IVF/ICSI (2) - A supportive group of ladies at various stages of the ivf/icsi journey

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Hello. Hope it’s ok, after a very short break from here, to come back! (I used to be beherenow31)
Had our follow up appointment, which made us feel pretty low. Dr thinks the past failures are now due to low egg quality 😒😒 we can try again self funded, and this will start with phoning when my next period starts.

Feel completely defeated tho. Why would it work this time, if it didn’t the last 3 transfers?!?

Sorry for the moan. I will try hard to catch up with where everyone else is! Xx

Beherenow32 Virtual hugs to you. It may work it may not work. It’s no point to keep thinking this way, you just have to try as long as you have strength to do so. And maybe this time things will be different. And if it’s not, you know u have tried all you could. Don’t give up girl xx

Hoppy that is amazing news, congratulations!.

It will be nice to follow everyone's journeys.

So I had my day9 ultrasound today which was my final check before trigger shot tomorrow night.

I had about 8 follicles which were bigger than 17mm - with the biggest being 22mm. Then I had about 12 that were betweeen 10mm and 16mm, and about 8 that were below 10mm.

Because of this, the doctor has said I am 'borderline' OHSS and therefore has said I am to trigger tomorrow with Buserelin not Gonal-F. This therefore means my body will not be ready to accept egg transfer and so they are going to freeze all eggs and I'll have to wait 2-3 cycles before they will do a transfer.

I am so disheartened because I was so close and now I feel like I've taken six steps back. My journey has already been 2 and a half years since I was first referred to the IVF clinic and for MANY reasons it has taken this long to get our first round and now I feel it has been taken away again.

Has anyone else experienced this? DH and I have tried to ring our consultant (as it was a different doctor who scanned me) to see if he agrees with the advice. I felt like this doctor today was just uhming and ahing and not actually giving justification.

xx

Thank you @Aliona19 just going to go with the flow. I haven’t really been taking any supplements, as I didn’t realise I had low egg quality!

If we go down the adoption route, I am happy with that.
What stage are you at? X

beherenow do what ever feels best for you, if you feel like you can’t go on stop and have a rest and maybe you will feel different in a couple of months time. If you want to go for it do it. What ever you decide will be the best decision for you.
elly I don’t have experience of this but if that’s what you have been recommended I am pretty sure that it’s best. I have heard how bad that OHSS can be and if you get held up a few more cycles to make sure you are safe then so be it. Good Luck. Xx

I know liverpool, I really don’t want bad ohss symptoms. I’m sure the doctor at gave the advice knows exactly what she’s talking about, I’m just wondering why my consultant gave me a really low dose of the Gonal f trigger - he’s prescribed me half dose. Maybe he pre empted I might over stimulate as I’ve got a high egg reserve level. Nothing is ever simple in this journey is it x

Hey Elly1685. I know it sucks when you been waiting forever and now they telling you to wait even longer, but it’s all for the best. You will have few month off to relax and enjoy yourself and get your body ready and then have frozen transfer. Doctors know what they doing x

Beherenow32 it’s really amazing if you happy and able to go through with adoption. So one way or another you will be a mummy. But I still think it’s worth another shot with ivf and maybe more if you able to. Too many stories of girls getting positives after multiple attempts. There is no point to give up. Just have to fight for something that you really want. Just be kind to yourself and do things with the pace that suits you.
I am 10 weeks after my frozen transfer. Living in a stress bubble constantly freaking out. Last week symptoms were gone and was trying to stay strong but anxiety was through the roof so went and booked private scan, so far all good 🤞🤞

Thank you for your kind words @‭Aliona19 and @Liverpool19 I think I will be feeling stronger again in a few weeks to try again!

@Aliona19 it must be a roller coaster of emotions for you. Hope your scan goes well and you can enjoy your pregnancy 💗

Hi elly

I was in a similar situation last week. I had 17 follicles on one side and 13 on the other. Not sure how many were of a particular size but I had some that were over 22mm. I was told by my consultant that anything over 18mm makes them rethink doing a fresh transfer. My oestrogen level went though the roof too but she coasted me for a couple of days to wait for this to go down. I ended up going ahead with the normal triggger shot and I am going down for egg transfer in two hours time. However, I am full of anxiety about getting ohss as I know I was probably very close to the borderline of having it. I now doubt whether they should be going ahead with it or should I be waiting for a fet. No matter what decision they would of made I think I would be panicky and a little upset.

One thing I have learnt from IVF and this forum so far is that you just have to trust your doctors are making the right decision for you and your individual needs. Even though it's so difficult. They want to get the best outcome for you and also there success statistics xxxx

@Winnie56 how did transfer go! Hope all is good. I wouldn't worry about OHSS. I had very high estrogen but didn't get it (beyond the painful bloating).

