New year, new 'starting the journey' thread

[CloudSway]

I know there are a lot of threads about people starting out, but they were all started a while ago and everyone seems a lot further ahead these days.

So.... newbies unite?

DH and I have been ttc for 2yrs. Saw our gp who ordered blood tests and sperm tests. He gave us a boat load of info..... jokes, he was pants. Told me I was 'fine' and husband was 'not fine', only detail was that DH has 4mil out of a necessary 16mil sperm, mentioned ivf and referred us to a specialist. That's all the info we got. Today I had a transabdominal and transvaginal ultrasound. It was not the most fun 20 mins of my life but it was fine, now I'm trying to play Sherlock and figure out what the random numbers the radiologist was shouting about my ovaries meant. How about you?

Because I'm early stages, I avoided forums/Google etc because I'm prone to anxiety and didn't want to panic unnecessarily. Therefore apologies but I'm still trying to figure out all the abbreviations and lingo! Also sorry, I'm naturally sarcastic and a bit sweary, but that doesn't mean I'm insensitive - it would be great to share stories and support each other here

@mrsmch sorry didnt mean to ask questions and make you worry! That will teach me for being interested. My fertility clinic has an email address that I can send queries to. Although it sounds like it is nothing to worry about. X

@veeboo no you didn't. Just meant that during this process you tend to worry about everything and nothing lol!thats a great idea and would save all of us endlessly googling!x

@Mrsmch123 I know! I haven't asked them anything yet...saving my questions for when we have treatment.

Hope everyone is doing okay today.

@veeboo hahaha!what stage are you at?x

Welcome back @Kelly199 and @GreyC @VenusStar sorry ur feeling low its tough does your OH talk about your miscarriage? @veeboo gd the self inseminations there as a back up but does it drive u crazy when ur OH says things like itl happen we just try again i find it soo annoying lol

@2fingers22018 no not really. Although the difficulties we have are frustrating he is trying to be positive and it's better than the alternative which is giving up.

@Mrsmch123 we have been ttc since Jan 2018. We have had all the tests come back clear but my partner has erectile disfunction which has made things tricky. I also had irregular cycles until dec 2018. We have been told we can have three rounds of IUI then a round of IVF if needed. We have decided to keep trying until the autumn then go back for IUI if still no luck.

@veeboo ahh I see!lyeh that makes sense. How many goes of iui do you get?x

Just seen you said three🙈x

Yes 3 IUI and then 1 ivf after that. I umm and ahh about how soon we might go back to start it. Now we've been assessed they will put us straight on it for the next cycle once we ask, as long as there is capacity.

That's good that it's an option for yous. I'm still at the "assessment stage" but I think when we go in July we will be added to the icsi waiting list.....however long that is lol x

@veeboo well after nearly 4yrs i do lol @Mrsmch so whats ur nxt step? 💗

@2fingers22018 I know it's so frustrating for you and not what any of us hoped for. Did you get a chance to speak to him? What stage are you at with treatment options now?

@veeboo still on what feels like a never ending waiting list for ivf. Dnt get me wrong i love him to bits but i just feel like him being soo optomistic all the time is frustrating me more..its almost like hes in denial about it all. I dunno maybe guys just cope differently i feel like im losing hope in it ever happening for us

@2fingers22018 I think alot of us on here feel like that at least from time to time. Some of the other ladies on here have had counselling. Maybe that might be something you could consider whilst on the waiting list. If your DP is irritating you that much then you need to tell him. Is it because you feel he isn't doing everything he can? I think men often are less frustrated because it's not their bodies (and they don't have to do all the weeing on sticks, injections etc!)

@veeboo its not that hes irratating me im frustrated by this whole process i guess. Ive done counselling in the past it helps to an extent, the problem is im still not pregnant and im still living my life in limbo. Yh i feel like hes not fighting for this as much as me, exactly we re the ones temping peeing on sticks sitting with our legs open in front of strangers getting scans and injections 😧

So next step for us is repeat sperm analysis in a weeks time then back to see the dr in July for all the results and a plan.We have male factor and husband has been on condensyl for 3 months. We were told at our first appointment we would likely need icsi. I'm also waiting to see another dr about my short cervix which was discovered at the hycosy.x

@mrsmch123 I hope his next SA goes okay. Fx his medication has helped.
@2fingers22018 we are all here if you need to chat/rant.

@2fingers22018 sorry you're feeling so frustrated atm. It's normal and natural, and its not actually the law that you have to look on the bright side lol, but I would say it's not always healthy to get stuck in the negative. I'm not a therapist (sometimes I'm not even particularly nice lol) and we've all got different shit going on, but in case it helps I can tell you what works for me. I felt like I missed like 4 years of my life, literally I made no impact, I achieved nothing, I can't remember what I did for my birthday or Xmas. I ended up writing one of those awful '35 things before I'm 35' lists. Have a baby was top of the list, but it's only one of many things, including like camp on a mountain, go to new York, learn how to plait my hair, call someone I haven't seen once a week, stuff like that. Because of that we plan stuff so that even if we haven't got pregnant, it's still going to be a good year.

