IVF - A supportive group of ladies at various stages of the ivf journey.

[Dbear35]

A super group of women supporting each other and sharing their personal journeys and experiences during the IVF processs. All are welcome !

Finally got ma password lol awww yesterday a supposed hv app with midwife nd obviously she cancelled it... Friday a hv scan in Halifax so will c hwz everything is cz am ill .. got bad cold.. a cnt breath at all nd am dat desperate dat a using otrivin spray wer nurse told me not to use cz it's not gd... bt a cnt sit sleep nuffin... a tried steaming didn't help a tired viks didn't help a tried sea water nd nuffin nw am all the tym worried if everything okay...

Hey lovely ladies!

Sorry for the silence hope your all ok!? Look like there are a few worried ladies out there at the moment. Perhaps it's a new year thing.

Star Glad your being looked after and laughter is such a good thing for the mind. Thinking of you today at your scan and holding onto positivity for you too! xx

Rose 1/2 a Guinness I am sure will be, as they say its full of iron and goodness.

Aliona I hope the CS goes ok today, I have mine next wk feels like my last one was ages ago so I maybe starting from scratch but I'm looking forward to it. Chin up my dear your be fine once you start the injections, try not to stress if you can as this is no good for your inner being (I am sure star is providing much needed positive pep talks). xx

I had a moment last night when I had to give myself a talking to as I didn't jab myself hard enough the first time! LOL I must have looked mad!! ... day 8 today on the drugs and I feel sooo thirsty and I'm having disturbed sleep but it's calming down.

Jane Glad you felt you can share and it's good to let it out especially before you get home to DP. Don't worry about the reserve that is what the stims are for and Star is right your not 60 your still young! My Auntie had her two girls at 42 and 44 with IVF. Research on foods and supplements that can help your egg quality ...because ultimately it's the quality not quantity that counts.

Dinks I hope your OK and things are settling down for you.

IVF journey whatever stage is an endless rollercoaster.
You have to mentally prepare yourself for whatever comes and while, hoping and praying for the best, know that it's possible it might not turn out the way you want. You just have to hold your head high and tell yourself that it's ok, you can try it all over again... because it will all be worth it in the end.
So, the most important part of it all is to NEVER GIVE UP. Because one day, you will get that happy news, and the news that comes after will continue to be happy... and happy until your little bundle is finally here.

Until then, we'll keep poking... and going crazy... and laughing... and crying... and waiting... and obsessing.

Just a reminder about the meet up on Saturday 20th Jan ...not sure on where yet but will keep you updated if your interested star Aliona ?

Much love
xxx

Atik Hey!! good to hear from you! ...exciting about the scan this Friday, I am sure everything will be fine . In regards to the blocked nose...everyone in my office has some form of cold I'm trying my best to avoid! ...have you tried Olbas oil in a bowl with hot water or eucalyptus oil?

dbear a tried steaming nd viks nd sea water bt nuffin help at all nd obviously a need sleep a need eat etc ... already a took dis spray in dis few days abt 6 tyms a fink...

jane sometimes I think the IVF people are actually trained to say the wrong thing, certainly used to saying it more bluntly in NHS anyway, I remember last year when we found out my very very low AMH & the consultant nurse (who is also a director there) said “well if u are going to do it u need to start now because I’m sorry but it might not even work now with your results” & then she paused, like for dramatic effect & said “& your eggs are DYING EVERYDAY” with much more emphasis!! Obviously cue massive burst of tears.

But my our dying eggs have worked so please don’t give up hope. I’ve just spoken to her again as we are going to do more embryo freezing now & she said “don’t worry about the AMH”.

My best advice, ignore the numbers, ignore the time (or focus on stuff to get u through it), ignore the statistics, each round is a new chance with new hope and focus on the medication & science you are putting in to help you. Statistics won’t help you. Looking after yourself will.

aliona you too.

