IVF/ICSI (2) - A supportive group of ladies at various stages of the ivf/icsi journey

[Starlumiere]

Here is the next thread lovelies!

elly try not to stress my friend went to the Dominican for two weeks all inclusive not knowing she was pregnant and ate everything your not supposed to and drank and her baby is perfectly fine.

jane at least you have someone you can speak to directly now. I have my fingers crossed for you.

hoppy thinking of you today.

Xx

Ps elly I also had an upset stomach around day 6 also. So don’t stress. Xx

Hi ladies. I officially miscarried last night. Rang the clinic this morning who said not to go in (thankful as it's a 6 hour round trip and I have some residual cramping and nausea). One of the nurses will ring me back later about where we go from here. We only had the one viable embryo so will have to do egg collection again.

I am ok. I'm devastated but feel a sense of relief that the pain is over- I was doubled over throwing up as well, wouldn't wish it on anyone.

@Janefx40 hopefully you'll be getting A* treatment from now on. At least your clinic have realised how shocking they've been, not that it's much consolation.

@Elly1685 don't worry at all. A friend of mine only found out she was pregnant at 7 months. She thought she had trench foot because she'd been to a really wet festival that weekend-turns out she had swollen pregnancy feet so you can imagine how much she'd been eating and drinking that she shouldn't have in those 7 months!! You definitely shouldn't worry my love!

Thanks everyone for thinking of me. The form was a godsend when I was on my own over the weekend, just having people to vent to! Sending positive vibes to everyone for your own journeys xx

@Janefx40 supposed to say "A star" and "forum"

@Hoppy1985 I'm so sorry. I really hoped things would resolve themselves. Take good care of yourself. Are you off work at least? Sending you lots of love.

Yes this forum is a lifesaver.

Xxx

@Janefx40 we had today off as it was supposed to be our first scan. A blessing and a curse I guess but yeah thankfully not at work x

Oh hoppy I’m so sorry this happened to you. Give yourself a well earned rest and go again. Yes this forum is really good. Take care of yourself xx

@Hoppy1985 I am very sorry sweetie, But yes it is such a release when it is over. Now will come the emotional part so look after yourself well sweetie, be good to yourself. I have, like you, to do EC as well again in June, but I am feeling good about it now. Lots of love to you XXX

Thanks @Starlumiere . How you've coped going through that twice and still feeling positive I don't know. I wish you all the luck in the world for this round xx

@Hoppy1985 I went through it once! On my first ICSI they put 2 embies and it was a positive and both took. Then I miscarried in December. Just once!

I am starting my second cycle in June and I am very hopeful. Take your time to heal, be good to yourself. Do you do any Acupuncture or something like this? Reflexology?

Have you got a plan already?

Miscarriages happen and it is very sad because we get attached, but many have babies after also so be hopeful sweetie XXX

@Starlumiere you are wise as always. I may end up doing stims again in June so maybe we will be cycle buddies!

So another curve ball. I emailed the lead professor on Saturday who does research into the situation I was in. He replied today saying he thinks it's ok to take the meds when I took them even tho it isn't the norm. He thinks a fresh transfer would be fine.

So now I don't know what to do. If we have any embies left tomorrow do we freeze or transfer? DP thinks freeze anyway but I really want my baby!

Xxx

@Janefx40 thank you sweetie and why not hey? I wish you will be already pregnant by then, but buddies yes would Love to!

Whatever you decide to do do it for the right reason. You want your baby, of course, but evaluate what is best.

Lots of love sweetie XXX

@Starlumiere ah I misunderstood, even so I imagine it was doubly bad.

We haven't heard back from the clinic yet but to be honest I'd like to go again as soon as we are able, mainly due to what I said before about my condition being progressive and the longer it takes the harder it will be. My stims and egg collection are the same but then any good ones are frozen so they can be tested which takes 3-6 months. How long after your failed cycle will you be starting again?

@Hoppy1985 Not an issue sweetie!

My clinic, but I think normally, after a miscarriage they ask for one natural cycle and the one after you can start. So for instance at the end of December I miscarried and could have started in Feb. I did plan to start in Feb and got all the meds, but the week before I did not feel ready, so I postponed to April (after my hols) and then decide I needed longer. I am 44 so according to science I should rush into it, but I don't care, I know myself and my body and what will be will be. I want my baby with the Love of my life that I only met 4 years ago, but I will flipping do it my way . My body is doing very well, we have a male infertility issue and he is 13 years younger !

Can you afford acupuncture? It will help heal quicker. XXX

@Starlumiere good for you my love. Yeah I don't ever think you should rush into it if you're not ready. We are still waiting for the clinic to ring us back to find out what they say before we think about what to do.

Still cramping and bleeding though much less intense than previously. Decided to take tomorrow off work.

So do you start your stimms again in June?x

@Hoppy1985 I am so glad to hear you are feeling better, bless you. It shouldn't take very long for you to hear back from the clinic. They will probably want for you to stop bleeding before you plan your next move, but you see determined, so you go girl!

Yes, this is correct I will start stimming in June, will be on a short protocol like last time. All is planned.

XXX

Thanks @Starlumiere yes feeling quite a lot better today thanks.

Yeah that seems to be the consensus though I know I shouldn't google 😬 yeah makes you more determined I think, I'm going to follow you in the positive thinking 👌

Hoppy I'm sorry to hear about your rough night yesterday. I'm glad your husband was with you to support you. Fingers crossed the clinic gets back to you soon so if you feel ready you can plan your next move. Xx

Clinic called me today and booked my scan in for 17/5. Which will be exactly 7 weeks X

@Winnie56 thanks. That's so exciting, it's nice to hear other people's good news. I think it makes you feel more positive!

Thank you for the warm welcome, sorry I posted and disappeared- been horribly busy at work! Hoppy & jane, really sorry to hear about all the stresses you’ve been having the last few days. My clinic also ‘forgot’ to start me on oestrogen so I didn’t take it at all between egg collection and transfer. They only noticed after the transfer and didn’t seem to make a big deal of it so I thought nothing of it at the time. Whilst my BFP ended up as an ectopic, I don’t believe that had anything to do with it.
I’m feeling a little sorry for myself although I know what I’m ruminating over is not a patch on what some of the rest of you have been through lately. My period is 3 days late with no signs of starting. If it starts soon it will be there during my holiday next week, or if it’s even later then my dates for FET are totally unpredictable. I don’t know what’s worse! I really want my period to start so I know it all still works so to speak. But I wanted to relax on the beach this holiday before everything kicks off again, was made to cancel my hols in March by the EPAU as it was too dangerous to fly at the time. Sorry for the long whinge! Ps I could anyone tell me how to put names in bold? I’m posting from my phone and can’t figure it out. X

Hi @Tigerlily99 fingers crossed your period comes soon. Where are you going on holiday ?

The only way I know is to put and @before the name. Sometimes it bolds the whole paragraph then but not sure why

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Hi @janefx40, thanks for the tip. we are going to Mauritius on Fri. Spent ages looking for Zika free beach options! Pretty much come straight back to coordination appt. X

Ps did you decide on whether to go ahead with fresh transfer? I hope it all works out well for you.

@Tigerlily99 oooo Mauritius sounds amazing.

We decided that if there is 1 or 2 embryos suitable for freezing then we will freeze and not take a chance. The embryologist didn't think there would be more than that. But if there is anything more than that by some miracle we will transfer any others and if there are any that aren't good enough for freezing we will transfer those. We are being realistic but also hoping for a miracle!

Expecting the call at 9am

Xxx

@Janefx40 good luck