IVF - A supportive group of ladies at various stages of the ivf journey.

[Dbear35]

A super group of women supporting each other and sharing their personal journeys and experiences during the IVF processs. All are welcome !

Morning!
Star! Did you get your bloods done?!x

No tomorrow morning Aliona . I have my appointment at 7:45am.

Morning!

Did you and OH celebrate 🌟🌟star??

Hey everyone how is everybody?

I’m feeling very Christmassy now, sat in hairdressers in a Christmas jumper which says “meet me under the mistletoe” getting preened for our anniversary weekend away tomorrow feeling great!!

It’s lovely and bright but frosty here in East York’s! Hope everyone is warm, positive and getting their festive glow on xxx

Not as such no Minster, because we are so busy and also it takes time for things to sink in. We will of course but I think we will wait until the first scan on the 3rd of January. We are very happy, but just want to be prudent.

I am feeling good, just very tired after a day's work and can't do anything once I am. I am feeling things happening and my trousers are starting to be tight so will need to invest in 1 at least for now. Wearing lots of skirts and leggings for now. I can't wait to be on hols next Friday!

Yes I feel very festive also . I love this season!

OMG I am exhausted! This i has been since 2pm! Flipping heck! Not complaining, just sharing with you my experience. Also I have a membership with our toilets in the office .

Oh just booked tickets to watch Star Wars tomorrow evening at 8:15pm - I am going to rush home for a snooze otherwise NO WAY I will make it and then will be bummed!!

I am so not used to this [smile} but I am embracing it.

Aliona how was your counselling session?

Minster happy with your hair? All ready for your hubbie?

How is everybody else? Rose Atik Dbear Dinks?

XXX

I just waiting till Monday for my scan to find out if everything it's okay, I getting cramps on and off so a hope everything it's okay

How many weeks will it be Atik on Monday? I was told cramps are normal sweetie 😘🙏🏻

star tomorrow a guna b 6 weeks xx

Hi star glad to hear your doing well even if you are knackered! In fact your probably double knackered 😉and I guess feeling sick now? All good signs even if they don’t feel particularly good xx

I’m all ok, wk has been busy but I have 4 days left of work and I’m then off until 3rd jan so looking forward to a nice break. I have my next acupuncture tomorrow, my last one I actually fell asleep! So hopefully I’ll do the same tomorrow.

Question for people after acupuncture tire my AF has lasted a lot long than usual (7 days instead of 4) is this normal?

atik how exciting about the scan monday I’m sure everything is just fine and cramps are just your bits moving and adjusting to get some space for baby 😊

aliona how was your next appointment? I don’t have my next one until jan ! 😱feels like its far to long away 😔

minster love the fact you and your hubby call bump nige it’s cute!

Feeling semi xmassy still have a few present to get but getting there!

rose dinks hope both ok?

Ooooh star maybe they have both taken then!! That toilet will be your best friend...can you hot desk near it all the time?!! Or move closer!! I have everything crossed that your bloods are whatever you wish for tomorrow!!

Yes I now have lovely shiny hair for anniversary weekend and feel good, can’t wait for a weekend away of good food, walking & wine before madness ensues! I saw one of best friends new baby (DC2) today, she’s one of the few that knows about the IVF and asked if we were able to do anything with the embryos yet, I was like “pffft I’ve not been well have I so we need to get that sorted then we’ll see” hoping in a few weeks they’ll be one of the first we tell & our child will be the same year as her new baby might be same school even depending where they move soon!! 😁

atik cramping is ok & Monday is not far away, take each day as it comes hun, like dbear said, 6-7 weeks I think your uterus doubles in size!!! 🙈🙈🙈that’s gotta cramp!!

dbear Jan is only 2 weeks away!! Really not far sweetie, to make time go fast during our wait for FET we tried to make sure we had something to look forwards to each few days so we were focusing on that as little chunks instead and the time went quicker- seeing friends, a dinner date, weekend away, going to the cinema, just something else. With party season and festivities maybe that can help?

aliona I cant decide what nails to do for festive nails, I feel I peaked with my baby dust nails, help!!!

