New year, new 'starting the journey' thread

[CloudSway]

I know there are a lot of threads about people starting out, but they were all started a while ago and everyone seems a lot further ahead these days.

So.... newbies unite?

DH and I have been ttc for 2yrs. Saw our gp who ordered blood tests and sperm tests. He gave us a boat load of info..... jokes, he was pants. Told me I was 'fine' and husband was 'not fine', only detail was that DH has 4mil out of a necessary 16mil sperm, mentioned ivf and referred us to a specialist. That's all the info we got. Today I had a transabdominal and transvaginal ultrasound. It was not the most fun 20 mins of my life but it was fine, now I'm trying to play Sherlock and figure out what the random numbers the radiologist was shouting about my ovaries meant. How about you?

Because I'm early stages, I avoided forums/Google etc because I'm prone to anxiety and didn't want to panic unnecessarily. Therefore apologies but I'm still trying to figure out all the abbreviations and lingo! Also sorry, I'm naturally sarcastic and a bit sweary, but that doesn't mean I'm insensitive - it would be great to share stories and support each other here

@VenusStar happy belated anniversary gd luck with the vits @veeboo and @Kelly199 im goin to broach the subject with him tonight and try and order the pipettes for self insemination wish me luck! Might need a drink for dutch courage..im in the tww again no point in even testing im definetley out this month! @CloudSway i know soo unsexy the thing is we had a great sex life before all this aside from ttc im really beginning to worry now that ttc is ruining the closeness for us. I know a relationships not all sex but I dont want to be one of those couples who never have sex..i dont know what to do about it tbh @FinallytakingtheplungewithIVF its ironic isnt it trying not to get pregnant during ivf but i was just wondering if it would lead to complications.. the crazy world of ttc

@2fingers22018 hope the chat goes okay! I think I've also said before that DP also uses viagra when he needs to. He orders it online but you can get it at pharmacies in the UK now. My tips for the chat would be, try and be supportive rather than approach it as something that needs to be fixed in the first instance...I've learned from experience there. He may need a few chats before he is ready to open up.

@veeboo thanks soo much for the advice nice to know im not the only one going through this but itl need to happen today now my sister popped in for a visit unexpectdly last nite lol typical eh? It was a gd distraction tho had a nice nite laughing for a change x

Glad you had a nice evening @2fingers22018. Try not to worry too much about the conversation.

Still no AF here. Due today and had the odd twinge. I'm meeting a friend for a prosecco brunch but I just cant bring myself to test and see another negative so I'm risking it. I know that's probably not the right thing to do!

@veeboo thanks the thing is ive brought it up to him before as in maybe try viagra or go to the docs to speak to someone and he wasnt too bad about it, i told him i understand its awkward to bring up at the docs but he shouldnt be embaressed hes not the 1st guy and he wnt be the last. I just feel bad bringing up the self insemination thing in an ideal world its not how i want it to happen either but lets face ivf isnt the convential route either..oh well enjoy ur prosecco i try to avoid drinking during the tww aswell but i dont honestly dont think a couple would do any harm its only idiots that get full on drunk x

Morning ladies hows everyone today?💗

Well AF has arrived! Did you have the conversation @2fingers22018? Hope went okay.

I totally get how you feel. It's not how I would want it to happen either but actually when it came to it DP was relieved it was there as an option if it looks like we might miss a key day. The way i feel as well is that if we (I) have to have invasive fertility treatment I sort of want to know we have done everything we can first. I think that might also be because its otherwise 'unexplained'

Morning @2fingers22018 I am tired it’s been a hectic weekend and went to see a friend last night and let my hair down abit and not talk about ivf or anything even though she did ask me if me and DH had thought about kids anymore but I just said you know we can’t have kids naturally (I’m not ready to share that we have already started ivf even though she does know that it’s something we were thinking of!) how are you? How did the conversation go?

@veeboo sorry af came! Hope your procecco brunch was nice!

@veeboo sorry bout af mine is due but def dnt have my hopes up at all this month we didnt have sex during my fertile window as i said. Ive not brought it up yet lol procrastination anyone?😂 im going to order the stuff behind his back anyway that way we have it in time lol I dnt know if today is a gd idea ive got major PMT.. hope you enjoyed your lunch @squirrelnutkins1 r u doing k hun youve been very quiet💗 @Finallytakingtheplunge glad you had a gd nite its gd to let your hair down and distract yourself even tho it seems impossible sumtimes @Kelly199 did you have a nice weekend😊

@2fingers22018 thanks for thinking of me. To be honest I'm really really struggling. I've taken a break from some social media and that's helped so may take a short break from MN too.
Thinking of you all whatever stage you're at x

@squirrelnutkins sending you hugs xx

@squirrelnutkins1 do whatever u feel is best for u but we re always hear to listen if u need it hun x

I know how long you ve been tryin its soo cruel😧

Hi ladies, sorry I've been quiet, was taking a break from here over the bank hol weekend.
Hope you all had a good weekend.
@2fingers22018 hope the chat goes ok/if you already had the chat, hope it went well.
I'm ok thank you, how are you? 😘❤️
@squirrelnutkins1 sending hugs ❤️
Hope everyone has a lovely day and is ok xx

Hi everyone, another one sorry for being quiet, been struggling a bit, feeling quite flat. I've just got to the hospital for our first fertility clinic appointment, feeling really anxious. I also think I'm gearing up to ovulate, only on cd7 but had twinges and cramps for 2 days plus some ewcm this morning. I usually get that a couple of days before, so might be ovulating around 3 days early, if I'm right.