And we will be here (well, star will be on some amazing retreat somewhere!) xxxxx

Dbear I know I shouldn’t stress, in fact everything is going ok atm so no really good reason to worry, but I am having some winter blues I think..my councelling, not sure what’s happening. I got text from the lady saying she send me email. So I checked and there is nothing from her. Texted her back saying “no emails” and got no reply. So now thinking maybe it’s cancelled or something. Rang the practise and they promised to call back-nothing. Really don’t want waste time and money to go there now. Always bloody drama and nothing is straightforward 🤦🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️ Drug company rang and left voicemail saying “call us back we need Very important info u have to submit”, so panicking ringing only bcoz they want my date of birth argh 🤬🤬 plus another few calls not related to ivf..
I feel like I am the grumpiest human in the world

About the meet up, no to many new people at the same time 😂 I don’t think I can handle it right now. But you have fun and post the photos, would be interesting to see how many of u will be there.

Minster I have steam coming out of my nose and ears. Don’t know how to calm down. Sitting here looking for jobs finally and can’t see anything exciting. Star spend half of night yesterday sending me links 😅😅 she is some bossy boots 😅

No Aliona you have every right to stress and be annoyed. Things like what you are finding are a regular bug bear in our house ie ppl not doing what they say they will do, ppl promising things & not, ppl not thinking it’s prefessional /courteous/polite to just RESPOND to an email/text/voicemail anything really, ppl not getting back to u (either at all or when they say or vaguely near) and you just hang on and it’s horrible or they then chase you!!

DH & I hate it. And it happens throughout life so much (solicitors/recruiters/hospitals/doctors/clients/anyone in an office the list goes on!) it’s impolite and unprofessional. You are only human to have steam coming out of your ears.

CHASE CHASE CHASE the buggers it doesn’t matter if you piss them off unfortunately U are one of many to them so it really doesn’t matter.

As an ex headhunter and ex recruiter January jobs will pick up, everyone is only just going back to work so new staff is not top priority, next few weeks will pick up.

Hugs to you sweetie xxx

Minster exactly.. there is nothing straightforward, not a single phone call when you can get information u need.
As for jobs I know what you mean by January. But the thing is, there r loads of jobs just nothing for me 😅 and I can take any of them but then I hate change and I know I will be stuck there for another 8 years. So really want to find something that I will enjoy. And why why why you r an EX recruiter?! I could be your very first January client 😂

Pester power is still there even when you are an adult!!

I stopped being a recruiter when I was rediagnosed cos I commuted about 3.5 hours a day to sit in an office all day making money for a boss who was a misogynist twat for 8 years in a highly stressful job so when I found out the cancer came back I realised life wasn’t worth that shit as well! So I know what you mean about being stuck for 8 years as I was as well.

It will change for the better there is time 💕

Hi Ladies,

So went to the clinic and there was nothing, but the good news is that it is all clean and they said I started a new cycle already. So I have an appointment on Thursday next week to plan for my next ICSI cycle. They said I should wait for my next menstruation cycle and we can start again on the next one after, do it sounds like it will be February ladies!

It is a shame i miscarried, but there is nothing I can do about it. It is in the past, I have a smile on my face for what the near future has installed for me. It will work!! 🌟✨🍀😁

How is everybody else? I am hitting the gym tomorrow and having stinky cheeses later yeahhh!!

Lots of love to all!
😘😘😘

Yes I am a bit of a bossy boots @Aliona but only in a caring way!!

Gosh I understand why you would stress, but don't let it overwhelm you a solution will come to you and all will be resolved.

@Dbear I think I want to meet up yes! Send me a message with the details please?

star I hope you are enjoying your stinky cheese! 🧀🧀 great that it’s over for now and that you have a new plan in place and February is after all the month of LOVE!! you and OH will be perfect for then 💕💕😍

Star I was really hoping that one of them might have clung on. But your are right, February will be awesome and it will work. As minster says, it's the month of love... you can call your baby Valentine! :) sending lots of love xxx

@Starlumiere as usual you inspire me with your positive attitude. Am going to try and be just like you when it all starts!

@Aliona19 so frustrating. Agree with @Minster2012 that we all have to keep pushing in this world but it is exhausting and it would be a lot easier if people would just bloody respond. What kind of work do you do?

@Atikakck hope your cold/sickness passes. Poor you - horrible to feel so sick.