@Elly1685 I'm sorry you have to wait. It must feel so frustrating. They are currently doing a trial at our clinic on frozen transfer - they say there is some evidence that it leads to better success rates if you give the woman's body time to recover before transfer. We'll never know what would have happened but it's possible that transferring now would not have worked out when transferring later leads to a healthy pregnancy.

@Beherenow32 lovely to see you back on here. It is horrible when you get negative news. But as @Aliona19 says, you just have to keep going until you are ready to stop. As I am quite a bit older I have friends with seriously poor quality that it has worked for. One of my best friends is now 20 weeks pregnant with twins after 6 IVF attempts and poor egg quality. You just have to make the decisions that are right for you.

@Aliona19 sorry you are still anxious but I'm sure I would be the same. I'm glad everything is ok so far though. How have things been at work?

Xxx

Finally got through to make my appointment to see the midwife! 25 minutes spent on hold 🙈

Bloating has all disappeared but was awful for a couple of days. I had to go and buy new clothes.

We had a day 5 4AA put back in. And we have five in the freezer 4AA-, 3BB+, 3BB+, 4BA, 3AA

Any words of wisdom for the next 12 days? I feel really positive when I'm normally a negative person.

@Winnie56 I hope the transfer went well. I am keeping everything crossed for you!

@Aliona19 I am also quite anxious. Aside from my boobs being very tender I have no symptoms. Tried to do the other pregnancy test but didn't get the control line so had a duffer 🙄

My first scan isn't until 30th.

Hoppy1985 I had all possible symptoms, crazy hunger, it was actually hurting if I don’t eat for an hour or two, nausea, boobs, heavy belly.. and then one morning I woke up and could run a marathon.. and that’s how my miscarriage started last time. Tried to stay calm but had to book a scan and was very happy to see it’s all ok.. I wish we could all learn to relax and let it be x

Jane hey. Work is hectic.. people r slow and I have to do their jobs on top of mine, overtime’s and just run around like mad. I found it hard so most of the days asleep before even 8 pm.. which I totally no good for relationships. Last week 3rd person joined us and finally it was amazing day when everyone knew what to do. But next day my supervisor resigned 🤦🏻‍♀️ So we gonna have another moron soon and more stress. They asked me to be supervisor but I said no way ) so yeah 😅😅 fun, thanks 😃 did u find out what time you should be injecting?

Winnie advice-stay this way!!! Positive and hopeful. Nothing else can be done. Some people stay rested, I work on my feet all day long, so.. I don’t think there is way of action, just keep everything crossed and believe x

Thanks Aliona. I went straight back to work today.

Not feeling too great and quite a bad headache coming on

winnie all’s I can say is, anything you feel can mean absolutely anything! I had spotting for 4 days, headaches, back pain, light cramps, pain in my hip bone and under my ribs. Where as becky I think it was had nothing and we both got positives. Drink water, don’t over think it and stay positive! Goodluck xx

Thanks Liverpool. Did you test early or wait?

I tested two days early winnie then again the next day, then again on the actual day. Then I’ve done 4 more since because I am actual crank 😂. The night before I tested I had these weird pains in my knees 😳 and my whole body was aching so I just tested because of that 😂 xx

Thank you. Xx

Fingers crossed winnie!! You've got so many for the freezer too! I hope my cycle goes as smoothly... I'm terrified I won't get any follicles!

Hi, about to start a Frozen ET after a failed fresh transfer. Just wondered what other clinics have advised you to do or not do after a transfer. I’m with LWC x

Jozzer80 Good luck girl! Mine said no sex no bath no swimming 😁

I haven't been on here for a while been crazy busy but I have my first ivf appointment tomorrow! I have been with the hospital for the last few years so I have done clomid and injections (and had my ovaries drilled) but although everything looks ok (apart from PCOS & a spot of endometriosis) never had a positive! Tomorrow I am heading to the Centre for Life in Newcastle so we can hopefully go down the IVF route! Anyone else been to this place? I am concerned my BMI is over 30 .... trying to lose weight but still a few pounds over! Anyone else had this? Any clue as to how tomorrow will go? Guessing it will just be an admin/chat session together with hubbies speed test results! I am excited but also nervous! xxx

THanks for your advice ladies. So I have my egg collection tomorrow morning at 9am. Fingers crossed for lots of lovely eggs! I’m more nervous about the entire process of going to theatre than actually hearing how many eggs have been collected! Can anyone let me know what their experience was like? I’m having general anaesthetic for it.

@winnie fingers crossed the next 12 days fly for you! Positive thoughts sent your way x

@Elly1685 it's really quick, they take you in, position you on the bed then put you to sleep. Felt like I woke up two seconds later back in my bed 😂