IVF - A supportive group of ladies at various stages of the ivf journey.

[Dbear35]

A super group of women supporting each other and sharing their personal journeys and experiences during the IVF processs. All are welcome !

What's happening on the 20th of January? What meet up?

Haha Star the girl that’s on other tread and used to be on ours too, organising a meet up for ladies going through ivf ))

Star I'm still grinning from ear to ear about your news!

I am following a few ladies on instagram and they are arranging a meet up on Jan 20th, I really think it will be good for me to meet ladies who are in the same boat as myself, to able to have a nice lunch and talk about the process, ask questions and get some more advice (not that you lovely ladies don't give great advice). But it would be good for me to physically see that the IVF community has a face. You should come!

aliona what was the name of the lady that's on the other thread? Oh you should come, you will know me...We can keep each other company . FET and FB buddy!

Aliona I can totally relate to feeling like a failure and less of a woman because 1: I have never been preggers and 2: My first IVF was unsuccesful .
I reckon 3/4 times a wk I am in a constant battle with my inner voice that says, your broken, your not good enough to be a mother. But I know that's my negative mind that does this and it's not true and really try not to let them cloud my mind. But silly remarks from people, who have no idea of the challenges we have or are facing do not help! So I try to focus on all the good things I have and the good things I do and when we hear the amazing successes stories from these ladies on this thread it give me hope, that one day I will be posting a picture of my pregnancy test on here, and I hope you will be too my dear.

xx

Dbear the girl that u following, she has nick ElisabethCathrine or something like that.
I am not bothered most of the times, self pity turned into kind of anger if people saying things. Just trying to ignore it.
As for meeting up, let’s hope next summer we can all meet up to discuss our birth plan 😋

Thank you Atik you are very sweet. Did you do your shopping yesterday or opted to stay home in the end? How are you today?

Thank you Minster it is very sweet of you. I am happy, but it is an inner happiness. I can’t wait to hear about you sharing your story with your loved ones.

Dinks thank you lovely! I am delighted and relieved. Such a wonderful feeling . Were you the one who thought that I had something to do with Law? I am actually working within the Entertainment industry. It is very much fun!

Dbear & Aliona I hear you ladies, but your time is coming. I can’t say that it is easy, but what makes it worst is doubting yourself. Yes it did work first time for me and I am lucky and blessed – although I don’t have any frosties, sure. But I am also 44 and if I had listened to society and people’s opinion it wouldn’t have happen. I still have a way to go, but I believe in myself. Yes, you have to go through it again, but you have frosties! If you have frosties, you are half way there! Make it happen. Prepare. Believe. When you doubt, cry, allow it for 10, 20, 30 min but refuse to feel this way more. There is nothing broken in you, only your hearts from your sad experiences. It is normal, who wouldn’t? We are all human beings. We feel, beautiful and less beautiful things. It is an attitude that needs to be cultivated. All you can do is your best. Don’t put yourself down. Love yourself. What emanates from your messages is so wonderful, I believe in you. Believe in yourself, please . You can do this!

On the 20th of January I have a Dinner planned with OH (a surprise he organized), but I am game! Would love to meet you girls!

Dbear your description of dreaming posting your positive result on here was also my dream and I am certain all of us on here. I will meditate for both of you lovelies. Bless you

XXX

star could have the first twins on the thread!! 🐣🐣

Minster I know!! To be honest I wanted to have twins since I was a little girl, but now when I look at mums with twins-I have goosebumps 😂 even one child terrifies me, how do u cope with 2 and more?! But it’s very nice thought to have 2 🙃
Star thank you for your kind words. U r right and I am trying hard to think of myself, unfortunately sometimes bad thinking is taking over. Especially when it’s more than one thing to worry about. My councelling second session today, 1st one i was only talking about myself. Let’s see what happens today.
Staying home for so long and only now starting to feeling proper alive. I don’t remember when last time I stayed up late and watched a movie, always asleep at 21 or 22 even weekend. As much as I hate to be off work-it definitely helps my body a lot. Watched “this morning” and there were phone calls about “miracle babies” was so nice to listen to that, after so many struggles people managed to get bfp at the end.
How s everyone today? Snow melting and my roof is leaking 😤 in 2 places and over the fuse box and electric tripped. Grrr

We would have loved twins but just didn’t want to risk thawing our only 2 embryos and one not taking so thought we’d see how each faired on it’s on in both thaw (also scary) and trying if got to that stage, my friend would have been ok with 2 embryos but a twin pregnancy is more risky & she preferred not so all round best decision!

Would be great & scary & amazing all at once though!! Get it done in one!!

I used to look at twins & think ergh, then in the past few years it changed to “wouldn’t that be amazing!” Isn’t it funny how things change!!

aliona we are in bed early too don’t worry , DH is up at 6 so we are up early in our house & though I have him trained to bring me coffee in bed as he leaves I then get ready & get up for 7, these steroids are making me not sleep well though so I’m knackered constantly at the minute. Stay up and watch a film?? U must be joking!!

star yeah did shopping cudnt send ma OH alone lol then ma electric meter stop working lyk der no numbers only green blank screen so a rang dis company nd they sed summa wrong wide Meter nd to stop top up this nd after new year sum1 guna come so till then a hv free electric lol

Free electric, yay!!

Look at this!!! Wow, just wow, I mean I’m putting those names on our list not in a million years!!

www.google.co.uk/amp/www.dailymail.co.uk/health/article-5172505/amp/Alabama-mother-three-welcomes-sextuplets.html

OMG Six?!?!?!? Oh nooooo !!!! You are right Minster the names are rather weird? [win]

Atik good on you girl! Do you mean you have NO heater??

star a hv electric meter nd gas meter so a need to keep topping up both BT De electric is blank lol BT still hv electric so they see after new year they cum sort out electric meter nd not to top up nd just enjoy free electric till after new year lol nd ma gas meter it's okay ;) xx

Lol Minster I still look at kids and think “ergh little shit bags” but that’s the one I see on the bus at school times 😂😂
It’s just my friends go out and go cinemas and party’s and I can’t stay up after 22. But I used to get up 5.30 and then work 10 hours and then housework so took me nearly a month now to feel a little rested 😒
Coffee in bed 😂😂 my oh trained same way 😋

It’s mental to have 6 at once..how do you even cope? Do you get any kind of help here? Is it me or woman looks way older than 35 🤔🤔

Yeah she looks older definitely but I’m not surprised after carrying 6 babies and having 3 already, I mean quite friggin greedy! (& my DH is eldest of 4!)

She’s clearly mental!

Yes trained him that if he gets me up at that time (I can’t sleep again once awake) then he must feed dog (dogs now) & bring me caffeine!! We used to get up at the same time but he brought it forwards so it’s his fault!!

Who calls their child a name like beef Wellington?? Sorry Blu Wellington

Lol and yeah, what are your fav names ladies?

Names not discussed yet! Except bump is affectionately called Nige at the minute after the health and safety comments when being transferred so it’s called Nige or Baby B 🐝as surname

Don’t know if we dare talk names 🙈🙈🙈seems awfully presumptive! You?

I don’t know, I have been thinking names before I even decided I want a baby 😂not saying I have chosen already, but do like to discuss with OH which ones would we agree on 😆

Yeah I know what you mean, we used to talk about it, so we do have a boys name we still want (and it came up last year as DSIL nearly called DNephew it) so we prob would use that but since we couldn’t have a baby we stopped all name talk so not been discussed since!

Ha I have few names for boys but really struggling with girls 🤔 not a single name that I actually like 😁

Yeah girls names are hard, when talking about the baby DH says “he” I say “she” unless saying Nige!