IVF - A supportive group of ladies at various stages of the ivf journey.

[Dbear35]

A super group of women supporting each other and sharing their personal journeys and experiences during the IVF processs. All are welcome !

OMG I just left for lunch and came back to all this!!! I love reading your posts

Aliona we are all different so if you can’t relax, It is better to exercise as it gets read of any physical stress, hence helps, mental & emotional anxiety as well as promotes blood flow, oxygen intake – which are all very beneficial for what you are about to go through. So I concur with MinsterMinX you go girl! Believe me once pregnant you wish you could run or go to the gym, so enjoy while you can!

The way she finished her sentence indicates she needs a session herself. For crying out loud this is NOT the way to deal with people’s emotions! It should be a none judgemental environment, filled with patience and compassion. We don’t care she is working overtime! She is paid for it, it is her job. Who cares about what she thinks/feels? We care about what Aliona thinks/feels!!! And what does this mean “…and next time we will talk about how to help you…” of realllllyyyy? Is this the objective of a counselling session? Because I was under the impression you were supposed to have a pep talk while drinking some tea, followed by a tennis game! I mean this is utterly OUTRAGEOUS!!!! Absolutely pathetic. I am sorry my dear you have to endure the idiocy of this Counsellor, but stick to it for you and be upfront (calmly ) with what does not make sense to you. Ask your questions. It is her job. You are fine. It is a very good thing I don’t go with you……On another note, love you too girl!

Minster they said it will be picked this afternoon and somebody will call me tomorrow morning. I think a few people are on holiday already as the nurse mentioned that there were no more EC until 2018. I am sure they will let me know once they have the results. It was not cheap, but the most expensive at all. I went for a package will made things manageable at all levels. I highly recommend them.

Dinks yippie this is great!!! Thank you for letting us know!

Rose thank you sweetie, very kind you to say so . I understand your OH and understand you. Go with what you feel, that’s what I do. If you tell yoru paremts they will be over the moon and cry probably. So it is warm thoughts, love and beautiful vibes. They have had children and know the risks, and will probably tell you themselves. We all know right? Just what your heart says – and of course consult your OH!

Dbear it is true, next Tuesday is your meeting and then you start on the 28th of December, it is very soon indeed! You are so sweet, thank you . Yes the Clinic is truly great and the Lead Consultant has so much experience in the field because of the research he has done. I have been blessed all around and I am very grateful. I have to be honest I still can’t believe it.

As for me I feel a lot better now that stuffed myself with the most delicious lunch EVER!!!!

It’s Friday yeahhh !!!!

XXXX

Oh @rosewrites I hope u can persuade your OH, it is risky but for the same reasons that we want to tell certain people (& only certain ppl, like you, parents, siblings) i think in person is the only way because they will be so happy for you they will want to hug you, especially if u don’t see them much, and it’s the week before Christmas ! It’s so special and it would be such a shame if your DH’s family find out face to face its a shame that’s why we are going with all find out together early and if something happens it happens. When you see a heart beat risks do lower 😁& family will support u if u need support so would u prefer to have told them & have that support?! Is how we decided anyway xxxxx

You could say “your present is on back order, I’m afraid it won’t be ready until the end of July 2018, it needs to develop for another X weeks inside me first!”

Lol Star made me laugh a lot here. Maybe I just have to show her your post 😅

Morning all!

I am in London this weekend in my OH's flat. Going to see Big Fish and The Grinning Man in the West End, 2 musicals with a truly special friend of mine.

Did not hear the phone ring but the Clinic called and they left a message after the second attempt to let me know that the result indicate a strong pregnancy . Will call them on Monday as they suggested to do so much if I had any questions.

I am so glad to be out today, although I know tonight I will be tired but I have tomorrow to do absolutely nothing!

I thought you would want to know 😍🌟✨💫.

Lots of love to all,
XXX

Aww Star what a lovely news from u. “Strong pregnancy” sounds soooo magical ❤️❤️ Enjoy your weekend 😍😍

That’s great star awesome news!!

Great star that's awesome news :)

Thanks for your advice on telling people before 12 weeks. i decided not to. It just feels to premature for excitement and big congratulations and celebrations. I'll be 8 weeks on Monday so (all being well!) Not long until the magical 12 weeks. I know things can still go wrong after that, but I feel more comfortable doing it at that point.