Hope everyone's OK. Will let you know what the clinic says x

Hello everyone. Again sorry for radio silence! Trying to be all zen and not over think! My appointment is today at the fertility clinic - my first one. Terrified!!

@VenusStarr sorry you're struggling. This journey, whatever one you're on with infertility, is crap! Sending you lots of hugs ❤️
Hope your appointment went well (assuming you're out now).
That is early. I'm hoping I haven't ovulated early. Had no signs yet. Randomly did an opk last sat (cd8) obviously not expecting anything, I went out. Nothing looked as though it was appearing and it's obviously early. Then my partner called and was saying it was positive and when I got back it did look quite dark. Hoping it was just because of clomid or something. We dtd that day and the sun too and plan every other day and hopefully I will get the actual +opk this week to dtd! Fingers crossed it was nothing the other day and I hadn't missed anything. That's way too early though surely? I just thought if I was being monitored, they don't give a first scan until cd10?! I should stop worrying!
Let us know how you got on at the clinic xx
@GreyC wish you the best of luck at the appt too! Let us know how you get on xx

Thank you @Kelly199. Had more twinges but no more ewcm. Maybe it's a false start this month.

Clinic appointment was OK. They've not discharged us. In fact they practically ignored the miscarriage. Consultant has ordered a laparoscopy, hycosy and an ultrasound then will see us again in about 4 months. He's happy euth dh's SA so not doing that again. He did talk about amh blood test but we have to pay. We've decided to wait until these tests have been done, give ourselves another few months ttc on our own. If it's looking like we need an intervention or ivf it would make sense to get it. Not sure if it would make me more panicked and anxious to do it now. Feel happy that they've kept us on, was scared they'd fob us off because we'd conceived.

Have any of you had the hycosy or laparoscopy? Not sure what to expect? Had plenty of ultrasounds though. He wants to check my fibroids out.

How did you get on @GreyC? Did you find it very clinical? Suppose its straight to the point!

Glad it's out the way and we have a rough plan in place. Hope I can relax a bit about desperately needing to be pregnant again. I need to trust that it will happen, not there yet... Xxx

It's so hard not to worry @Kelly199, hopefully you're gearing up to ovulate. We may even be tww twins this month :) xx

Hi ladies, had my hycosy. For the person asking it wasn't too bad. I did yelp at one point(Think it was inflating the ballon).🙈but after that it was fine. They gave me 4 antibiotics to take straight after. Now currently feeling very nauseous which i think is because of the antibiotics. Anyway all looked well apart from I have a short cervix. Dr said she will refer me to another dr so they can have a look. Dr said it wasn't much to worry about. Anyone had experience of this?dr mentioned I may need a stitch??hope everyone is doing well x

@VenusStarr hopefully you will ovulate soon.
So sorry you felt that way during the appt. Sometimes I feel as though they're just too formal with no emotion!!! Perhaps because they're used to things, but it's horrible for you going then!
I had a hycosy, you're not in there long. They advise you to take painkillers before the appt.
I found it quite painful, but that was mainly due to the fact they had to clamp my uterus and I was just really tense. I was told they don't usually need to do it, so don't worry about that. I've read a few people's hycosy stories on here and they found it ok, just said it was like period pain. Honestly, don't worry.
Hopefully!! Will be nice to share the horrible 2ww with you xx
@Mrsmch123 glad your hycosy was ok (ok as can be!!).
Hope you feel better soon after the antibiotics.
Not too sure to be honest, haven't heard of it. Hopefully someone who who's will reply to you xx

Hi all...trying to catch up...sorry if I miss anyone.

@mrsmch123 glad hycosy went okay. Did theh say what's next? How does the stitch help?
@squirrelnutkins hope you're okay. Give yourself the time you need. @GreyC how was the appointment?
Glad they didnt discharge you @VenusStarr you must have been so worried but that's encouraging. @Kelly 199 I'm not sure if Clomid gives false opks but I think I'd be tempted to trust the test and try anyway. Hope ovulation comes soon for you both

I'm CD2 now. DP is very calm "we just try again". I might ask him if we can try over a longer period this month. We usually struggle but now we have the home insemination option I'm tempted to ask if we can try everyday (one way or another) once we get to CD12ish.

@veeboo yes, I am. Thank you. I shouldn't have missed it anyway because even if it was a positive, we dtd that night anyway so be typical if I've missed it!
Yes, that's a good idea! Try and maximise your chances. Hope you will have good news soon xx

@kelly199 thanks feeling much better now.
@veeboo I believe it would try to stop miscarriage when we get to the ivf stage. Not sure if they would do it before ivf or after positive test.We have an appointment to go over all the results in July so will ask again then. Was on my own and my mind went blank so didn't ask any questions lol!! I'm not normally stuck with words but defo not going to another appointment on my own🙈 Dr did say that it was nothing to worry about but obviously you do!!x

@Mrsmch123 I hope it will be ok for you and it'll all work out. It is horrible sometimes on your own in those situations. You feel as though you have so many questions afterwards that you wished you'd asked! Maybe write them all down for next time so you get the chance to ask everything xx