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New year, new 'starting the journey' thread

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CloudSway · 22/02/2019 21:08

I know there are a lot of threads about people starting out, but they were all started a while ago and everyone seems a lot further ahead these days.

So.... newbies unite?

DH and I have been ttc for 2yrs. Saw our gp who ordered blood tests and sperm tests. He gave us a boat load of info..... jokes, he was pants. Told me I was 'fine' and husband was 'not fine', only detail was that DH has 4mil out of a necessary 16mil sperm, mentioned ivf and referred us to a specialist. That's all the info we got. Today I had a transabdominal and transvaginal ultrasound. It was not the most fun 20 mins of my life but it was fine, now I'm trying to play Sherlock and figure out what the random numbers the radiologist was shouting about my ovaries meant. How about you?

Because I'm early stages, I avoided forums/Google etc because I'm prone to anxiety and didn't want to panic unnecessarily. Therefore apologies but I'm still trying to figure out all the abbreviations and lingo! Also sorry, I'm naturally sarcastic and a bit sweary, but that doesn't mean I'm insensitive - it would be great to share stories and support each other here Smile

OP posts:
Kelly199 · 14/05/2019 22:02

@squirrelnutkins1 thank you ❤️ hope you're doing ok. I know. It has only been a few months, but if feels like a lifetime with everyone's journeys. Hope you're ok after reading through ❤️ xxx

@veeboo thank you 😘 that's lovely, nice to think of when I'm feeling negative! Thank you. Hope you're ok? Where are you in your cycle? Sorry if you've already said xx

@FinallytakingtheplungewithIVF hope your injection was ok xx

Hope everyone else is ok xx

FinallytakingtheplungewithIVF · 14/05/2019 22:13

@kelly199 thank you it was fine it’s like I’ve never stopped taking them and to be honest this medication doesn’t really hurt or sting when it goes I’m apart from a small rash after!

Hope your ok? Xx

Kelly199 · 14/05/2019 22:16

@FinallytakingtheplungewithIVF bless you, still horrible. Glad it's not as bad as you'd have expected.
I'm ok thank you ❤️ xx

GreyC · 14/05/2019 22:25

Glad your injections are going ok @finally and thank you @squirrel. Glad everyone else is ok?

Busy few weeks for me - I’m a teacher and doing sats and moderation at the minute so working around the clock.

Also has anyone done acupuncture or reflexology?

veeboo · 14/05/2019 22:26

Hi @kelly199 I'm on cd9 so starting opks in next few days.

2fingers22018 · 15/05/2019 15:52

@GreyC i keep on sayin i want to try acupuncture its quite expensive tho @squirrelnutkins1 thanks for settin up the new thread hun! X i got baby bombed by a close family member last wk now im gettin totally stressed out i think al b doin ivf around her due date talk bout bad timing!

squirrelnutkins1 · 15/05/2019 16:03

@2fingers22018 big hugs ☹️ xxx

I had a copy of my occy health referral thru today and it's made me feel crap ☹️

veeboo · 15/05/2019 16:12

Hi @2fingers22018 I am sorry about that. Is it someone you will see often? Do they know your situation?

@squirrelnutkins1 did it say anything you didnt want it to or which worried you?

2fingers22018 · 15/05/2019 16:35

@squirrelnutkins1 hugs back i think its seeing it in black and white sometimes that makes it seem more real..hope your alrite❤ whens your appt? @veeboo yh i see them all the time and they know im gettin ivf i just dnt want to bring it up and seem like im tryin to make it all about me but im scared tbh. I just feel like my hormones and emotions are goin to b all over the place and this a kick in the teeth😧

squirrelnutkins1 · 15/05/2019 16:48

I really feel for you hun @2fingers22018 wish I could make it better ❤️❤️❤️ you're so kind not wanting to make it sound all about you even tho your heart is breaking and you have every right to talk about it 💔 xxx

@2fingers22018 @veeboo I think it's just seeing it written down (doesn't help that my manager has got some bits wrong on the referral) but yeah just makes it all feel a bit fresh again and thinking about going and talking about it when I've started to cope a bit better is daunting. No date yet just a copy of the referral.

veeboo · 15/05/2019 17:55

Thinking of you both @squirrelnutkins1 @2fingers22018 sorry its feeling so hard. Hopefully positive things are on the way. I think what @CloudSway said before about having positive plans is really helpful. Whatever happens to others or in a report does not need to change your mood. You are both so strong.