I do appreciate it is a nice problem to have :)

Hope everyone has a nice weekend. Thanks again for your advice:) x

Dear ladies,

I have been up since 3am as I had cramps and then went to the toilet to check and saw blood when I wiped. It is not flooding like period, just when wiping but I have a bad feeling about this. I just went to check and still a bit of blood when I wipe but it is dark now. I am getting ready to go to the clinic to face the truth.

I feel calm, but concerned and vulnerable.

Pray for me girls, and of course whatever the outcome I will let you know.

Love to all,
XXX

Oh Star I do hope everything is ok.

As it is now dark, it sounds like implantation bleeding. But it's 100% right to go to the clinic and double check.

Sending you lots of love. I'm thinking of you xx

Good luck @starlumiere lots of us have had bleeding and are still ok and we so hope it’s the same for you lovely, sending lots of love and hugs, it’s horrible xxxxx💕💕

Ladies,

Had a scan and they saw the pregnancy and potentially 2. One is small and could be the reason but all good for now. They said it could be small because it is hidden by the bigger one. Staying home for a couple of days.

Thank you for educating me and sharing ladies.

Lots of love,
XXX

PS: what did they sau the bleeding was? They could see where the brown blood was but all good...

Oh Star what a stressful end of the weekend for u..how r you feeling now? Did the scan put your mind at ease a little? Loads of love for you. Do you want me to send my cuddly puppy your way to keep you warm and stress free?! 🙃 hope u little calmer now and can have some rest. How was you weekend?
Morning all ❤️

Star they could never find any reason for our bleeding, they just said it often happens (clinic said up to 25% of cases) and EPAU said lots of ladies with normal pregnancies bleed a bit too could be internal bruising,could be old implantation bleeding, could be from pessaries if u are using them up there could be a range of things but all say a bit of brown blood is not unusual though it is sooooo scary.

Rest up, stay warm, u are pregnant & with your love and maybe 2 little snuggles there so hope it makes u feel a bit bettter like it did us a bit xxx

Oh gosh just trying to catch up !

Good morning all!

Star sorry to hear you have had a stressful end to your weekend, glad you got seen to quickly and that they gave you the good news that all is OK. I think staying home and having some chill time is needed for you, meditation is needed now more than ever to settle the mind. Much love to you xxx

Weekend was crazy busy think I've finished most of the present shopping, now onto food shopping! Went for an epic walk on sat with the godchildren which was great albeit cold, it's good to blow the cobwebs away.

I can't believe we have our FET meeting tomorrow seems to have flown by, finally I feel like I am doing something.

My DH and I watch a programme on channel 4 called "finding me a family" basically following groups of children looking to be adopted. We both watched it in silence and at the end of the first one we were both in tears and really effected, mainly for the fact these children just want a loving home it's so heart breaking.
Adoption is something we have always talked about and even more so since our failed 1st attempt and this programme helped us learn about the process. We have both agreed that we are going to start looking into the adoption process in the new year as it can take 2 years to get approved. If we cannot have our own biological children then we have plenty of love ready for a child that needs it.

hope everyone else had a good weekend xxxx

Aliona yes I burst into tears when she said you see there, that black dot well it is the sac, your pregnancy and then I just exploded!! Lasted 15 secondes but I did. Then she said and under it can you say this little dot is the other sac. It is smaller, but we can't say anything for now. Let s wait for January. Recommended to rest and try not to worry. So if they are there, they are there, and i intend to keep them there. I feel relieved, but fragile/vulnerable. Now resting, watching a film with my OH who stayed with me. I will get my strength back by tomorrow with lots of meditation. Thank you Minster for sharing that scary time with me again.

Dbear how exciting for you tomorrow! It has come so fast hey? For you too Aliona 😘.

Lots of love too all
💫✨🌟😍😘

PS: just checked and have nothing now when I wipe...🙏🏻🌟🌟

How r you feeling Star? Little better? Xx
Dbear. I know time flew so fast. Not long time ago were feeling left out and treatment seemed so far away and now things moving way too fast. Adoption.. I admire people who can go ahead with this. Also it’s mad that kids need home yet it’s unbelievably expensive to get things done..so wrong!

Minster how was your special weekend?