Hey.
Feeing a bit grumpy and depressed AF. Also cramping for last 2 days. Period should start Sunday, don’t know why so unwell so early. Maybe coz the previous was late and strong. Also I have gyno appointment on Tuesday so Bcoz of period will have to cancel and very unhappy about that..
Star the lady was again asking what makes me feel the way I do and kept repeating things I have said. To be honest I m getting little annoyed. She saying there r loads things to help me yet 2 sessions and not a single suggestion..hope next time will be better. Good luck tomorow, really hope it’s super well for you 🌟🌟
Dbear as I just said I am not sure about councelling. All she does is bringing my horrendous memories back and making me cry. Not telling me how to stop thinking the way I do..why yours so far away? Take it it’s private? Bcoz I been told to come every week and if I miss one-that’s it..
Minster 😁 do baby foot like this on your nails. Or get usual xmas design with some glitter and do baby foot on your toes 😄😍

Ha, Aliona I would worry that might give the game away too early! We aren’t going to tell ppl until after the main course of food before dessert so a good couple of hours in!! Maybe some festive glitter it will have to be!!

I totally understand about about the counselling, that’s why I stopped seeing my cancer counsellor, she just kept making me talk about things that made me cry & sad & not giving me a way to make a difference or cope any better than just holding it back and not talking about it like I was doing before I walked into the room, it was making me think about shit stuff more so I stopped going. But I did find the IVF counselling helpful so I hope you can guide them, tell them you aren’t finding that helpful & can u talk about coping mechanisms or ways to deal with it instead...don’t be afraid to say things aren’t working to them, they are to help you & if it’s not & upsetting u then u need to let them know.

Evening all,

Just a quick update from me as I’m going to bedfordshire. (My bed, not the county... just in case nobody else uses that weird phrase).

Star - I have everything crossed for you tomorrow!! I remember feeling utterly shattered early on. A few times driving home I had to stop in car park to close my eyes as I was sleep-driving Get lots of rest whenever you can, you need all your energizer bunny energy for growing human(s)!

Minster I want your jumper!! I have pyjamas that have meet me under the mistletoe written on them. But they don’t fit me now!! Must find something to replace them!! You do seem very festive... do you want to come and decorate my house for christmas? I have no energy!! Happy anniversary for the weekend btw, just in case I don’t get online tomorrow; I hope you have a lovely time, it sounds fabulous!

Aliona I remember my last counselling treatment being a bit like that... they didn’t really introduce the techniques and stuff until about week 5, most of it was talking until then. Can you say to your counsellor what you think about it? Because not every type of counselling works for everyone. I had a few false starts (I have had a lot of counselling lol). I hope you’re ok otherwise, and that the leak in your roof is fixed!!

Dbear I’m so jealous of your acupuncture!! I love it. I should go back... I really want reflexology too. Christmas present to myself maybe. Any more exciting weekends ahead for you? Or calming down before christmas?

Atik cramping is totally normal apparently, I have it pretty much constantly from around week 6-7 to now, and still it goes on... Not long til your scan on Monday!!

As for me, I am literally going to lose my mind with this sickness. It’s been getting worse all week and today I had to call in sick to work, just as my poor team got a massive piece of work and I had to try and direct it in between trips to the bathroom. I am going to have to miss my teams christmas party tomorrow, and OH’s work christmas dance, and a winter ball on Saturday... We have a trip to Scotland planned Sunday-Tuesday and I am even wondering if I can cope with that. It’s so crap.

And now I apologise for complaining so much!! On the plus side, we have the 12 week scan tomorrow morning, followed by consultant obstetrician appointment, where we will find out how they will manage the rest of the pregnancy... seems really surreal.

Anyway, bed. I’m sorry if this is all me-me-me. I hope I feel better soon, mostly so I can stop being a giant pain in the ass to everyone!!

Love to all of you 💕💕💕

Minster do a rudolf face then 😀
She said next app she will discuss options and if she doesn’t-I will prob quit. It’s not ivf councelling, it’s to help me with my post traumatic stress, but I don’t think there is a way to change my mind anyway.
Dinks roof meant to be fixed next month and still leaking 😤 I am sorry it’s not getting easier for u with his sickness, I felt sick on the bus the other day, hate the feeling and was thinking about u. Must be awful to feel like this non stop (regardless of the reason) ❤️❤️

Morning ladies!