I mean, it's not a great year, and having a baby is top of the list, anything else would get cancled in a heartbeat! But it does mean there's things to look forward to, and there will be some good bits in the year. Keeps me sane, and reminds me I can still achieve something at least! Of course you can ignore this completely, I'm just some anonymous berk from the internet lol xxx

@CloudSway what a lovely post. I'm definitely going to write DP and me a list. He's been telling me to write a bucket list for a while because I have so many places I'd like to go!

Morning ladies. Sorry if I've missed people as I've just quickly scanned through to catch up.
@2fingers22018 hope you're ok. Sending hugs ❤️
@CloudSway such a lovely idea!! I like that xx
@Mrsmch123 hope the next sa will be much better after the medication! Good luck with your appt with gp about your cervix! Xx
@VenusStarr how are you? Xx
@squirrelnutkins1 Hope you're ok. Been thinking of you. Sending hugs ❤️
@veeboo @GreyC @FinallytakingtheplungewithIVF hope you're ok xx
(Sorry if I've missed anyone)

Sorry for the radio silence. I've had 2.5 good days so I'm pleased with that. Still getting attacks of chest pain when I think about things but i don't think it's anything to worry about. I'm going to see my friend and the new baby today, hoping it doesn't knock me back.

How did your appointment go @GreyC let us know when you're ready x

So glad for your appointment update @VenusStarr sounded a positive experience with an action plan. Lots of threads about laps and hycosys/HSG on MN, I'm sure you'll have been having a read already 😊

Thanks for your thoughts and well wishes everyone. Really appreciate the support @Kelly199 @2fingers22018 @veeboo @CloudSway @FinallytakingtheplungewithIVF Sorry if I've missed anyone.

Sorry af came @veeboo @CloudSway mine came on Thursday and then was really heavy on Friday - had to throw some underwear away and get OH to get me some of the long night time pads 🙈 read it can be normal after MC. So here's hoping we're on a fresh new cycle and we can get back to business - although part of me really doesn't think I can face the disappointment month after month again but the other part of me is like tick tock tick tock!

Hi to @Mrsmch123 Need to catch up on your story. So many to keep up with lol 🙈

Great post from @CloudSway I've been feeling the same with wasting my time obsessing and not doing anything else so I'm arranging a date night tomorrow for us, just simple but getting us out the house doing something and maybe we'll come back 'in the mood', better than being all like, erm we're meant to be dtd cus that what we need to do!

Bugs hugs to everyone xxx

Hi everyone; appointment was ok! Got to have repeat FSH as GP ordered it on the wrong day so looks too high! Day 15 instead of 2 it was done!! DP has to have another sperm analyst done as she said his previous too have always been ok but on both something didn’t come back perfect! I’m booked in for a baseline scan and then a HSH to book after that.
If everything comes back ok; Clomid tablets; if I come back ok and DP doesn’t iui x3. But if my tubes are notched than straight to ivf X 1. I’m going to clarify that as surely having the minor operation and then trying on our own for abit is better surely? But hopefully that won’t have to happen! All in all not a bad visit and everything booked in for early next month :))

Hi @GreyC so glad it's done and you're feeling good about it. I found having plans helpful.

Hi everyone wow we are going to have to think about starting a new thread soon! Anyone got any good ideas for names?

Sorry some of you are feeling low but I think CloudSway nailed it even though we are going through this we shouldn’t put the rest of our lives on hold while we wait or try! We are currently looking at booking a holiday in Aug so I’ll either be pregnant or it will be after a failed cycle! We’ve also joined the gym again so I’ve been a couple of times sad but I really enjoy it!

Im good thankyou @kelly199 how’s you?

@squirrelnutkins glad you’ve had a couple of good days!

@2fingers22018 sorry your frustrated Do you know how much longer you have to wait?

@greyC glad your appointment went ok

Sorry if I’ve missed anyone haven’t had time to catch up on all he posts! Xx

My medication for my fet has arrived today and we have signed the consent forms so all ready to go with injections on Sunday night!!

@squirrelnutkins1 hope it went ok with going to see your friend xx
@GreyC glad it was ok. Typical!! So annoying.
Let us know what results are. Hope they'll be ok xx
@FinallytakingtheplungewithIVF I know!! Loads now lol. Glad you're enjoying the gym. I'm ok thank you. CD14 so just waiting around again and dtd! So pleased it won't be long before your fet!! Really hope it will be successful. How long/often will you have to take the injections for? Xx
Hope everyone else is ok and has a good day xx