Hiya

I was wondering if I could join? Have been reading a few of your posts. It's lovely to hear of some positive news.

We've just started our monitoring cycle so totally new to it all. Just trying to me hopeful - I tend to be a bit pessimistic so it's good to hear some of you are pregnant. Fx for happy healthy pregnancies for you.

I'm finding it even harder to tell people I'm doing IVF than I did that we were TTC. Not sure why. So it'll be good to have some online pals.

Have a good evening xx

Janefx40 Hi ! 👋🏻Of course you can join glad you found us, welcome!

Feel free to to say whatever you want on here be as honest as you want no-one here judges.

This is our 3rd feed I joined in feed 2 There have been some awesome stories and positive progress 😊.

I’m 35 my DH and I have been TTC for 3 years, I’ve never been pregnant. My first fresh IVF cycle started on Sep but unfortunately didn’t take But I did end up with 6 ❄️.

Currently im waiting to start the drugs again to hopefully go for an FET in Jan 2018.
Xx

I know what you mean, after so many years of trying it takes it toll. I’m a glass half full kinda girl and I’ve been really trying to change that, having acupuncture and having counselling.

I feel better, thank you for asking Aluona. Have been in bed since coming back from the Clinic this morning. Nothing when wiping anymore since this morning, which is a relieve. Hoping all will go well and can't wait for the 3rd of January for my 7week scan and hopefully will hear a heartbeat. Staying home tomorrow and might ask a colleague to fetch my laptop and stay home for the rest of the week and then I am on holiday. I haven't slept, but i did meditate and watched films with my love 😁. We will see, but I believe.

Welcome Janefx40! Like you I was totally new to all this but these beautiful ladies on this thread taught me most of the things I know and always gave me the greatest support. It is an interesting journey and the best advise I would give you is to take it one step at a time. Are you on a short or long protocol?

Love to all,
XXX

Evening ladies,

Firstly some pics from our lovely 2nd wedding anniversary weekend away in North Yorkshire, we rented a cottage so we could take puppy & DDog with us & puppy was so good despite only being 15 weeks old (jane) puppy is the bigger white one which we got the week we were scheduled for FET for it got postponed, total coincidence!!

And a couple more! We had an amazing meal at a restaurant which has been voted as the worlds best (Black Swan at Oldstead) which we had vouchers for given by my darling best friend & was fab, a wonderful break to think that 2 years ago we got married thinking I had not much time left due to cancer & it was us & DDog & as a mini moon before our skiing honeymoon (as I had treatment in between) we went to west yorks on a similar trip & it snowed, last year we celebrated remission with a trip away the three of us, this year celebrating our 2nd anniversary we had decided I had enough time to get another dog so it’s 4 of us, & now we know if the pregnancy goes well then this time next year it’ll be us 2, 2 dogs & a baby! And in Dec 2014 I was told I likely had 1-2 years to live due to my stage 4 skin cancer coming back in my lungs & my neck, now my rumours are nigh on impossible to spot in my lung scans & my neck was removed immediately. CRAZY!!!

So, hi jane welcome!! I hope we do give you hope, it’s a scary rollercoaster this IVF and due to cancer treatment since I was 26 in 2011 I’ve never TTC & as my treatment was not normal chemo I was never offered my eggs being frozen as I was told it didn’t affect my fertility. It did. Massively. But anyways.

So I’m minster, not allowed to carry a child cos I can’t stop my immunotherapy treatment so my darling best friend is a surrogate for myself & my husband after we did IVF in a break in treatment that only my parents & 3 friends know about. No one else knows.

Age 33 now, 32 when eggs collected & told them my AMH was so low it would be unlikely to get results. But we got 4 eggs, resulting in 2 embryos to freeze for FET for surrogacy, high quality.

Transferred 1 in Nov, best friend now 8 weeks pregnant!!

It only takes one, it’s a huge secret we are revealing when we host on Xmas day 😁🎄

Jane I think it’s hard to tell ppl about IVF as many of us think ppl just assume it means u get a baby as a result. They don’t know how hard it is. How draining. How emotional. How your DH can be detached. How obsessive you can become. How u think it’s your fault. (It is my fault in our case & my DH has even said that in arguements which is awful when I know I’m broken). So it’s very hard. This is great. Feel free to moan 😁

star I’m so pleased you are notbleeding now, it’s horrible, everything crossed it continues

aliona tomorrow!!!! Yayyyyyyy!! Come on it’s your time!!