So woke-up happy as it is Friday and then the nausea/migraine like nausea stroke me. Got to clinic for the blood test, told the receptionist of the positive tests I have had and she jumped off her chair and run to me to hug me and was also tearful! The nurses were so happy, they hugged me and said the whole team was over the moon when they heard because they got attached to me. Then I got tearful because it was such a kind & beautiful thing to say. It took them 10 minutes to find a vein and then done! I feel a bit better now. I find eating something eases the nausea a little. My breasts as feeling fuller and sensitive. They will call me tomorrow morning for the results of the blood test and gave me a prescription for more Progynova (3 times a day) and Pessaries (twice a day) until my scan on the 3rd of January. I did ask if it would be better to carry on until 12 weeks and she mentioned to ask the Consultant on the day of the scan. So we will see.

Tonight I am going to watch Star Wars yeahhhh !!!! I am so happy about that! I will need to have a quick nap though, otherwise I won’t make it for sure!

Minster have a fabulous minxy anniversary weekend!

Atik so close to your scan sweetie. I hope it will be magical for you!

Dinks 12 weeks tomorrow? Wooowwww how great tomorrow’s scan will be hey? I am sorry to hear you are still feeling poorly. Hopefully within the next few days you will be feeling better and lead a more “normal” life. Thank you for the tip . You will love Reflexology I promise you!

Dbear me too! Working until the 22nd midday and then back on the 4th! YESSSSSS !!!!!!! My plan is to do NOTHING!!!! RIEND DE RIEN!! I say this but I know myself. As a therapist, I would say bleeding more is normal. What acupuncture does is open the meridian so that the Chi/energy can flow, so yes I would not worry. If anything it is a good thing. It flushed what needed to flush .Anybody else? Gosh all very soon for you now sweetie pie. I am so happy for you! How do you feel about it all?

Aliona yes I know your pain, that’s why I don’t practice the conventional way. I think it is totally mental! Let me sort myself out and we could meet and will sort you out. That’s what I do. That’s what I am known for. Patience sweetie. They basically choosing this tactic to get your emotions on the surface and let you deal with it until the next few sessions. The crying is an indication of where you are with it. There is a plan I promise you. Please don’t give up or ask for somebody else. YEs it could be twins or not, we will see. I am just trying to be in the moment and let tomorrow be tomorrow. For now I am content despite, wanting to puke right now, but hey that’s the path I have chosen right?

Scots Rose and whoever else I have forgotten I hope you are doing well?

Lots of love to you all,
XXX

Star hope the bloods have all gone ok this A.M?

Dinks how did the scan go!? Sorry to hear your still feeling poo perhaps the 2nd trimester will be easier on you, I'll have my fingers crossed!

My mum always used to say "up the wooden hill to bedfordshire"

Aliona I don't know why my next one is so far away it is at a private hospital but im on NHS, I have a work employee program that I'm gong to call today so I can try and get some regular counselling even if it's via the phone. Stick with your and take the others advice that you need to let her know if it's not working or what you want to achieve out of it. Sorry to her about the leaky roof that's so annoying!

minster Happy anny to you have a wonderful wkend celebrating! your right I must plan things and keep busy my next appointment is next tues where I think I'll be collecting the drugs and going through the FET procedure, should start injections around 28th Jan due to early AF so really not long now until I feel as though I am doing something!

So exciting that youre be telling your nearest and dearest soon !

LOL LOL LOL you see I even forgets things. Dinks scan is today? Wooow can't wait to hear all about it!

Star Amazing that your clinic has been so lovely ! I can see why they would get attached to you, I am attached to you on here and I've not even met you! . The feeling sick and tired is rubbish but all totally worth it, try ginger biscuits they are supposed to help. Tomorrow will be the day that you get your confirmation how exciting!

The star wars is supposed to be great I am going to see it next week!