You are meeting up? Wow! I know I'm a newbie and not sure whether I'd be ready to make this so "real" but @Dbear35 I am curious. Are you meeting in London? Sorry - I don't even know where in the country you all live!

Xxx

Jane I know )) it’s never ending thing with pushing and trying, but some days everything goes wrong and you just want to explode. Just needed to bang my little toe over some furniture to finish me off yesterday 😅
I spend 8 years working for a cafe, but really don’t want to do this anymore. So struggling a little trying to figure out what to do 🙄 and I live in north London 🙃

Hi Everybody!

You are all so very kind with your encouraging/loving words, thank you very much .

@Minster I have indulgent myself with stinky cheeses yesterday evening indeed!! How is your friend? How are you?

@Rose, I know sweetie, - and so did I!! But the universe has other plans for me, so going with the flow and waiting for the story to unfold, patiently (and sometimes less patiently ha!). They are gone and it is sad, but you can build on sadness. Sadness destroys, I want to create hence there is only one way! I have booked 2 holidays and 3 silent retreat. I am now booking some flights to go to Naples and Milan with work. Not a bad life hey? Anyway February is only next month before I start injecting again, so I am taking full advantage of no injections, pessaries and the rest to do things I could not do! I have to be honest it is wonderful! The whole process takes a lot out of us, it is exhausting! Enough about me, how are you Rose?

@Jane, I work within the Entertainment industry and it is fun indeed! Thank you for your kind words. Do you know when you will be starting yet? Have they talked to you about the meds? BTW I live just outside London (West).

@Dbear how are the injections going?

@Aliona let us know when you get your meds! So very near for you now! It is all going to be good Aliona! Believe!

I am back at work and have quite a bit to do, so speak later!

Lots of love,
XXX

Star I am sad to hear your news, but as everyone has said I am amazed and in awe of you positivity. ?I do believe everything happens for a reason and at the very least for you is that you know you can become pregnant. You enjoy the time out and the stinky cheese! yummy! I need to get my butt to the gym too!

Great news that you want to meet up on 20th Jan it'll be so lovely to meet you ! As soon as I know any details I shall post on here and send you a FB message.

Jane Yes we are there are potentially 70 women meeting in London on Jan 20th I think in the afternoon, the meet up is for all women at all various stages of IVF I am in surrey where are you? You should come along if you can! .

Aliona I hope that you haven't exploded and your toe feels OK (I broke both little toes that way so I know it's painful). It is so frustrating when people don't come back to you why cannot people just do what they say they are going to do!?!

I wish I could help you in regards to a job, I could check out my work but we are just south of London so not sure the commute would be good for you? ... I still hope that you will change your mind and meet up with us x

minster your so right I have been in my job 16 years and during the last 6-7 it's been super stressful, I have now started to take a step back and chill. Although I have no health issues as such I have begun to recognise that stress is terrible for the body and mind and so I am happy that I have made the move to finish work on time and not overwork. Unlike you I am lucky I have a good boss which makes the world of difference! My DH was a recruitment consultant and honestly we nearly broke up, he was too stressed almost bipolar at times terrible really the pros didn't out weigh the cons so he left and it's the best thing he did!

On day 9 of the meds and symptoms are easing however I still feel thirsty ALL the time ! Hoping AF will arrive this wk/end so everything is still on track for my scan on 10th (fingers and toes crossed).

As if I hadn't had enough injections I had my 4th acupuncture last night managed to fall asleep again and she put some extra needles in for the dryness so hopefully that helps! We will see....

Hi guys, sorry this is going to be a random post for certain ppl & run
@dinksandbinks did you decide to get the NIPT & have u done it? As are you around leeds?

@atik too
@rosewrites
Are you all around leeds as we were told the other day that though my friend s midwife appointments are outside of Leeds , we might qualify for the Leeds teaching hospital IONA test which is a free version of the NIPT test on NHS for Edwards disease, downs & pataus syndrome due to IVF/problems & they are trying to roll it out now for Leeds over 2018 so they can start with “high risk patients” also 99% accurate in sexing baby & gets another scan??