Sorry for the essay, love to all 💕🌟🎄

@Minster2012 beautiful photos and amazing to hear about the journey you've been on. So exciting about your Best friend being 8 weeks. Puts my moaning into perspective too.

@Starlumiere glad you are feeling better and that you can rest up. Not sure which protocol we will be on as on monitoring now but based on results from GP and previous tests they are expecting me to start a long protocol.

We need to decide whether to do immune but we would have needed to do it this week and as we have been indecisive, have pretty much missed our chance to do tests anyway this month due to Xmas break. I was unsure anyway so I think I'm happy to try a first cycle without.

I know what you mean about people not quite understanding. My SIL was talking excitedly last night about how we may have another person in the family by next Xmas - inside I was freaking out - all I see in front of me is injections and disappointment. OH and I seem to have fallen out too this evening...so it begins...

Morning all.
Star so happy u feeling better. Star is ready to shine again )) my OH has few extra days off this week so we spending time together playing computer games 😅 trying not to murder each other 😅 bonding time
Minster lol I think I had this moment a while ago and forgot all over again, that u r 33. I was sure u 42 or so 😂 I am like a gold fish, get surprised each time u mention it 😂 your weekend looks soo good. I would love to take puppy somewhere but she is not allowed of the lead 😒 can’t let her run free. This morning she managed to get into the bedroom at 6 am and woke us up, I don’t remember saying this but according to my OH, I said “oh you fluffy b.stard” 😅 so that’s what she is called from now on.
Going to see doctor today but it’s nothing to do with ivf. My period meant to arrive Sunday and it didn’t, so hope it won’t for next hour at least 😒
Hi Jane 👋🏼I also had a lot of moments with my OH arguinung but it’s normal. And yeah, we just talked about it the other day, it’s very frustrating when people say “oh so u gonna be a mummy next year” and all u think is “it might not work” “what’s wrong with me”..but have to stay positive. Injections they not that bad, but I don’t miss them ☹️ Anyway, welcome and fingers crossed it will be a positive experience

Atik Dinks where r u?!

Star Sooo pleased that have no more bleeding and that you have your positive pants on . I think staying home and working from there is the right thing to do. The 3rd of January will wiz round and your be seeing your babies hearbeats before you know it I am sure of this!

Minster Those pics look like a dream ! lots of fresh air and snuggly nights in front of the fire I love this! And your story I think it's the first time I actually know the whole thing (because I was a late comer to this thread). You've been through so much but you have such the right attitude , and as jane says above it puts my moaning into perspective a lot! 8 weeks wow where has that time gone I remember when you and your friend were driving like crazy to the clinic for the FET! Your announcement is going to be awesome I'm so excited for you!! Can you video it and share! LOL
I am a foodie and have heard of The black swan I love watching the great British menu, but it's a long way away from the suburbs of surrey!

Jane What do you mean by immune ? What is this? I haven't heard of this? (see you can teach me something). Arguments with the OH will happen, for me they occurred when I was on the injections, I constantly was apologising for being hormonal . But it's a stressful time so it's understandable but try and tackle each day as a team together your both in it together.

I was on a long protocol but once you start it goes by so quickly!

Aliona Hey! I know how quick time passes, I hope you are enjoying the time off with the OH (I am terrible at computer games). I also hope the dr's appointment goes OK today for you and AF doesn't arrive yet!

rose atik dinks where are you ladies? I hope your well!?

About to leave for my appointment as the hospital is an hour away, I keep thinking I should have questions to ask atik is the only other lady on here that's had a FET Atik did you ask any questions?

Love to all.

Hi everyone,
Sorry for radio silence! I’m up in Scotland for a last minute long weekend. Heading home today but it’s been the best for recharging batteries!
Star - I’m so sorry to hear about your scare but as Minster and I both discovered there are lots of reasons for bleeding and only one of them is bad! Glad it’s stopped now - fingers crossed :)
I hope everyone else is ok? I’ll write more tomorrow when I’m back at work (haha). Three more days in the office then off til the 8th!!!!
❤️❤️❤️❤️ to everyone