and strength to you all.

@peanut1980 sorry i didn't want to read and run.

infertility puts a lot of pressure on relationships and that's why all clinics offer counselling. it's important to be humble and be kind.. no blame/ easier said than done i know!

i hope you guys can sort things before your appointment.. no one can tell you it's the end until you decide it is..

it's anonymous here so if u want to get things off your chest here or on a PM by all means go for it..

these pessaries are making me like a wild barking dog .. i think i told my husband off because i forgot something ... I FORGOT but somehow the hormones decided it was logical to blame him for it 🤣🤣🤣🤣 tbh we are on our 5th round so he's probably used to the crazy woman making an appearance every now and then... then another woman in rage appears on test day when she sees the bfn 😢 ticking time bomb

@Lil221 the TWW - high five 🖐🏼

@Onisa7 sorry to hear .. i know exactly what that feels like... this can still be the one or even 2 if it decides to divide to make a twin x fingers crossed

I'm sorry @Peanut1980 It's a tough process for everyone. I think I forgot there were two of us going through it at times. DH and I went to Blackpool over the bank holiday weekend. Hadn't been since we were kids and it was a struggle to find something last minute but we felt so much better afterwards. I felt like a lost a bit of myself in the process. We just needed a bit of time to have fun, eat chips, get drunk and spend time together. Make sure you take time for yourselves xxxx