We are still looking into it as we have Michal booked for 18th Jan but it seems we could get it for free so I thought there’s a few ppl around the region & certainly worth pushing as a few ppl have had bleeds??

Ps so good star xx

So we r in 9 week no sickness atm no bleeding no spotting everything gd so our clinic told us dat need to hv all ta let's etc till 12 week nd then slowly cutting them down till a stop the nurse explained me everything so it's okay x they told us to dats it was our last tym der nd from nw we just guna hv midwife.. a had ma first midwife app 2 weeks bk bt a didn't lyk dat gp... so a changed nd a wait for ma app with new midwife on the 16th a hope she okay she cumin ova to ma house so it's comfy for me lol bt in the first gp de first midwife dis told dat a cn choose to hv free checking lyk a blood test this to c if the baby hv sum down syndrome etc bt this midwife didn't sed much wat she guna do...

That’s brilliant @atikakck I’m really really pleased for you, keep that little munchkin happy inside. Did they see a heart beat? If so then the risks really go down. Yeah the testing is part of what I was saying about earlier, the nuchal testing, then the combined testing is the blood testing part. Then in some parts of Leeds if you need more advanced testing u may be able to get the more in depth one for free.

Dbear how is the sleep? And the thirst? I don’t think I noticed a problem with thirst but sleep yes, but then all of a sudden it went away! I have the same at the minute on high dose steroids, before Xmas I wasn’t tired til at least 1am, now reducing them I sleep from about 11pm til bang on 3am then wake up bursting for the loo, I’m like clockwork it’s sooo frustrating!! Then I snooze til DH gets up at 6 & wake up so tired. He’s ratty as I wake him up blundering about at 3! Literally 3am or 3.15! I’m reducing the steroids now but I can’t cope with this!! 🙈🙈

I got a call from my IVF nurse today saying my AMH is basically the same as this time last year which is good (I think!) so we’re ok to go ahead with another round of EC/embryo freezing whilst I’m off treatment. So I’m going to be back stimming & stabbing too 😁😁

In the mean time my friend continues to cook our baby 🐝 nicely, is feeling ok (that she tells me) & my MIL is DYING to tell the world!! 😁

Hello all,

Hope everyone is doing well?

minster I'm not near Leeds unfortunately. I'm in Newcastle. Apparently they used to offer the NIPT test for a fee at our local hospital but then stopped as the consultant left.

My friend found a company who do it cheaper than a lot of places. You need to arrange a blood sample via your GP/some other means and then post it to them. It works our at £300, rather than £400. (I think you can pay more and go to the clinic). Dinks not sure if that's any use to you? The company is called thisismy.co.uk

All is good with me. My bump is getting big. The only person in my OH's family that knows is his sister. We thought that we had kept it quiet but she told me yesterday that my OH's parents and entire family know and are just waiting for us to confirm it.

So there won't be any dramatic reveal like yours Minster! 😂

My OH wants to just tell them know but I'm holding out until our 12 weeks scan. Although the hospital has lost my midwife referall twice so I'm still not on their system so my scan might be nearer 14weeks +6 rather than 12... It's so frustrating. How can they just lose your notes?! But I'm practicing some star calm and doing some deep breathing! 😃

Xx

Hi Everyone,

Still crippled with nausea and reflux here. Starting to wonder if it will ever go :( sorry for my absence, I’m just so exhausted.

@Minster2012 We’re weren’t offered the IONA because our results were lower risk, and it’s only since Jan 1st that they are rolling it out - I missed out by two weeks! I did look into doing it anyway but could only find private companies doing and the one I spoke to was trying to link-sell a scan as well, which annoyed me. I have a midwife appt on Monday so I can ask her how it works if you want the test even if you’re lower risk. Will let you know.

Back to bed for me. Have to go back to work on Monday and am dreading it. Isn’t pregnancy meant to be all about glowing skin and shiny hair? Grumbling over!

❤️❤️❤️ to everyone. Sorry I haven’t written individually. I am thinking of you all though!!

P.S. Rose get onto the hospital - if you are having combined screening it needs to be done before 14 weeks so they need to rush you in.

Yes I agree with dinks @rosewrites the screening is meant to be done before 14 weeks so pester them!!