GreyC · 15/05/2019 18:35

I’ve had the work baby bomb of ‘ we weren’t really trying... but..’
I find those the hardest obviously so happy for her but same time a pang of jealously and sadness. Looking forward to my scan now and moving forward :)
Thinking of you all 💕

FinallytakingtheplungewithIVF · 15/05/2019 18:43

@squirrelnutkins1 sorry your feeling crap try not to let it get you down xx

@2fingers22018 sorry you got baby bombed but try not to panic if you are doing ivf then you might feel less panicked as you will be working towards something xx

Hope everyone else is ok xx

veeboo · 15/05/2019 18:44

Hi @GreyC they are the absolute pits aren't they! I have been meaning to ask...please tell me to sod off if I am prying but I noticed you said they were going to prescribe you clomid if all was okay before IUI. Mine said they wouldn't give me that as all looks clear and like I'm ovulating. Do you think it's just different regions?
Good luck for your scan. When is it? I really found mine straightforward and it felt like we were moving forward.

GreyC · 15/05/2019 19:07

@veeboo not at all!! That’s what we are all here for. They said if my DP was all good on his fourth SA 🙄 and my scan was tubes were fine yes straight to clomid for ‘timed’ sex (not that we don’t do that already..) my progesterone was 24 on tears but she didn’t mention that. If DP is not satisfactory then straight to IUI I think!

Scan is 5th June and my repeat FSH on the correct day this time is either this month or next depending on my cycle and when I can get in the gp

veeboo · 15/05/2019 19:13

Thanks @GreyC must just be different approaches then. They said they only give it to women who dont ovulate so straight to IUI for us but we are waiting a while. I dont mind but I hate the idea that it's a postcode lottery! There's no long waiting list for IUI when we are ready for it so that's something.

GreyC · 15/05/2019 19:20

@veeboo we get 3 IUI and 1 x IVF after clomid if suitable. I hate thinking of it in that way as that’s only ‘4’ rounds of intervention and it makes me sad! We can’t afford private unfortunately without thinking long and hard as it would have to be a loan.
However I still think positive every month because you never know!

squirrelnutkins1 · 15/05/2019 20:18

That's the same for us. Even tho blood tests showed I did ovulate (the month we conceived) the nurse told me to still go ahead with the Letrazole and have the scans to keep an eye on things. We got given three months worth to try. I never took any because we conceived so I've got to wait until end of June for next appointment to see what the plan is now.
They mentioned 3x IUI and 1x IVF but if you went for IVF first then you couldn't then have IUI.

Surgeon said the 4-6 months after my lap would be my best chance to conceive via any of the above means. This is month 4 so I'm panicking a bit. Tick tock and all that.
@GreyC @veeboo

2fingers22018 · 15/05/2019 21:00

@GreyC yh this family member was trying and got pregnant straight away which makes it seem worse im 100% happy for her but it stings @squirrelnutkins1 thanks for understanding i feel soo guilty thinking this way but i cant help thinking its not fair @FinallytakingtheplungewithIVF i know i just really worry about my mood swings theyr bad enough atm without hormone injections lol i just feel myself getting soo angry all the time

2fingers22018 · 15/05/2019 21:02

@GreyC i know its soo expensive we have some savings but im scared to go private because it would leave us with absolutely no savings!

2fingers22018 · 15/05/2019 21:03

Wow 1round of IVF seems soo unfair!

veeboo · 15/05/2019 21:11

Hi @GreyC and @squirrelnutkins yea 3 IUI and 1 ivf here too. They said as all test results fine they wont give clomid but maybe I'll ask when I get back in touch with them in a few months. I feel quite positive about 4 goes at the moment. Maybe not once we start them! As we are unexplained I am honestly not sure about ivf so I was glad IUI is possible first and I can get my head around it.

GreyC · 15/05/2019 21:19

Trying so hard to be all positive but I’m generally run down with work at the minute and this is constantly in the back ground.
I think the next time we meet with the consultant after scan we will have a better picture of what is going to happen. I know 1 round is nothing but it could only take that one time 😊 (trying to be positive !!)

2fingers22018 · 15/05/2019 21:24

@GreyC totally it only takes 1 like u said im just thinking you should have the option of more if u need it tho the whole postcode lottery is very unfair

veeboo · 15/05/2019 21:27

I agree we can only take things a day at a time @GreyC. It's really hard not to worry and what if but I find my DPs way of thinking really helpful. He just reminds me that right now we know all the facts and have a plan. We just need to only think about the step of the plan we are on and not worry about the next one until we get there. It's not simple but he is right!