I am feeling OK about starting injections in the next few weeks, I'm a doer so doing something I find much better than waiting around. Obviously I am nervous and still have those pesky negative thoughts that things wont happen but I'm trying my best to counteract them with positive affirmations. Thank you for the advice on the acupuncture this puts my mind at ease and what you say it makes sense. I need to take a leaf out of your book and live for today and focus on the now and be grateful and thankful with what I have.

xxx

Star awww so nice your clinic being so supportive. As Dbear said we r attached to you just by talking online, that’s your gift 🌟🌟 I really hope it’s all gonna work out for u the best possible way ❤️❤️ About councelling..how can I put it right.. I don’t want to be a burden to someone..I know that’s the point-to let things out, but she made me feel little 💩💩 for example instead of finishing session with “ok, we discussed this and that today and next time we will talk about ways to deal with it” instead it was “ok, next time we talk about how to help u because I can see I am working overtime here already!” So when u in a bad mood things like this winds u up..😒
Excited about Star Wars u crazy ladies 😅 I am thinking to get tickets as a stockings filler and wait until xmas, with the luck of imagination an extra gift idea is good 😅
Dbear 28 jan? December u meant? I still keep all the needles 😂 box is full and not looking forward to that.
I want to get to a gym for a month just coz I feel fat. So you think it’s ok to do this now? R u supposed to be kind to yourself b4 transfer or workout is good for u? 🤔

Hi everyone,

I can't write much as I'm just back from the scan, and have to race into work for a busy day. Scan was good! All looking normal, just have to wait for the chromosome screening tests. Baby was really really awkward and kept turning away from the sonographer so she made us go for a walk, then it finally settled down. Amazing how much it moves already, kicking its wee legs and waving its arms.

Had a stupid meeting with one of the doctors, was meant to be a consultant appt but it was delegated to a doctor who was just rubbish. We were there to discuss how to manage my risk factors, and he literally just printed some stuff out from the internet (that I had already read) and ticked some boxes. And there was me expecting an intelligent discussion...

I hope you're all well today! Star your clinic sound lovely :)

xxx

Stick with the counselling aliona hopefully it will get better, though her comment of working overtime stinks! I went with similar nails but light grey/green & more sparkly..see pics though it’s tough to see!! And working out is great for transfer, increase blood flow means better lining better chance of implant! 😁go for it!!

dinks 12 weeks amazing that’s fab!!

star so pleased bloods are done. But did you not get the results then? I am confused! Your clinic is so sweet (MUST BE VERY EXPENSIVE!!)

dbear so is that the 28th Dec, if so then a plan is great you will be fine! All positive

Dinks 12 weeks 😍 great news that little wee muffin is kicking and waving 😍 surreal and probably super stressful too..and this Chromosome test scares me a lot 😒

Minster where r the pics? And yes I am just looking for the fees at the gym down the road while polishing the box of Thornton’s choc 😅😅😅😅

Argh it didn’t post the pictures

Wow I have missed so much! :)

Star CONGRATULATIONS! What amazing news! I am DELIGHTED for you! :) xx

Dinks huge congrats on your 12 week scan! So glad it all went well. And hopefully now you're in the second trimester, your sickness might subside? You have put up with it amazingly well, i can't imagine how it would feel to be as sick as you have and for so long! :)

Minxy Minster have fun this weekend ;)

Dbear so great to hear you'll be starting soon. I have everything crossed xx

I have missed loads of people off - sorry! I'm just flat out at work trying to get lots done before i go and visit my family tonight for the weekend.

I was going to tell my mum, siblings, and their partners tomorrow that I'm pregnant as it's the only time we will be together for ages. However, my OH was trying to be pragmatic but freaked me out about how risky this phase is before 12 weeks... i'm now not sure I will tell them. I think it will be rubbish to tell my family by phone (particularly as we live 2 miles from my OH's family so can tell them in person), but then maybe telling them by phone after 12 weeks is better than an early announcement and then something going wrong?

I know this is a nice thing to worry about, but it always feels like it's another day, another thing to worry about! lol :)

Hope everyone has a happy Friday xx

Minster very nice. Now show us your hair 😋😋😋😋😋 have a great time with your OH and make beautiful memories 😘
Rose Hey. I think you shouldn’t worry about 12 weeks. Unfortunately things can go wrong any time, no point to keep it to yourself if you want to share it when all of your family in one place. But whatever you feel is best. Hope you have a lovely time all together